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Shitty Sunday

RNCrystalRNCrystal member
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Well took hpt at 11dpiui ( I know I know! Stupid!) with BFN! Now i feel horrible as this is my last attempt and iui. I know I'm not out yet but not feeling hopeful- not to mention hubby and I have been arguing. He doesn't understand how much stress all this causes me. I try not to overload him with IF stuff as not to stress him out but I guess that makes it worse for me. With no one ( other then you lovely ladies) knowing what we are going through it makes it very difficult. I'm actually looking forward to the distraction of work today.
Down day today :(
Married July 2 2011
Not trying Not preventing since 2011
Me: Ovulate on my own (but poorly) DH: Low count and poor motility
Oct 2013 Uterine polyp removed
Feb 2014 First round Ferama, trigger and IUI...BFN
March 2014 Second round Ferama, trigger and iui
Waiting....
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  • HollowvicHollowvic member
    I'm sorry your having a rough day, and for the BFN!!! I can also relate to the H stuff, we fought at first, but he has come around, it took a long time but he eventually did. Feel better.


    TTC #1

    Me: AMA, DH: MFI

    Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis

    IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13 

    3DT of 3 embies - no frosties - CP = BFFN!!!!

    ****All Welcome****

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  • gsanchogsancho member
    I"m sorry about the BFN.  Even though my DH is wonderful at trying to understand how I'm feeling, guys still won't 100% understand.  At one point I also learned that when DH would get frustrated himself, he din't know how to handle it, and we'd end up bickering.  


    Me 33, DH 37 -- TTC since Jan'12 -- Low AMH (0.78) & endo, SA w/ low motility
    IUI's 1-3 = BFN, IVF converted to IUI 4/13 = BFN
    IVF 1.2: 8R 6M 4F -- 2 blastocysts frozen, FET 8/15 = BFP!!
    Beta #s = 445;1,098; 9,545  -- EDD 5/2 -- Team Pink!
    Camila Josephine arrived 4/30 :)
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  • ky29ky29 member
    So sorry for the rough morning.  :(   My DH & I would bicker a lot too.  I learned that he didn't want to talk about it a lot, which was fine.  I just had to save our 3T talks for the important ones.  He also had some strong opinions, which took some compromising.  As time went on, we got into a good routine & it's helped.

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    TTC since March 2012
    DX: MFI (4% motility)
    Cycle 13: Natural cycle w/ HSG test = BFP
    Identical twins! 
    Lost my angel boys at 10.5 weeks
    Cycle 14-16: Natural Cycles = BFN
    Cycle 17: Follistim + Trigger + IUI = BFN
    Cycle 18: Natural Cycle = BFN
    Cycle 19: Follistim + Trigger +IUI#2
    Polyp found: SIS 11/11 - hysteroscopy 11/14
    Cycle 20: Follistim + IUI#2 = BFFN
    Cycle 21: Follistim (adj. dosage) + IUI#3 TI  = BFN
    IUI cancelled due to weather
    Cycle 22: Follistim + IUI#3.1 = BFN
    Cycle 23: treatment break, IVF consult
    Cycle 24 - 26: natural cycle w/ acupuncture + Chinese herbs = BFN
    Cycle 27: Follistim + IUI#4 = BFFN
    Natural Cycles until IVF
    Cycle 30: IVF#1 - Starting with Menopur + Follistim + Ganirelix
    17 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 5dt w/ 2 blasts, 5 frosties
    Betas:  #1-156(9dp5dt), #2-1200(13dp5) #3-6112(17dp5)
    Ultrasound #1 10/6: 1 bean!
    TEAM BLUE!
    My Chart
    ~~ALL WELCOME~~

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  • HollowvicHollowvic member
    I'm trying to get my H to stop drinking for a few months, or at least cut back. Turned into a fight this morning and now he's not speaking to me. I feel your pain, but it's good to know I'm not the only one.


    TTC #1

    Me: AMA, DH: MFI

    Official DX - MFI due to Hemochromatosis

    IVF #1 Nov. 2014 - ER 11/10 (10R 6M 6F) - ET 11/13 

    3DT of 3 embies - no frosties - CP = BFFN!!!!

    ****All Welcome****

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  • shirleymaebyshirleymaeby member
    I'm so sorry about the BFN.  MH took a while to come around too.  He didn't really realize how hard it's been on me until he was using my laptop one day and saw "Infertility Support Groups" in my internet search history.  We sat down and finally talked about how heartbroken I was about the whole thing.  Even after we went in to see the RE and started making plans for IUI he wasn't convinced that we needed to do it...it's a lot of money to spend when they can't find anything wrong with us so we should just keep trying right?

