Team Green?

katie0919 · August 2014

Alright ladies, saw this on the April board. Who is planning to go Team Green? Are you a FTM or veteran mama?

I found out with DS as soon as I could (14 weeks - found an elective u/s place that would take me no earlier than that). I really don't think I have the patience to wait (since I don't have to), but would really love to give it a shot at the same time. Those who have been Team Green, how you do stay patient? I also have a crazy need to plan, so I just don't know how I would wait.

admac3 · August 2014

With our first two, we found out ASAP. I was so impatient and needed to know. With our third we thought we would give Team Green a try since we already had a boy and a girl. It was surprisingly easy for me and I think it helped my nerves during the c/s because I was so excited to see what baby was. Everyone kept telling me I couldn't do it (be Team Green) so that was added motivation. Also, having DH tell me "It's a GIRL!" was pretty awesome. I think we will be Team Green this time around but we aren't sure yet.
As far as planning goes, our nursery has tan walls so I just had the boy and girl bedding and baby clothes out and ready to be put in. My mom helped with all of that while we were in the hospital. If you don't have girl clothes, I bet people will go crazy buying you some after baby comes.

evakatharina · August 2014

I so wish I had the patience (what a fun and awesome surprise it would be!), but I suspect in 10 weeks or so I will find myself at one of those elective u/s places finding out the gender at 14 weeks. I just want to know as much as I possibly can about this little thing!!

twinkletoes3126 · August 2014

I wish I had the patience, but even if I did DH wants to find out. We did an elective ultrasound with DS and found out at 15 weeks and 2 days.

LexiSophie55 · August 2014

I loved being team green. I am a planner as well - but color specifically is not an issue to me. I still planned for having a baby...a gender neutral dressed baby. And he was only dressed neutral for about 2 weeks. We were given so many hand me downs and gifts from the get go.

I want to be team green this time. My husband wants to find out. IF we find out, it will be in an envelope and probably not opened until 30 weeks. We won't tell anyone that we know. We hate naming - worst part of it all. If we find out - we can focus on one name group.

TJPam · August 2014

We were Team Green with our first. I loved not knowing. To hear them say....."it's a......" helped me through my L&D. I know a lot of moms want to plan and bond with the baby, but believe me, you bond just as much not knowing the gender. We had an envelope with the gender but never opened it. The further I was in my pregnancy, the easier it was. I thought, well I'm 25 weeks, I'm less than half way there. I can do this.

As for the nursery, our son's nursery is neutral and we added vinyl stickers later of a forest scene. If we had a girl we would of added pink and dark brown accents. For clothes, he wore his cousin's hand me down Team Green clothes. They grow so fast, so he wasn't in them for long.

Whatever you decide to do, it's exciting

PlayboyMommy · August 2014

I kinda want to be team green! The first time I needed to know. Now I think it could be fun! Our son's nursery is just bright colors, so once we move and start a new nursery, I'll just use the same color scheme and maybe make his room more 'him'--probably something sports-related since that's his thing now. I don't like things to be too gender-specific anyway, so I'm cool with it. We'll see what H says.

maybebride · August 2014

We found out at 20 weeks with DS. I probably would have been okay with not finding out, but DH was having none of Team Green. We also had DS's name picked out - at DH's insistence - by four days after finding out.

We will likely find out again this time. I toyed with Team Green because I purposely bought all gender neutral gear for DS, but if this one is a girl, the nursery is what I really would like to have time to prepare. I have some specific thoughts. Ha!

xcjump · August 2014

I wasn't team green with my first pregnancy and don't plan to be this time either. It was exciting for me finding out at the 20 week ultrasound and I liked having a name picked out, picking out cute baby girl clothes and painting the nursery,

10Nessie · August 2014

We will find out again at the a/s.

H doesn't understand why anyone would not want to find out. I told him that some people like the surprise. His answer is, "It's still a surprise at the u/s!" He doesn't get it, ha.

I thought it was really fun finding out, so I'm excited to do it again.

falfal923 · August 2014

FTM and we plan on being team green. I am the most impatient person in the world but i feel that knowing the sex will take out all the fun for me. When all that's left is the height and weight, It's really not that thrilling. It is one of the last opportunities in life to be truly surprised and I am going to seize it even if my patience gets the best of me.

