FFFC

Prpljade · August 2014

I have a friend who used to work with me. Since she has left to work elsewhere and texts or calls to ask how things are here now that he's gone I want to tell her she was useless here. She made more of a clusterfuck of things than anyone I've seen and it's been so peaceful and organized since she left, like what the eff was her four year degree in? Crazy?
I kind of feel badly for we new co-workers, but at the same time laugh because she was hired for a job I had interviewed for and was never called back, then 8 months later she interviews and gets the job on the spot. Makes me think they hire whackadoos and I'm glad I still have my sane easy going job.

jmhansen11 · August 2014

I think it's super selfish to whine/complain about having to be sensitive/careful around your IF friends and family. Just sounds selfish to say "she's ruining my excitement with her pain!" IF is seriously the worst thing I've ever been through in my life. Ladies who get pg easily don't have a clue, and literally have tons of other people to share their excitement with (spouse, parents, friends, colleagues, etc). It's like whining that your friend who just lost a leg doesn't want to hear about your recent marathon win... Find someone else to celebrate with! This isn't directed at any one person (though it did come up today) but I've seen it mentioned a few times on these boards, and today I suppose I felt the need to give my own confession/opinion on it.

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

somerandomchick said:

Oh here's a good one from me: I judge the shite out of non-vaxers. It's the only parenting decision I let myself be judgey on. It's also the only one that directly affects my kid....go figure.
As you should. I judge the shit out if anyone willingly putting their kids and mine at risk. Choosing not to vaccinate your children (CHOOSING, not being unable to because of allergies or whatever) is about equivalent to driving around with your baby in your lap in my book

My brother is a huge anti-vaxer. He posts stuff all up and down facebook. I don't really engage him because it just doesn't make sense. He's obviously choosing to what to believe and not believe. He posted an article the other day and said "If you want to keep sacrificing your children, keep vaccinating." So hard not to say anything. Ugh. He's also got a baby who will be a year in November. He remarried and they stopped vaccinating the older children. Sending them to school with signed waivers. Crazy cakes.

BabiesEverywhere · August 2014

somerandomchick said:

kread8 said:
Oh here's a good one from me: I judge the shite out of non-vaxers. It's the only parenting decision I let myself be judgey on. It's also the only one that directly affects my kid....go figure.
As you should. I judge the shit out if anyone willingly putting their kids and mine at risk. Choosing not to vaccinate your children (CHOOSING, not being unable to because of allergies or whatever) is about equivalent to driving around with your baby in your lap in my book

I appreciate you recognizing that some kids have legitimate allergic reactions to some vaccines! This runs throughout our extended family so the kids are usually on an alternative schedule or will skip the problem-causing ones. Not everyone who falls into the non-vax category does so because they think it causes autism! But I feel like we are often lumped into that category without a second thought. And that is incredibly frustrating.

kread8 · August 2014

BabiesEverywhere said:

Oh here's a good one from me: I judge the shite out of non-vaxers. It's the only parenting decision I let myself be judgey on. It's also the only one that directly affects my kid....go figure.
As you should. I judge the shit out if anyone willingly putting their kids and mine at risk. Choosing not to vaccinate your children (CHOOSING, not being unable to because of allergies or whatever) is about equivalent to driving around with your baby in your lap in my book
I appreciate you recognizing that some kids have legitimate allergic reactions to some vaccines! This runs throughout our extended family so the kids are usually on an alternative schedule or will skip the problem-causing ones. Not everyone who falls into the non-vax category does so because they think it causes autism! But I feel like we are often lumped into that category without a second thought. And that is incredibly frustrating.

FTR, I meant that in my original post too - that I don't include people who are unable to vax their kids into the non-vaxing category that I judge. That's even more reason that people who CAN vax their kids SHOULD! So babies that are too young or who can't due to allergies can have the benefit of herd immunity.

drmrsmantis · August 2014

@redneckmomma25‌ I love the new picture!

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

He moved across country a couple years ago. So I don't really have to worry. He's in OK and I'm in NY.

BRNCLES · August 2014

@jmhansen11‌ although you're not directing your comment at me, as someone who posted earlier about what you're confessing I want to play devils advocate:

There are very very few women who get pregnant easily- even if it happens the first time you try, the first trimester is chock full of risk. Many women, including myself, are either suffering from fertility issues or have suffered a loss (and sometimes, both). In my case, I have stood by my sister as the sole support system (she did not reveal her issues to anyone but myself or her husband for three years); I've experienced the ups and downs right beside her, not physically going through the same thing but making myself emotionally available to her which at times was extremely draining. I had the option to not get involved but felt it was inappropriate to abandon her through such a tough time.

That being said, I could never, ever imagine forming "rules" about pregnancy against her had she gotten pregnant before me, after my miscarriage, the way she did to me with my first pregnancy.

