Help me figure out if I am crabby from no sleep or if I am just not meant to be a SAHM. If this is your second LO, did you love staying home immediately or did it take a while? I'm just feeling really bored and lonely. I miss being "productive" and talking to adults. She doesn't nap for more then 30 mins and still wakes up a ton at night, so I don't get much of a break. I wanted to love this so badly and MH doesn't want "other people raising our kids". But even when she's not being fussy I still find playing kind of boring. Babies just don't do much.
Re: SAHMs help!
What activities do you do?
Once I started running errands with LO it helped make time move quicker and gave me more confidence.
Edited to add: I did not and still don't feel like I'm SAHM material.
As for your DH, he's not the one who has to stay home all day with an infant. He has no idea how hard it is so just because he doesn't want "strangers" to watch your LO does not mean that's the best thing for you or your baby. An unhappy mom is a worst care taker than a qualified child care worker. If you are truly unhappy try to talk to your DH.
I was very unhappy so now I'm looking for part time work. Maybe part time child care would be more acceptable to your DH. If that works out and he sees how beneficial it's been for you and LO you can go back to full time work if you'd like. Either way you need to be happy.
1. Get out! EVERYDAY Take LO to the park , Aquarium, zoo, visit friends and family or just take A walk around the block Invite friends. Or join a mommy group. Plan your weeks full of activities and mommy dates just like you would if you were working so it forces you to get up and out.
2: Date night once a week with your SO is crucial! Get dolled up. Go somewhere nice. Or don't Just stay connected and make time for just you two .
3. Also plan "me time" once a week have DH or a family member take baby for a couple hours while you go to the gym, go shopping or just sit in the car with a latte it will make a huge difference.
I love being a SAHM my kids are my life! But it takes balance. Without it anyone would go crazy
Best wishes.
diagnosed with unexplained infertility, regular cycles
Baby #1: ttc naturally for 3 years, 6 yr old daughter
Baby #2: ttc naturally for 2 years, 2 yr old son
Baby #3: ttc naturally since August 2016
I also wanted to second a pp about finding a moms group, possibly through meetup.com. I just started a 60 day trial with a group in my area and we've been on 3 outings in two weeks. LO wasn't really able to enjoy the playground or parks, but it was nice for me just to get out and be social and enjoy the gorgeous weather we've been having. I don't consider myself terribly social and an introvert, but it's amazing how the outings improve my mood.
I hope you start to enjoy your time with LO more as he/she grows and changes, but if you feel you'd be happier working outside the home I agree you should bring it up with your SO. A happy momma is the most important thing to your LO:)
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Me: 31 DH: 31
DX: PCOS/anovulatory/Hypothyroid
SA: normal
HSG: all clear
5 cycles of Clomid/Femara + TI
IUI #1 (7/16/12) Femara 2.5,+ Trigger=BFN
Treatment break Aug. 2012-June 2013
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I agree with others, finding a mom group and just getting out of the house helps so much but if that still doesn't make you feel better maybe it is time to go back to work.