C-Section Stress rant

makaelashook2 · August 2014

I am 32 weeks pregnant. My baby is still breeched. I'm aware that he's still got time to turn; but with me being only 5'0" and petite... I'm worried that I'm going to end up having a c section. Its not the surgery I'm worried about... its recovery.
I'm a very independent person. My hubby gets to stay home one week after the baby is born but I'll need the help after he goes back to work. That's where the problem is...
I want the bonding time with my LO with no interruptions. And having someone there to have to help me take care of him and my dog just stresses me out...
Rant over.

Emerald27 · August 2014

If you're really stressed that LO is head up, make an appt to see a chiropractor who is Webster certified. I'm 32 weeks this week and have my first chiro appt tonight.

It's helpful for hip pain anyway, and definitely good for overall alignment. If it loosens you up enough to help LO turn, maybe it will reduce your anxiety a bit.

pnwlover12 · August 2014

I know I'm not a doctor, but I don't understand how being petite = automatic csec..I'm not trying to give you a hard time OP, I just wouldn't borrow the worry of a csection until you get to that point.

As for the needing help after your H returns to work, I think most people are in that boat. My H probably won't even take a full week off, and I have a dog and a 3 yr old. You do your best, and you figure it out. The dog can wait for a walk until your H gets home. Focus on you and your baby.

Jbunny100 · August 2014

I understand being independent, but trust me, you will want someone to help you out if you do have one. Don't stress about having a CS. The main thing is to get your LO out healthy/safely. I really didn't want to have a CS with DS, but his heart rate kept dropping and that was the only solution to ensure he was safe. Recovery varies person to person. It won't interrupt any bonding time having someone help you out. Also, like an earlier post, you will not want to walk the dog.

I had a friend who was adamant about not wanting anyone to help, but as the time got closer she arranged for her mom to come about a week afterwards and she was SOOOOO happy she did.

Also, petite does not = CS. I have a friend who isn't even 5' and she had a vag delivery just fine.

sjb2419 · August 2014

I had a cs with Ds, and I was stubborn and tried to be super independent during my recovery and ended up regretting it. IF you do end up having one, appreciate the help and take it when you need it. Like pp said, you'll still be able to have plenty of bonding time with your LO. You'll have restrictions, but not to the point where someone has to be with you every second of every day. I wouldn't stress yet, though. It's still super early.

ADH0906 · August 2014

Just wanted to throw out that my 4'11', 90 lb sister had 3 successful vaginal births. It can be done!

Saragoeswest · August 2014

Yikes! I am right under 5 ft. and you kinda scared me for a second. But our petite bodies are more than capable of pushing out babies. You still have time and baby has room to turn, even if it doesn't feel like it.

Justabean3 · August 2014

There is no reason a petite frame can't have a vaginal birth

If you in fact had an issue due to size you are just as likely to have a problem tall. It has to do with tilt and pliability for "narrow/shallow pelvis". This problem is also actually really uncommon and genetic or nutritional based.

The baby position of course is completely different but you have plenty of time for baby to move into position

Having said that. I had 2 sections already as cs was not hard on me. It has a lot to do with moving around as fast as they will let you, not laying down too long and not over doing it.

ariel06 · August 2014

Honestly my c/s recovery was way easier in the two weeks than my vaginal delivery. DH had to be back at work within a week and a really didn't need any help. If anything, could you just pay someone to come walk the dog?

That said, I really didn't like being alone in the first couple weeks, so helpful visitors were nice. Anyone who was willing to come hold DS1 so I could eat, shower, ect. was welcome for a short visit.

pnwlover12 · August 2014

theresat858 said:
I'm confused as to why OP is stressing about a C-section when baby's position doesn't matter at all for at least a few more weeks - they can continue to flip up and down until 34-36 weeks... and being petite should have nothing to do with the fact that your pelvis was designed to birth a baby.

This. 100%

Liss1481 · August 2014

I think OP is afraid her baby will run out of room to flip out of breech position because she's petite. You can always check out Spinning Babies to try and get baby into position, but even with being petite, there's still lots of time to flip back and forth.