MiraK03 · August 2014

I would love to be team green but I don't think my H would go for it. He's already ready to know what we're having.

wlrtimes2 · August 2014

I am all about team green! Ladies you can do it! We didn't find out with our first, but our baby ended up being stillborn. As awful and emotional as that day and delivery was...finding out that our baby was a little girl was still the most amazing moment of my life. We are hoping that this time around that moment will be filled with tears of joy instead of sadness...but nothing can replicate that moment. I know people enjoy the surprise of finding out before...but for us it is all about that moment. Team green until May!

GR8TDANEMOM · August 2014

I think if I already had a boy and a girl I could maybe do it. I need to shop for clothes and have a nursery to decorate so the pregnancy doesn't go by so slow. Gender neutral nurseries don't really float my boat.

PlayboyMommy · August 2014

Lame!! H just shot me down because he needs to 'mentally prepare.' Dude. It's a baby. It's gonna eat, sleep and sh!t like the first one. Maaaaan! *kicks dirt*

annarach · August 2014

DH wants to find out, I do not. We found out with our son but didn't tell anyone. Part of the reason I don't want to know is because it'll piss off his family and I love torturing his parents.

TJPam · August 2014

@tawnieh I am so sorry for your loss

I can't even imagine. FX for you with this pregnancy. Glad to hear you'll be Team Green again.

ChristinaC2012 · August 2014

I don't plan to be team green, but i certainly envy the patience of those of you that will wait to find out!

kayteebayb · August 2014

@katie0919 I'm with you. I did the elective ultrasound as soon as I could with my 1st. And then confirmed it at our 20w appt. I could barely stand to wait for the elective! I can barely stand to wait right now!

sabriel1 · August 2014

We paid for an elective ultrasound with both DD and DS. Now that we are having a third and already have one child of each sex we are going Team Green this time since we already have the clothes for both sexes. I'm way too Type A to have done that before I had both a boy and a girl

vballgirl78 · August 2014

Nope... we will find out as soon as we can. We are both very impatient. We found out with DD too.

lisa3044 · August 2014

We were team green and will most likely do the same this time. It made L & D much more exciting.

centralperk · August 2014

I wanted to be team green but mh wanted to find out so we did. This time we are team green. I'm not a huge fan of pink so even if we do have a girl I'm going to be her in more typically boyish colors.

RhythmeKrow · September 2014

We were team green last pregnancy, and that's the plan this time around too!

Nita2603 · September 2014

We found both times and want to do it differently this time. With a third baby, there won't be many 'I have never...' And this will be unique to this pregnancy.

And then, for me personally, it's also a bit about disappointment. I know I will be fine and full of love once they put this baby into my arms, regardless of what it is.
However, if it's not what I would prefer and I find out, I'll have to come to terms - and I don't want to. I just want to be excited. It's my last baby. I want to fart rainbows for the next 9 months. Team green will make that happen.

And now watch me cave during the a/s. Ha.

23Tez23 · September 2014

coffeeismylyfe said:
With DS I wanted to be team green and DH wanted to find out. We agreed that we would do it his way the first time and my way the next time; so team green for us!

Is your husband happy to do it your way this time? Or is he grudgingly accepting?

missz326 · September 2014

With my first two i was SO inpatient to know especially with my first (boy) the day couldnt come any quicker.....and then with my daughter i just NEEDED a girl so again I was beyond inpatient to know. Butttt as a third time mommy now I figured lets mix it up a lil this time!!!! I am not stressed nor anxious like i was with the other two i reallllllllllly want to soak up this surprise up/the entire pregnancy because its probably my last!!!! I am SUCH a planner and as far as nursery/ baby shower i am lovingggggg the pure sinplicity of white. I think team green is easiest when your in my boat and i completly understand the anxiety of NOT knowing

sunnyday016 · September 2014

We found out with our first two and are planning to be Team Green this time around. This baby is most likely our last so we wanted to have that delivery room surprise experience. We already have a boy and a girl so we don't need to shop for clothes either way.

