Someone who was supposedly my best friend in the world, stood up in my wedding and everything apparently was talking shit on DH and I's relationship to her sister and some of our friends. I found this out from her sister a little over a year ago. Some background is that DH and I didn't live together for a very long time because pilots make shit and I needed to keep a decent paying job in order for both of us to survive. Well she told her sister and everyone that DH was DEFINITELY cheating on me and he definitely had a girl on the side. I guess this was her conclusion because he didn't have the time to come home all that often. Maybe a couple days every 2-3 weeks? Well our feelings were so hurt and I didn't know how to handle it so I just swept it under the rug. Since we don't even live anywhere near them anymore I just thought oh well I guess she's not my friend! My feelings are still really hurt by it because it feels like the one person who isn't supposed to judge me does when I'm not around. So I talk a big game when I give people the advice that they need to put their foot down!
That is really shitty. I probably would have done the same thing. I hate confrontation. Do you still talk to her and stuff?
Someone who was supposedly my best friend in the world, stood up in my wedding and everything apparently was talking shit on DH and I's relationship to her sister and some of our friends. I found this out from her sister a little over a year ago. Some background is that DH and I didn't live together for a very long time because pilots make shit and I needed to keep a decent paying job in order for both of us to survive. Well she told her sister and everyone that DH was DEFINITELY cheating on me and he definitely had a girl on the side. I guess this was her conclusion because he didn't have the time to come home all that often. Maybe a couple days every 2-3 weeks? Well our feelings were so hurt and I didn't know how to handle it so I just swept it under the rug. Since we don't even live anywhere near them anymore I just thought oh well I guess she's not my friend! My feelings are still really hurt by it because it feels like the one person who isn't supposed to judge me does when I'm not around. So I talk a big game when I give people the advice that they need to put their foot down!
That is really shitty. I probably would have done the same thing. I hate confrontation.
Do you still talk to her and stuff?
Occasionally, but for the most part when I visit home I don't even tell her. I saw her in Feb (didn't even tell her I was pregnant then) and she was at my shower last weekend. Other than that we don't see each other because I decided zero effort from me from now on. Also her sister is a little unbalanced, those two have a really volatile relationship I just felt weird all around. Why did her sister tell me that?! And how do you confront someone about something that comes from their sibling? Just weird.
I've started to type out a post at least 20 times since last night and have deleted them all. I can not formulate an articulate response to what's happening in Ferguson without flipping my shit; so I'm going to step away from this board for awhile. I am way too invested in this situation, on both sides, to be reading the stuff that I am reading without causing my blood pressure to go through the roof. :-h
I think there is a huge difference in having an opinion on something and coming out and saying EVERYONE else is ignorant, uneducated, and need to STFU. That id what burns my ass.
Sometimes, when something funny happens in a thread, I will want to share it with someone, so I'll tell the story (like the BSC Facebook Friend), but say "my friend told me." I don't say that friend is in the computer.
Sometimes, when something funny happens in a thread, I will want to share it with someone, so I'll tell the story (like the BSC Facebook Friend), but say "my friend told me." I don't say that friend is in the computer.
I told Hubz about the crowning photos story from a few months ago (yes, I'm bringing that back!). He thought it was hilarious and wanted to tell all of his friends and family. But he made ME tell the story and in his set up asked me who told me. Dude, don't out my interwebz friends to your family. I can't have them finding my safe zone.
::two chest pumps and a peace sign for Jenn:: ~ MrsJudgeyPants
I have decided in my mind that @lrobi13 works downtown. So when I'm walking around downtown and see another pregnant woman, I look her in the eyes and try to telepathically ask if she's lrobi. I've gotten several side-eyes. I've turned into a creepy creeper.
::two chest pumps and a peace sign for Jenn:: ~ MrsJudgeyPants
Sometimes, when something funny happens in a thread, I will want to share it with someone, so I'll tell the story (like the BSC Facebook Friend), but say "my friend told me." I don't say that friend is in the computer.
I told Hubz about the crowning photos story from a few months ago (yes, I'm bringing that back!). He thought it was hilarious and wanted to tell all of his friends and family. But he made ME tell the story and in his set up asked me who told me. Dude, don't out my interwebz friends to your family. I can't have them finding my safe zone.
I have tried telling DH about this but he's all
why would someone say that to a bunch of strangers? These people sound fake. So now I just say friends
My FFFC, I don't watch the news. I don't read news type things online. I don't pick up a newspaper. I'd honestly rather not know!
