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Flamingemu · September 2014

Woo hoo! Friday. Let's hear 'em.

Flamingemu · September 2014

Today is our CFO's last day. She is fantastic to work for. The acting replacement is a tough (no one has nice things to say about her) chic. I have worked for worse, so I am not worried. Not happy, but not worried.

Current CFO loves my coirker since they worked together in the past, so none of her shit gets called out.

I am really excited though that my crappy coirker might finally get called out though. Like ridiculously so.

Flamingemu · September 2014

DH is out of town next week. I am so excited to have the house to myself, well plus L, for the week.

kelbel527 · September 2014

I'm awkward at funerals. We are headed out of town for DH's grandpa's funeral now. I never feel like I know what the right thing to say is. I'm actually glad that we brought the kids so that I an help take care of them and won't have to stand around making awkward conversation as much.

It will be nice to see a lot of the family, but there are still a lot of family I don't know.

That was part rant/part confession. I'm bored in the car.

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MRoxy0628 · September 2014

I just realized that you're saying co-irker @Flamingemu‌. I've been reading it as quirkier.

Pokedot · September 2014

kelbel527 said:

I'm awkward at funerals. We are headed out of town for DH's grandpa's funeral now. I never feel like I know what the right thing to say is. I'm actually glad that we brought the kids so that I an help take care of them and won't have to stand around making awkward conversation as much. It will be nice to see a lot of the family, but there are still a lot of family I don't know. That was part rant/part confession. I'm bored in the car. .

I am too. I recently went to one of my past coworkers. She lost her battle with cancer. It was a cremation and I knew no one there. I "knew" her husband but what do you say to him? I said I was so sorry then started to fumble my words. I'm usually great in social settings but I don't think funeral is on that list. Ugh. Sorry for your loss though! It's never easy losing a grandparent. I lost my last on in January of this year. It's a special bond we have with them and our children as great grandparents.

Flamingemu · September 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

I just realized that you're saying co-irker @Flamingemu‌. I've been reading it as quirkier.

I normally say coworker, but I don't particularly like this person - she irks me.

BPer · September 2014

I may have cried this morning over the fact that one of the owners of Hannah's daycare cried when we told her we are moving her in October. They truly love her and I'm worried she won't have that at her new daycare. #momguilt

melody921 · September 2014

kelbel527 said:

I'm awkward at funerals. We are headed out of town for DH's grandpa's funeral now. I never feel like I know what the right thing to say is. I'm actually glad that we brought the kids so that I an help take care of them and won't have to stand around making awkward conversation as much. It will be nice to see a lot of the family, but there are still a lot of family I don't know. That was part rant/part confession. I'm bored in the car. .

I think it's hard to know what to say. I'm having a similar awkward situation now. A woman who's more acquaintance than friend, even though DH and I have known their family for years (her DH used to work with mine), was diagnosed with breast cancer 3 years ago, when she was 8 months pregnant with her second child. She went through treatment and multiple surgeries and beat it. But now, I just found out, via Facebook, that it metastisized, and she's undergoing radiation again. There's no cure for metastatic breast cancer, she has two daughters, almost 3 and 8, and I have no idea what an appropriate thing to say/do for them is right now. The whole situation is heartbreaking.

BPer · September 2014

I have $250 in gap cash, and $300 in gap cash for the outlet.

I've maybe bought a couple of pairs of jeans for myself. The rest is kids clothes.

I have a problem.

BPer · September 2014

All of Ben's tummy issues have made me feel more relieved that I'm not dealing with all of this and BFing. I may have lost my damn mind if that were the case.

The soy made a big improvement, but the last 2 days his reflux symptoms came back ten fold, so the pedi had us up his dosage. Poor kid.

BPer · September 2014

I have all the confessions today.

I'm super excited that the kids' new DC accepts credit card payments. Daycare is going to pay for my next trip to Aruba with points.

melody921 · September 2014

BPer said:

I have all the confessions today. I'm super excited that the kids' new DC accepts credit card payments. Daycare is going to pay for my next trip to Aruba with points.

