GAH! So many baby shower violations in one envelope!

Re: GAH! So many baby shower violations in one envelope!

• janda426 member

  September 2014

  soontobeDeBenedictis said:

  "No, it's not. It's to "shower" the new mother. A celebration, to me, occurs after the baby is born and is a get together with no gifts so people can meet the baby. Having a second shower when you have another young child (I'll excuse a second shower for very large age gaps) is gift grabby. "
  
  Most showers are not thrown by the mother herself but for her by a friend or family member. That seems unfair for it to be seen that way if someone offered to throw it. I've been to several second showers and I've never thought twice about it.

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  Just because you never thought twice about it doesn't make it any less tacky. My mom had a surprise second shower thrown for her and was completely humiliated that everyone who JUST showered her with gifts 2 years prior was back giving her more stuff that she was completely capable of buying on her own.
  
  You can decline a shower, you know. Not everyone is aware of the etiquette. And Id be really annoyed if I was asked to come back and give a mother more gifts just because she was having another baby. The first gift I gave is good enough.

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• Ardmhs83 member

  September 2014

  Wow! I've been invited to a shower before that asked for books instead of cards, requested no to certain sizes on clothes/diapers and also said no children were allowed.  I found it all odd and a little pushy.  

  PPD/PPA Mom...it has been super hard, but I'm making it! Slow steps...
  Mom to Carter (6), and Calianne (1).  
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• AmberBond87 member

  September 2014

  It seems like you all know tacky people! I do not think it is "right" to have a second baby shower. However, I have several friends whose family have insisted on throwing a second shower. If I'm close to that person, I will go. If not, I just don't go.
  About the Diaper Party: if someone is throwing their own diaper party then I think it is tacky. But, we really enjoy having diaper parties for our friends. We don't make it a shower. There are no games. We all just get together and cook out and everyone brings a box or bag of diapers for the guests of honor. We only do this for close friends, and only invite their close friends.

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