I justify this in that DH is caught up on the news and will bring really big things to my attention. I also don't vote so I don't feel like my "ignorance" hurts anyone.
I just want to be happy - and spending so much time stressing out over Ebola, Ferguson, or Robin Williams death seems useless for me as there is nothing I can personally do about any of these happenings.
My FFFC, I don't watch the news. I don't read news type things online. I don't pick up a newspaper. I'd honestly rather not know!
I justify this in that DH is caught up on the news and will bring really big things to my attention. I also don't vote so I don't feel like my "ignorance" hurts anyone.
I just want to be happy - and spending so much time stressing out over Ebola, Ferguson, or Robin Williams death seems useless for me as there is nothing I can personally do about any of these happenings.
Yikes! If I had more energy I might flame you a bit for this. I am not super up to date on the news/politics, but how can we move forward if people think this way? (And I know a lot do).
@victoria+james that's me. I used to get all relevant news from Chelsea handler. I though at least knowing about the kardashians was something. and DH is a journalist. And I'm a member of this planet meaning I should know what's going on in it. But I don't feel bad.
~First time mama, strikingly handsome husband, comedic pooch, krumpin' baby girl on her way~
My FFFC, I don't watch the news. I don't read news type things online. I don't pick up a newspaper. I'd honestly rather not know!
I justify this in that DH is caught up on the news and will bring really big things to my attention. I also don't vote so I don't feel like my "ignorance" hurts anyone.
I just want to be happy - and spending so much time stressing out over Ebola, Ferguson, or Robin Williams death seems useless for me as there is nothing I can personally do about any of these happenings.
Not voting hurts everyone.
::two chest pumps and a peace sign for Jenn:: ~ MrsJudgeyPants
My FFFC, I don't watch the news. I don't read news type things online. I don't pick up a newspaper. I'd honestly rather not know!
I justify this in that DH is caught up on the news and will bring really big things to my attention. I also don't vote so I don't feel like my "ignorance" hurts anyone.
I just want to be happy - and spending so much time stressing out over Ebola, Ferguson, or Robin Williams death seems useless for me as there is nothing I can personally do about any of these happenings.
Yikes! If I had more energy I might flame you a bit for this. I am not super up to date on the news/politics, but how can we move forward if people think this way? (And I know a lot do).
Plus you don't vote?!?! Too much...
I think it is very important that some people are invested in these situations. And in the past I have even tried to be. But I lack passion to do the research on these issues and I would rather not just be another loud voice screaming about something I really know nothing about. It only makes it harder to hear those that do the research and do know what's going on.
I don't vote because I don't educate myself on the issues and it wouldn't be fair of me to. Actually, for a long time I didn't think I could vote because my parents are not legally allowed to and I thought it pertained to me as well. Turns out that's not the case!
I have decided in my mind that @lrobi13 works downtown. So when I'm walking around downtown and see another pregnant woman, I look her in the eyes and try to telepathically ask if she's lrobi. I've gotten several side-eyes. I've turned into a creepy creeper.
Stanger danger alert! But yes, I may be located in our vast downtown area! But I haven't seen any other pregnant ladies around so it wasn't me giving you the side-eye! I am dying laughing over here because I may have been wondering the same thing!
In regards to voting, I encourage you non voters to at least look into local politics. They're so important and it's hard to escape the effects of local decision making..
Although I understand the importance of voting, I think it's better for someone who knows nothing about what they're voting for to just not vote, than to make a vote based on a guess without knowing the info.
I agree. I feel like so many people just vote one way because they were raised that way, or because the candidate is white/black/other or man/woman/other. Everyone should vote. But in a perfect world, everyone should KNOW what they are voting for, too.
So, you gals that don't watch the news or keep up with current events...what do you talk about with friends, family, co-workers?
I don't watch the news, but I have them on my FB feeds, so I get highlights. I know enough to have a conversation, but then again, my friends and family don't talk about that shit. They talk about the sale at the mall or something. I do talk about news-worthy things at work, though.
I can't sit down and watch the news straight through, or read a newspaper. But I like to get snippets. If I want to know more, I click around and find articles about it. I feel like I get to control a little more about it that way.
I know enough about Ferguson to know it's effed up, but I haven't read a ton about it, because I really think it's going to be really fucking upsetting. Everyone else is ranting about it on my FB feed and such, and I just. Can't.
I think I have the opposite problem of the no news people. I read too much. I read absolutely everything and I honestly don't even watch tv without reading articles on my phone. I just have this desire to learn about everything and it can be very annoying to others. DH gets annoyed because he says he can't bring up stuff to me because I already know about it.
