FFFC

tyrannasaurusjess · September 2014

amandad715 said:
I've been thinking about mine for a while. We have our anatomy scan on Tuesday, and I'm worried that I'm going to have "gender disappointment" if we're having another boy. Obviously, I want a healthy baby.....and of course, three boys would be so much fun, I'm sure loud, but fun! We have so many boy clothes, this LO would have the best wardrobe. BUT(and it's a big one) I just know I 'll be sad because I have my heart set on a girl this time. I probably shouldn't but I can't help it.
With Jack, we were Team Green and were surprised he was a he. And with him being the first, it was exciting either way. With Will, I had a feeling he was a boy and had a sad moment at the ultrasound, but soon got excited about the two being close in age and having each other. They are best buds and I wouldn't want it any other way.
This is it. 3 kids was what we wanted and I get sad now just thinking about never having that mother-daughter relationship ever. It's just my sister and I and we're close to my mom. Also, we grew up with two other girl cousins close in age, and my mom has 3 sisters. So, much of my life was spent around my aunts and girl cousins. I have a lot of wonderful women around me and would love to share that with a daughter.
I don't want to set myself up for disappointment, but I almost feel I'm there already. Both boys want a sister and I have a feeling DH does too. This will be grandchild #7 on DH's side-all boys so far. I'm sure that my in-laws would like a girl as well.
I haven't even told people when our appt is because I want to have some time to process it ourselves before we share with anyone. There, it's off my chest.

This was me exactly with Briar. I knew she would most likely be our last, and I was the last girl to be born in the family, so along with me wanting a girl I had my mom and everyone else breathing down my neck-- as if I had a choice what I was baking in my oven

I don't think you should feel bad-- there's nothing wrong with wanting one or the other. Of course when he's born I'm sure you'll just love him to pieces and won't be able to imagine it any other way!

Do you have any feeling as to what this one may be?

tinyhumantoe · September 2014

I cuss like a sailor, my whole family does. I am considering teaching LO (down the road) that it is not becoming of a lady.

I accidentally said something was bullshit in front of a customer while we were joking around, and the customer commented in a serious tone that all professionalism must be out the window. This was after the men in the group were cussing x 100, so I was caught off guard by the comment. After thinking about it way too long, I realized it was not lady like or professional, and it's really been bothering me

hmp1 · September 2014

Hugs Amanda. I can imagine the thought process you are going through. I really wanted Leo to be a boy because they are so close in age I thought it would just be more fun for them to have a brother. If we have a third, this one will be more spaced out and I would love to have a little girl. Lately since we have been thinking we are actually done, I have been sad to think about never having a little girl of my own to raise. Especially right now with my only niece going through rush and probably joining my same sorority, just another reminder of something I will for sure never experience if I don't have a daughter.

I don't think there is anything flameful about gender disappointment as long as it doesn't impact the relationship you have with your kids.

tinyhumantoe · September 2014

BobKat22 said:

I've cried three times after getting off the scale at the dr. And a few other cries because some stretch marks showed up yesterday. And then a few more cries because I'm uncomfortable and hurting and can't breath.

Sorry @bobkat22 I felt really rough at the end of my pregnancy. It's almost over for you!

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smb+jab · September 2014

jessk86 said:

I've been thinking about mine for a while. We have our anatomy scan on Tuesday, and I'm worried that I'm going to have "gender disappointment" if we're having another boy. Obviously, I want a healthy baby.....and of course, three boys would be so much fun, I'm sure loud, but fun! We have so many boy clothes, this LO would have the best wardrobe. BUT(and it's a big one) I just know I 'll be sad because I have my heart set on a girl this time. I probably shouldn't but I can't help it.
With Jack, we were Team Green and were surprised he was a he. And with him being the first, it was exciting either way. With Will, I had a feeling he was a boy and had a sad moment at the ultrasound, but soon got excited about the two being close in age and having each other. They are best buds and I wouldn't want it any other way.
This is it. 3 kids was what we wanted and I get sad now just thinking about never having that mother-daughter relationship ever. It's just my sister and I and we're close to my mom. Also, we grew up with two other girl cousins close in age, and my mom has 3 sisters. So, much of my life was spent around my aunts and girl cousins. I have a lot of wonderful women around me and would love to share that with a daughter.
I don't want to set myself up for disappointment, but I almost feel I'm there already. Both boys want a sister and I have a feeling DH does too. This will be grandchild #7 on DH's side-all boys so far. I'm sure that my in-laws would like a girl as well.
I haven't even told people when our appt is because I want to have some time to process it ourselves before we share with anyone. There, it's off my chest.
This was me exactly with Briar. I knew she would most likely be our last, and I was the last girl to be born in the family, so along with me wanting a girl I had my mom and everyone else breathing down my neck-- as if I had a choice what I was baking in my oven I don't think you should feel bad-- there's nothing wrong with wanting one or the other. Of course when he's born I'm sure you'll just love him to pieces and won't be able to imagine it any other way! Do you have any feeling as to what this one may be?

I agree - and giving yourself sometime to think / process it before you share with your family seems like a good plan. that and you never know, I have a bunch of friends / family who's baby number three turned out to be the opposite gender of the two they already had.

I was always hoping to have a girl too but since I barely made it through my first pregnancy (my chronic migraines were just too much to bear) we will not be having any more. But then I realized i am not really the girly girl type sort of prefer attending sporting events, playing and running around. and besides my son is a pretty awesome shopping buddy.

Hyaline · September 2014

BobKat22 said:

My dr got a new nurse. She's a large lady. She grabs my arm and sticks it in between her fat rolls on her side to keep it in place while she gets my BP. It grosses me out every time. I don't like touching people I don't know, let alone having my arm jammed in their belly rolls.

No. Using your body as a self-contained vise for other people's body parts is never ok outside the bedroom.

Hyaline · September 2014

I've been feeling burned out about practically everything lately. I need either a serious break (not going to happen) or a kick in the rear (please?). I guess my FFFC is that I'm ungodly annoyed with myself for how unproductive I've been but seem unable to make myself snap out of it.

isacdimi10 · September 2014

My big FFFC

When I get the boys' well children check packet I'm going to tear off the "list of known issues" page and drop it in my MILs lap and be like "BOOM bitch, I don't need to spank them more"

We are anticipating 2 autism dx in the next month on top of the 2 SPD dx we have now. I'm sick of MIL and co. telling me they're fine I just need to hit them more, that'll teach them.

watercolor5 · September 2014

isacdimi10 said:

My big FFFC

When I get the boys' well children check packet I'm going to tear off the "list of known issues" page and drop it in my MILs lap and be like "BOOM bitch, I don't need to spank them more"

We are anticipating 2 autism dx in the next month on top of the 2 SPD dx we have now. I'm sick of MIL and co. telling me they're fine I just need to hit them more, that'll teach them.

Sorry you and your kids are going through all that- it sounds rough. Hope having the dx gives you some relief and a clearer plan on how to help them.

amandad715 · September 2014

Thanks for the kind words and hugs from you all @watercolor5 @hmp1 @shiggybop @smb+jab @jessk86 I love all the support and understanding of my feelings! I knew some of you would get it too, which is why I posted it here rather than my J15 board.

S12 :x

Holly_1007 · September 2014

Sorry I'm so late. I know you guys are right, I just don't want to say anything to anyone IRL yet, because duh. Google sucks. I already called the pedi and told them that at his 2 yr apt I had some sensory things to discuss so to please make sure they had time for it. We are seeing a new pedi so I'm a little concerned about that. Huge hugs @isacdimi10‌ glad to see you back around here, sorry things have been so stressful with your littles

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