POLL - what is freaking you out the most about having your baby?

missnacholover · August 2014

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

I voted money, but breastfeeding twins is definitely right up there. Especially if I have to go back to work and pump (hence the money portion being bumped a little higher).

KMW08 · August 2014

I chose breastfeeding. All of the unknowns about it make me nervous. Like, how will my supply be? How does pumping work (not the obvious answer of it pulls milk LOL)? How do you know when to feed off the breast vs pump the milk? How will pumping at work go for me? How/when do you switch up human nipple to bottle?

I'm sure some of these questions will be answered at the breastfeeding class I signed up for and a lot of it is learn as you go, but breastfeeding is by the far the most stressful thing on my mind.

missnacholover · August 2014

Kllopez1221 said:

Um Money, money and money. Praying (I don't pray, see Monday Bitchfest) that DH gets this new job, so I can stay home and not fork out half of my measly monthly income for someone else to watch my son.

But second is, a baby is coming out of my vachina in 3 months....

Good luck to your DH!!!

wildflower75 · August 2014

Money... but more so than that is going from one to two under two!!! Praying for a smooth transition!

missnacholover · August 2014

Kllopez1221 said:

missnacholover said:

Kllopez1221 said:

Um Money, money and money. Praying (I don't pray, see Monday Bitchfest) that DH gets this new job, so I can stay home and not fork out half of my measly monthly income for someone else to watch my son.

But second is, a baby is coming out of my vachina in 3 months....

Good luck to your DH!!!

Thanks! Can you pray for him

My catholic ass will pray for him while I'm fucking my DH doggy style 3x/day.

mexinugget · August 2014

I'm a special snowflake. As a second time mom i'm not as concerned with the birth, breastfeeding, sleep patterns etc. Of course every baby is different and just because everything went smooth with ds, except his birth, doesn't mean it will this time. I'm just more relaxed and comfortable this time around, more confident in myself as a mom. My concern is my ds. How will he handle this, will he feel replaced, angry? Will he be gentle with the baby? How will i handle two? Will grocery shopping trips be nightmarish now? I wonder if ds will regress and act out? I'm sure he will, but for how long? Those are my worries this time around.

AnnieRoo13 · August 2014

I voted money, but that's always a worry for me even when it doesn't need to be. We're not frivolous or anything and a lot of people live off a lot less than we do, but I have this fear of not having enough money to live off of. Also, DH may be going on strike early 2015, which would be beyond tough.

If I forget about money, I'm most worried about how our lives will change. On one hand I'm very excited for them to change and for LO to be here, but on the other- how will it change our relationship? Will we be good parents? What will LO be like?

aa98 · August 2014

I was going to go with breastfeeding, but then I saw the name thing, DH and I are both panicked about this, and of course childbirth (though I think I'm in denial there) and you can never have too much money, especially with major baby expenses... so all of it!!!

brooklyngirl18 · August 2014

i voted all of the above! who doesnt need more money?? i'm hoping breastfeeding goes smoothly. im terrified of birthing this baby since DH was 10'10 and my vagina is SCARED. im worried my parents/in-laws will kid nap the baby when im not looking and take off. im much less freaked out than i was in the beginning of my pregnancy but im still really scared. everyone says instincts will kick in but what if they don't? i envision a lot of hysterical outbursts in those first few weeks.

Lilwatz · August 2014

I voted childbirth, but if there had been a how-the-crap-do-I-take-care-of-a-baby-and-not-sleep-enough I would have selected that one. Childbirth is terrifying, but not incredibly long in the scheme of things. Newborn sleep deprivation and no time to take care of yourself can last a bit, so I hear...

JamieK1882 · August 2014

I voted all of the above. Yikes!

musicalmommy3 · August 2014

I voted SS. I am most worried about being a mommy of 2 and showing attention and love to both of my little ones.

With my first I spent a lot of time nursing in bed or on the couch. Can't see myself doing that with a barely 2 year old running around. It will be tricky I'm sure at times.

I also worry DS won't be gentle with the new babe. But I'm sure it will be a learning experience for all of us.

lovingaddi · August 2014

Money...although we can afford a second child...I'm always stressed over the stupid green stuff. Next would be splitting my time between 2 littles. And - of course - the dreaded return to work afterwards.

I didn't go back after DD1 but now that I'm well established at my company...I really don't want to lose that either. boooooo.

