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Flamingemu · August 2014

Let's hear 'em!

Flamingemu · August 2014

I think it is silly to spend all of your adult vacations in Disney or only with family.

I am talking has lots of disposable income and goes on 3+ vacations a year. All Disney, all with family. None just as a couple.

Flamingemu · August 2014

It is gift grabby to only invite me to your kids birthday party and nothing else for the entire year.

Flamingemu · August 2014

I hate parties on Sunday (unless football is involved or it is a long weekend).

smb+jab · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

It is gift grabby to only invite me to your kids birthday party and nothing else for the entire year.

Maybe? Maybe not? Unless they don't throw a lot of parties and this is the one that they have... I guess it depends on what is typical for your group of friends / family. Some people use kids parties as a chance to go all out and have a big party with a children's event included. could this be the case?

For our circle of friends, who started having children later it was typical to have large birthday parties which included the parents friends. Especially when the kids were little, it was more a party for the parents who maybe couldn't get out as much as they use to. We always saw it as a fun time.

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

Flamingemu said:
It is gift grabby to only invite me to your kids birthday party and nothing else for the entire year.

If I want LO to have another $15 toy, I'll buy it for her. Why on earth would someone think their invite is about gifts at this age? It's not like a 12 year old girl invited the kids she never talks to.

Baby shower? Sure, I could agree. It's more intimate and a party all about the gifts.

Flamingemu · August 2014

In our circle of friends - we have parties all the time. One particular 'friend' recently invited us to her kids birthday and we haven't heard from her all year - not a peep. She has had other (non-gift related) events and not invited us. She is only inviting us to the birthday because we a) have a child & b) give good gifts.

I retract my previos blanket statement - I am just irritated that I am going to get attitude when I decline.

Flamingemu · August 2014

BobKat22 said:

It is gift grabby to only invite me to your kids birthday party and nothing else for the entire year.
I was afraid of coming off that way. I just invited everyone I knew with kids because it's going to be a fun party and I thought they'd enjoy it. Hopefully it didn't come off gift grabby, but some people probably took it that way. My sister thinks I should invite everyone that is coming to DD's party to my baby shower in a few weeks. I said no because that is gift grabby. She thinks it's rude that I'm not.

This is cool. We were not invited for a cool party. Just to keep up appearances.

Flamingemu · August 2014

smb+jab said:

Flamingemu said:

It is gift grabby to only invite me to your kids birthday party and nothing else for the entire year.

Maybe? Maybe not? Unless they don't throw a lot of parties and this is the one that they have... I guess it depends on what is typical for your group of friends / family. Some people use kids parties as a chance to go all out and have a big party with a children's event included. could this be the case?

You are absolutely right - depends on the group. Abnormal for our group. Lots of events, we only get invited to the gifty ones to bolster the numbers.

Flamingemu · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

It is gift grabby to only invite me to your kids birthday party and nothing else for the entire year.
If I want LO to have another $15 toy, I'll buy it for her. Why on earth would someone think their invite is about gifts at this age? It's not like a 12 year old girl invited the kids she never talks to. Baby shower? Sure, I could agree. It's more intimate and a party all about the gifts.

And this is why our guest list is small!

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

I was told it's rude to request no gifts in the wrong setting. People like to give gifts. I think it would be acceptable to note no gifts please if the party is freaking huge, but inappropriate for my tiny intimate party.

I didn't want gifts for my wedding or first child. Apparently my decision to forego the baby shower really upset a lot of people. I figured I had the money to buy my own stuff, and that it would be rude to have a shower. People felt pushed away and excluded by me.

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

Dang I actually have one! At a casual lunch of say, 4, if three plates are delivered and the fourth is told it will be a couple minutes, that person should tell everyone to please start their meals. Especially if anyone has a hot plate.

Eta: and ESPECIALLY if that person is a male and there is a female at the table with a hot plate.

MRoxy0628 · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:
Dang I actually have one! At a casual lunch of say, 4, if three plates are delivered and the fourth is told it will be a couple minutes, that person should tell everyone to please start their meals. Especially if anyone has a hot plate.