Eastie156 · August 2014

This is a TLDR;

Op, LO is currently breech (Frank breech) and has been for months. I started chiropractic last week and intend to start acupuncture as well. I don't know if your frame has anything to do with the baby turning or not or trouble deliveringt-I'm an average frame but currently plus size and I had some trouble pushing DS out during delivery plus baby #2 is breech and hasn't turned yet. It's person to person, not about your frame size per se. Also there is time for the baby to move into a different position, but stressing about it isn't going to help at all, you should try to do something about it (not to sound snarky.

I'd start lining up chiropractic and acupuncture ASAP if you are concerned about a c/s. Also look at the spinning babies site.

Eastie156 · August 2014

Liss1481 said:
I think OP is afraid her baby will run out of room to flip out of breech position because she's petite. You can always check out Spinning Babies to try and get baby into position, but even with being petite, there's still lots of time to flip back and forth.

Op will run out of room closer to 36 weeks because of baby's size , not because she's petite, necessarily. I agree she does have time and there are a number of things that she can go to help herself.

makaelashook2 · August 2014

theresat858 said:
I'm confused as to why OP is stressing about a C-section when baby's position doesn't matter at all for at least a few more weeks - they can continue to flip up and down until 34-36 weeks... and being petite should have nothing to do with the fact that your pelvis was designed to birth a baby.

I was informed by my MW that 75% of babies are already turned by 32 weeks.And as for being petite, that really comes from other peoples opinions on my ability to give birth vaginally. I'm awAre of pelvis size etc...its just a lot of people have made comments about a possible c section. (Which of none were doctors) but being a ftm, every horror story told to you will freak you out.

Emerald27 · August 2014

makaelashook2 said:

theresat858 said:
I'm confused as to why OP is stressing about a C-section when baby's position doesn't matter at all for at least a few more weeks - they can continue to flip up and down until 34-36 weeks... and being petite should have nothing to do with the fact that your pelvis was designed to birth a baby.
I was informed by my MW that 75% of babies are already turned by 32 weeks.And as for being petite, that really comes from other peoples opinions on my ability to give birth vaginally. I'm awAre of pelvis size etc...its just a lot of people have made comments about a possible c section. (Which of none were doctors) but being a ftm, every horror story told to you will freak you out.

Generally, a woman's body will grow a baby that is an appropriate size for her pelvis to deliver. Baby is born early in brain development for just this reason (whereas other mammals are born able to walk and in some ways fend for themselves), because any longer in the womb and baby's head would be too large!

Try not to listen to ignorant and clueless people (and tell them to shut up!). Trust your body to grow a baby that is the right size for your body to deliver. Petite women are just as capable and strong as taller and larger women.

SusieBW · August 2014

ITA with what everyone else has said about it being really early to be concerned about positioning, and that being petite =/= c-section.

But even if you do end up having a c/s, if it makes you feel any better, my c/s recovery was a piece of cake. DH was home with me for less than a week, and then my mom came over during the day for the following week, but then I was on my own with a newborn and a psycho dog, and we did just fine. Obviously, everyone is different, but I just wanted to let you know that it's not all horror stories! Do some more research about c/s and recovery and talk to your doctor about this stuff. The best defense to the crazy things people will tell you is education and information.

Roseypants · August 2014

A c-section really isn't all that bad. This will be my second, and I'm thankful for it. I am probably one of the very few people out there that would prefer a c-section lol. Recovery will suck for the the first week, but after that you will be fine. Like you said, you still have plenty of time for baby to move

jmw222 · August 2014

Agree with PP's about c/s recovery. This will be my 3rd (1st was emergency, 2nd was failed VBAC, this one scheduled). I had easy days, harder nights. But DH was home at night to help me in and out of bed. By DS's 2nd week, we were out with our DD doing normal summer family stuff. But, you are still early enough in your pregnancy where things can change, so do a little research on c/s's and recovery but know it may not be a necessity just yet.

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