Autumnsnow · August 2014

Def money for me since we are going from two incomes to one thanks to redunkulous prices for daycare... I feel like everytime we try to put something aside now something comes up.

clumsyatheart · August 2014

ALL THE THINGS. Getting hate for combo feeding scares me the most now because not much has sunk in yet, plus i had a nightmare about my baby crying in public, not being able to comfort her, and a stranger just taking her away. Sobbbb omg.

lesliegolem · August 2014

MONEY! My husbands insurance tripled and we had a bunch of other crap happen this year so we weren't able to save what we planned. But I'm also nervous about my mother in law. Last time I was in the hospital she overstayed her welcome and kept trying to come into the room while I was in labor. She then tried to come to the house all the time after the baby was born.

She's chilled out now that my daughter is 2...but I'm scared with a new baby she'll be over a lot again or trying to come to the hospital. She was begging my hubby last time "Please I'll just hold her hair while she pushes! or her hand! Just let me in!" Thank god my Dr told her to sit down and be quiet.

mander82 · August 2014

2 things.

Space. Where in hell am I going to put all these baby things??!! I need a bigger house.

Going back to work. I really think I am going to have a hard time with this. I hope I don't.....but I can totally see myself having a major freak out and just breaking down and crying my eyes out for the days leading up to coming back.

sweetbabyrahe · August 2014

I voted SS because like STM pp, my biggest worry is juggling DS with new baby. Wondering how DS will handle it and if I'll be able to find special time for DS. Money and breastfeeding are up there too in my worry book.

mb314 · August 2014

I went with SS. I am most worried about having a toddler and a newborn and having enough time for DS1. Second to that would be money.

soulcupcake · August 2014

I voted money, but it's not related to the baby, though. DH is looking for more work at the moment. The baby won't really cost us extra in monthly expenses, but eventually the extra money will factor in.

erinwithtwins · August 2014

I put names. We can't find anything we both love and we need two. Also freaked out about juggling twins and never leaving my house again

CarrieAnne09 · August 2014

100% childbirth - I can't believe that a baby actually comes out of me. Its the fear of the unknown and what if an epidural doesn't work, what if I tear ALOT, what if? DH and I do well for ourselves so financially I think we're okay. Of course it's going to suck that my income is getting cut into a quarter when I go on EI but we will make due. Breastfeeding is scary and daunting as well - but nothing like the fear of actually getting this baby out somehow....

jac409 · August 2014

SS here. I am terrified of how I will manage two under two. Also, I am worried about how DD will handle the transition. I think she will be a great big sis, but the initial transition may be tough.

rox825 · August 2014

SS- leaving the baby to go back to work. I'm afraid that I'm going to be dreading it so much throughout my maternity leave that it's going to take away from being able to enjoy that time at home, and that when the time comes I'm just going to be a depressed, miserable person. Right now I can't see myself getting to a place where I'm happy or at least content with the arrangement.

kbelle13 · August 2014

Money, but the one thing that has always freaked me about babies/kids is having to take them with me every. single. place I go. I watch my friends who have kids and it seems like such a hassle to tote around a baby everywhere. Oh well, it looks like I will just have to outgrow my laziness.

scarlet3egonias · August 2014

AnnieRoo13 said:

I'm most worried about how our lives will change. On one hand I'm very excited for them to change and for LO to be here, but on the other- how will it change our relationship? Will we be good parents? What will LO be like?

Voted special snowflake. This is what scares me ^^^.

I'll survive the pain - its temporary. I've been broke as hell before, I can survive that too if it happens. I'm not going to beat myself up if I can't breastfeed for some reason. It's the big change in our lives that scares me. Will I suck at this? Will my anxiety be too crazy? Will we lose our old selves? Eeek!

turtles7 · August 2014

Ss here... I'm worried how my body is going to look afterwards. I know this is really vain but I was finally in the best shape of my life before I got Bfp. Just thinking about how long it's going to take to get back to where I was is giving me anxiety.
2) I'm worried about leaving work for three months. I love to work and not being in the office is stressing me out. I've asked if I can work part time while on leave and they said no. I've never been out of the office longer than a week.

hiketheworld · August 2014

SS here. I worry about whether I'm actually ready for this and the impact I know it will have on my life. I love going on long, crazy adventures, traveling internationally to less developed countries and generally being able to live that kind of lifestyle. I know that I can't do that stuff for awhile now and it makes me feel a bit depressed.

carafern · August 2014

AnnieRoo13 said:

I voted money, but that's always a worry for me even when it doesn't need to be. We're not frivolous or anything and a lot of people live off a lot less than we do, but I have this fear of not having enough money to live off of. Also, DH may be going on strike early 2015, which would be beyond tough.
If I forget about money, I'm most worried about how our lives will change. On one hand I'm very excited for them to change and for LO to be here, but on the other- how will it change our relationship? Will we be good parents? What will LO be like?

