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DoubleUp8 · August 2014

((Hugs)) I am so sorry you are going through this. I am sorry for your family's loss. I know your husband must be really hurting right now, but that is never an excuse to threaten people you love. I hope he gets help and you and LO stay safe!

missnacholover · August 2014

You said his brother passed suddenly... it sounds like he is in shock and maybe denial. I really hope that he gives up drinking so he can properly process his feelings. Pushing them away and denying them is doing himself a great disservice.

You're doing the right thing for him and you. And your baby. *hugs*

MrsTuna08 · August 2014

I am so sorry that you have to deal with this awful situation. It sounds like you are absolutely taking the right steps. No sane person would blame you for keeping you and your LO safe. So many ((hugs)) to you as you continue to work through this.

wallygirl · August 2014

I don't have any advice but wanted to say I'll be thinking of you ans praying for all of you.

dr_pr · August 2014

My heart is breaking for all of you. The ladies above have covered everything I would tell you, but I wanted you to know that you did the right thing, and he needs to get some help before he can ever hope to get you and the baby back. Lots of ((hugs)) and T&Ps to you.

shan24 · August 2014

I'm so sorry. My ex-husband used alcohol as a way to deal with the grief of the sudden passing of his best friend. It's a tough situation to be in and very lonely. Please know that you did the right thing in getting away. It's better to help him help himself from a distance, where you know you and LO are safe.

Hugs.

Sarahbeth612 · August 2014

I hate that you are going through this

Maybe some time apart will help him clear his head and come to his senses. If he continues with hurtful words and messages, continue to remind him you love him and want a healthy relationship with him. I can't imagine how hard this is on both of you...hugs

carafern · August 2014

What a terrible situation. PPs have covered it but I'll reiterate that you're doing the right thing. Your LO is lucky to have such a strong mama. I hope your DH finds some peace and that it all works out for your family. Hugs to you.

BrittG13 · August 2014

Hang in there mama! Prayers and Hugs!

manders9479 · August 2014

I am so sorry you are going through this, please know you have made the right decision for you and your baby. Hopefully with some time alone your husband will get the help he needs and realize what he could be losing. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

hiketheworld · August 2014

I'm not a counselor, but I am an alcoholic who has been sober for a decade. You made the right decision to get out of that environment. It is safer for you and your baby. Alcoholics can be remarkably manipulative and selfish people and rarely quit drinking until they are "ready." Take away the liquor and he will just drink more beer to get the same effect. I'm not saying your DH is or isn't an alcoholic but regardless his drinking is out of control and it isn't safe for you to be there now. I've known so so many alcoholics who have done terrible things when they were drinking- it's like a monster possesses the real you. You cant trust him when he is in this state. Don't go back until the situation is safe and under control.

I would recommend both individual and marriage counseling. Al-anon can be a great resource as well, those meetings are free an you will likely find a great group of people who you can relate to there. I'm sorry you are going through this, but you are doing the right thing. Just keep taking the next right step for you and your baby.

kfo22 · August 2014

T&Ps. I can't imagine being in this situation. Hopefully he comes out of his grief with a healthy perspective. You are strong!

musicalmommy3 · August 2014

I feel absolutely awful after reading this. You are now a mom so have to put yor babe first. I hope you find peace in your decision and I hope your hubby gets help so you can work through this. Lots of love being sent your way.

sAAmFam · August 2014

I'm praying for you. I left my sons dad when I was 3 months because he has a drinking problem. My son is 10. Dad continues to drink, lost his great job, ruined his life and moved to Alabama. Doesn't think he does or has done anything wrong. I gave up. If they aren't aware they have a problem they can't change. It was nice to find baby bottles and beer bottles sitting side by side when I picked my son up one day.

jlove253 · August 2014

I am so so sorry to read this. I'm guessing he doesn't really want a divorce. You did the right thing to keep you and baby safe. And really, you did the right thing for him too- you showed him that what he's doing has consequences. Hopefully there is someone who can talk to your husband about what he's going through. Until he talks about it it's going tone hard for him to heal. I'm so terribly sorry. If you delete your post please just remember that you are in my prayers. (I was going to pm you but you said he may log into your account and I don't want to make things difficult for you, but keep us posted in the ticker change if you can!)

HappyToBeHere · August 2014

So many thoughts and prayers headed your way. ((hugs)).

