Baby Shower Thank You Notes

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

When should you send out the shower thank you notes? I know this is probably a dumb question, but I'm kind of a baby shower virgin.

ETA: Not sure if it makes a difference, we do not plan to send out birth announcements or any other types of mail correspondence.

kjmommy1214 · August 2014

I did mine immediately after my shower with DD. I didn't want to mess with it while having a newborn.

lizzielu82 · August 2014

Agreed - within the first few weeks after the shower. Nice of you to even be sending thank you notes. Feels like less and less people are doing them these days. I think it's the right and nice thing to do.

wallygirl · August 2014

I voted even though I'm not having one this time

With DD I did them right after each shower.

lizgrace03 · August 2014

I've been working on them all week! One of my pet peeves is when people send the mass thank you notes that are totally impersonal. Maybe it's old fashioned, but I think a note is important if someone makes the time to buy you a gift.

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

Okay. It's looking like I will be doing them right after shower. Good point about not having time/energy once the babies are born. Thanks for all (and continued) input!

lizzielu82 · August 2014

Emnob28 said:

lizzielu82 said:

Agreed - within the first few weeks after the shower. Nice of you to even be sending thank you notes. Feels like less and less people are doing them these days. I think it's the right and nice thing to do.

This makes me so sad. I actually won't buy gifts for someone again if I don't get a thank you note. I feel it's in poor taste not to send something. If I get you a gift for your bridal shower and don't receive a note, I will either forgo buying you a wedding gift completely or I will spend only a very small amount. And while there haven't been baby showers yet, I would probably carry this all the way through to the baby shower gift as well.

I would love to be able to do this - except family members seem to be the worst culprits in my situation.

Agreed @kyliedaniellexx people are rude! I blame all their mothers for not teaching them the importance of saying thank you. It's the little things!

AnnieRoo13 · August 2014

I think in theory it's a nice idea that you want to include a picture of the baby (or babies!) but in practice it would be hard to accomplish, even for someone just having one baby. In our modern age of Facebook, email etc. it's easier than ever to send out a pic, so I wouldn't worry about that part.

I'm planning on getting those puppies banged out on my lunch hour at work as soon as the shower is over (September 21) so I don't have to think about them again. The longer you put them off, the harder they get!

My SIL hasn't sent out thank you notes for her wedding yet- it was last November. I know technically you have a year, but I think it becomes less of a priority.

@kyliedaniellexx‌ you should come and be a part of DH's family. MIL sends us a thank you card for everything, even when we go to HER house for dinner. It's awkward.

missnacholover · August 2014

I think right after the shower! I've received some gifts already and have already sent out thank you notes for them. I am keeping a spreadsheet of who gave what and when the note was sent so my baby brain doesn't fail me.

mb314 · August 2014

Writing thank you notes is a pain the rear, although necessary. Get them over with before the baby comes! We got a lot of gifts after the baby was born, and I felt like the thank you notes were hanging over my head for weeks. I hated doing them post partum.

LoR2010 · August 2014

I will be doing them immediately after.... Especially since what seemed like a thank you note fiasco from not jumping in my wedding thank yous fast enough

BkBaby118 · August 2014

I agree with PPs: immediately following the shower (or as gifts come in, if the people will not be attending the shower). My shower is on September 7, and we'll also probably send out a combo holiday card/birth announcement in December.

brooklyngirl18 · August 2014

i voted immediately after because the longer you wait the harder they are. for my wedding shower and wedding thank you's i did like 10 a night, manageable but not overwhelming.

mockingjay1 · August 2014

missnacholover said:

I think right after the shower! I've received some gifts already and have already sent out thank you notes for them. I am keeping a spreadsheet of who gave what and when the note was sent so my baby brain doesn't fail me.

This. I am writing thank you's within 2-4 days of getting gifts, so I don't forget who gave what gifts to me (or to write them at all). This baby is sucking away at my memory! Like PPs have said, even etiquette aside, you'll be exhausted enough after the babies come. The last thing you'll want to work on is a bunch of thank you notes from your shower.

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

missnacholover said:

I think right after the shower! I've received some gifts already and have already sent out thank you notes for them. I am keeping a spreadsheet of who gave what and when the note was sent so my baby brain doesn't fail me.

Great minds! I plan to do what I did with my bridal showers: have someone write down the gifts as I open them along with who gave them and so I can put in a spreadsheet. My brain (even non pregnant) dumps information so fast I wouldn't be able to remember who gave me what 5 minutes after the shower otherwise (unless it was something totally cool -- like a pony!).

tigerpawie · August 2014

I better get cracking on buying the TY cards and writing them. I already got a gift from my mother and need to send her a card soon even though my shower hasn't taken place yet. (She is unable to attend but the gift is quite generous!) Time gets away from me so easily. I really don't want to forget these cards.

MindyAndRyan · August 2014

Like @missnacholover, I already have a spreadsheet for my shower made up, with all names, addresses, gifts received and when a thank you was sent. (I love me some spreadsheets! I make them for all the things! When I got my BFP, I was all about making a pregnancy spreadsheet.)

My shower is September 21. I took off work on the 22nd to organize and get stuff in order, and also to get as many of the thank yous done as possible. Admittedly, I am kind of horrible with thank yous. But I vow to be good this time!

I also want to do the photo Christmas card thing...if I have my shit together enough to get them done while being a FTM with zero prior baby experience.

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