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April 2015 Moms
Is a 6 week maternity leave fair?
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Re: Is a 6 week maternity leave fair?
natural m/c and d&c at 10 weeks - 1/24/2014
DX w/ hetero C677t and A1298C MTHFR - 3/4/2014
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This board doesn't revolve around you and your questions, OP. Like others have suggested, maybe do some lurking for a bit to see how things work around here.
A) I did do research and I can ask a question.
I'm not saying it revolves around me or my questions. You don't have to like it or approve of it.
You writing this comment has absolutely no support.
It was not meant to be supportive. At all. So there's that.
So why are you even on this board?
I asked three questions today. Oh darn I used my question asking limit today.
^ What she said.
I'll try to be more like you women. I don't see how I have not been polite or disrespectful to anyone. You guys win. I thanked the ones that actually have a supportive answer and I know who to support from now on. I'm not gonna entertain foolishness. I asked a question I was concerned about and I'm trying to support others, but apparently I'm not doing a good job at it. I've never experienced pregnancy and this is not something I had in my five year plan, it's all new to me and I see having curiosity is not approved here. Other than articles and thousands for baby websites, I wanted to hear answers from real women.
Calling people rude, disrespectful and heartless and calling their parenting into questioning isn't being rude? What if I said (I AM NOT ACTUALLY SAYING THIS, IT IS AN EXAMPLE) "Oh, well, with the way you've responded to these threads, and the threads that you've posted, it'll be sooo delightful to see what your kids learn."? You wouldn't be insulted at all? Really? Because you've shown a pretty thin skin and I'm fairly certain that you would get insulted and huffy, and then you'd probably start name-calling, something the women who aren't trying to be your white knight have avoided admirably. And being curious is fine, responding with insults, getting huffy, and being self-absorbed is not.
Oh, and by the way, I'm responding to the polite part, since you said "you can't see how you've not been disrespectful". I'd say that I'm pleased that you've seen how disrespectful you've been, but the polite comment kind of cancels that out.
One mom called me special, another called me ignorant. I feel that is rude, I know I am wrong for what I said, but I am not the only one here saying hurtful things. I'm not going to keep going back and forth with people trying to explain myself. No marijuana was not the first thought, I've known about my pregnancy since my first appointment on aug 13th. This is a topic I didn't see and felt I'd ask. I'm not informed because before I knew I was pregnant, being pregnant would never cross my mind. All I can do is learn as I go. Goodnight and I wish you well.
@justyhaunani a pregnancy book might be a good option for all the general type questions you have. It's pretty cliche but What to Expect When You're Expecting is a great read for FTM's. There are a lot of great books out there, or you could start a thread asking for recommendations on good books. Just trying to help you not get flamed so much, it's gonna be a long pregnancy if you stick around this board with the way things started.
Oh, and by the way, I'm responding to the polite part, since you said "you can't see how you've not been disrespectful". I'd say that I'm pleased that you've seen how disrespectful you've been, but the polite comment kind of cancels that out.
One mom called me special, another called me ignorant. I feel that is rude, I know I am wrong for what I said, but I am not the only one here saying hurtful things. I'm not going to keep going back and forth with people trying to explain myself. No marijuana was not the first thought, I've known about my pregnancy since my first appointment on aug 13th. This is a topic I didn't see and felt I'd ask. I'm not informed because before I knew I was pregnant, being pregnant would never cross my mind. All I can do is learn as I go. Goodnight and I wish you well.
They didn't call you names, though, they just made observations about your behavior. Furthermore, they didn't start getting insulting until after you did. I didn't say that marijuana was your first thought, I was referring to it as the first thread where things really started going downhill for you. I am sorry that I was not clear about that. Please, stop hiding behind your ignorance. You clearly have the internet at your fingertips, or else you couldn't be here. Use it to educate yourself and do your own work, instead of asking a question and expecting everyone else to do it for you. We here have tried to help you learn, about as politely as anyone who isn't being paid to educate you would, and you got huffy, so clearly you're not "learning as you go", or else you would have taken our suggestions to heart. Instead, you've done the exact opposite of what everyone's advised. Please stop being a SS and either adjust to the tone of this board, or find one where you'd be more comfortable.
I did do research, I'm just asking for advice from other mothers to be. I like hearing from actual women not webpages and articles about how they feel and their experience. From now on I know not to ask anything because I will be looked at as ignorant. I'm not expecting anyone to do anything for me. I'm taking in what some say because I can see what's genuine. I'm here because I want to have a happy and healthy baby. Who ever supports that I support and if I see a question that may be silly or stupid in my eyes I'm either going to answer with a comment on the actual topic of the thread or I'll pass it up.
I did do research, I'm just asking for advice from other mothers to be. I like hearing from actual women not webpages and articles about how they feel and their experience. From now on I know not to ask anything because I will be looked at as ignorant. I'm not expecting anyone to do anything for me. I'm taking in what some say because I can see what's genuine. I'm here because I want to have a happy and healthy baby. Who ever supports that I support and if I see a question that may be silly or stupid in my eyes I'm either going to answer with a comment on the actual topic of the thread or I'll pass it up.
