When to start buying things for baby

mamacole1983 · September 2014

With my first pregnancy which was a longtime ago everyone told me it was bad luck to buy for baby before 6 months... But me and my bf are already wanting to buy but haven't yet I insisted to wait till at least 3 months. What are your opinions ladies??

littlewest1 · September 2014

We started buying things after our 20 week anatomy scan ultrasound. At that point we had found out the sex and saw a healthy baby. Will probably do the same this time.

trysarahtops23 · September 2014

We won't buy until the 20 week anatomy scan as well. The only exception being a double jogging stroller if I see an incredible deal.

RobynB13 · September 2014

I say start whenever you want, even before pregnancy in some cases, but for the most part, I think it's good to wait until about half way, or until you find out the gender. No lie though, I saw a cloth diaper that I couldn't resist... but c'mon... it had patriotic owls on it and was only like ten bucks... two of my favorite things, owls and patriotism... (the hubbs already gave me the lecture about it... but when he saw it, even he said, "Ok, you're right, it is kinda cool looking. Just don't go overboard until we're out of the woods."

My hubb is a very wise man. (Just don't tell him I said that)

Chelseyhelton · September 2014

We have already started to buy things we go to baby sales in the area and find great deals. We are buying everything gender neutral though.

crossfit704 · September 2014

I may buy some things around black Friday. Hubs already went and ordered the flooring for the nursery (because you know all babies need new hard wood floor and not carpet). I think he has lost his mind!

PinkDahLia44 · September 2014

I'm going to wait until the a/s (which for me will be at 18 weeks) bc I want to know the sex. For my son, we didn't find out sex and a big box with my crib and dresser showed up at like, 14 weeks. I was not ready!

Miluiel07 · September 2014

We're waiting till the a/s scan at 20 weeks, that's what we've done for all of our kids. We find out what we are having then go to the store and pick out an outfit.

JaneShops · September 2014

Thanks for the advice, as a FTM I'm not sure when either

ThisAgain · September 2014

I'm going ahead and starting to make things like standard crib sheets and blankets. I can sell these thing a if things go wrong. I won't be buying until baby is a little more solid and sticky.

ScarletOflaherty · September 2014

I watch for deals and buy as they come along. I don't have a history of losses though so I'm less cautious than some, and I don't believe in 'bad luck'

FitMom3510 · September 2014

ScarletOflaherty said:

I watch for deals and buy as they come along. I don't have a history of losses though so I'm less cautious than some, and I don't believe in 'bad luck'

I'm also not one for believing in "bad luck," if you buy something it won't determine your outcome either way. We bought the crib, changing table, and pack and play only because a friend was selling it for super cheap and we had the space for it since we have an empty third room. We won't really be buying anything else until we find out the sex of the baby. It will be just in time for black friday too!

littlewest1 · September 2014

BananaBoat05 said:

ScarletOflaherty said:

I watch for deals and buy as they come along. I don't have a history of losses though so I'm less cautious than some, and I don't believe in 'bad luck'

This comment really rubbed me the wrong way. You don't have to have a history of loss to experience a loss yourself. And many loss moms don't put off buying things because of "bad luck" but rather so that they don't have a house full of baby stuff staring them in the face when they learn that they won't be welcoming a baby.

I feel the same way @bananaboat05.

SayAnything84 · September 2014

I buy when I want, I just am careful not to go over board

fatcat11188 · September 2014

I am being given a crib and changing table this weekend, and I am only 8 weeks along. I do plan on having more children, goodness forbid if something were to go wrong this time, so would just save it for the next baby. My twins are in their convertible cribs (now beds) so we didn't have a crib hanging around.

sagehens47 · September 2014

Prob 14 weeks - we'll be doing genetic testing at 10 weeks which will also tell us the sex. Hopefully all is well and we can start spending cash on all the fun baby stuff!

ScarletOflaherty · September 2014

BananaBoat05 said:

ScarletOflaherty said:

I watch for deals and buy as they come along. I don't have a history of losses though so I'm less cautious than some, and I don't believe in 'bad luck'

This comment really rubbed me the wrong way. You don't have to have a history of loss to experience a loss yourself. And many loss moms don't put off buying things because of "bad luck" but rather so that they don't have a house full of baby stuff staring them in the face when they learn that they won't be welcoming a baby.

