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July 2014 Moms
kenziebug22
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support from anyone?
kenziebug22
member
This is long - full warning
As hard as this is to sit and write I need some support knowing I did the right thing, I'm now questioning everything.
My ex and LOs dad used to be a cop, we dated for 2 1/2 years until one night he snapped and choked and raped me. After I told him to leave me alone and got an order on him to keep him away I then found out I was pregnant. Well its been an ongoing investigation for a while now and it ended, he got fired, but today its front page of the newspaper and all over our local news.
I've been fighting my own battle in my head about the whole thing and now it's out in public making everything a million times worse.
I feel like i should've kept my mouth shut about the whole thing. Now its out and I'm losing friends and even my mother isn't speaking to me because "i embarrassed her"
Not really sure what to do at this point, i feel so alone.. just praying this blows over fast..
As hard as this is to sit and write I need some support knowing I did the right thing, I'm now questioning everything.
My ex and LOs dad used to be a cop, we dated for 2 1/2 years until one night he snapped and choked and raped me. After I told him to leave me alone and got an order on him to keep him away I then found out I was pregnant. Well its been an ongoing investigation for a while now and it ended, he got fired, but today its front page of the newspaper and all over our local news.
I've been fighting my own battle in my head about the whole thing and now it's out in public making everything a million times worse.
I feel like i should've kept my mouth shut about the whole thing. Now its out and I'm losing friends and even my mother isn't speaking to me because "i embarrassed her"
Not really sure what to do at this point, i feel so alone.. just praying this blows over fast..
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Re: support from anyone?
11.2011 - DS1
02.2013 - loss at 6 wks
06.2014 - DS2
10.2015 - loss at 12 wks
03.2017 - DD
Hes also now been married since early February and taking care of her kids so part of me isn't too concerned, but the thought is still there.
And as far as my mom, ya i have no idea and i live with her seeing how im still in school and now a single parent and have nobody else, so that's been fun..
Its nice to hear the reassurance from you all and as time goes on and i get to know you ladies more and more, i love you guys! Ive had more support and sanity saving ftom you all more than anyone in a long time.
Married 07/2012
DD born 07/2014
DD2 born 10/2018
DS born 10/2022
IF history:
TTC #2 since January 2016
June-Aug 2017: 3 IUIs w/Clomid = BFN
Sept 2017: Dx w/Endometriosis
Oct 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Nov 2017: IUI w/Letrozole = BFN
Dec 2017: pre-IVF testing
Jan-Feb 2018: IVF--17 eggs retrieved, 13 fertilized, 9 frozen and 1 transferred on 2/10 = BFP on 2/19!!! EDD 10/29/2018
FET Oct 2021: BFP on 10/31! MC at 5 weeks
FET Feb 2022: BFP on 2/15! EDD 10/29/22
Your mother should be supporting you. She's also a douchebag.
You did the right thing.
Baby G born 6/6/14, 37 weeks 1 day due to preeclampsia. 5lb12oz 19"
#2 due Christmas 2016.
My mom would probably say the same thing, so sympathies to you. It doesn't make you a bad daughter, it makes her a crappy mom.
Rape, molestation, abuse is all pretty intense. I love me a good therapy session. Check out someone to talk to that will be in your corner all the way. It's good to have someone who wants you to get better and succeed.
You can do it. As sucky as it is, you've got this.
I am sorry you're dealing with pushback from others. Your ex got what he deserved for abusing you.
I hope your friends and your mom, especially, comes around to understand you did what you had to do to protect yourself and her grandchild.
But I also want to second @MSUDucks and say that it would be a good idea to get involved with a local group that helps domestic violence victims - they can help with resources and helping you to move forward.
The publicity will fade, and the public forgets - but you have to be able to put this behind you in a healthy way. They can help you do that.
Thank you so much, and I am very thankful that he got fired and it wasn't over looked. I was so afraid that no one would believe me over him but they luckily caught him in all of his lies. It's been one hell of a road to travel alone, but after reading your post and all the others I do feel better about my decision and I am glad I did, even though things suck here right now.
I know what it's like to have people make you feel like crap for bringing the truth to light, lose friends, and question yourself. I promise it gets easier though! For a while, I cried every day, and I didn't know how I'd get past the fear, anger, embarrassment, and overwhelming sadness. But after a while, it got easier, and eventually became something I could use to help others in similar situations.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this - know you're not alone though!! My thoughts and prayers are with you, and I hope it'll blow over in the public eye quickly.
Keep your head up! Hugs!
We have our "Irish Twins"
DD born 8/7/2013
DS born 7/28/14
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big hugs to you and a huge admiration for staying pregnant after that conception. You are strong and good and kind and you will prevail. I hope yor mom realizes she is being an ass.