How much does your DH/SO know about ttc?

blitzy23 · August 2014

Mine just knows he gets a lot of sex... until he all of a sudden doesn't... And then he gets a lot of sex...

maggie515 · August 2014

If we have sex, I could get pregnant. Also, he periodically asks if my alarm goes off at six for me to temp. Ha. Beyond that, it's like Chinese for him.

Jags8 · August 2014

DH knows why I temp, and has a very basic grasp on luteal phase (mostly that it's bad if it's too short). He knows that I can get pregnant days before I even ovulate. He knows that he can't masturbate during my FW and why. He understand why I use OPKs.

lindsayloo1212 · August 2014

He's heard about it all - but doesn't seem to care about too much about it other than the sex parts.

easto296 · August 2014

He stays away from questions and then just asks every month if I'm pregnant or not...I'm not sure if I like that or not.

lindsayloo1212 · August 2014

I was upset my temp dropped last week and DH first said he did think it was cold in our bedroom that morning. Then when he noticed I was bummed later in the day he said my temp would be better tomorrow and my ovulation would be back. He does try.

virginiaorjohn · August 2014

Wait... You're supposed to tell him you're TTC?

KIDDING.

He knows there are days that matter, basically. He knows that if I'm asking, it's an important day.

Breakfast4dinner · August 2014

He's pretty hands-off information wise but he'd be more involved if I asked. I'm going to start temping amy day so we'll talk about that I'm sure.

renbee · August 2014

Oh my husband just LOVES to hear about my mucus.

maggie515 · August 2014

lindsayloo1212 said:

I was upset my temp dropped last week and DH first said he did think it was cold in our bedroom that morning. Then when he noticed I was bummed later in the day he said my temp would be better tomorrow and my ovulation would be back. He does try.

Bless him...

CoffeeGirl27 · August 2014

He hates me mentioning mucus or periods, and freaks out a little bit. He's aware of temping and opk's, but mostly is just aware of the time frame when we should have sex.

TRP85 · August 2014

lindsayloo1212 said:
I was upset my temp dropped last week and DH first said he did think it was cold in our bedroom that morning. Then when he noticed I was bummed later in the day he said my temp would be better tomorrow and my ovulation would be back. He does try.

That's pretty darn sweet.

My DH gets that I need to temp everyday and seems moderately interested/supportive of me tracking everything by shys away from too many details. Mainly he's just excited by all the sex.

Edit: because mobile means I can't type

blitzy23 · August 2014

MrsSimpson27 said:
He hates me mentioning mucus or periods, and freaks out a little bit. He's aware of temping and opk's, but mostly is just aware of the time frame when we should have sex.

I haven't mentioned mucus! That does sound like a great way to freak my man out! We are still new at this, so there is still time

/:)

TRP85 · August 2014

blitzy23 said:

MrsSimpson27 said:
He hates me mentioning mucus or periods, and freaks out a little bit. He's aware of temping and opk's, but mostly is just aware of the time frame when we should have sex.
I haven't mentioned mucus! That does sound like a great way to freak my man out! We are still new at this, so there is still time

/:)

Ha ha. My DH accidentally saw something when I was on FF yesterday about the mucus and it definitely freaked him out. This is when I decided it's best to keep a lot of details of ttc to myself.

LittleMrsW · August 2014

He just knows the basics. Last night was the first time (like ever) he asked when I would be ovulating. He kept asking questions, so I basically gave him a mini science lesson and explained OPK's and temping.

In the past he would say, you never know I could knock you up tonight, but I would be like 7 DPO and he just didn't get it.

mechedes · August 2014

My husband asked a few questions when I started using FF. He was interested on how an app could predict something that happens inside my body.. Lol.. He's doubtful but supportive. He (jokingly) said I could temp and he'd check my CM each morning.. He thinks he's funny.

cateyes543 · August 2014

It seems like my H learns/asks about something new every month...som10 months later he knows the basic information on everything. He asked what CM was and so I gave him a crash course this month. He is very invested in temps now and looks for the spike as well which gets a little tiresome but is also pretty cool.