Jealous! I wish our daycare would do this.

melody921 · September 2014

I used to try to limit what the grandparents buy for the kids bc really, they don't need much at all. But I've run out of give-a-damns and don't want to seem ungrateful. So now, I just say sure, that sounds like a great gift idea, thanks so much. And then I try not to panic that our house has so much stuff in it.

isacdimi10 · September 2014

I've begun lurking again.

Also. We're having S3's bday dinner at my parents house tonight. I don't want to but my mom basically walked in and announced we were. I'm hate conflict so I'm just rolling with it. The kids love it there even though its stressful as hell for me.

kelbel527 · September 2014

BPer said:
I may have cried this morning over the fact that one of the owners of Hannah's daycare cried when we told her we are moving her in October. They truly love her and I'm worried she won't have that at her new daycare. #momguilt

Brody's teacher cried when we said we were moving him. Even though we knew it was the right thing, just knowing how much she loved him and worked so hard with him made it hard to leave.

I have no doubt that Hannah's new daycare will love her!

kelbel527 · September 2014

melody921 said:

BPer said:

I have all the confessions today.

I'm super excited that the kids' new DC accepts credit card payments. Daycare is going to pay for my next trip to Aruba with points.

Jealous! I wish our daycare would do this.

Ours does, but they charge you a processing fee. Unfortunately the fee is more than what we would get back in rewards, so it's not worth it.

tyrannasaurusjess · September 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

I just realized that you're saying co-irker @Flamingemu‌. I've been reading it as quirkier.

The first couple times a read it ( a few days ago) I thought she was talking about a dog-- like a mixed breed of some sort. I figured it was a corgi mixed with something else

kelbel527 · September 2014

Oh, I have another one. I wasn't watching Aedan carefully this morning and he took a huge drink of his brother's milk.

Now either he's going to be really sick and itchy or we'll find out that maybe he has grown out of his dairy allergy.

Not exactly how I wanted to ease dairy into his diet. Especially since he's in the car for 5 hours today and sleeping at my parents house tonight. #moty

BeebopandBuddy · September 2014

I'm at a level of stress that I can't even explain. I told DH last weekend that I was going to get a second, PT job to help with bills through the winter but, with everything going on, I just can't stomach the thought of taking on more. I did sign up for Care.com this morning in the hopes that I can pick up some babysitting jobs instead of having to wait tables.

FFFC: I'm chickening out on my own suggestion.

BPer · September 2014

kelbel527 said:

melody921 said:

BPer said:

I have all the confessions today.

I'm super excited that the kids' new DC accepts credit card payments. Daycare is going to pay for my next trip to Aruba with points.

Jealous! I wish our daycare would do this.

Ours does, but they charge you a processing fee. Unfortunately the fee is more than what we would get back in rewards, so it's not worth it.

Ours is affiliated with a local hospital, and is actually on the hospital campus, so I think they just do the processing through there. I imagine with with all of their transactions they have something worked out.

Holly_1007 · September 2014

I started googling sensory processing disorder and now I really wish I didn't. Obviously I love my child with all my heart, but it makes me sad that there might be something going on.

Holly_1007 · September 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

I'm at a level of stress that I can't even explain. I told DH last weekend that I was going to get a second, PT job to help with bills through the winter but, with everything going on, I just can't stomach the thought of taking on more. I did sign up for Care.com this morning in the hopes that I can pick up some babysitting jobs instead of having to wait tables. FFFC: I'm chickening out on my own suggestion.

good luck with that. I've been trying to do both of those things, it's hard to fit it in with a schedule. A lot of people don't want you to bring kids with you babysitting and waiting tables is so exhausting, and can be late nights.

isacdimi10 · September 2014

Holly_1007 said:

I started googling sensory processing disorder and now I really wish I didn't. Obviously I love my child with all my heart, but it makes me sad that there might be something going on.

