My dad and step mom will be in town this week. It is only their second time seeing Rachel since she was born.
I'm not excited about this visit. My birthday is tomorrow and I'm just not looking forward to spending it with them.
I am getting through the week by reminding myself of the reward at the end. My reward is the winery GTG with my fellow NE Bumpies. I will be drinking all the wine at the winery.
I got a job offer from one of the three prospects, unfortunately it's not one of the two hospital systems where a majority of my coworkers are going to be headed. I think long term it's going to be the best fit. But I've definitely got the major sads knowing I'm going in a totally different direction than any of my coworkers when we close at the end of the month.
My FI had traveled to the Philippines twice with work and signed up for sky miles through delta and he has 84841 or something like points. Enough to get us two free flights within the us or one free international flight. Sweet, right? I was going to use this for our honey moon....except they said we need 85000 points to get a free international flight. WTF!!! Soooooooooooooo close.
@Herefishy87 I wasn't at the conversation, and I basically ignored h as he was telling me about it, but I assume he just told them "I'll talk to her about it". He's good about not making me look like a bad guy, but he is horrible about standing up against his parents. #itscultural. I'm just avoiding the inlaws for a bit, which means h is picking up the kids after work. Win-win. The weather has finally chilled out a bit, so I will prob go back to double shirting it again soon, no flopping, so they can quit their whining anyway.
I have a job interview thurs, I am like 95% sure I will get this position. I need to get it. I literally cannot stand this place anymore. The phone interview went well and with thurs group interview I really hope to know something by Monday.
If I do get this new job I can *barely* give this place 2 wks notice. Or take my last 2 personal days, give them a weeks notice, cash out my remaining vacation days, and have a few days off between this place and training at the new place. But im really leaning towards using my last two personal days, (have to so they will cash out my vacation days) and just flat out walking, quitting and just walking away.
I think im too big a coward to do that, but I really want to.
Basically, I hate this place and am ready to walk away. Just need a safety net for the kiddos sake.
@jennlin Well thankfully he can pick up the kids for you so you don't have to deal with them. Ugh I'm so sorry they are really making it an awkward situation. I will never understand why people are so weird about breast feeding! It's not like we strip off our shirts, stand on a table and flap our boobs around with tassels hanging off our nipples.
I've only read the first page but wanted to tell a story. It was a few weeks(?) ago maybe the first time I saw @jennlin post about her family's disapproval of her BF'ing. I don't know why but that just put a burr in my ass. So by chance my aunts step daughter was at my aunts house visiting. She has a DS and a set of twins. My mom calls me on speaker phone with her bestie in the car and tells me how my aunt was all upset about the step daughter nursing right infront of everyone in the living room! They were acting like a bunch of scandalized hens. So I waited for them to stop squawking and thought of you ladies, and myself and said "So?"
"But Gator the pastor was there!"
I'm so glad she said that. The rest went something like this.
"Oh the pastor was there!?! Thank God! He can spread the word he was witness to God's own creation, feeding and nourishing one of his children! How remarkably lucky of them that M allowed them to be a part of a beautiful bonding experience."
But it's indecent, you could see boob she should cover up, the hens said.
"Oh, because men are attracted to boobs and look at them in playboy etc? No you are making it indecent, boobs are for feeding babies that was their original purpose. I'm sorry you are offended by something you also have, but it's August and you want her to put her babies under a hot cover where it is hard to breathe? Or maybe you all would be more comfortable if she fed them in the bathroom. Funny you would be appalled if I fed DD in the bathroom and certainly you wouldn't take YOUR meal there, would you mother? So why should M and her babies have to feed by your ideas of what is decent? Here's an idea! Get your minds out of the gutter and try being supportive of a mother who is probably exhausted and needs a pat on the back not judgment from her family. In this day and age you should just be happy she's feeding them!"
Hens quietly, uh ok we gotta go!
I'm not usually that direct with my mom I don't know what came over me, but it felt good. And I don't even BF! Lol Last week in the car my mom was going on about something and in the middle she says "and we all know your feelings on breast feeding!"
Ive taken 2 showers and swam in my kiddie pool. The humidity the past 3 days is so insane. Last night we drank all the wine, beer and vodka. I have so much other booze to choose from but I really just want a glass of wine.