Well I'm sorry you feel sensitive, but that's a little beyond my control.

Clearly you don't have to have a history of losses to experience one, as evidenced by how many m/c with their first pregnancies. Kind of a 'duh' statement. I have had a chemical pregnancy but it was between #3 and #4, and with 4 healthy pregnancies I choose to believe it was a one-off thing. I don't let that experience define me or alter how I handle little things like shopping for this baby.

As for the 'bad luck' statement, it was specifically mentioned in the OP, so why you choose to make that about yourself or others is beyond me. I was responding to that comment being made to her, and her asking how we personally handled this stuff.

As I said I'm sorry you are feeling sensitive today, but how you take my posts about me and my feelings is beyond my control. I didn't make it about you or anyone else, you did.

Maybe you should think about that behavior and whether or not it's healthy and productive.

pblge · September 2014

I'm going to try and get as much as possible free, and for that I see no reason to wait.

People have told me that one can expect tons of hand-me-downs, so wait to buy anything until most of that has already happened. We're also keeping an eye on Freecycle, as you'll sometimes even see jogging strollers given away there.

pblge · September 2014

ScarletOflaherty said:

BananaBoat05 said:

ScarletOflaherty said:

I watch for deals and buy as they come along. I don't have a history of losses though so I'm less cautious than some, and I don't believe in 'bad luck'

This comment really rubbed me the wrong way. You don't have to have a history of loss to experience a loss yourself. And many loss moms don't put off buying things because of "bad luck" but rather so that they don't have a house full of baby stuff staring them in the face when they learn that they won't be welcoming a baby.

Well I'm sorry you feel sensitive, but that's a little beyond my control.

Clearly you don't have to have a history of losses to experience one, as evidenced by how many m/c with their first pregnancies. Kind of a 'duh' statement. I have had a chemical pregnancy but it was between #3 and #4, and with 4 healthy pregnancies I choose to believe it was a one-off thing. I don't let that experience define me or alter how I handle little things like shopping for this baby.

As for the 'bad luck' statement, it was specifically mentioned in the OP, so why you choose to make that about yourself or others is beyond me. I was responding to that comment being made to her, and her asking how we personally handled this stuff.

As I said I'm sorry you are feeling sensitive today, but how you take my posts about me and my feelings is beyond my control. I didn't make it about you or anyone else, you did.

Maybe you should think about that behavior and whether or not it's healthy and productive.

W.O.W. And that's all I'm going to say.

Duffgurl · September 2014

We plan to wait till we find out the sex of our little gummy bear.

littlewest1 · September 2014

BananaBoat05 said:

Quote fail. And stupid mobile bump won't let me edit. The "yeah I don't even know how to respond to this" was a response to @ScarletOflaherty‌ comment.

Exactly, not even worth commenting on. Wow.

epidemic · September 2014

Totally off topic, but @ThisAgain I read your post about making bedding and fitted sheets as you sew..is that right?

ThisAgain · September 2014

Yep!! @epidemic‌

epidemic · September 2014

@ThisAgain... YAY!! Me too! We'll have to start a weekly thread (no pun intended!) so all the other crafty ladies can AW it up!

yellowdaisies84 · September 2014

I'm going to wait at least a couple more months before I start buying any baby gear. This is our first so I'm thinking it might make sense to register for everything we need and then purchase whatever remains on our list closer to the due date. However, when I make it to week 8 this Sunday I do plan on celebrating by buying a couple of maternity items for myself!

I'm very excited about that. 4 more days to go!

Lacy511 · September 2014

I'm not quite 8wks yet but I've already started stocking up on things like diapers and my breast feeding supplies I will need! Will wait til after I know pink or blue for the rest

purple_2012 · September 2014

Our plan is to start buying stuff around 10 weeks.

RobynB13 · September 2014

Everyone handles loss different. Everyone has different superstitions- or lack of. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and looks like they've been voiced... so... moving on.

I'm putting off buying bedding the longest over other things. Probably because I change my mind a lot about themes. This time I'm wanting something more unisex whether we have a boy or a girl though, just for the sake of being able to give it to someone else when we're done with it.

ThisAgain · September 2014

ScarletOflaherty said:

BananaBoat05 said:

ScarletOflaherty said:

I watch for deals and buy as they come along. I don't have a history of losses though so I'm less cautious than some, and I don't believe in 'bad luck'

This comment really rubbed me the wrong way. You don't have to have a history of loss to experience a loss yourself. And many loss moms don't put off buying things because of "bad luck" but rather so that they don't have a house full of baby stuff staring them in the face when they learn that they won't be welcoming a baby.