I'll even finish a book I don't like, because I think I might learn something from it.
In regards to voting, I encourage you non voters to at least look into local politics. They're so important and it's hard to escape the effects of local decision making..
OMG YES! At the bare minimum, please look into your local elected officials and vote on them. They make so many decisions that directly affect you.
Edit: I can't freaking keep effect and affect straight and I have to ask my husband every time!
I write replies to almost every thread I read, but I only post on like 10% of them. I figure the less I say, the less dumb I'll make myself seem. But it doesn't even work! :-<
I'm eating chips ahoy cookies for breakfast. I'm disappointed in myself for not having the courage to buy the cream-filled ones...
They have creme filled chocolate chip cookies? I must add those to my post birth/post GD list of things to eat.
Other comments: I also have a crush on a co-worker, but more for the fact that he regularly wears a bow tie. I haven't seen someone wear a bow tie since I finished college (in the South) and it is just brings back great memories.
It took me a while to figure out the lipstick comment - I have only had one dog in my life and that was a female. Boy cats rarely have that problem.
I have no good confession this week, so sad.
Married 10/06
Baby Girl "C" arrived on 10/07/14 (39 weeks, 6 days)
My FFFC: Since I've been on leave from work, my sleep schedule is complete craziness. I nap in the middle of the day, then I'm awake from 7or 8pm until the middle of the night, then I fall asleep around 3am and sleep until 10 or 11, then get up for awhile, then go back down for my afternoon nap about 4 or 5, starting the whole cycle over again... Lol... I've never been so tired in my life.... ">
@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
am I the only one that thinks it's weird she wants to take a car seat car shopping? Can't you basically tell if it's going to fit or not? I'm confused by this...someone PLEASE edumacate me!
I thought it was kinda weird too. I also told DH I thought it would be creepy/hilarious if they put a baby doll in it. The sales people would think they were nuts!
They have an SUV and want to get a smaller car, as well, that has good gas mileage. I'm assuming they want to make sure that a car seat will still fit if her H is in the passenger seat and has adequate leg room.
But doesn't the specific car seat they get matter? Not all car seats have the same dimensions. I don't get it.
I totally get it. You get the basic idea from any car seat you try this with but I have a beetle and the seat we had didn't fit at all and it was a pain in the ass. Plus, we didn't realize that the stroller didn't fit in the trunk at all so we could never take it anywhere.
This is not such a weird request....
The difference is that you already had a seat and stroller that you were trying to fit into your Beetle. The couple she's referring to don't even have kids yet. What if the seat they borrow is exceptionally large and they choose not to purchase the vehicle because that particular car seat didn't fit but there are other seats on the market that would fit?
I am all for thinking ahead but my approach would be to research the particular make/model of the vehicle and see if there are complaints about car seats being able to fit in it.
@apk4 RE: the car seat discussion: I have a Ford Focus and I actually just Google'd car seats that fit in 2012 Ford Focus and went right to a forum where people were discussing it. And it turns out that the seat we registered for (Graco Snugride 30) was the recommended seat. There were even photos. I'd say if you're not comfortable then suggest she does this after she purchases the car. Like, closer to when she's actually going to HAVE a baby. And in regards to her possibly getting into an accident with it - I'd 100% expect her to replace it and wouldn't be shy about making that known.
@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
THIS is crazy to me! You bought a whole new car seat because you didn't want someone putting your EMPTY one in a car to see if a seat will fit? WHAAAAAAA? This isn't against you exactly, but I would talk would be SO pissed if asked this favor and someone said no for this reason.
Oops, let me try that again!
THIS is crazy to me! You bought a whole new car seat because you didn't want someone putting your EMPTY one in a car to see if a seat will fit? WHAAAAAAA? This isn't against you exactly, but I would be SO pissed if asked this favor and someone said no for this reason
I get your point too. I think my feelings on it have to do with outside circumstances. They ask me/us for things a lot- helping them unpack their new house, drive DH's car for free when he wanted to trade it in and stop paying $500/mo, etc.
I'm pretty self sufficient and I would never make such a request. I just want to save our car seat for my baby and I don't want it in a bunch of random cars when my baby isn't even here yet.
My husband is a TV news reporter and even I don't stay on top of what's going on in the world. I try, but not everything piques my interest. I know what's going on in Ferguson, but honestly I don't know enough of the nitty gritty details to throw my opinion in the ring on this issue. My FFFC? I'm a celebrity "news" junkie. I've earned the nickname TMZ in one of our friend circles because I always know so much useless celebrity gossip. This irritates my journalist DH so much.