Eta: and ESPECIALLY if that person is a male and there is a female at the table with a hot plate.

When waiting for other people's food to arrive, I don't think I've ever had someone NOT say, go ahead and start without me.

Maybe he isn't up on etiquette or he didn't notice you all were waiting?

smb+jab · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Dang I actually have one! At a casual lunch of say, 4, if three plates are delivered and the fourth is told it will be a couple minutes, that person should tell everyone to please start their meals. Especially if anyone has a hot plate. Eta: and ESPECIALLY if that person is a male and there is a female at the table with a hot plate.

That seems to be the polite thing to do.

especially if one of the women is pregnant (although you might not have told people yet) but still! when i was pregnant i would have eaten my left arm at meal time. i was always starving!!!

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

The guy definitely knew. It was awkward. He was late 20s, so maybe he didn't know what to do.

UO: My jokes about my dog dying are hilarious. They in no way indicate that I'm a bad pet owner nor do I really want him to die. I'm guessing anyone who gets all wadded up about a spouse joking about their "next" husband or wife will be on the other side of my UO

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

tinyhumantoe said:
Dang I actually have one! At a casual lunch of say, 4, if three plates are delivered and the fourth is told it will be a couple minutes, that person should tell everyone to please start their meals. Especially if anyone has a hot plate.

Eta: and ESPECIALLY if that person is a male and there is a female at the table with a hot plate.
When waiting for other people's food to arrive, I don't think I've ever had someone NOT say, go ahead and start without me.

Maybe he isn't up on etiquette or he didn't notice you all were waiting?

I've been around several who didn't say to start, and I always make a harsh judgement about the person. I can't help it.

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

Middle parts don't look good on 80% of women.

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

If you have big (eta I meant very full) eyebrows and don't care to wax/pluck, more power to you. But maybe take a pair of scissors and trim the whispy, out of line, "spider legs" that are outliers to the main brow.

Stasi · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

Middle parts don't look good on 80% of women.

I'm always jealous of women who can rock the middle part...the Kardashians do, but it's because they don't have giant forheads...

Flamingemu · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

The guy definitely knew. It was awkward. He was late 20s, so maybe he didn't know what to do. UO: My jokes about my dog dying are hilarious. They in no way indicate that I'm a bad pet owner nor do I really want him to die. I'm guessing anyone who gets all wadded up about a spouse joking about their "next" husband or wife will be on the other side of my UO

What did happen to Apple? She briefly came back and got scraed away again?

Kissty · August 2014

This really isn't an UO but I'll put it here anyway... We went to a restaurant similar to Hooters. Though they wore smaller "uniforms". I've never had a problem with women making money with their bodies. We used to go to topless clubs quite often. After eating at this restaurant all I could think was Thank god I have a son and not a daughter. I feel really hypocritical about this.

hmp1 · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

It is gift grabby to only invite me to your kids birthday party and nothing else for the entire year.

This entirely depends on the relationship. I only invite the kids at daycare to birthday parties for the most part. A couple we have done other things with but for the most part, only parties.

hmp1 · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

In our circle of friends - we have parties all the time. One particular 'friend' recently invited us to her kids birthday and we haven't heard from her all year - not a peep. She has had other (non-gift related) events and not invited us. She is only inviting us to the birthday because we a) have a child & b) give good gifts.

I retract my previos blanket statement - I am just irritated that I am going to get attitude when I decline.

We also don't have a ton of friends here so we stretched the invite list for Leo's first birthday in order to have a fun party with people. It had zero to do with gifts but did have a lot to do with people having kids. All the kids had a blast. I attend kid parties so my kids can have a couple hours of fun, not so I can have fun. If I happen to like the other parents, that is a bonus.

hmp1 · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I was told it's rude to request no gifts in the wrong setting. People like to give gifts. I think it would be acceptable to note no gifts please if the party is freaking huge, but inappropriate for my tiny intimate party. I didn't want gifts for my wedding or first child. Apparently my decision to forego the baby shower really upset a lot of people. I figured I had the money to buy my own stuff, and that it would be rude to have a shower. People felt pushed away and excluded by me.

