My FFFC will have to wait because it is directly related to a pretty recent post and I don't want to get into it...I guess my confession is that most of my confessions have to do with being judgey of stupid people. Or, people who are asking/doing stupid things.
When my BFF and mom threw me my baby shower for DD, I had no idea I was supposed to give a gift. Literally had no clue about this etiquette rule until this pregnancy and saw people talking about it. I called them both, very upset, asking if they were mad at me for that and my bff said "Huh?! I've never heard of that. Well you better pay up bitch!" (Completely joking). My mom said "I'm your mother and don't need a gift."
My FFFC will have to wait because it is directly related to a pretty recent post and I don't want to get into it...I guess my confession is that most of my confessions have to do with being judgey of stupid people. Or, people who are asking/doing stupid things.
No way, dude - spill it! I'm dying of curiosity.
ME TOO.
Ok, ok. @MrMrsandBaby , I'll stop posting about my cats. Please don't flame me!
My FFFC will have to wait because it is directly related to a pretty recent post and I don't want to get into it...I guess my confession is that most of my confessions have to do with being judgey of stupid people. Or, people who are asking/doing stupid things.
No way, dude - spill it! I'm dying of curiosity.
ME TOO.
Ok, ok. @MrMrsandBaby , I'll stop posting about my cats. Please don't flame me!
I had 4 bridal showers (little much, huh?) and a baby shower and I never gave anyone a hostess gift. However, I've never received a hostess gift either and I've thrown multiple kinds of showers for other people. I didn't really know it was a thing until this BMB.
Me: 38 DH: 36 Married 8/27/2011 BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012 BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014 BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017 BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
Lame confession, but I've been kind of a dirty lurker lately. I have no clue why I just haven't written replies to lots of threads, but I'm guessing I'm just being lazy. Sorry, friends!
Lame confession, but I've been kind of a dirty lurker lately. I have no clue why I just haven't written replies to lots of threads, but I'm guessing I'm just being lazy. Sorry, friends!
I went through a lurker phase for awhile too. This week not so much! Welcome back!
@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
I really hate it when threads have an ambiguous title, like "I have a question" "what would you do" etc, because I don't know whether I'm interested in opening them or not. I feel like I usually end up X-ing out of them pretty quickly, maybe because I'm already turned off by the title.
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@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
am I the only one that thinks it's weird she wants to take a car seat car shopping? Can't you basically tell if it's going to fit or not? I'm confused by this...someone PLEASE edumacate me!
I haven't had my hair cut or colored since last November. I have roots that now look sort of hombre, they're so long, tons of grays, and all the split ends. But I don't really give any fucks. I used to go every 6-8 weeks, but now it's like it takes an event to get me to make a hair appointment - last November, I got my hair done the week before I had sinus surgery, thinking that having nice hair would make me feel better when I was swollen and black-eyed after surgery (it really did help a little). Now I'm fixing to make another appointment because I'm about to have a baby, and want to look sort of presentable in newborn pictures. I've even had a gift certificate for my salon sitting on my dresser since Christmas, and still haven't bothered to go.
Another shower-related FFFC: I don't want to send thank yous. I know I have to. I know I will. I had 200 thank yous done 12 days after our wedding (and we were on our honeymoon for the first 7).
But NO one else does it anymore. I'm STILL waiting for a thank you from my BIL's wife for doing EVERYTHING for her 2nd reception. Or my gift to her. Or anything. Even a verbal thank you might be nice, while I moved tables, 20 weeks pregnant, and she played on her phone. Why does SHE get to not bother? I'm BUSY. She got married in JANUARY, had a 2nd reception in JULY. What does she have to do? I'm having a BABY. I want to be the rude one.
@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
am I the only one that thinks it's weird she wants to take a car seat car shopping? Can't you basically tell if it's going to fit or not? I'm confused by this...someone PLEASE edumacate me!
I thought it was kinda weird too. I also told DH I thought it would be creepy/hilarious if they put a baby doll in it. The sales people would think they were nuts!