Well I'm sorry you feel sensitive, but that's a little beyond my control.

Clearly you don't have to have a history of losses to experience one, as evidenced by how many m/c with their first pregnancies. Kind of a 'duh' statement. I have had a chemical pregnancy but it was between #3 and #4, and with 4 healthy pregnancies I choose to believe it was a one-off thing. I don't let that experience define me or alter how I handle little things like shopping for this baby.

As for the 'bad luck' statement, it was specifically mentioned in the OP, so why you choose to make that about yourself or others is beyond me. I was responding to that comment being made to her, and her asking how we personally handled this stuff.

As I said I'm sorry you are feeling sensitive today, but how you take my posts about me and my feelings is beyond my control. I didn't make it about you or anyone else, you did.

Maybe you should think about that behavior and whether or not it's healthy and productive.

------quote box fail------

Whoa nelly. No need to hostile. You were completely insensitive regarding the experience of a miscarraige. Of course your going to get backlash.

@epidemic‌ I think that is a great idea!!

arlinar · September 2014

Though my mom wants to start buying things now, I told her lets hold off till my Anatomy scan which is going to happen the week of thanksgiving (or before depending on what the doctor wants). I can announce what we are having at the dinner table since the whole family will be there and then we can all go shopping for some stuff on black friday.

Ashgal · September 2014

Having had a 2nd trimester loss before I am always hesitant to purchase anything before viability which is around 25 weeks. However there will be some consignment sales happening in the next few months, so I might go ahead and snag a few items I know I need.

mamaparker19 · September 2014

I've picked up some cute unisex onesies already lol

I found a yellow one that says mommy's angel

after we find out the sex though it's all bets off haha I will be buying an outfit or two every paycheck

BluEyedGirl26 · September 2014

snegde said:
I didn't open this thread yesterday. Cause I just can't even go there. Do you know what sucks... Returning maternity clothes- the whole process, the questions from salespeople (doesn't fit, when are you due), the whole thing. Do you know what else sucks... Having baby clothes in your house and not being sure you will ever have a baby to wear them.

People are going to do what they want, which is great and I fully support but I think it's pretty shitty to judge someone or imply something is wrong with them for not buying because of their loss history.

I have to agree on this. With my first pregnancy, I purchased maternity pants from Gap. They happened to arrive the same day that our mmc was confirmed. They sat on the living room floor for weeks before I could even open the box. So as far as I'm concerned, my loss history does define me and some things I just don't need to relive. I'll be waiting until 2nd tri to buy any maternity clothes and probably the a/s to buy anything baby related.

carter604 · September 2014

I wouldn't count myself as particularly superstitious, but will be waiting until the second trimester to stock up on baby stuff. This online community has been such a great place to hear about so many different pregnancy experiences, and also how common miscarriages are. We are so excited about our little one, and at the same time are realistic that not every pregnancy sticks. For us, I'll plan to start saving up money now and rely on registry gifts later on, rather than starting a baby stockpile that I'll have to clean around in the spare room for the next 8 months!

RobynB13 · September 2014

I keep looking at bedding and stuff, and I need to stop it... bedding can wait, I'll need pants well before baby is gonna need a dust ruffle! (but on a side note, I wasn't even thinking beach theme until I came across a really cute but not "cutesy" pirate bedding set on O.co that if I knew I would decide on that theme, I would go for it!)

littlewest1 · September 2014

Agreed @BananaBoat05 and @quanda2013. I also feel like your signature is a big FU to anyone you offended with your comments @ScarletOflaherty. I am not looking for my hair to be petted but it would be nice if you recognized what you did was wrong.

Edit to fix tag

ScarletOflaherty · September 2014

BananaBoat05 said:

@scarletOflaherty I'm not one to call anyone out on TB and I don't want to violate TOU. But I am appalled at the fact that you haven't come back to comment on this post after your horribly insensitive remarks and then slap me in the face with a siggy pic that says it's my problem if I'm offended..????! I am at a total loss and I can't just let it go.