Confession: I was kind of happy to see @dana2die4 throw out a controversial UO last night. She isn't on the boards often and when she does come here...BAM...drama tends to follow. It was a good discussion (even though I don't know anything about that story)
I'm not saying I agree with her posts, that's not my point, but I'm glad she had the balls to post what she did. That is all.
I agree! A true UO (so rare as of late!). I bet she knew shiz would hit the fan but went ahead and posted anyway. I also don't know enough about the subject to get involved in the argument, but I did learn some things from both sides thanks to that.
Oh, and about the car seat thing... @apk4, I'm totally with you. I can be weird about borrowing out my things, especially if I haven't gotten to use it myself yet. Yes, they aren't putting an actual baby in the car seat, but that's not the point. You want be the first! That being said, I wouldn't have bought a brand new car seat just for this. I would've just said no!
Oh, and about the car seat thing... @apk4, I'm totally with you. I can be weird about borrowing out my things, especially if I haven't gotten to use it myself yet. Yes, they aren't putting an actual baby in the car seat, but that's not the point. You want be the first! That being said, I wouldn't have bought a brand new car seat just for this. I would've just said no!
It's my new ILs and it's taken a while for them to accept me and my introvert ways. I say no too much and I don't want them to think it's personal, so that's why I bought one.
Sometimes, when something funny happens in a thread, I will want to share it with someone, so I'll tell the story (like the BSC Facebook Friend), but say "my friend told me." I don't say that friend is in the computer.
I told Hubz about the crowning photos story from a few months ago (yes, I'm bringing that back!). He thought it was hilarious and wanted to tell all of his friends and family. But he made ME tell the story and in his set up asked me who told me. Dude, don't out my interwebz friends to your family. I can't have them finding my safe zone.
If it is the story I told about the mass email with crowning photos hiding inside please share away! I think if you do something that stupid it is open season and you just have to accept your fate.
Re: FFFC
Do you still talk to her and stuff?
I think there is a huge difference in having an opinion on something and coming out and saying EVERYONE else is ignorant, uneducated, and need to STFU. That id what burns my ass.
Making me a massive shit.
She maintains a relationship with family members I consider both dangerous and repulsive. The idea of them seeing photos of my baby makes me ill.
So I'm depriving an old lady of photos of her first great granddaughter. Flame away.
I justify this in that DH is caught up on the news and will bring really big things to my attention. I also don't vote so I don't feel like my "ignorance" hurts anyone.
I just want to be happy - and spending so much time stressing out over Ebola, Ferguson, or Robin Williams death seems useless for me as there is nothing I can personally do about any of these happenings.
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Plus you don't vote?!?! Too much...
I don't vote because I don't educate myself on the issues and it wouldn't be fair of me to. Actually, for a long time I didn't think I could vote because my parents are not legally allowed to and I thought it pertained to me as well. Turns out that's not the case!
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I can't sit down and watch the news straight through, or read a newspaper. But I like to get snippets. If I want to know more, I click around and find articles about it. I feel like I get to control a little more about it that way.
I know enough about Ferguson to know it's effed up, but I haven't read a ton about it, because I really think it's going to be really fucking upsetting. Everyone else is ranting about it on my FB feed and such, and I just. Can't.
I'll even finish a book I don't like, because I think I might learn something from it.
Married 10/06
Baby Girl "C" arrived on 10/07/14 (39 weeks, 6 days)
Since I've been on leave from work, my sleep schedule is complete craziness. I nap in the middle of the day, then I'm awake from 7or 8pm until the middle of the night, then I fall asleep around 3am and sleep until 10 or 11, then get up for awhile, then go back down for my afternoon nap about 4 or 5, starting the whole cycle over again... Lol... I've never been so tired in my life....
The difference is that you already had a seat and stroller that you were trying to fit into your Beetle. The couple she's referring to don't even have kids yet. What if the seat they borrow is exceptionally large and they choose not to purchase the vehicle because that particular car seat didn't fit but there are other seats on the market that would fit?
I am all for thinking ahead but my approach would be to research the particular make/model of the vehicle and see if there are complaints about car seats being able to fit in it.
My FFFC? I'm a celebrity "news" junkie. I've earned the nickname TMZ in one of our friend circles because I always know so much useless celebrity gossip. This irritates my journalist DH so much.
It's just....that chick and I are oil and water.