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Since saliva is not TTC friendly do you abstain from oral foreplay during the FW?

DeerNHeadlightsDeerNHeadlights member
edited September 2014 in Trying to Get Pregnant
All this talk about lube has got me curious.
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Since saliva is not TTC friendly do you abstain from oral foreplay during the FW? 258 votes

Yes, we abstain from oral.
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No, we go for the oral anyway
34% 89 votes
I didn't know saliva was not TTC friendly.
12% 32 votes
Sometimes we do, sometimes we don't.
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Re: Since saliva is not TTC friendly do you abstain from oral foreplay during the FW?

  • GHStarfishGHStarfish member

    We usually try to because I have only head it is not friendly. Not sure how much "harm" it would be.

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  • CatcherryesuxCatcherryesux member
    I didn't know it was sperm unfriendly so never did before, but you can bet your ass it's off the table now during the time I think I'm fertile. He can wait another week (or 2, knowing my cycle).
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  • DeerNHeadlightsDeerNHeadlights member
    edited September 2014
    Most of the time we do the foreplay, because that's the best part to me. With sex ED in the FW though sometimes we don't. I'm too tired from all the humping and just want a quickie so I can go to sleep.

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  • virginiaorjohnvirginiaorjohn member
    edited September 2014
    CLECyclist said:
    I'd say as long as there is no MFI involved and you're not creating waterfalls of drool when you're down there nommin' on peen, go for it. 

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  • nocatanywherenocatanywhere member
    We don't do oral every time we get it on, so I picked "sometimes," but the real answer is you can pry it from my cold dead fingers. It's how I get off 75% of the time and I enjoy it way too much. My husband is very, very good at it.

    Of course I'm pretty new at TTC and I may eventually change my tune, but at the moment I don't fancy giving it up for the sake of possibly improving my conception odds.
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  • cateyes543cateyes543 member
    Since we are already dealing with MFI, oral play is a no go during the FW. I am not going to add anything that could hurt our chances anymore.
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  • URMySunshine77URMySunshine77 member
    I'm trying to abstain from warm ups for DH during the FW just because I don't need anything else hurting my chances (over 35). I haven't discussed it with DH and he hasn't asked.

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  • holliberry28holliberry28 member
    @Budders12 taught me early on that saliva was a no-no for TTC, so usually we've skipped the oral.  Except once, when I forgot, and said to DH shortly after, "Oh no, I forgot we shouldn't do this."  But yea, I'm all for it as a warm-up, but to finish the job, that's another story.  TMJ and lock jaw is no joke.


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  • holliberry28holliberry28 member
    Budders12 said:
    holliberry28 said:
    @Budders12 taught me early on that saliva was a no-no for TTC, so usually we've skipped the oral.  Except once, when I forgot, and said to DH shortly after, "Oh no, I forgot we shouldn't do this."  But yea, I'm all for it as a warm-up, but to finish the job, that's another story.  TMJ and lock jaw is no joke.
    I saw in my notifications that I was tagged in this thread and got VERY curious. I'm glad this is why.
    Hadn't thought about it that way, keeping it PG.  ;)


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  • jlo629jlo629 member
    I laughed at this entire topic!  Love it!!!!  So when my H went to the doctor for his physical a few months before we started TTC he asked if he needed to avoid anything to increase our odds.  The doc said not to use lube and that "Mouth play is fine but spitting is bad"...... we quote that a lot here and laugh about it.  Also his doc is in his late 50s and I know his kids pretty well..... ICK! 

    We do oral still about 30% of the time I would guess.  Neither of us are making "waterfalls" so I am thinking we are fine.....  then again no BFP yet!
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  • MsFaith15MsFaith15 member
    What! I didn't know this! This is why I heart you ladies. You are teaching me so much! Hope this doesn't make me out this month. I'm going to go obsess about that now.
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  • OrbitBabyOrbitBaby member
    Jesiy_Lyn said:
    I chose the sometimes button, but it has nothing to do with it being unfriendly to sperm.  Both of my kids were conceived drunk and with saliva.  Neither of them have anything wrong with them :-)
    I have totally thought about this before.  I figure there are millions of people out there who's conception involved saliva, and countless other things for that matter!  
    I don't want to hurt my chances, but I'm not going to stop the oral just yet.   
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  • veggieegardenveggieegarden member
    Oral is always on the menu over here.
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  • Ant&Al2825Ant&Al2825 member
    I plan to cancel out the saliva with preseed! I feel like if we give up oral during my FW, sex will become all about TTC and not about what feels good. I don't want it to feel like a job for DH...
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  • Ant&Al2825Ant&Al2825 member
    CLECyclist said:


    akovacs4 said:

    I plan to cancel out the saliva with preseed! 

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    Should have made it more clear I was joking! Sorry
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