I agree with whatever poster said to use the name anyway. I went to grade school with cousins who had the same name, and they were differentiated either by hair color, grade, or, when we were older: A$$hole Pat or Nice Pat
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Congrats! My SIL did the same thing with our boy name and claimed she never remembered me saying it (even though we had an entire convo and she swore she wouldn't tell H that I told her our boy name). Fast forward 2 weeks and they found out it was a boy and announced his name would be Elliot. Ugh.
GL choosing another name. I know we've had a tough time.
I second @jennykg3. What happened? We also have not told anyone our names yet and aren't even 100% sure anyway but I also don't want people thinking they can give input when it's our baby and our decision to make.
Ok, I tried to find the post about your bil/sil, I can't. What happened? @muskiefan07 man I'd be pissed, this is why we have never told our names.
I believe she mentioned it last week?
AFM- Yes. Lesson learned a bit late. We were team green with #1 and SIL (H's sister) asked what her name would have been had she been a boy. I told her that he would be mad if he knew I shared, but I figured she would get it and not say anything. She didn't mention liking that name or anything. Then, she gets the results of the A/S and proudly announces that Elliot is on his way. I said, "Oh, I just love that name! Caroline would've been Elliot." And she had the audacity to reply with, "Really? I didn't know that!" Uh, huh.
I think another reason we held back is we didn't want opinions. Dd is kaydence and it's not everyone's style but she's our daughter we didn't want their opinions!
Ok, I tried to find the post about your bil/sil, I can't. What happened? @muskiefan07 man I'd be pissed, this is why we have never told our names.
I was actually just thinking maybe I would do the opposite- tell eeeeeveryone our name immediately. That way, no happenstances and anything intentional would be evident. I dunno. Just a thought..
That's what I did. I have had quite a few friends pregnant at the same time with both DS2 and DS3 and even now this LO. I tell everyone the name as soon as we decide on it and inform them that if they would like to use the name just be aware I will still be using it.
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Slightly different, but our neighbors had a baby five months after us. They named her Caroline. I said, that's what we almost named Maggie (our daughter). He said, it's a good thing you didn't.
Guess what, neighbor? If we're having a girl, there will be two Carolines on the block. Honey badger don't care.
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I agree with whatever poster said to use the name anyway. I went to grade school with cousins who had the same name, and they were differentiated either by hair color, grade, or, when we were older: A$$hole Pat or Nice Pat
LOL at "Asshole Pat or Nice Pat"!
If it were me, I wouldn't want to use the name because it would forever remind me of the dickhead move BIL/SIL made. Sure, I'd get over it eventually, but that seems like a scab that would get picked over and over again. Not to mention, because the babies are born 5+ months apart, it'll still look like BIL/SIL had it first and they're being "copied." Ugh, it's so stupid and crappy to even think about- so sorry @LuckyPenny1231! But yeah, picking something different would at least allow me to move on from it easier.
This is exactly what I've always been confused about with not telling your chosen names.
If you don't tell anyone, and someone you're close to has a baby first, then technically they didn't "steal" your baby's name because they had no idea you were intending to use it. In fact, in this situation, if your baby is born after theirs, and you go ahead with the name you'd decided on even after they used it, doesn't it appear that you "stole" their baby's name despite the fact that you'd decided on that name well before their baby was born?
On the other hand, if you decide on a name and advertise it to everyone (which I realize comes with its own set of challenges as you deal with the inevitable reactions you get from every tom dick and harry that hears your chosen baby name before the baby is born), at least you've sort of got "dibs" on that name (as much as that even makes sense, at least). If your friend/cousin/asshole SIL uses the name anyway, then it's obvious that they "stole" the name from you.
I don't know. I've just never understood this. Please explain it to me.
@LuckyPenny1231 - I'm sorry your relatives used the name you'd decided on. They took douchebaggery to an entirely new level. I hope you're able to find a name you're equally in love with for your new little girl! And congratulations!
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I agree with whatever poster said to use the name anyway. I went to grade school with cousins who had the same name, and they were differentiated either by hair color, grade, or, when we were older: A$$hole Pat or Nice Pat
LOL at "Asshole Pat or Nice Pat"!
If it were me, I wouldn't want to use the name because it would forever remind me of the dickhead move BIL/SIL made. Sure, I'd get over it eventually, but that seems like a scab that would get picked over and over again. Not to mention, because the babies are born 5+ months apart, it'll still look like BIL/SIL had it first and they're being "copied." Ugh, it's so stupid and crappy to even think about- so sorry @LuckyPenny1231! But yeah, picking something different would at least allow me to move on from it easier.