I know this feeling all too well lately.
Limbo is worse than the diagnosis, I have 3 children who received some sort of medical diagnosis in the past 6 months and we're currently in limbo for the boys again.

melody921 · September 2014

isacdimi10 said:

Holly_1007 said:

I started googling sensory processing disorder and now I really wish I didn't. Obviously I love my child with all my heart, but it makes me sad that there might be something going on.

I know this feeling all too well lately.
Limbo is worse than the diagnosis, I have 3 children who received some sort of medical diagnosis in the past 6 months and we're currently in limbo for the boys again.

Hugs to both of you. It's never easy to think you need extra help for your child, but being willing to get that help is what counts. And Google is never kind, so save the questions for the doc so you don't totally freak out @Holly_1007.

Pokedot · September 2014

Yesterday we had a nasty storm come through our area. Instead of parking in the driveway on lunch I parked in the garage. I wasn't going to get hail on my car. Cue time to leave. The f*cking door won't open. There's power, no breaker switched. My remote won't work and neither will the hardwired wall mount one. I try the emergency cord. Has anyone ever used one of those. Yeah I can't pull a 8'x16' (weighing probably 800 lbs) by myself. I call DH, I call my dad, I call my mom, I call work. I'm stuck. After 1+ hour of monkeying with the thing I got it to open. I unplugged and then plugged back in the power cord in the ceiling which makes no sense.

My FFFC: I swore like a sailor the whole time in the garage and I have no remorse for it. Like these words should not have come out of a ladies mouth. I felt so good to get my frustations out.

Also we'll be the proud new owners of a new garage door opener Monday. Thank you Amazon.

hmp1 · September 2014

BPer said:

I have $250 in gap cash, and $300 in gap cash for the outlet. I've maybe bought a couple of pairs of jeans for myself. The rest is kids clothes. I have a problem.

I haven't been impressed with Gap's woman's line the last couple of seasons. I have spent my Gap cash on the kids and DH.

AKB090609 · September 2014

Tomorrow is our anniversary, DH still won't have the BC talk with me so all he's getting is 5 kinds of candy wrapped in tissue paper.

The confession: this may be my favorite anniversary yet... I'm too tired to worry about doing something great.

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Hyaline · September 2014

melody921 said:

I used to try to limit what the grandparents buy for the kids bc really, they don't need much at all. But I've run out of give-a-damns and don't want to seem ungrateful. So now, I just say sure, that sounds like a great gift idea, thanks so much. And then I try not to panic that our house has so much stuff in it.

This is a battle I have no interest in fighting. Yeah, my mom buys DD gifts too often. She doesn't need a new toy and books every time we visit every couple months. But there are far worse things. I apply the "will this matter in ten years" logic and it really doesn't. As DD gets older, she'll learn that new toys and books mean giving away old ones.

Hyaline · September 2014

hmp1 said:

BPer said:

I have $250 in gap cash, and $300 in gap cash for the outlet. I've maybe bought a couple of pairs of jeans for myself. The rest is kids clothes. I have a problem.

I haven't been impressed with Gap's woman's line the last couple of seasons. I have spent my Gap cash on the kids and DH.

I seem to always find stuff for DH at Gap, but rarely for me. Wise move.

Hyaline · September 2014

IndigoVader said:

Holly_1007 said:

I started googling sensory processing disorder and now I really wish I didn't. Obviously I love my child with all my heart, but it makes me sad that there might be something going on.

Step away from the Google woman. There might be nothing at all going on, there might be something. Make an appointment, and in the meantime, love your kid, try not to worry, and stay away from Google.

Agreed completely. Step away. You can't gain anything by working out all the horrible outcomes that *could* be. Making note of behaviors that concern you is a good idea, but if even that is setting off your obsessive-worry-radar, stop doing it.

