Ive never posted on here and i havenet even lurked. Probably should have but i dont have a lot of time. Sorry!
This is baby number 4 for me! Yay!
My 1st is 7 (boy)
2nd is 5 (girl)
3rd is 1.5 (girl)
4th is a boy.
Here's the question: my family wants to have a shower for this one since it is a boy and I haven't had a boy in 7 years. My shower background is as follows: I've only had one. They threw me the one for my 1st son and that was it and that was fine. Neither of the girls had showers and I ASSuMED it was because they were #s 2 and 3! Well here we are on 4 and they want another shower.
I have politely said it's not necessary but it seems I'm not getting out of it. I mean sure I'm "excited " about all my family being together but there's a few reasons I don't want another shower. It's my FOURTH baby, I hate being the center of attention, and it's weird that only my boys get showers.... lol
So question is, do I suck it up and roll with it or get a little more demanding on the "no shower" thing?
Re: Not sure WHAT I want:
I mean, 4 kids in, youngest being 1.5, it just seems silly.
The only justification I have for them is I only have 1 or 2 close friends so it IS just family that'd go.
I will reiterate my no though. And for the record, so I don't look like a tacky crazy person, I felt no the whole time. I just needed confirmation.
Tell them politely, but firmly, no. Besides the obvious etiquette breach, I think it is insulting to your girls.
Showers are for FTMs. If people want to buy you presents, they'll buy them without a shower invitation.
I'll add that IMO, the ONLY exception to the one shower rule is if it's the first child for the father. My cousin's wife had a child from a previous relationship and my family had a shower for her when she was pregnant with my cousin's daughter.