Ineedmorecoffee · August 2014

oh my gosh

i am so so sorry you are going through this. I hope he gets some serious help, realizes what he is doing before it is too late. We are all here for you.

lovingaddi · August 2014

I am so so sorry you are going through this! My DH is also a heavy drinker and although he isn't physical...the verbal aspect is more then enough. You are so strong for leaving, even if it is just for a short while. I pray that he gets the help he needs, you & your lo deserve 110%! If you need anything, even just to vent, please don't hesitate to message me.

sending lots of love & hugs your way!

rox825 · August 2014

I'm so sorry. I hope that he is willing to accept some help sooner than later and that this ends up being a bump in the road for your marriage vs ending in divorce. But it sounds like you made the right decision leaving. T&P to you.

TC0514 · August 2014

I'm so sorry your going through this. I do feel for your husband as well. I can't imagine the pain he must be feeling. However , he does not have the right to be taking it out on you. Grief is a hard hard thing to go through and I pray he finds a better way to deal with it than the alcohol. Hang in there sweetie!!!! (Hugs)

kaimee27 · August 2014

I am so sorry that you are going through this! I agree with PP-you are definitely doing the right thing for yourself and your child, but also for your husband. Not only do you need to make sure that you're safe, but it would also be harmful for your child to be raised in that sort of environment-thinking that his behavior is normal or okay when it's not. Whether or not your husband changes is up to him-please don't let him manipulate him into making you think that it is your responsibility or make you feel guilty about doing what is right for you and your child. You are a strong and brave woman. You will all be in my prayers!

DisneyDee1984 · August 2014

The other ladies seem to have covered everything I was going to say. You're doing an amazing job as a mother by protecting yourself and that LO. I'm sending lots of thoughts and prayers, and if I can do anything please let me know!

jessa1228 · August 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this :-(

sweetbabyrahe · August 2014

Ditto to pp. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this and I wish I had better advice for you. You are going to be an amazing mama no matter what because you are already protecting that LO no matter how hard it is. Hugs, thoughts , and prayers to you .

Sunflowermommy33 · August 2014

Thinking of you sugar..

k1911 · August 2014

Omg. You are SO strong for leaving. It's one thing to threaten it, but an entirely different thing to actually go through with it, and you did it. That's showing him you will NOT put up with that and it's up to him to change if he wants you and baby in his life. He needs to get help if this is how he handles terrible situations. I feel for you hun. Stay strong mama. These ladies gave you some awesome advice.

LittleLadyAKS · August 2014

I am so sorry for your loss and so sorry to hear you're having to deal with this. You absolutely did what was right and I'm glad you and your baby are safe. I'll be thinking of you and hoping things turn around for you and your husband soon!

ElinJ · August 2014

I don't know what to say other than I am sorry for your situation, and you are in my thoughts.

Mawilliams97 · August 2014

Praying for you both!

hjenni · August 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this :-(. My heart hurts for you both. You did the right thing. You're being such a good mom already! Staying would not have helped you or your H. Stay strong girl!

creativesoul83 · August 2014

I am sorry to read your going through this and that he is taken it so hard that it has negatively impacted your relationship and safety. I wish I had advice this is a sad situation for all of you involved. So I am going to pray for you and your family.

shindylahoe · August 2014

It sounds like you absolutely did the right thing. You are so strong and have awesome safe boundaries for you and your baby, and even for your husband!

I'm sure none of this is easy. I hope he can come around soon and get help!

smboswell1 · August 2014

So much love for you. You are in my prayers. I do not have any advice. My dad went through a rough patch after we all moved out. It was hard seeing him so drunk. I am so sorry this is happening. We love you!

crystaldh · August 2014

That is so rough. It sounds like you made the right decision. Would your husband be willing to go for counseling? If this is just a rough patch for him, maybe the relationship can still be salvaged that way? I hope time brings healing for everyone involved. Hugs.

Kristy774 · August 2014

I just wanted to send thoughts prayers and hugs @Allyvaughan86‌

Nichole7041 · August 2014

I don't know what type of person your husband is but if the drinking and anger is unusual then I would try to see his side. Props for putting baby first and getting out of the situation but don't forget to see his side. He lost a brother and now a wife and child and has no one. You did the right thing I just reccomend being there for him too if you think there's still hope.
Best of luck you will be in my prayers. I'd definitely try marriage counciling if he's willing.

Knottie1454621357 · August 2014

Hugs to you, praying for you.

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