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August 2014 Moms
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Birth of my IUGR baby....
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Tried everything under the sun to get LO out of me via VBAC prior to my scheduled c-section. Ultimately, he entered the world around 2pm on Wednesday and. other than weighing in at 4lb14oz at 39 weeks, he seemed very healthy. We knew that he was growth restricted, we still dont' know why. My placenta was only slightly calcified and the cord was super healthy as was the placenta. My fluid level had been low for the past month, which is why the OB wanted to get him out a bit early.
It was a HUGE surprise to find out that we had a boy, as we were all convinced that it was a small girl. My husband called out the sex in the OR and it took him a couple glances to be certain and believe what he was seeing. He and I were both overjoyed to hear the cries and see great color and movement in our tiny peanut. This pregnancy had been filled with questions regarding the development of our LO and all appeared to be normal.
Upon detailed inspection by the pediatrician, we did find that our son has a double thumb (polydactyl) on his left hand and a sacral dimple that will require a consult with a pediatric neurologist. His AGPAR score was a 9 and he latched immediately once I finally got stitched up and back to the room. My husband had been on edge for the past month, worrying that our child would have some serious developmental delays and not knowing what to expect in the delivery room. The past two days have allowed us both to relax and realize that the issues that he has (that we know about) are easily fixed by surgery and his weight is stable and he looks like he is very capable of catching up to the rest of his peers rather quickly. He is alert and adorable and we love him. He may not be "perfect" by the standards of uniformity and what society expects a baby to look like, but he is perfectly himself and I can't wait to see him thrive.
I want to encourage anyone who faces these worries in their future pregnancies to let go of control and realize that it is our job to love and teach and grow this little person we have made, and we have no control over what he/she looks like or how their bodies function outside of providing a safe and healthy space for their DNA to form their bodies.
I have had a hard time accepting that I didn't do anything to cause my son to be small or have these issues. I am happy to accept responsibility for helping him grow and navigate this world now that he and his cute little self are here in it.
Right now we are waiting for genetic testing to come back to determine if there are any connections to the issues he has or if they are just random events.
It was a HUGE surprise to find out that we had a boy, as we were all convinced that it was a small girl. My husband called out the sex in the OR and it took him a couple glances to be certain and believe what he was seeing. He and I were both overjoyed to hear the cries and see great color and movement in our tiny peanut. This pregnancy had been filled with questions regarding the development of our LO and all appeared to be normal.
Upon detailed inspection by the pediatrician, we did find that our son has a double thumb (polydactyl) on his left hand and a sacral dimple that will require a consult with a pediatric neurologist. His AGPAR score was a 9 and he latched immediately once I finally got stitched up and back to the room. My husband had been on edge for the past month, worrying that our child would have some serious developmental delays and not knowing what to expect in the delivery room. The past two days have allowed us both to relax and realize that the issues that he has (that we know about) are easily fixed by surgery and his weight is stable and he looks like he is very capable of catching up to the rest of his peers rather quickly. He is alert and adorable and we love him. He may not be "perfect" by the standards of uniformity and what society expects a baby to look like, but he is perfectly himself and I can't wait to see him thrive.
I want to encourage anyone who faces these worries in their future pregnancies to let go of control and realize that it is our job to love and teach and grow this little person we have made, and we have no control over what he/she looks like or how their bodies function outside of providing a safe and healthy space for their DNA to form their bodies.
I have had a hard time accepting that I didn't do anything to cause my son to be small or have these issues. I am happy to accept responsibility for helping him grow and navigate this world now that he and his cute little self are here in it.
Right now we are waiting for genetic testing to come back to determine if there are any connections to the issues he has or if they are just random events.
"There is more to us than we know. Perhaps, if we are made to see it just once, for the rest of our lives we will be unwilling to settle for less." - Kurt Hahn, Founder of Outward Bound
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