BeebopandBuddy · September 2014

Holly_1007 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

I'm at a level of stress that I can't even explain. I told DH last weekend that I was going to get a second, PT job to help with bills through the winter but, with everything going on, I just can't stomach the thought of taking on more. I did sign up for Care.com this morning in the hopes that I can pick up some babysitting jobs instead of having to wait tables.

FFFC: I'm chickening out on my own suggestion.

good luck with that. I've been trying to do both of those things, it's hard to fit it in with a schedule. A lot of people don't want you to bring kids with you babysitting and waiting tables is so exhausting, and can be late nights.

I'm going to do the babysitting when DH can be with the kids and I waited tables for six years in HS/college so I definitely know the work, which is part of why I'm chickening out.

tinyhumantoe · September 2014

I have a list.

1. First is that I don't have time to be on here today, but getting my confessions out is a priority. Like, I am DROWNING in work and this is a poor decision.

2. I think I use an abnormal amount of TP when I wipe. I used a whole roll in a day, granted I worked from home, peed 100 times, and had diarrhea. But on a normal basis I think I use too much. No quiero pee on my hands.

3. On M, W, and F I stop at McDonalds and get an egg mcmuffin, then drive to a gas station and pump gas, then eat my sandwich without washing my hands. I always think man, I should get some hand sanitizer in here... then I go on with my day.

4. DH went to the bathroom in the middle of the night, so I took it upon myself to sneak a fart. Oh.My.God. It was the worst fart ever, and I don't fart in front of him. I was up waving my blanket around trying to clear the air and when I heard the toilet flush I jumped in bed and acted like I was asleep. It smelled so bad even after my aerobics.

5. I have not gone to the grocery in three weeks other than to grab 3 things when we run out of milk. I feel like we're living in poverty. It's work - I'm too tired, or I'm out of town all the time. I feel awful.

6. As soon as I got the pink line on my pregnancy test BOOM, hair started growing inside my butt crack. I have a hairy crack, and it keeps getting harrier. I remember how joyful I was when it started falling out post-partum. Butt crack razor burn is not pleasant, so I just let it go.

7. My armtit is back. That's where my boob grows out my armpit when I'm KU. It's about the size of my real non-pregnant boob. And it HURTS. I thought it was a tumor the first time around, but doc assured me.... it's breast tissue. When my milk comes in and I press on it, it squirts milk out the nipple. L-)

BPer · September 2014

hmp1 said:

BPer said:

I have $250 in gap cash, and $300 in gap cash for the outlet.

I've maybe bought a couple of pairs of jeans for myself. The rest is kids clothes.

I have a problem.

I haven't been impressed with Gap's woman's line the last couple of seasons. I have spent my Gap cash on the kids and DH.

Seriously. Aside from a couple of classic jeans, I've found nothing for myself. I went online the other day to look, and was all "why are all of these women dressed like hobos?"

But, give me all of the modal gapbody stuff. So comfy.

BPer · September 2014

I called Hannah's daycare and asked that they not give up Hannah and Ben's spots until I've had the weekend to think it over. I've talked myself out of switching daycare, I think.

It would be a lot of change for Hannah in a matter of months. Ben+new DC+moving. Gah.

I'm crazy, obviously.

MarisaKathleen · September 2014

AKB090609 said:

Tomorrow is our anniversary, DH still won't have the BC talk with me so all he's getting is 5 kinds of candy wrapped in tissue paper.

The confession: this may be my favorite anniversary yet... I'm too tired to worry about doing something great.

Tomorrow is our anniversary too. :-)

For my anniversary present, my DH made an appointment with a urologist to get his vascetomy scheduled. Best. Present. Ever.

MarisaKathleen · September 2014

FFFC: I have no idea what the hell I did on maternity leave with Nancy. She's at the sitter's today so we could get the house presentable for her party on Sunday and holy crap. While Cal's been napping I've cleaned our dining room from top to bottom, changed the sheets on the beds, done 2 loads of laundry, unloaded the dish washer, got the glue gun out and fixed 3 of Nancy's hair bows.