GiveMeWine · August 2014

H knows sex.. That is all

abigailwaslike · August 2014

My SO is an uber nerd when it comes to anything. He has FF app and tracks everything wth me, he also gets onto me about temping. He knows alllll about the CM too. I'm actually starting to wonder if he's the female in all of this!

aztecash · August 2014

My hubs acts like he wants to know as little as possible at first, but then he gets curious and keeps asking questions. I end up explaining everything in mild to semi-graphic terms as he is good as long as he is eased into it. I am constantly learning and so is he. It's been quite an amusing journey so far. DH knows entirely too much about CM...

CaveWmnInBrit · August 2014

He knows that we are trying to have a baby and my temps/ovulation are all over the place because of the PCOS. He knows that I have had several cysts and one ovary is covered in scar tissue. He knows I have to temp and take the OPK because we are moving onto the next stage with an RE after this month and this information is useful for them to have.

I don't tell him things unless he asks and he asks about the medical stuff as I have had to go for ultrasounds and bloodwork etc. He is aware that if we go to an RE he will prob get tested because it is easy to test a guy just to check.

He also is in it for the unprotected sex I think....

RN1175 · August 2014

MH knows quite a bit as I have been sharing more with him lately. I have been traveling with him so we can have good timing during my FW. He even helped me interoperate a Wondfo OPK two days ago! And it was positive.

I even shared a little bit with him about CM. Not too much though that is kind of stepping out of his comfort zone I think.

tlc35 · August 2014

My H knows that fertile week exists and that temping helps me know when that it. He also knows that more sex is better during that time. We haven't discussed CM since he is pretty easily grossed out.

BillyHorrible · August 2014

Mine knows all about temping, charting, and ovulation. But we charted to avoid for years, and used charting to conceive our son.

wineandcake · August 2014

If I initiate sex, he occasionally asks if I'm just using him to get pregnant, either way he's okay with it. He knows certain times are better than others and that's about all he cares to know. I'm sure if we get closer to the year mark he will take more interest in it, but for now he wants to keep sex/TTGP fun and I'm okay with that. There's no reason for both of us to stress about it, I do my research and tell him anything really important but that's it.

kdE2010 · August 2014

My DH knows quite a bit. He knows I temp to confirm O and he'll ask about my temps occasionally. I'm sure he knows my FW, because that's when I'm most interested in all the sex. He also tells me not to test until AF is due, to avoid feeling disappointed, but I haven't been able to resist yet.

RaeLynn81012 · August 2014

To be honest, I think my husband knows more than I do! His latest research was "sexual positions for TTC." I'm thinking he just wants an excuse to try different positions lol! I just go with it because it makes me happy that he tries so hard.

SwivelChair5 · August 2014

I've explained the temping and charting to him. He's a science-y guy, and likes data, although he was concerned that I have too many outliers.

dmsmth · August 2014

This is the 2nd time we have temped to get pgr, so he kniws why I do it eyc and when I say its time to go he is ready. He diesnt quite get the temp rise, cm stuff other than what I tell him. Ie: fertile cm, sexy time!

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daystardreams · August 2014

He's knows everything, he can analyze a chart with the best of them. We're a team. We do things together. He wants a baby just as badly as I do so I feel like he should be just as involved as I am. He can read OPKs (which I leave on the back of the toilet for him), he can usually tell you how many DPO we are (within a few days at least), he knows that my FW window usually starts on CD 15 and that is when all the sex happens, he even has my fertility friend account on his iPhone. We're making a baby and I am NOT going to do it without his help and input every step of the way.

ETA: missing word

wannallama · August 2014

I kept H more in the loop about CM, fertile periods, etc. when we first started ttc. But I also thought at that time I ovulated based on a textbook schedule. Now that it's been several months I don't bring my "signs" up anymore.

Bee1112 · August 2014

I have taught my H everything that I have learned. He is very interested in how it all works, and knows everything that I do.