I have this internal struggle all the time. I agreed to a small wedding and baby shower (for James) but it always makes me uncomfortable. I absolutely love that my bff still sends me a birthday present but it is different to get a package on my door out of the blue than have a party hosted in your honor.

Also, we requested no gifts for James' first birthday because we flew back to TX for it and didn't want to deal with getting them back home. Everyone still brought a gift.

hmp1 · August 2014

MRoxy0628 said:

Dang I actually have one! At a casual lunch of say, 4, if three plates are delivered and the fourth is told it will be a couple minutes, that person should tell everyone to please start their meals. Especially if anyone has a hot plate. Eta: and ESPECIALLY if that person is a male and there is a female at the table with a hot plate.
When waiting for other people's food to arrive, I don't think I've ever had someone NOT say, go ahead and start without me. Maybe he isn't up on etiquette or he didn't notice you all were waiting?

I very rarely go ahead and eat unless the kitchen messed up and it will be a bit, but I have never been in a situation when someone didn't tell us to go ahead.

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

I think as a pet owner, you owe it to your pet to at least try to figure out if something is wrong before shipping them off to the humane society.

This brought to you by a friend who got rid of her cat yesterday after she saw him pee on her kitchen floor. She called the vet who said it was probably a reaction to stress and there was this, that, and the other thing they could do. She took him to the humane society instead.

As someone who has been dealing with a cat peeing in the same fricking spot in the dining room for almost 5 months and has finally been almost a month pee free, it's annoying to me.

MRoxy0628 · August 2014

MarisaKathleen said:
I think as a pet owner, you owe it to your pet to at least try to figure out if something is wrong before shipping them off to the humane society.

This brought to you by a friend who got rid of her cat yesterday after she saw him pee on her kitchen floor. She called the vet who said it was probably a reaction to stress and there was this, that, and the other thing they could do. She took him to the humane society instead.

As someone who has been dealing with a cat peeing in the same fricking spot in the dining room for almost 5 months and has finally been almost a month pee free, it's annoying to me.

Unless there's more going on that she didn't share, I think she's a shitty person. Giving your pet away and knowing they could possibly be put down is heartless. Again, unless there are more serious circumstances, eg way bigger than your cat peeing on the floor once.

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

Also, it's 9:54am and I want to eat my lunch. I'm starving.

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

@MRoxy0628, her vet mentioned cat prozac and calming treats (what worked for us) and said that he could do tests to rule out kidney infections, etc. and she said she doesn't want to spend the money on it.

Her DH said that he can't deal with having a cat (that he didn't want in the first place) that has behavior problems, so it would be best to get rid of him.

hmp1 · August 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

Also, it's 9:54am and I want to eat my lunch. I'm starving.

That was me yesterday. I told myself that some lunch places open at 10:30 so that was an acceptable time to eat. Then I got busy and made it all the way until 11!

MommaP12 · August 2014

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Also, it's 9:54am and I want to eat my lunch. I'm starving.

That was me yesterday. I told myself that some lunch places open at 10:30 so that was an acceptable time to eat. Then I got busy and made it all the way until 11!

This is me today. 10:20 here and I'm holding strong, LOL.

Kissty · August 2014

MommaP12 said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Also, it's 9:54am and I want to eat my lunch. I'm starving.

That was me yesterday. I told myself that some lunch places open at 10:30 so that was an acceptable time to eat. Then I got busy and made it all the way until 11!

This is me today. 10:20 here and I'm holding strong, LOL.

Congrats on holding strong! I had a small bag of Chex Mix at 9:45

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

Kissty said:

MommaP12 said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Also, it's 9:54am and I want to eat my lunch. I'm starving.

That was me yesterday. I told myself that some lunch places open at 10:30 so that was an acceptable time to eat. Then I got busy and made it all the way until 11!

