Hey all,
I know this isn't a baby shower, but I know you all will have some ideas on what's appropriate for me to bring to this party. It's a one year old's birthday party, and I babysit him. The mom/host requested no presents, but I obviously need to bring something. She's serving lunch and offering other refreshments etc. Is a hostess gift appropriate? I was planning on a card for the birthday boy, just as a sentiment.. maybe they'll keep them as keepsakes too.
Basically: what would you bring?
Re: "requesting no presents" @ 1 year old birthday party
Tanget: I hope you really want to go, because she is a bit on shaky ground asking an employee who's paid to watch her son to come to his bday party.
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ALL of this is on the guest, though. ALL of it. The host has stated their expectations. It really is as simple as that. ALL this other angst is guest driven. 100% guest driven.
The ONE exception is if the host says "no gifts" then proceeds to still do a gift opening. Then, yes, the host is making is confusing. If they say "no gifts" then if guests show up with gifts, they should be put off to the side to be open at another time.
The way I look at it is if the parents truly don't want the gifts they can donate them....either way the gift is going to make some child happy.