They have an SUV and want to get a smaller car, as well, that has good gas mileage. I'm assuming they want to make sure that a car seat will still fit if her H is in the passenger seat and has adequate leg room.
My FFFC will have to wait because it is directly related to a pretty recent post and I don't want to get into it...I guess my confession is that most of my confessions have to do with being judgey of stupid people. Or, people who are asking/doing stupid things.
No way, dude - spill it! I'm dying of curiosity.
ME TOO.
Ok, ok. @MrMrsandBaby , I'll stop posting about my cats. Please don't flame me!
It's probably my orange one
Nope, I love all the cats, if I could get a pic of my two little monsters I would!
@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
am I the only one that thinks it's weird she wants to take a car seat car shopping? Can't you basically tell if it's going to fit or not? I'm confused by this...someone PLEASE edumacate me!
I thought it was kinda weird too. I also told DH I thought it would be creepy/hilarious if they put a baby doll in it. The sales people would think they were nuts!
They have an SUV and want to get a smaller car, as well, that has good gas mileage. I'm assuming they want to make sure that a car seat will still fit if her H is in the passenger seat and has adequate leg room.
But doesn't the specific car seat they get matter? Not all car seats have the same dimensions. I don't get it.
Another shower-related FFFC: I don't want to send thank yous. I know I have to. I know I will. I had 200 thank yous done 12 days after our wedding (and we were on our honeymoon for the first 7).
But NO one else does it anymore. I'm STILL waiting for a thank you from my BIL's wife for doing EVERYTHING for her 2nd reception. Or my gift to her. Or anything. Even a verbal thank you might be nice, while I moved tables, 20 weeks pregnant, and she played on her phone. Why does SHE get to not bother? I'm BUSY. She got married in JANUARY, had a 2nd reception in JULY. What does she have to do? I'm having a BABY. I want to be the rude one.
On this note, my ILs are super card crazy. They send Valentine's Day cards, etc. I bought thank you cards the day after we got married so DH could sign them and I could get them out right away. He never signed them and I'm waiting on him because I know they will be bothered if I sign for both of us. I have a feeling they think I'm not going to send them, but I have them and it is DH's fault!!
@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
am I the only one that thinks it's weird she wants to take a car seat car shopping? Can't you basically tell if it's going to fit or not? I'm confused by this...someone PLEASE edumacate me!
This was a little odd to me too? Is she expecting? Why is she asking you? And is this really an issue, unless they are buying a smart car don't most car seats fit in the back seat of most cars? I know there are exceptions but there are smaller seats you can buy if your have a smaller car.
And if she is really worried about the fit...well, do some online research!
@apk4 hell no would I let them take the car seat. Sorry what if they got in an accident?! Flame me too haha
Thank you! DH thinks I'm being rude, and I'm not at all. I can't say no, because I've said no to a few other requests recently. I picked out a $90 car seat at Target and I'm going to pick it up on my lunch. I'll let the grandparents keep it or something.
am I the only one that thinks it's weird she wants to take a car seat car shopping? Can't you basically tell if it's going to fit or not? I'm confused by this...someone PLEASE edumacate me!
This was a little odd to me too? Is she expecting? Why is she asking you? And is this really an issue, unless they are buying a smart car don't most car seats fit in the back seat of most cars? I know there are exceptions but there are smaller seats you can buy if your have a smaller car.
And if she is really worried about the fit...well, do some online research!
Ok glad it's not just me. Buy the damn car that you want and when you have your own baby you can do research and get the correct seat etc for your situation and vehicle.
@MrsBabe614@MrandMrsBaby@ss265 I agree on all counts! And no, to my knowledge she is not pregnant or planning on becoming pregnant for at least a year.
I have so much beef with the late night UO last night...and the OP of it.
juicy, what about? I missed all the drama and caught it this morning.
-- About the situation going down in Ferguson. I had another strong disagreement with this gal on UO a month or two back, and I just feel like everything she says is completely one sided, and for lack of a better term, ignorant.
I have so much beef with the late night UO last night...and the OP of it.
juicy, what about? I missed all the drama and caught it this morning.