This is me today. 10:20 here and I'm holding strong, LOL.

Congrats on holding strong! I had a small bag of Chex Mix at 9:45

I had an apple. It did nothing to satisfy my hunger.

jenndub · August 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

Kissty said:

MommaP12 said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Also, it's 9:54am and I want to eat my lunch. I'm starving.

That was me yesterday. I told myself that some lunch places open at 10:30 so that was an acceptable time to eat. Then I got busy and made it all the way until 11!

This is me today. 10:20 here and I'm holding strong, LOL.

Congrats on holding strong! I had a small bag of Chex Mix at 9:45

I had an apple. It did nothing to satisfy my hunger.

I bring a lunch to work just so that I can eat around 9:30 or 10. And then I go pick up lunch around 12-1. No one else is double lunching it?!

kdsmith43 · August 2014

MarisaKathleen said:

@MRoxy0628, her vet mentioned cat prozac and calming treats (what worked for us) and said that he could do tests to rule out kidney infections, etc. and she said she doesn't want to spend the money on it.

Her DH said that he can't deal with having a cat (that he didn't want in the first place) that has behavior problems, so it would be best to get rid of him.

I was going to ask you what helped. What kind of treats did you find, and where did you get them?

jenndub · August 2014

@BobKat22 I'm sorry that you're feeling that way. When I was younger, my dad went through a lot of depression and anxiety issues. For some reason, one of the things that was driving him over the edge was our dog. We ended up giving him to my best friend, that way my dad didn't have to deal with him and we could still see the dog all of the time. Do you have any friends that might be willing to take your dogs temporarily or possibly forever? I'm not cool with people that just get rid of their pets because they're a nuisance or too much responsibility. But I think that if it's a mental health issue, it's different. Good luck with whatever you decide and I hope you find a way to calm your mind.

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

harti09 said:

Grocery shopping is not a group event. If your party involves 4 or more free ranging people, you are most likely in everyone's way.

I wish I could like this 1,000 times.

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

kdsmith43 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

@MRoxy0628, her vet mentioned cat prozac and calming treats (what worked for us) and said that he could do tests to rule out kidney infections, etc. and she said she doesn't want to spend the money on it.

Her DH said that he can't deal with having a cat (that he didn't want in the first place) that has behavior problems, so it would be best to get rid of him.

I was going to ask you what helped. What kind of treats did you find, and where did you get them?

@kdsmith43https://www.amazon.com/Pet-Naturals-Calming-count-1-11oz/dp/B0011DHJ2W/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1408638528&sr=8-1&keywords=calming+treats+for+cats

These are the treats we went with. She gets 1 a day. We did the cat prozac for 2 weeks and it was at the point where she wouldn't come out because she didn't trust us, so we stopped. She hasn't peed anywhere since!! I don't know what the deal with the treats is, but they've been a lifesaver for us. I'm still keeping the bottle of cat prozac just in case we would need to start using it again when the baby gets here. I have no idea what she was "stressed" about, but she's totally back to normal now.

BillyMollyEmmy · August 2014

I have one today:

When someone says something is "meant to be" or "God has a plan" or "everything happens for a reason" I want to punch them in the fucking head.

smb+jab · August 2014

jenndub said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Kissty said:

MommaP12 said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

Also, it's 9:54am and I want to eat my lunch. I'm starving.

That was me yesterday. I told myself that some lunch places open at 10:30 so that was an acceptable time to eat. Then I got busy and made it all the way until 11!

This is me today. 10:20 here and I'm holding strong, LOL.

Congrats on holding strong! I had a small bag of Chex Mix at 9:45

I had an apple. It did nothing to satisfy my hunger.

I bring a lunch to work just so that I can eat around 9:30 or 10. And then I go pick up lunch around 12-1. No one else is double lunching it?!

I eat two breakfasts - my second breakfast (or snack) is at your first lunchtime

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

BillyMollyEmmy said:

I have one today:

When someone says something is "meant to be" or "God has a plan" or "everything happens for a reason" I want to punch them in the fucking head.

Yup.

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