There are certain behaviors that are expected and understandable from women struggling with fertility and a loss, like avoiding baby showers or hiding Facebook posts with newborn photos. However, I think it's ridiculous to have to shelter these women (myself included!) from a friend or family members' fantastic news of pregnancy because of their specific situation or accept irrational behavior because of what they're going through. I'm not saying having a pregnancy should become frequent conversation, and it naturally should be shared in a tasteful manner, but to not acknowledge the news is harsh and just as hurtful to the pregnant woman as the news of pregnancy is to the struggling woman.

After all, when IVF (or another method) does end up being successful, of course the woman will be thrilled and happy to share the news- so why can't this be the same for any other woman? Maybe this is too idealistic, but I feel that no woman should ever be made to feel guilty about getting pregnant or ashamed of being happy for herself... At the end of the day, celebration doesn't mean we don't value our relationships with each other or understand what the other is going through.

BRNCLES · August 2014

@mbm1983 sadly, no. The first round she was implanted with three quickly after extraction- only one was left after that/considered viable and frozen for future use. Somehow there was a lapse in communication between her and the doctor, and my sister thought "fresh" eggs had a better shot than frozen- but it turns out the reverse it really true (35% versus 70% success rates.) my sister is crushed because had she understood that properly she wouldn't have implanted herself with three off the bat and would have frozen more. But one is better than none !

Many women we know have all had success with IVF and I absolutely believe her time will come, I'm just hoping September is the lucky month! Of course it would be a relief for me, but I would LOVE to raise our children together being only months apart. Here's to hoping!! I just wish the whole thing wasn't so darn expensive- honestly that's what they're struggling with most at this point. I don't know how you ladies with fertility issues do it.

Suesse2009 · August 2014

I think some people take Internet forums way too seriously.

ejeh4 · August 2014

My daughter is awake from her nap. I can hear her happily singing and playing in her room. My FFFC is that I'm letting her hang out in there for a little while longer. She only napped for an hour (normally it's 2), and I did homework for most it. I'm finally sitting down and I need a minute!

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

ejeh4 said:

My daughter is awake from her nap. I can hear her happily singing and playing in her room. My FFFC is that I'm letting her hang out in there for a little while longer. She only napped for an hour (normally it's 2), and I did homework for most it. I'm finally sitting down and I need a minute!

I never get my kid up when she wakes. I've let her hang out for a half our or more. She's happy. Why not.

BabiesEverywhere · August 2014

ejeh4 said:
My daughter is awake from her nap. I can hear her happily singing and playing in her room. My FFFC is that I'm letting her hang out in there for a little while longer. She only napped for an hour (normally it's 2), and I did homework for most it. I'm finally sitting down and I need a minute!

I do this every time she wakes up but is still happy! Some good, independent play time is healthy for her

be888 · August 2014

I really want to have a baby girl before my friend does because we love the same name. It was the name we had picked for my son if he would have been a girl. She had a son 8 months later, and the name was her pick for a girl since they were team green. I'm pretty sure it will piss her off really bad if we have a girl , and use the name.

BabiesEverywhere · August 2014

I sometimes get @snegde‌ & @LRL131‌ confused because their avatars are so similar. I usually have to do a double-take of the name after I read your comments to make sure I'm associating the right things with the right people.

redheaded14 · August 2014

I think that when people forget ti change their fruit tickets after birth, the fruit sizes should continue to grow. Maybe there isn't big enough fruit?

Oh, you're 693 days pregnant? Your baby is the size of a state fair winning pumpkin / snowman / pile of laundry I need to fold.

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

KateRN08 said:
I'm surprised it took a whole month for the vax discussion to start. At least this one was tame. Just wait...

I'm not sure I've ever seen it actually be a debate. I don't think I've seen anyone on tb not vac by choice. Maybe a delayed schedule or no more than 1 shot at a time. But never a non vaxer.

BabiesEverywhere · August 2014

mbm1983 said:
i can't wait for a good skittles for the poor debate. because it eventually is said. and it always blows up. 8->

What is a skittles for the poor debate?

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

BabiesEverywhere said:

mbm1983 said:
i can't wait for a good skittles for the poor debate. because it eventually is said. and it always blows up. 8->
What is a skittles for the poor debate?

Government assistance.

crazychickenlady · August 2014

BabiesEverywhere said:

i can't wait for a good skittles for the poor debate. because it eventually is said. and it always blows up. 8->
What is a skittles for the poor debate?

some people think that people who are on government assistance should only eat healthy food - for example, they don't deserve skittles.

marigold32 · August 2014

KateRN08 said:
I'm surprised it took a whole month for the vax discussion to start. At least this one was tame. Just wait...
redneckmomma25 said:

KateRN08 said:
I'm surprised it took a whole month for the vax discussion to start. At least this one was tame. Just wait...
I'm not sure I've ever seen it actually be a debate. I don't think I've seen anyone on tb not vac by choice. Maybe a delayed schedule or no more than 1 shot at a time. But never a non vaxer.

oh I have. We had a few on May 13.