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About the situation going down in Ferguson. I had another strong disagreement with this gal on UO a month or two back, and I just feel like everything she says is completely one sided, and for lack of a better term, ignorant.
Yeah I think a lot of times people have trouble seeing the other side of situations, esp when you're close to the situation, or one like it. I think as a whole people tend to only think about how they feel about something and not how everyone must feel. Human nature I guess? My cousin is a police officer and I love her dearly but I try not to let that fact effect my judgement on that whole situation. Its just a huge mess!
I have so much beef with the late night UO last night...and the OP of it.
juicy, what about? I missed all the drama and caught it this morning.
-- About the situation going down in Ferguson. I had another strong disagreement with this gal on UO a month or two back, and I just feel like everything she says is completely one sided, and for lack of a better term, ignorant.
Since @LightBright515 calls @Spurp13 "Purp," I've started thinking about everyone in one name terms in my head.
I do this too! I've decided @MrsSinner402 has the coolest nickname because, duh, Sinner...
There's a story behind this! DHs nickname in high school was Sinner. Not sure the back story on that. But anyway his screen names have always been sinner402 for the longest time. So my screen name is a spin off of that. Since I'm his Mrs.
re: hostess gifts - One of my hostesses fussed at me for getting hostess gifts and said it was improper. I felt sheepish.
re: thank you cards - Hubz is much better at them than I am! He sends TYs for just about everything - a nice dinner out with his grandparents, birthday gifts, etc. I only send for major events. But, I'm not a sentimental person either and have a hard time expressing myself in words.
re: Last night's UO - I'm not forming an opinion on the Ferguson situation until all investigations are over and more facts are known/public. As noted in the thread, there are just so many things that are unknown and need to be fleshed out before we get a clear picture of what went on. That said, I don't think we'll ever get a clear picture of what went on :-/
::two chest pumps and a peace sign for Jenn:: ~ MrsJudgeyPants
Another shower-related FFFC: I don't want to send thank yous. I know I have to. I know I will. I had 200 thank yous done 12 days after our wedding (and we were on our honeymoon for the first 7).
But NO one else does it anymore. I'm STILL waiting for a thank you from my BIL's wife for doing EVERYTHING for her 2nd reception. Or my gift to her. Or anything. Even a verbal thank you might be nice, while I moved tables, 20 weeks pregnant, and she played on her phone. Why does SHE get to not bother? I'm BUSY. She got married in JANUARY, had a 2nd reception in JULY. What does she have to do? I'm having a BABY. I want to be the rude one.
I always receive thank you notes; but I come from an area where people send you a thank you note for bringing a bottle of wine to dinner - it's like a never ending circle of thank you notes. We have so much personalized stationary and little note cards for sending thank yous it is almost obnoxious....
5 cycles of "TTC" - 3 intentional, 2 not so intentional. 5 BFPs. My rainbow arrived 10/15/14. TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
Another shower-related FFFC: I don't want to send thank yous. I know I have to. I know I will. I had 200 thank yous done 12 days after our wedding (and we were on our honeymoon for the first 7).
But NO one else does it anymore. I'm STILL waiting for a thank you from my BIL's wife for doing EVERYTHING for her 2nd reception. Or my gift to her. Or anything. Even a verbal thank you might be nice, while I moved tables, 20 weeks pregnant, and she played on her phone. Why does SHE get to not bother? I'm BUSY. She got married in JANUARY, had a 2nd reception in JULY. What does she have to do? I'm having a BABY. I want to be the rude one.
I always receive thank you notes; but I come from an area where people send you a thank you note for bringing a bottle of wine to dinner - it's like a never ending circle of thank you notes. We have so much personalized stationary and little note cards for sending thank yous it is almost obnoxious....
My Mom never did thank you cards so I didn't really think about it until college when I got my first one. I remember googling "Do I send a you're welcome card?" ">
When I get thank you gifts that are so thoughtful and unnecessary I wonder if I should send a thank you for their thank you... Sigh. Definitely never ending.