This is exactly what I've always been confused about with not telling your chosen names.
If you don't tell anyone, and someone you're close to has a baby first, then technically they didn't "steal" your baby's name because they had no idea you were intending to use it. In fact, in this situation, if your baby is born after theirs, and you go ahead with the name you'd decided on even after they used it, doesn't it appear that you "stole" their baby's name despite the fact that you'd decided on that name well before their baby was born?
On the other hand, if you decide on a name and advertise it to everyone (which I realize comes with its own set of challenges as you deal with the inevitable reactions you get from every tom dick and harry that hears your chosen baby name before the baby is born), at least you've sort of got "dibs" on that name (as much as that even makes sense, at least). If your friend/cousin/asshole SIL uses the name anyway, then it's obvious that they "stole" the name from you.
I don't know. I've just never understood this. Please explain it to me.
@LuckyPenny1231 - I'm sorry your relatives used the name you'd decided on. They took douchebaggery to an entirely new level. I hope you're able to find a name you're equally in love with for your new little girl! And congratulations!
For us sil and mil had strong reactions to every name we thought about when I was like 12 weeks pregnant and that's when we decided we wouldn't discuss it with anyone because they were so freaking opinionated. Also, because it really swayed Dh and he didn't want that. We may tell with this one as we are older and don't give a sh*t what people think, it was quite annoying. I'd prefer no ones input but ours. We were team green for dd and a cousin did use our boy name and though I was sad since I was newly pregnant with ds I couldn't complain and am so happy with his name , the original boy name Owen became much too popular for us.
fwiw, Dh and I are always looking for names that are not in the top 100. Emily was a name we discussed but it is a classic popular name that shows no signs of falling off the charts. On Facebook, I must have like 7 or 8 friends named Emily. It's a great name, but hopefully you will fall in love with another. Sorry your sil and bil are such aholes .
Quick version is BIL/SIL were pregnant with a girl. We called them a few weeks ago and told them our girl name to make sure they weren't using it. They said no.
Fast forward to their baby being born and they used the name.
Congrats! I missed the previous thread, but have you tried nymbler? You can put names you like in there and it will make suggestions. Maybe try the name you were thinking of?
Ok, I tried to find the post about your bil/sil, I can't. What happened? @muskiefan07 man I'd be pissed, this is why we have never told our names.
I was actually just thinking maybe I would do the opposite- tell eeeeeveryone our name immediately. That way, no happenstances and anything intentional would be evident. I dunno. Just a thought..
That's what we did! Announced it super early on facebook and everything. With people playing guessing games on whether we'll have a boy or girl. Boy is top pick right now, and we find out Friday. But most people seem to pick boy because they like the name better. They're both rockin' names, IMO.
Re: Remember how BIL/SIL took our girl name?
I'm still amazed at how terrible they are
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It still amazes me that they used the name.
Congrats and good luck picking another name you love!
Friends of ours stole our boys name... wasn't intentional though but I'm choked up enough about it I can only imagine what you are feeling. Many hugs!
mm 2/17/11 * dd born 4/20/12 * bo 1/3/14 * edd 1/21/ 1/15
My SIL did the same thing with our boy name and claimed she never remembered me saying it (even though we had an entire convo and she swore she wouldn't tell H that I told her our boy name). Fast forward 2 weeks and they found out it was a boy and announced his name would be Elliot. Ugh.
GL choosing another name. I know we've had a tough time.
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AFM- Yes. Lesson learned a bit late. We were team green with #1 and SIL (H's sister) asked what her name would have been had she been a boy. I told her that he would be mad if he knew I shared, but I figured she would get it and not say anything. She didn't mention liking that name or anything. Then, she gets the results of the A/S and proudly announces that Elliot is on his way. I said, "Oh, I just love that name! Caroline would've been Elliot." And she had the audacity to reply with, "Really? I didn't know that!" Uh, huh.
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I'd keep the name on hand and still consider using it.
K- born 7/5/2011
G- born 6/24/2013
mm 2/17/11 * dd born 4/20/12 * bo 1/3/14 * edd 1/21/ 1/15
For us sil and mil had strong reactions to every name we thought about when I was like 12 weeks pregnant and that's when we decided we wouldn't discuss it with anyone because they were so freaking opinionated. Also, because it really swayed Dh and he didn't want that. We may tell with this one as we are older and don't give a sh*t what people think, it was quite annoying. I'd prefer no ones input but ours. We were team green for dd and a cousin did use our boy name and though I was sad since I was newly pregnant with ds I couldn't complain and am so happy with his name
K- born 7/5/2011
G- born 6/24/2013
Fast forward to their baby being born and they used the name.