@Gatorsgirl731, I wish I had the nerve you do to talk to your mom that way! Not about breast feeding but about other stuff my mom says to me. She is a huge factor in my depression and I want to say so many things but I'm just too scared. How did you work up the nerve to give it to her straight like that?
Started doing daycare for my sister's kids today. The little one is especially spirited. We adore her but she's several handfuls. The 5 year old will be starting kindergarten as soon as my sister gets the paperwork together, so we'll have one less to worry about for a few hours each day.
My neighbor/friend isn't doing well health-wise, and now he's offering to hire me for basic housekeeping a few times a week. The extra income from both sources are going to be such a major help! We nearly hit rock bottom last week due to an unfortunate series of setbacks.
And my sister offered to take Carmen on Saturday morning so DH and I can "sleep in" for our anniversary, and also to watch her at night so we can go to dinner. I wish we could afford to do something more to celebrate our first, but we'll have many more to splurge on later.
@Gatorsgirl731, I wish I had the nerve you do to talk to your mom that way! Not about breast feeding but about other stuff my mom says to me. She is a huge factor in my depression and I want to say so many things but I'm just too scared. How did you work up the nerve to give it to her straight like that?
I'm the same as you. I was scared to death to tell her we weren't coming to Sunday dinner this week because we all had a stomach bug. I don't know what came over me that day. I think I was just tired from DD not sleeping, worried about my step dad who had just had surgery, and just cranky and over it in general. Most of the time if she is being insensitive like that I just let it roll off my back, but every now and then she strikes a nerve. By now she has figured out if I speak up I'm not backing down. I have hopes that I said something to make her re-think her opinions.
I talked with my hub last night and he's being much more supportive than I thought. He told me he's going to be avoiding his dad, too. He still has to see mil when picking up the kids, but she's non confrontational. H "gets it" just doesn't "like it" but he understands you gotta do what you gotta do.
I felt much better last night, I even considered having sex....then I fell asleep.
Re: Tuesday Randoms
If I do get this new job I can *barely* give this place 2 wks notice. Or take my last 2 personal days, give them a weeks notice, cash out my remaining vacation days, and have a few days off between this place and training at the new place. But im really leaning towards using my last two personal days, (have to so they will cash out my vacation days) and just flat out walking, quitting and just walking away.
I think im too big a coward to do that, but I really want to.
Basically, I hate this place and am ready to walk away. Just need a safety net for the kiddos sake.
"But Gator the pastor was there!"
I'm so glad she said that. The rest went something like this.
"Oh the pastor was there!?! Thank God! He can spread the word he was witness to God's own creation, feeding and nourishing one of his children! How remarkably lucky of them that M allowed them to be a part of a beautiful bonding experience."
But it's indecent, you could see boob she should cover up, the hens said.
"Oh, because men are attracted to boobs and look at them in playboy etc? No you are making it indecent, boobs are for feeding babies that was their original purpose. I'm sorry you are offended by something you also have, but it's August and you want her to put her babies under a hot cover where it is hard to breathe? Or maybe you all would be more comfortable if she fed them in the bathroom. Funny you would be appalled if I fed DD in the bathroom and certainly you wouldn't take YOUR meal there, would you mother? So why should M and her babies have to feed by your ideas of what is decent? Here's an idea! Get your minds out of the gutter and try being supportive of a mother who is probably exhausted and needs a pat on the back not judgment from her family. In this day and age you should just be happy she's feeding them!"
Hens quietly, uh ok we gotta go!
I'm not usually that direct with my mom I don't know what came over me, but it felt good. And I don't even BF! Lol Last week in the car my mom was going on about something and in the middle she says "and we all know your feelings on breast feeding!"
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
My neighbor/friend isn't doing well health-wise, and now he's offering to hire me for basic housekeeping a few times a week. The extra income from both sources are going to be such a major help! We nearly hit rock bottom last week due to an unfortunate series of setbacks.
And my sister offered to take Carmen on Saturday morning so DH and I can "sleep in" for our anniversary, and also to watch her at night so we can go to dinner. I wish we could afford to do something more to celebrate our first, but we'll have many more to splurge on later.
9/13/12 BFP 9/25/12 M/C at 6.5 weeks
***All AL'ers Welcome***
I felt much better last night, I even considered having sex....then I fell asleep.