Pink724 · September 2014

I'm too impatient! It seems like my thought process is similar to others': if we have a boy this time and decide to go for a third, I'll be Team Green then as we'd already have one of each.

MallyJM128 · September 2014

DH really wanted to find out with our first so we did and I definitely don't regret it! This time around I really want to try and be team green. Of course it's easy to say that now..we will see how I feel in 10 weeks

annerz22 · September 2014

We found out with DS but are toying with the idea of team green this time around. I know DH isn't completely for it but we shall see...

@annarach‌ hiiii!! Together on the May board again

marijaa333 · September 2014

I really couldn't care less as long as the blastocyst behaves and pops out healthy.

So, I'm willing to try Team Green but will need to discuss with huz. If he wants to know, I'm cool with that too.

kaiarahi · October 2014

Team Green here too, for now anyway. The only reason we would find out is for Mr 6, to help him bond (or get used to the idea of a sister lol)

CTri17 · October 2014

I was team green with both girls- It wasn't that difficult because we only had 1 u/s each

this time we will be finding out though

happyfarmwife10 · October 2014

Team green here! No advice on how to wait because we found out with my daughter at 18 weeks. We know a lot of people who do it that way and say how great it is so we decided I try it.

queenhoneybee · October 2014

We were team green with DS. It was wonderful hearing DH tell me we had a son. I'd like to say we'll be team green this time as well, but we'll see.

Plum23 · October 2014

FTM and Team Green for sure. This is one of those true surprises in life and I want to experience the "It's a ..." in the delivery room with DH.

JLJWMM · October 2014

@tawnieh, I am so sorry for your loss. I will say prayers for a smooth pregnancy and healthy baby for you in May!

We were Team Green for both of my pregnancies. There were definitely times that I wanted to know but it was also a lot of fun not knowing / guessing. It made the delivery really exciting - even the L&D nurses were betting on the gender! We got a ton of neutral jammies / sleepers and blankets at my shower. As for the nursery, we bought our furniture and bought a few pair of neutral sheets but had both Girl and Boy bedding picked out. As soon as the baby arrived (we have two girls) we ordered the bedding and room accessories. And within a week we had plenty of pink outfits between gift from family and friends and online shopping by us! We are not planning on finding out the sex this time either!

Morenajuliet · October 2014

I'm not super into planning but after finding out with DD I will find out with this baby (which I think will also be a girl) as soon as possible. It's nice to be able to do all the shopping ahead of time. I dislike gender neutral items……if blue ends up being my daughters favorite color that's great but while I'm dressing her it's lots of pink and frills. We will be finding out the gender.

morrisondwm · October 2014

We're expecting #2 and we were Team Green for #1. I can not explain how special it was for me when my husband leaned over and told me, "It's Gracie. Gracie's here!"
It's the only thing he got to know/do before me with the whole pregnancy/birth and I'm so glad that I was able to be patient and give him (us!) that special moment.

claudizzleriffic · October 2014

My DH and I were *just* arguing about this tonight, and though I know it's quite a few weeks away, it is starting to be a bigger deal for me now.

I want to be Team Green because I think the surprise would be amazing and because I think it would be a really cool experience to share with DH on delivery day (as some of you have already expressed).

However, DH is pretty set in finding out for many of the reasons that have been noted as well: the "it's still a surprise" perspective, feeling more of a "bond" to the baby, and mental preparation.

I guess to me, it's like having a Christmas gift that I'm excited to give/share with him on Christmas Day, but he opens up the packaging a few months early and sneaks a peek. I feel like it takes the fun out of opening it up on the day and being able to see his face light up with the true surprise.

Not sure if that's the best analogy, but you get the idea !
And I know these feelings/opinion he has are ones I should respect...I just can't help but feel disappointed that it probably won't be the surprise that I was envisioning.

Any others out there who are in my situation or who have been? I mean, if you switched over from being Team Green or Finding Out Early solely because of what your partner wanted, how did that happen and what was the result? (Ie. Were you happy for it in the end? Was there resentment/regret?)

Thanks !

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