So...how does delivery room etiquette go in this case?

WonderWomanAbbey · August 2014

This case being the father of your baby turning out to be a lying cheating coward.

Because that is where we are now, ladies.

MrsLaLaBug · August 2014

I am so sorry you are having to deal with something so crappy at a time like this. Biggest LalaBearHugs ever.

Groxb · August 2014

I'm so sorry

ball kick?

mrsdanielleM2010 · August 2014

Hugs to you

nilvero · August 2014

Really sorry you are dealing with this. I second grox's suggestion.

Fishyhatch · August 2014

Big hugs to you, I'm so sorry you're dealing with this!!

Soogerplum · August 2014

I'm so sorry

emmylu30 · August 2014

So sorry you're having to deal with this. Big hugs!

kmbk27 · August 2014

I'm so sorry. Hugs to you.

aliciak316 · August 2014

I'm sorry you have to deal with this! Do whatever makes you feel comfortable

dinodna3 · August 2014

I'm so sorry! The biggest of hugs to you.

Djcieply · August 2014

Oh no! I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this!

brittneyandadam · August 2014

Oh hun, I'm sorry. *hugs*

megs2011 · August 2014

I'm sorry this is happening. I agree with @Groxb‌ but would like to add throat punch after the ball kick.

Pinkmom19 · August 2014

megs2011 said:
I'm sorry this is happening. I agree with @Groxb‌ but would like to add throat punch after the ball kick.

^WSS

mrsdanielleM2010 · August 2014

PS. Just reread your post from the other day. Please keep in mind that when someone cheats in a relationship, it is about them. It is not about the person they're cheating on. This is not your fault.

Ivorytower2 · August 2014

This is bullshit hun. Use the last few weeks of this pregnancy to find your inner strength. You are a lot stronger than you ever thought possible.

Meganz927 · August 2014

Soooo sorry you are dealing with a low self esteem scumbag, especially during this time, haven't read your previous post yet, but I think you should do whatever you feel is best for you and LO. Hope you come to peace with whatever you decide to do. Take care of yourself!

peanutbuttervibes · August 2014

So sorry you have to deal with such a shitty situation. Lots of hugs!

ashaw512 · August 2014

I'm sorry you have to deal with this. Especially at this time, hugs to you.

gingerkid9989 · August 2014

((hugs)) I'm sorry that you are going through this.

biokitty42 · August 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this, especially at a time like this.

bumpuser10199668 · August 2014

He's a twat. As for the delivery room, do whatever is going to make you comfortable. I understand you may not want to bar him from experiencing the birth of his child, but if you are tense or angry while the baby is being born, that won't be good for either of you. If you'd feel more comfortable knowing he wasn't in the room, then you have every right to do your thing and let him come visit later.

portentosa · August 2014

crystalangel79 said:

This sucks. In your other post you took a lot of responsibility on yourself... Withdrawing, blaming him etc... But THIS? No. This is absolutely zero percent you. I dont care how rough things are in a relationship there is ZERO excuse for cheating. If he can't walk with you when you are struggling and not your best then it's HIS fault and reflects HIS lack of character and ability to be a partner, not you. You have whoever in the delivery room who will make you feel calm/relaxed. You don't owe him that bc it's his kid. He consciously gave up on that. Im so sorry you have to go through this.

I was going to say everything here. So I will just second Crystal and give you ((hugs)) I'm so sorry.

ham0216 · August 2014

I'm so sorry you're having to go through this

big hugs to you.

Ecat504 · August 2014

tromboner said:

crystalangel79 said:

This sucks. In your other post you took a lot of responsibility on yourself... Withdrawing, blaming him etc... But THIS? No. This is absolutely zero percent you. I dont care how rough things are in a relationship there is ZERO excuse for cheating. If he can't walk with you when you are struggling and not your best then it's HIS fault and reflects HIS lack of character and ability to be a partner, not you.

You have whoever in the delivery room who will make you feel calm/relaxed. You don't owe him that bc it's his kid. He consciously gave up on that.

Im so sorry you have to go through this.

I was going to say everything here. So I will just second Crystal and give you ((hugs)) I'm so sorry.

I third this! I am so so sorry!! Sending hugs! ((((()))))

WonderWomanAbbey · August 2014

I appreciate all the love and hugs ladies, really. The outpour of love is wonderful.

As for him...cheating is a deal breaker for me. He's 26, and he's been calling and texting some 20 year old girl at all hours of the day when he's told me he's somewhere else or with other people or at work. He's been deleting all of her texts and calls, but you can't erase a phone bill. That's not a man. That's not even a father. That's a boy. And yes, I've claimed a lot of responsibility, taken a lot of blows to the ego, and worked really hard ever since to make him happy after we started struggling, but you're all right - THIS is him. This is pathetic and cowardly.

alanaw121 · August 2014

Sorry to hear you are going through this. When I was pregnant with DS, I found out dad was engaged to someone else so I can kind of relate. For the delivery, I allowed him to be in the room since it was his child too but I didn't really talk to him other than some yelling which was quite deserved. After DS was born, I had him wait in the waiting room while I got cleaned up and moved over to recovery. He came to see DS there and so did his family but I limited the time they were all allowed to be there. No matter what, it's not an easy thing to deal with but I don't believe that any father should be forced to miss the birth of his child if he wants to be there.

jessicainkentucky · August 2014

So sorry you are dealing with this right now. Like PP said, stay strong and do what is best for you and LO!

Everyusernameistaken · August 2014

I'm so sorry you are,dealing with this. Do what you need to do for you and your LO.

kriley602774 · August 2014

So sorry you're dealing with this right now. I agree with a swift kick to the balls. As for whether or not he's in the room? Totally up to you and what you feel is appropriate. Maybe he should have thought that through first. But in reality, many men only have enough blood supply for one head to do the thinking, clearly it all went to the wrong one here.

hope all goes well for you

Marchie1214 · August 2014

I am so sorry you have to deal with this. I agree with what everyone else has said. I wasn't with SO when I had DD and we were not very friendly towards one another. He was in my delivery room and everything revolved around the baby so it wasn't tense. You need to do what is most comfortable for you, so if him being there will stress you out, make his ass wait in the waiting room. Hugs! Feel free to PM if you need someone to talk to.

CUBBIESMAMA3 · August 2014

Give it a try with him in the room, but if he agitates you too much, just kick his cowardly ass out. I'm so sorry that you're going thru this. Much love and hugs from me and DS and DD.

kami09 · August 2014

Wow. What a POS. So sorry you are dealing with this!

JustCricket · August 2014

Ditto pretty much everything all that was said.

sorry you're dealing with that shithead

purplestarz · August 2014

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this now.

A similar thing happened to a family member of mine. She had actually walked in on him and the other chick when she was 8 months pregnant. She allowed him to be in the delivery room (to the dismay of a lot of the family) but felt he should be there for the birth.

As everyone else has said, do what feels right and makes you comfortable.

JGuevara64 · August 2014

I am sorry you are dealing with this right now.**HUGS**

teenybean · August 2014

Very sorry

sousa67 · August 2014

So sorry! You definitely have to do what is best for you and your LO!! Sending hugs and prayers your way. Hang in there!

Mrs.Leah.Maria · August 2014

I'm so relieved to read what you wrote about him and that you're not going to shoulder this as something you did! Regardless of delivery room, you're already a fantastic mom by realizing that these are his issues!

kateronium · August 2014

I am so sorry this is happening to you.. Hugs to you! Also if you don't feel like you could kick him out but you want him out the nurses are great at doing that for you ;l

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