Shitty Sunday

RNCrystal

Well took hpt at 11dpiui ( I know I know! Stupid!) with BFN! Now i feel horrible as this is my last attempt and iui. I know I'm not out yet but not feeling hopeful- not to mention hubby and I have been arguing. He doesn't understand how much stress all this causes me. I try not to overload him with IF stuff as not to stress him out but I guess that makes it worse for me. With no one ( other then you lovely ladies) knowing what we are going through it makes it very difficult. I'm actually looking forward to the distraction of work today.
Down day today

Hollowvic

I'm sorry your having a rough day, and for the BFN!!! I can also relate to the H stuff, we fought at first, but he has come around, it took a long time but he eventually did. Feel better.

gsancho

I"m sorry about the BFN.  Even though my DH is wonderful at trying to understand how I'm feeling, guys still won't 100% understand.  At one point I also learned that when DH would get frustrated himself, he din't know how to handle it, and we'd end up bickering.  

ky29

So sorry for the rough morning.     My DH & I would bicker a lot too.  I learned that he didn't want to talk about it a lot, which was fine.  I just had to save our 3T talks for the important ones.  He also had some strong opinions, which took some compromising.  As time went on, we got into a good routine & it's helped.

Hollowvic

I'm trying to get my H to stop drinking for a few months, or at least cut back. Turned into a fight this morning and now he's not speaking to me. I feel your pain, but it's good to know I'm not the only one.

shirleymaeby

I'm so sorry about the BFN.  MH took a while to come around too.  He didn't really realize how hard it's been on me until he was using my laptop one day and saw "Infertility Support Groups" in my internet search history.  We sat down and finally talked about how heartbroken I was about the whole thing.  Even after we went in to see the RE and started making plans for IUI he wasn't convinced that we needed to do it...it's a lot of money to spend when they can't find anything wrong with us so we should just keep trying right?

My advice is that you should sit him down and try to be as honest as you can about how stressed out you are about everything.  I was super freaked out that DH's drinking and coffee intake were affecting our infertility too and I got him to cut back on both by pouring my heart out about the heartache I was going through.

GL!

jennym25

I too poas this morning, 9dpiui (I know, way too early but I was having all these crazy symptoms and we'll I was pretty much going crazy) and it was a BFN! I was a tough morning but then my day got better when I went to a family gathering and my hubby was great about distracting me. He doesn't always understand and after last month BFN he just wasn't talking to me, for no reason just not talking to me, but I think it's his way of coping. I just let him be and when he was ready to talk he came to me. Crossing my fingers for good results in a few days! Good luck.

BunnyBerry

Wow, you know IF sucks when work is a welcome break.

Sorry about your (stressful and ambiguous) BFN. I hope you get good news soon!

@rainbowbridge14 Thanks for the book recommendation. It sounded vaguely familiar but if I heard of it before I forgot - ordering it today!

RNCrystal

Thanks everyone for the support ! You have no idea how much it means! Actually I got canceled from work and want to bday party. Talked to hubby and feel a little better ( a drink or so later) I really appreciate all the support !