THis is me. I chose SS because I'm most worried about what the hell am I going to do with a newborn! Ive done lots of reading on childbirth and even BFing (all scary), but am most worried about how DH and I will be as parents, together. I love her to death and appreciate everything she's done for us, but hope I won't be like my mom!

jmichlik · August 2014

I chose grandparents. To be fair I wouldn't quite word it as "freaked out" but I will say that as much as I'm glad both sets of parents are excited about being grandparents, I'm also not looking forward to them all turning into insane people who won't leave us alone. Actually they've already turned into that... but I know it's only getting to get worse, this is the first grandchild but also DH is an only child and I have one sister who doesn't want kids so whatever children we have are it for both sides.

To be fair I could have also selected names, we cannot for the life of us find a name we like and it's not for lack of trying. It isn't even disagreement, like one of us likes a name and the other doesn't, we generally agree that we just don't like anything! People keep asking if we have a name yet and it's getting weird to tell them that we haven't picked one yet...

dr_pr · August 2014

Another SS worried about how DD will be affected, and how I'm possibly going to have enough time/energy for 2 kids.

lincoln79 · August 2014

SS - I am worrying about bonding with a child I didn't carry.

sparklingwhit · August 2014

I selected "all of the above" because truthfully, this all scares me on occasion and I've had freak-outs over each and every one.

In order of scary:
Names - We can't agree on a single one. Like AT ALL! I'm going to ask my doc to name him if we still don't have one in the delivery room.

Grandparents - Well, in-laws in general actually. My parents don't freak me out although I'm sure they freak out DH.

Money - We have plenty. I know this. I am not good with added expenses EVER. Plus we are remodeling our house at the same time. While I know we will be just fine I am still freaking out over it.

Childbirth - Cuz ow.

Breastfeeding - Okay, this isn't really freaking me out. More other people are freaking me out because I am really wishy washy on the subject and am not 100% committed to breastfeeding at all and a lot of folks are just NOT okay with that decision. I've been told everything from "you aren't mature enough for children" to "you obviously don't know what's best for your child" from not only close relatives, but also COMPLETE strangers. I do tell people if they ask though because I don't mind giving my stance on the subject, but PLEASE do not tell me that I am going to be a bad parent because I'm not quick to whip out a boob!!!

mslynn2012 · August 2014

Picked SS. I'm stressing out that I won't get the VBAC we want. With an 18 month DS running around, I don't know how ill deal with a newborn and healing from another CS.

All the rest of the stuff still stresses me out, but not as much as this

FishyMom · August 2014

KMW08 said:
I chose breastfeeding. All of the unknowns about it make me nervous. Like, how will my supply be? How does pumping work (not the obvious answer of it pulls milk LOL)? How do you know when to feed off the breast vs pump the milk? How will pumping at work go for me? How/when do you switch up human nipple to bottle?

I'm sure some of these questions will be answered at the breastfeeding class I signed up for and a lot of it is learn as you go, but breastfeeding is by the far the most stressful thing on my mind.

This pretty much sums it up for me.

CPM13 · August 2014

SS here as well. Terrified of how I will take care of 3 under 2. And how hard it's going to be for DD to adjust to two babies taking her parents attention. I try not to think about it. I get so stressed.

jessa1228 · August 2014

rox825 said:

SS- leaving the baby to go back to work. I'm afraid that I'm going to be dreading it so much throughout my maternity leave that it's going to take away from being able to enjoy that time at home, and that when the time comes I'm just going to be a depressed, miserable person. Right now I can't see myself getting to a place where I'm happy or at least content with the arrangement.

+1. I'm definitely stressing out the most about daycare. I still don't have one lined up. I know I'm running out of time but I just can't bring myself to start looking because I'm absolutely dreading the thought of going back to work after the baby is born.

kimberly_ann81 · August 2014

How my 1 year old will react to having a new baby in the house. He will be 1 year and 5 months when Pumpkin shows up and is a huge mama's boy. He's sitting on my arms right now. Kind of hard to type.

staugustinewedding · August 2014

IndianaMommy08 said:

Literally five minutes ago I was telling DH I'm terrified to have this baby. Like after she's born and we load her into the car seat and the people at the hospital go inside we are on our own?! Like ahhh we are responsible for this little human!

THIS. Also, 1) what kind of mom will I be?! 2) adjusting to work life after maternity leave is over.....