This right here is exactly the problem with the first thing you posted. My response wasn't about you, and wasn't about anyone else. It was about ME. It was about MY feelings, MY reasoning, and was my response to the question the OP asked. It wasn't insensitive because it didn't have anything to do with anyone but me. You CHOSE to make it about you by getting offended.

My signature pic? Also NOT about YOU! It was 100% inspired by someone who also took offense to this thread and decided to PM me telling me I was a terrible person. So once again, you chose to make something about YOU that wasn't.

I'm sorry you had losses. They suck. I hate that I had one, and I hate that anyone has them.

That said, that is 100% unrelated to the fact that you keep taking comments that are not about you, and trying to make them such. The world doesn't revolve around you, and you CHOOSING to get offended over something that has NOTHING to do with anyone but me, and making it about you...I'm sorry but that's nothing short of over-sensitive at best, and self-centered at worst. I'm not going to apologize, because again, it had nothing to do with you or anyone other than me to start with. Your inability to realize not everything in the world is about you is quite frankly not my problem, and something you should maybe explore.

I'm sure you are a good person, and I'm certainly sorry you have had losses, but that does not automatically make you right when you choose to make something about you that quite frankly, isn't and never was.

littlewest1 · September 2014

You are making this personal @scarletOFlaherty and you know it. Don't try to pretend like what you are doing is ok because "it isn't about her". I am over you.

Editing tag again, I can't spell

KayDeeKay81 · September 2014

epidemic said:

@ThisAgain... YAY!! Me too! We'll have to start a weekly thread (no pun intended!) so all the other crafty ladies can AW it up!

PLEASE do that! I love love love DIY and I am just getting into sewing - The more ideas the better

ScarletOflaherty · September 2014

MOtownMama Sorry, I don't believe in playing the 'my problems are bigger than your problems' game, it's just cruel. I've known people who have lost children close to birth, and I've known people who have lost actual born children several months later. A loss is a loss, and while some are certainly bigger and deeper than others, I'd never marginalize someone's feelings that way by presuming to comment on any degree of pain someone may experience from a given situation.

That said I also don't presume to know people's motivations, and you judged mine 100% incorrectly with that statement. I wasn't 'bragging' about anything, I don't think it's something I've even mentioned here on TB previously(mostly because so many HAVE had far bigger losses) I was explaining that while I have had a CP, I don't consider it a defining factor of myself or how I choose to prepare for this baby.

Once again, explaining MY feelings, and MY motivations, and having nothing to do with anyone else. No one but ME.

I'm sorry some people have a hard time understanding that. I can't explain it any further or differently, and have no desire to. I can't cater to the feelings of everyone who decides that something that isn't about them someone how is and refuses to see otherwise. That's a personal problem that I can't fix, and I won't be wasting any more time in this thread trying.

bishbecraycray · September 2014

ScarletOflaherty said:

BananaBoat05 said:

@scarletOflaherty I'm not one to call anyone out on TB and I don't want to violate TOU. But I am appalled at the fact that you haven't come back to comment on this post after your horribly insensitive remarks and then slap me in the face with a siggy pic that says it's my problem if I'm offended..????! I am at a total loss and I can't just let it go.

This right here is exactly the problem with the first thing you posted. My response wasn't about you, and wasn't about anyone else. It was about ME. It was about MY feelings, MY reasoning, and was my response to the question the OP asked. It wasn't insensitive because it didn't have anything to do with anyone but me. You CHOSE to make it about you by getting offended.

My signature pic? Also NOT about YOU! It was 100% inspired by someone who also took offense to this thread and decided to PM me telling me I was a terrible person. So once again, you chose to make something about YOU that wasn't.

I'm sorry you had losses. They suck. I hate that I had one, and I hate that anyone has them.

That said, that is 100% unrelated to the fact that you keep taking comments that are not about you, and trying to make them such. The world doesn't revolve around you, and you CHOOSING to get offended over something that has NOTHING to do with anyone but me, and making it about you...I'm sorry but that's nothing short of over-sensitive at best, and self-centered at worst. I'm not going to apologize, because again, it had nothing to do with you or anyone other than me to start with. Your inability to realize not everything in the world is about you is quite frankly not my problem, and something you should maybe explore.

I'm sure you are a good person, and I'm certainly sorry you have had losses, but that does not automatically make you right when you choose to make something about you that quite frankly, isn't and never was.

I keep stalking this thread waiting to see an apology and you're just making it worse and worse...

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