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  • jesuisfatigueejesuisfatiguee member
    edited August 2014
    TyrannosaurusLex said:
    While it's really hard to do in front of people, particularly in public, sometimes it's quite effective to just get down to a crouch, hold them and hug them and repeat their feelings to them. "You don't want to eat anymore. You're done eating. I hear you. I hear you saying you're done eating. You told me you don't want any more and I'm listening to your words. You're all done." Then, when they feel like they've been heard, you can negotiate. "You can be done eating and sit close to grandma in the booth. Everyone else is going to eat until they are full but you can be done and sit." 
    This sort of method works really well with DS right now, though he is only 17-ish months. He doesn't like to be hugged or held during a freak out, but talking to him about how he's feeling really helps. Which is weird because, like, how can he possibly know what I'm saying? lol

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  • thebanichthebanich member
    TyrannosaurusLex said:
    3 year old are especially hard because they can tell us a lot of things, so we don't always realize that they're also pretty limited in expressing themselves. She might have a lot more feelings inside than she is capable of expressing verbally and that could be making her frustrated. I like @PrivacyWanted‌'s suggestions of a stress ball for physical aggression and a meditation picture for helping her calm down, those are great ideas. I think it sounds like you're doing a really great job and she's just having some frustrations about being 3. Eta posted too soon

    Thanks so much for your input (and everyone else!)  It is really nice to know that we are not alone and that this too shall pass. I'll look for a stress ball and see if the image idea will work with her.

    I am going to have to buy wine on the way home though. She never napped and  DH is going to a show tonight. *weeps*
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  • secretsoutsecretsout member
    NellyBluth said:
    Ok, I'm ready for it to be boots weather. My new ones came today. I want to wear them.
    I wanna see them.


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  • littlestjerrylittlestjerry member
    I have the same experience with DS @thebanich‌. I wonder all the time if he has a behavioral or sensory issue or is just 3 (well, almost 3). The meltdowns are tremendous and so frequent. I haven't found what calms him down yet, still working on that...but misery loves company right?



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  • thebanichthebanich member
    littlestjerry said:
    I have the same experience with DS @thebanich‌. I wonder all the time if he has a behavioral or sensory issue or is just 3 (well, almost 3). The meltdowns are tremendous and so frequent. I haven't found what calms him down yet, still working on that...but misery loves company right?

    Perhaps we can just put them in a room together and they can scream it out? Probably should be a padded room.

    Or we can hide in the padded room and drink?
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  • secretsoutsecretsout member
    I've finally realized that popcorn makes my stomach hurt.  A lot.  This is really, really sad news, but I think I'm going to have to give it up.

    Popcorn is one of my most favorite things.


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  • jesuisfatigueejesuisfatiguee member
    Oh, so this is a cakepop. Interesting. 



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  • jesuisfatigueejesuisfatiguee member
    luxannie said:
    Cake pop = mushed up ball of moist cake. And ain't nothin wrong with that.
    Covered in fondant. 



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  • dashofrealitydashofreality member
    shinyredsmartazz said:
    @shinyredsmartazz‌ not sure if it's any consolation but I was there, DD went from 6.5 to 5.6 lbs and back in the hospital for jaundice. It sucked and I was BFing so I always had to get up. It was stressful but we made it. Can you get some help? Good news was that she made up for the sucky 2 months by sleeping 12 hours at 6.5 months. Hope you get through with as little pain as possible.
    @dashofreality she said 2 hours period, so I'm thinking we have to do it at night too. This is causing me serious anxiety! I hate it, because I want to do whatever I can for him, but I am already so exhausted at this point that this news was just a complete downer. I just have this feeling he's not going to sleep in those two hours either. I'm hoping he gains enough weight in the next week that she changes this when we see her next Monday.

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  • MrsT0514MrsT0514 member
    @shinyredsmartazz‌ sorry you guys are struggling. I remember those dAys with DS so vividly. He was MPI and it took us the whole first 6wks of his life to get the formula right...but once we got him on the right formula, things got so much easier.

    I agree with others' advice to take any help you can get and sleep in shifts with your DH or whoever else you have around help. Thats what we did. I'd take the early shift (like 8 or 9pm til about 2ish), while dh took cAre of the 11pm/midnight feeding, then he slept while I got up to do MOTN feedings. It was tough, and we didnt see much of each other, but that stretch of sleep really makes a difference. Best of luck!!
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