DH is outside cutting patio pavers so he can finish the last bit of the deck.

Cal is still sleeping. It's 1230...I can have a beer right?

AKB090609 · September 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

AKB090609 said:

Tomorrow is our anniversary, DH still won't have the BC talk with me so all he's getting is 5 kinds of candy wrapped in tissue paper.

The confession: this may be my favorite anniversary yet... I'm too tired to worry about doing something great.

Tomorrow is our anniversary too. :-)
For my anniversary present, my DH made an appointment with a urologist to get his vascetomy scheduled. Best. Present. Ever.

This is what DH would love to do as well, I really really want a third or at least the option, I told him nothing permanent can happen until our thirties or we both sure we are done having kids.

amandad715 · September 2014

I've been thinking about mine for a while. We have our anatomy scan on Tuesday, and I'm worried that I'm going to have "gender disappointment" if we're having another boy. Obviously, I want a healthy baby.....and of course, three boys would be so much fun, I'm sure loud, but fun! We have so many boy clothes, this LO would have the best wardrobe. BUT(and it's a big one) I just know I 'll be sad because I have my heart set on a girl this time. I probably shouldn't but I can't help it.

With Jack, we were Team Green and were surprised he was a he. And with him being the first, it was exciting either way. With Will, I had a feeling he was a boy and had a sad moment at the ultrasound, but soon got excited about the two being close in age and having each other. They are best buds and I wouldn't want it any other way.

This is it. 3 kids was what we wanted and I get sad now just thinking about never having that mother-daughter relationship ever. It's just my sister and I and we're close to my mom. Also, we grew up with two other girl cousins close in age, and my mom has 3 sisters. So, much of my life was spent around my aunts and girl cousins. I have a lot of wonderful women around me and would love to share that with a daughter.

I don't want to set myself up for disappointment, but I almost feel I'm there already. Both boys want a sister and I have a feeling DH does too. This will be grandchild #7 on DH's side-all boys so far. I'm sure that my in-laws would like a girl as well.

I haven't even told people when our appt is because I want to have some time to process it ourselves before we share with anyone. There, it's off my chest.

watercolor5 · September 2014

amandad715 said:

I've been thinking about mine for a while. We have our anatomy scan on Tuesday, and I'm worried that I'm going to have "gender disappointment" if we're having another boy. Obviously, I want a healthy baby.....and of course, three boys would be so much fun, I'm sure loud, but fun! We have so many boy clothes, this LO would have the best wardrobe. BUT(and it's a big one) I just know I 'll be sad because I have my heart set on a girl this time. I probably shouldn't but I can't help it.
With Jack, we were Team Green and were surprised he was a he. And with him being the first, it was exciting either way. With Will, I had a feeling he was a boy and had a sad moment at the ultrasound, but soon got excited about the two being close in age and having each other. They are best buds and I wouldn't want it any other way.
This is it. 3 kids was what we wanted and I get sad now just thinking about never having that mother-daughter relationship ever. It's just my sister and I and we're close to my mom. Also, we grew up with two other girl cousins close in age, and my mom has 3 sisters. So, much of my life was spent around my aunts and girl cousins. I have a lot of wonderful women around me and would love to share that with a daughter.
I don't want to set myself up for disappointment, but I almost feel I'm there already. Both boys want a sister and I have a feeling DH does too. This will be grandchild #7 on DH's side-all boys so far. I'm sure that my in-laws would like a girl as well.
I haven't even told people when our appt is because I want to have some time to process it ourselves before we share with anyone. There, it's off my chest.

We have two girls, and I think DH and I will feel the exact same way you do when we have our third (except wanting a boy, obviously.) Don't beat yourself up about how you feel- you'll be an awesome mom to all 3 of your kids no matter what the gender of the third, and you'll have amazing relationships with each of them. But I do get what you're saying.

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