Yep. We did as well. She was a nurse.....................

BabiesEverywhere · August 2014

Ahhh gotcha. I've never heard it called that! But I can imagine that could get quite intense.

knitfastdiewarm · August 2014

redneckmomma25 said:
He moved across country a couple years ago. So I don't really have to worry. He's in OK and I'm in NY.

But but...I AM IN OK! :O

crazychickenlady · August 2014

BabiesEverywhere said:

Ahhh gotcha. I've never heard it called that! But I can imagine that could get quite intense.

There have been some pretty intense threads about it on the TTGP and BOTB boards that I have seen, just in my short time here. I am sure there have been more. They get pretty ugly

crazychickenlady · August 2014

KonaiNeto said:

Not to show off my newbletness, but what does FFFC stand for? It isn't on the acronym page. Speaking of the blog, has our official badge been chosen, and will it be posted there, because I love the little snarkling and I have no idea how the heck to add it to my signature (I haven't seen any links for it or anything, including the Graphical Designers thread. The older one, where the snarkling first appeared.)

I got it from the Graphic Designer thread. https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12423162/graphic-designers/p1

If you scroll down and see where the snarkling was first introduced - by @somewheresublime86 saying "It's a Snarking!" - Click on that pick of the snarkling and it will bring up a page of the photo. Take that link at the top of the webpage and copy it into the "Insert Image" section of your siggy.

jlworden710 · August 2014

Audrey1787 said:
I thought the gratitude thread was a one time thing or a weekly thing.... I posted in it once but I guess I don't have a whole lot of gratitude that I feel like sharing daily.

There's a gratitude thread?... I'm apparently an angry elf... must be the hormones (insert sarcastic font)
;;)

Prpljade · August 2014

Skittles for the poor. Omg I have to tell DH that. He worked as a cashier at a convenience store for ages and used to see a handful of te same people come in the first of every month and buy up like $40 of junk food. His gripe was why are they buying it here instea of the grocery store where it's cheaper?! More skittles for your government cheddar Beezy!

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

LynnaF said:

redneckmomma25 said:
He moved across country a couple years ago. So I don't really have to worry. He's in OK and I'm in NY.
But but...I AM IN OK! :O

They are a ways north of tulsa. Hopefully you are good haha

redneckmomma25 · August 2014

SharkFarts said:

redneckmomma25 said:

KateRN08 said:
I'm surprised it took a whole month for the vax discussion to start. At least this one was tame. Just wait...
I'm not sure I've ever seen it actually be a debate. I don't think I've seen anyone on tb not vac by choice. Maybe a delayed schedule or no more than 1 shot at a time. But never a non vaxer.

Am I wrong in thinking julianne doesn't vax?

Huh. I honestly don't remember.

megs12914 · August 2014

At first I read "anti-vaxer" as "anti-waxer" and I was thinking that waxing is so much trouble and I've barely shaved my legs since I've had my son. Thank God for context clues.

Edit: grammar is hard

ladylibris · August 2014

redneckmomma25 said:

somerandomchick said:

Oh here's a good one from me: I judge the shite out of non-vaxers. It's the only parenting decision I let myself be judgey on. It's also the only one that directly affects my kid....go figure.
As you should. I judge the shit out if anyone willingly putting their kids and mine at risk. Choosing not to vaccinate your children (CHOOSING, not being unable to because of allergies or whatever) is about equivalent to driving around with your baby in your lap in my book

My brother is a huge anti-vaxer. He posts stuff all up and down facebook. I don't really engage him because it just doesn't make sense. He's obviously choosing to what to believe and not believe. He posted an article the other day and said "If you want to keep sacrificing your children, keep vaccinating." So hard not to say anything. Ugh. He's also got a baby who will be a year in November. He remarried and they stopped vaccinating the older children. Sending them to school with signed waivers. Crazy cakes.

Totally off topic: Since I started working in a medical library last year, I've seen a ton of articles/ research by doctors about this along the lines of "how do we change the message?" and "how do we educate the public?" It's pretty sobering to read some of this stuff and see the concern from physicians about what is happening to children and how long-controlled illnesses are surging back.

Totally on topic: Hubs just asked me why I need maternity clothes. "Aren't they just a waste of money and disposable after a few months?" I'm trying not to stab him the neck with a a dull pencil.

babynica · August 2014

I have another one: I ate Queso dip for lunch. With a spoon.

knitfastdiewarm · August 2014

redneckmomma25 said:

LynnaF said:

redneckmomma25 said:
He moved across country a couple years ago. So I don't really have to worry. He's in OK and I'm in NY.
But but...I AM IN OK! :O
They are a ways north of tulsa. Hopefully you are good haha

Yes! One less crazy to worry about

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