Someone who was supposedly my best friend in the world, stood up in my wedding and everything apparently was talking shit on DH and I's relationship to her sister and some of our friends. I found this out from her sister a little over a year ago. Some background is that DH and I didn't live together for a very long time because pilots make shit and I needed to keep a decent paying job in order for both of us to survive. Well she told her sister and everyone that DH was DEFINITELY cheating on me and he definitely had a girl on the side. I guess this was her conclusion because he didn't have the time to come home all that often. Maybe a couple days every 2-3 weeks? Well our feelings were so hurt and I didn't know how to handle it so I just swept it under the rug. Since we don't even live anywhere near them anymore I just thought oh well I guess she's not my friend! My feelings are still really hurt by it because it feels like the one person who isn't supposed to judge me does when I'm not around. So I talk a big game when I give people the advice that they need to put their foot down!
@Spur13 I feel you on that with the thank you cards, everyone that I have given one is all like "why are you giving me a thank you card?" Ugh, I still want to give them as we are so thankful to the people who took the time to go to both showers and also gift us and the baby but I cant help but think my cards are going to the trash (.
Also I wish DH would at least help me out with the ones for the NY one but nop, I am on my own on this one. I can't complain too much as he does everything else in the house right now that does not involve cleaning (we have the cleaning service)
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Oh, they ARE going in the trash, don't doubt that, and that is another reason I wish I didn't have to do it. Postage is expensive. I'm using leftover wedding thank you cards (they aren't wedding-related, just flowers on them) at least.
I know I must do it. I just hate that no one else has to.
Since @LightBright515 calls @Spurp13 "Purp," I've started thinking about everyone in one name terms in my head.
I know this is FFFC and all, but when she does that, it gives me warm fuzzies. I've been calling the baby BPurp. Little does everyone know her name is gonna be APurp. NOT TELLING THEM THE NAME.
Ok, I'm caught up on the UO thread. Another FFFC is that I haven't formed an opinion on Ferguson, because I literally have read nothing about it. I skim over it when people post on FB. I just can't. I know that it's sort of my duty as an American to be informed, and it only makes me ignorant, but I know enough to know how upsetting it's going to be for me to read more in depth than the basics. I THINK I know where I stand. But. I really have only read headlines. I just. Can't.
I tend to avoid the news on a regular basis. That started when the economy started crashing into the sun. I just. Can't.
Re: FFFC
I still sort of feel like an asshole though.
Ok, ok. @MrMrsandBaby , I'll stop posting about my cats. Please don't flame me!
Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
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Married 8/27/2011
BFP #1 9/28/2011 DS born 5/22/2012
BFP #2 4/24/2013 m/c 4/25/2013 at 4w
BFP #3 1/31/2014 DD born 10/14/2014
BFP #4 1/20/2016 m/c 2/12/2014 at 7w2d
BFP #5 8/19/2016 DS2 born 4/29/2017
BFP #6 3/7/2018 EDD 11/18/2018
But NO one else does it anymore. I'm STILL waiting for a thank you from my BIL's wife for doing EVERYTHING for her 2nd reception. Or my gift to her. Or anything. Even a verbal thank you might be nice, while I moved tables, 20 weeks pregnant, and she played on her phone. Why does SHE get to not bother? I'm BUSY. She got married in JANUARY, had a 2nd reception in JULY. What does she have to do? I'm having a BABY. I want to be the rude one.
And if she is really worried about the fit...well, do some online research!
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About the situation going down in Ferguson. I had another strong disagreement with this gal on UO a month or two back, and I just feel like everything she says is completely one sided, and for lack of a better term, ignorant.
And it just goes to show that the rage across the WORLD regarding ferguson is justified...
About the situation going down in Ferguson. I had another strong disagreement with this gal on UO a month or two back, and I just feel like everything she says is completely one sided, and for lack of a better term, ignorant.
There's a story behind this!
TFMC 08.02.13 at 19+ weeks. Everyday I grieve for my little Olive.
I know I must do it. I just hate that no one else has to.
I tend to avoid the news on a regular basis. That started when the economy started crashing into the sun. I just. Can't.