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PPD or stress? Help

niffanieniffanie member
in September 2014 Moms
I don't even know if this is considered PPD. My DS is almost 3 and this last trimester, he has shown his terrible 2s. Maybe I need someone to talk to or just vent. He doesn't listen, an instigator a time out breaker, everything a 2 year old does he, I feel does it worse. I'm currently 35 weeks pregnant and my DH of course just started a job and hasn't had any days off and if he has, he catches up on yard work or is just downright lazy. I don't blame him but he doesn't help me with house work, leaves his plates where he sits. I swear to gosh I have been trying to best by myself to nest and I can't because it's like I have a new mess to clean up right after I clean due to DH or DS. I just feel like I'm at my wits end. I spank my son when he is bad, I admit it. I time out and I take things away. I try to be considerate of DH because I am not working anymore and I know he is pulling our weight. But it feels like I am about to have a total breakdown. I yelled at DS this morning and he began to cry, so did I and I hugged him tight. Please say it's my hormones. I hate feeling this way. I feel like if I ran away I'd feel better.
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    KATILLAC1KATILLAC1 member
    edited August 2014

    I agree with the PP and also want to add that this is a big transition for your DS and DH as well. I would recommend talking to your DH about how you feel, just be honest and ask him for some help. As far as DS goes I have a DD that is going through the same thing and I think a huge part of it is the impending change coming. Discipline is important so that they know it isn't acceptable behavior and doesn't become a habit but make sure you set aside some time to do fun things with just the 2 or 3 of you so he feels special. This helps my DD's mood a ton. And I am a HUGE advocate for talking to your Dr about your feelings, they will point you in the right direction(therapy, meds, etc). Good luck to you, I hope things start looking up.

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    DjcieplyDjcieply member
    My DS will be 3 in Oct. I have noticed him acting out a little more than he normally does, which has resulted in me yelling more and him getting the occasional swat on the butt more than I would like to admit.

    If I was not exhausted, crabby and uncomfortable I know my fuse would not be as short as it's been with him. I try and find more fun things for us to do and have some time during the day to put aside the things I feel I need to do and focus on him, that seems to help when he's having a particularly bad day. My DH works ALOT so I know how you feel about trying to get everything done in your own, but those things can also wait. Just take a step back, a deep breath and try and relax. The end of 3rd tri it's a stressful time no matter what, but throwing in a toddler can make the stress a lot harder to deal with.

    I agree with PP about talking to your Dr. Stress is not good for anyone and talking to your Dr may help.
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    niffanieniffanie member
    My mom was going to take him today but she 'forgot'. I told her don't worry about it. I'm just glad I could at least get some opinions. I'll talk to my dr on my next visit. I just feel like I'm bottling everything up and want to explode.
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    braybeebraybee member
    Sounds like you need a break! I think you have gotten some great advice and I agree that you should talk to both DH and a doctor. Being pregnant and having a toddler have definitely gotten the best of me, so just know that you're not alone! Hope you can find the light at the end if the tunnel. Good luck!
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    MrsKasel10MrsKasel10 member
    It sounds to me that your DH needs to be more helpful at home. I would ask him for help. Yes he is tired because he is working but you are also tired from running after a 2 yo and being pregnant. He could take your LO to the park or zoo so you could have a few hours alone. A break may really help.
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    MrsLaLaBugMrsLaLaBug member
    CarmAlarm said:

    So sorry you feel this way.  No one on this board can say for sure whether it is your hormones or not, so I would strongly urge you to seek help through your doctor.  Being in 3rd tri with or without a toddler is hard enough, so I'm sure you are wearing thin.  Stay strong and seek help asap! Good luck

    All of this! Talk to your dr and have a come to Jesus with your DH!! It's no good to try to do everything alone!
                                                                                      
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