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Metro Detroit Mamas! (breastfeeding discrimination)
Today at Lakeside mall in Body Central, I was told I couldn't use a fitting room to nurse my baby while my sisters were shopping in the store.
The store manager who I asked to unlock a room for me looked at me with disgust, closed the fitting room door and said "you can't do that here!" and then proceeded to tell me there is a bathroom down the hall.
Be sure to NIP there
The store manager who I asked to unlock a room for me looked at me with disgust, closed the fitting room door and said "you can't do that here!" and then proceeded to tell me there is a bathroom down the hall.
Be sure to NIP there
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Re: Metro Detroit Mamas! (breastfeeding discrimination)
I thought, instead of using my cover or just nursing right there, (which I obviously could have done), using a fitting room would have been the most modest and comfortable thing to do...I have done this a dozen times at other stores without an issue.
Look, I get that she sucked. And if she asked you to leave the store, then yes, that is discrimination. I just don't agree that you are entitled to a space intended for their paying customers to try on merchandise for use that is not trying on merchandise.
If she told you you could not BF in the store at all, not just in a fitting room, then yes. That is discrimination and you need to report her. If it was just that she wasn't nice about not opening the fitting room...I wish everyone was supportive of BFing and NIPing, but they are not required to be so, beyond not hasseling you when you do so.
Yeah, she apparently didn't want me breastfeeding anywhere in that store. O thought it would be less offensive ti those that take offense to mothers nursing their babies to just go into a fitting room..but no, that wasnt acceptable to her, let alone me nursing anywhere in that store. The only suitable suggestion, in her mind, was the bathroom.
Either way, in my book, even if I walked right out of the store after being denied a fitting room without saying a word, being a paying customers (my teenage sisters were shopping in the store at the time), she still sucked and was discriminatory. She just topped it off by denying me to nurse anywhere in that store.
If she didn't let you nurse in the main part of the store, that is a violation.
"IF she really did actually say".. ? Pft. Give me a break!
The story is actually even longer than I have previously stated. I was giving the general conclusion of what happened. I was basically just trying to get some NIPage there and was going to do something else, but here I am! So...here is the full story -
I took my two teenage sisters school close shopping at lakeside mall...we eventually went into body central. My kid started crying because she wanted to nurse. I figured the fitting room would be most modest and comfortable. I asked for a fitting room. She came over and started to unlock a door. I said, "can I have one with a bench because I want to nurse my baby". She obviously didn't hear the last part because she said they all have benches. I called my sister over to give me my phone off the stroller. The lady was standing there with the door opened and asked me where the clothes are and I repeated " oh, I was just wanting to nurse my baby". I was looked at with disgust and told I couldn't use a fitting room to sit and nurse my baby. After which, I sarcastically said "oh...I can't feed my baby in there so then I'll jut do it here then...?" She then said, once again, "no. You can't do that here" then told me there was a restroom down the hall
After which I said, "umm...I don't feed my baby in the bathroom". Then she smugly said "oh..umm sorry. Idk but you can't do it here"
Then I said "I'm not sure if you realize this but I actually have the right to feed my baby wherever I chose. There are laws against exactly what you just said to me" And she said, "ugh no" and walked away.Upon which we left the store and I began to look for the corporate number and found a nearby store number and spoke to a very nice store manager there and she completely agreed that this lady was out of line. After which I fed my baby at Motherhood.
I think she needs to be educated on state law, clearly, so I would be calling too.
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Situations like this always make me wonder what I would say in their shoes. I know the law is on our side but idk if I would remember it at the time and have enough brain power to make a witty comment. Now I know to grab a shirt to "try on" if I ever want to nurse in a dressing room.
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There’s a lightning in your eyes I can't deny
Then there’s me inside a sinking boat running out of time
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But yeah, note to self - bring clothing with you so you don't cause issues.
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
I can't get the ticker to work, but I have two sons:
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I feel like you went into this encounter with a chip on your shoulder and looking for a reason to be offended.
HOW OLD WAS THIS PERSON? Was she young, she probably has no clue what breastfeeding is about because she's not a mother. That store attracts usually a younger salesperson because the clothes are like clubbing clothes.
Secondly, I'm still stuck on why you'd let your sister shop in Body Central for Back to school clothes. Those clothes are not appropriate for school.
As someone who lives in the metro Detroit area, most of our malls have bathrooms with nice separate sitting areas with comfy chairs for moms to nurse. So, pointing a mom to the nearest restroom isn't "ignorant" or "offensive" (even if this particular employee was being rude).
I promise I am not a lactivist.
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Without you I'll never make it out alive
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That isn't necessarily the case for all nursing moms.
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J. 1.14.13 my reason for breathing
While I prefer to nurse in a private space a retailer does not have to offer one. They, however, can no longer refuse service or remove you from a public space.
You can read the new bill here:https://www.legislature.mi.gov/(S(0deydcj3bdjquwuxil1uemjd))/mileg.aspx?page=getobject&objectname=mcl-Act-197-of-2014&query=on
Eta sorry for that joke of a link
Is the refusal to give you a dressing room rage inducing? No. Is it disappointing? Yes. Being told to leave the store is the concerning bit. That's where I'd focus my energy.