    My advice is that you should sit him down and try to be as honest as you can about how stressed out you are about everything.  I was super freaked out that DH's drinking and coffee intake were affecting our infertility too and I got him to cut back on both by pouring my heart out about the heartache I was going through.

    GL!

    -----------------------------------SIGGY WARNING-------------------------------------


    Me: 31| DH: 36
    TTC #1 Since 07/2010
    DX: Unexplained Infertility
    TX: 
    IUI #1 on 7/3/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (44 million sperm, 1 dominant follie) = BFN
    IUI #2: on 7/28/14 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (23 million sperm, 2 dominant follies) = BFN

    IUI #3 on 8/22/2014 100 mg Clomid + Ovidrel + IUI (53 million sperm, 2 dominant follies)= BFP MMC @ 7weeks


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  • jennym25jennym25 member
    I too poas this morning, 9dpiui (I know, way too early but I was having all these crazy symptoms and we'll I was pretty much going crazy) and it was a BFN! I was a tough morning but then my day got better when I went to a family gathering and my hubby was great about distracting me. He doesn't always understand and after last month BFN he just wasn't talking to me, for no reason just not talking to me, but I think it's his way of coping. I just let him be and when he was ready to talk he came to me. Crossing my fingers for good results in a few days! Good luck.

    Me (29), DH (38)

    Oct 2009   - Married
    Aug 2011   - Started TTC
    Jan 2012   - OB Referred to RE
    Feb 2012   - RE Visit #1
    Apr 2012   - HSG (Normal), PCOS - DH SA (low count and low motility)  
    June 2012   - Provera, Clomid, TI - BFN
    July 2012   - IUI #1, Provera, Clomid 50mg, Trigger Injection - BFN
    Aug 12 - Feb 14 - Break
    Feb 2014   - New OB referred to new RE
    Mar 2014   - New RE visit #1
    Apr 2014    - TSH  level elevated, need to retest.
    May 2014   - TSH retested, higher than 1st test. Start on Synthroid. DH SA (Normal)
    June 2014   - Start on DHEA, CO-Q10, New brand of Prenatals
    July 2014   - Cycle came on its own, b/w on CD2, TSH (normal), Femara CD3-CD7, CD14 - u/s + Ovidrel + baby aspirin regimen. IUI #1 B2B on CD15/16 - BFN

    August 2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s CD12, Ovidrel on CD13. IUI #2 B2B on CD 14/CD15 - BFN.

    September  2014 - u/s on CD3 normal, Femara CD3-CD7, u/s scheduled for CD12

    *** September 3T Siggy Challenge: Favorite Fall Shows ***

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  • BunnyBerryBunnyBerry member
    Wow, you know IF sucks when work is a welcome break. :(

    Sorry about your (stressful and ambiguous) BFN. I hope you get good news soon!

    @rainbowbridge14 Thanks for the book recommendation. It sounded vaguely familiar but if I heard of it before I forgot - ordering it today! :)
    January 3T Siggy Challenge - New Year's Resolutions
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    Me (29), DH (30) TTC actively 54 55+ cycles | All BFNs
    MFI (low everything) | Endo Stage 1 & Stenotic Cervix (treated) | PCO
    Married - July 2008 | Started TTC - Jan 2009 | RE Visit #1 - Mar 2014 
    IUI #1 ICI #1 - June | IUI #1.1 Laparoscopy - Aug
    IUIs #1.2, 2, 3 - Sept, Oct, Nov (Letrozole) - BFNs 
    IUI #4 - Dec (Bravelle) | IUI #5 - Dec/Jan (Bravelle) - 5 follies + TI - BFNs
    IUI #5.1 - Jan (Bravelle) Cancelled 
    Planning to start IVF in March!
    ***All Welcome***
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  • RNCrystalRNCrystal member
    Thanks everyone for the support ! You have no idea how much it means! Actually I got canceled from work and want to bday party. Talked to hubby and feel a little better ( a drink or so later) I really appreciate all the support !
    Married July 2 2011
    Not trying Not preventing since 2011
    Me: Ovulate on my own (but poorly) DH: Low count and poor motility
    Oct 2013 Uterine polyp removed
    Feb 2014 First round Ferama, trigger and IUI...BFN
    March 2014 Second round Ferama, trigger and iui
    Waiting....
    Trying to Conceive Ticker
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