I will say again what I've said before. That isn't the way this board works. We respond well to sincere and sensible questions that don't have easily accessible answers, and threads that aren't just shit stirring. We aren't happy unicorns that shit rainbows and glitter and exist only to pet everyone else's hair and make them feel like the most special, precious little people in existence. We answer honestly and bluntly and we don't take kindly to people who are rude or can't get over themselves. We especially don't like people who try to dictate how we act because they don't like the responses they got. If you do not like the way that we act, find somewhere that fits you better. Again, I've heard Baby Center is a good place for hand holding, back patting, and babying. Maybe you would be happier there.
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They didn't call you names, though, they just made observations about your behavior. Furthermore, they didn't start getting insulting until after you did. I didn't say that marijuana was your first thought, I was referring to it as the first thread where things really started going downhill for you. I am sorry that I was not clear about that. Please, stop hiding behind your ignorance. You clearly have the internet at your fingertips, or else you couldn't be here. Use it to educate yourself and do your own work, instead of asking a question and expecting everyone else to do it for you. We here have tried to help you learn, about as politely as anyone who isn't being paid to educate you would, and you got huffy, so clearly you're not "learning as you go", or else you would have taken our suggestions to heart. Instead, you've done the exact opposite of what everyone's advised. Please stop being a SS and either adjust to the tone of this board, or find one where you'd be more comfortable.
I did do research, I'm just asking for advice from other mothers to be. I like hearing from actual women not webpages and articles about how they feel and their experience. From now on I know not to ask anything because I will be looked at as ignorant. I'm not expecting anyone to do anything for me. I'm taking in what some say because I can see what's genuine. I'm here because I want to have a happy and healthy baby. Who ever supports that I support and if I see a question that may be silly or stupid in my eyes I'm either going to answer with a comment on the actual topic of the thread or I'll pass it up.
I will say again what I've said before. That isn't the way this board works. We respond well to sincere and sensible questions that don't have easily accessible answers, and threads that aren't just shit stirring. We aren't happy unicorns that shit rainbows and glitter and exist only to pet everyone else's hair and make them feel like the most special, precious little people in existence. We answer honestly and bluntly and we don't take kindly to people who are rude or can't get over themselves. We especially don't like people who try to dictate how we act because they don't like the responses they got. If you do not like the way that we act, find somewhere that fits you better. Again, I've heard Baby Center is a good place for hand holding, back patting, and babying. Maybe you would be happier there.
Edited to make scrolling past quotes less tedious.
They didn't call you names, though, they just made observations about your behavior. Furthermore, they didn't start getting insulting until after you did. I didn't say that marijuana was your first thought, I was referring to it as the first thread where things really started going downhill for you. I am sorry that I was not clear about that. Please, stop hiding behind your ignorance. You clearly have the internet at your fingertips, or else you couldn't be here. Use it to educate yourself and do your own work, instead of asking a question and expecting everyone else to do it for you. We here have tried to help you learn, about as politely as anyone who isn't being paid to educate you would, and you got huffy, so clearly you're not "learning as you go", or else you would have taken our suggestions to heart. Instead, you've done the exact opposite of what everyone's advised. Please stop being a SS and either adjust to the tone of this board, or find one where you'd be more comfortable.
I did do research, I'm just asking for advice from other mothers to be. I like hearing from actual women not webpages and articles about how they feel and their experience. From now on I know not to ask anything because I will be looked at as ignorant. I'm not expecting anyone to do anything for me. I'm taking in what some say because I can see what's genuine. I'm here because I want to have a happy and healthy baby. Who ever supports that I support and if I see a question that may be silly or stupid in my eyes I'm either going to answer with a comment on the actual topic of the thread or I'll pass it up.
I will say again what I've said before. That isn't the way this board works. We respond well to sincere and sensible questions that don't have easily accessible answers, and threads that aren't just shit stirring. We aren't happy unicorns that shit rainbows and glitter and exist only to pet everyone else's hair and make them feel like the most special, precious little people in existence. We answer honestly and bluntly and we don't take kindly to people who are rude or can't get over themselves. We especially don't like people who try to dictate how we act because they don't like the responses they got. If you do not like the way that we act, find somewhere that fits you better.
Again, I've heard Baby Center is a good place for hand holding, back patting, and babying. Maybe you would be happier there.
Edited to make scrolling past quotes less tedious.
Goodnight.
@klt2015 my DH thinks that too lol. He thinks the comments are funny and snarky.
I'd just like to point out that I found this all out by google. As some advice for your future questions, google them first and if you're still unsure about things then ask. But if you keep asking here before researching it, people will continue to not take you seriously. Good luck!
Also, let's try to remember to trim the quote trees next time please!
M/C 7/8/12
Perfect baby boy born 7/8/13
BFP 8/20/14 EDD 4/27/15 It's a GIRL!!
Oh and my DH also thinks we are all nut balls lol
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This group is for questions, support and advice. Any of such. Not what others deem worth their time. Ignore the rude comments and go about your post. Women don't need added stress during pregnancy.
As for paid leave, that sounds amazing. As everyone else has said, it's normally not paid at all. You lucked out! Congrats.