Remylove1011 · August 2014

DH knows in general what I'm doing. He knows about the temping/charting and FW. We have not discussed CM as this would be TMI for him. So basically just knows I keep track of it and that I initiate sex often during FW. He also knows a fair amount about LP and how it being short is bad. SInce I've had several cycle of shorter LP I've explained to him what that means as well.

Jamesy · August 2014

He knows we switched to PreSeed because the old lube wasn't good for TTC. He knows I'm temping, but I'd been trying to keep that on the down low. He tends to think I'm over thinking things when really I'm just doing it to learn about the process and my body, not put the pressure on either of us.

Lottie&Paul · August 2014

He knows that when I have EWCM, we'll be having sex. Sometimes he asks how my temp is, and he knows if it goes down after we've had FW sex, it's bad.

Jags8 · August 2014

emilie818 said:

Jags8 said:

DH knows why I temp, and has a very basic grasp on luteal phase (mostly that it's bad if it's too short). He knows that I can get pregnant days before I even ovulate. He knows that he can't masturbate during my FW and why. He understand why I use OPKs.

Is asking DH not to masturbate during the FW a thing? I am not sure what my DH's masturbation habits are and I don't really care, but I know they exist and I'm not about to ask.

I don't know @emilie818‌ , it is "a thing" for us. It's not a secret for us. It's not some mystical, secretive, weird thing. It's human nature. So ya, when I tell him I'm probably going into my FW, he knows not to waste his sperm.

divinemsbee · August 2014

My H knows pretty much everything that I do and has never been in the dark about much. He also knows the brand of OPKs I use and which pads to pick up if I'm on my period and need more. He's kind of a rock star about stuff like that, and he's impossible to gross out. Obviously now that we've been going through treatment he's completely involved in all of that.

I also will ask H to refrain from masturbating during my FW. Most months when we're TTC we're having enough sex that it's not an issue, but the more months we've been dealing with condoms the less sex we've been having. I'll go it a step further and say that last night we got him some cheaper lube specifically for him to masturbate with so that he didn't use the PreSeed we got. the Preseed is in my nightstand, the other is in his.

Jags8 · August 2014

emilie818 said:

Jags8 said:

emilie818 said:

Jags8 said:

DH knows why I temp, and has a very basic grasp on luteal phase (mostly that it's bad if it's too short). He knows that I can get pregnant days before I even ovulate. He knows that he can't masturbate during my FW and why. He understand why I use OPKs.

Is asking DH not to masturbate during the FW a thing? I am not sure what my DH's masturbation habits are and I don't really care, but I know they exist and I'm not about to ask.

I don't know @emilie818‌ , it is "a thing" for us. It's not a secret for us. It's not some mystical, secretive, weird thing. It's human nature. So ya, when I tell him I'm probably going into my FW, he knows not to waste his sperm.

sorry if this was offensive to you. I prefer to keep my masturbation habits private from DH and vice versa. I'd feel weird bringing it up with him.

I mean, it's not like I'm saying "Hey DH don't jerk off cuz you need to save that baby juice for me!" every month. At one point, the subject of how much is too much or too little came up. So I I pointed out that it would be unwise to deplete his levels during my fertile week, and that includes masturbation. So when I tell him I'm in my FW, he just knows not to.

nocatanywhere · August 2014

We're similar to several people here -- he's a nerd and likes charts and knowing things, so he's asked how charting works and I've told him. He understands that my body goes through phases and symptoms throughout my cycle and roughly what those mean. AKA, if he squeezes my boob and I go "OW," he goes "period on its way, huh?" He's not especially grossed out by anything my body does.

renbee · August 2014

coffeeismylyfe said:

renbee said:

Oh my husband just LOVES to hear about my mucus.

Eh, to each their own. DH doesn't LOVE the hear about it but I don't think he dislikes it either. He is a scientific mind and finds the whole TTC process to be fascinating. He is one of those people who needs to know all the facts, so he learns right along with me. I'd say 30% of the time we talk about CM he's the one who brought it up.

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Just to be clear, I was joking. Lol.

The less my DH knows, the better. Less stressful for him.

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