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Fat and pregnant- apparently it is inconceivable that if be healthy too! *rant*

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Re: Fat and pregnant- apparently it is inconceivable that if be healthy too! *rant*

  • StephanieLBergStephanieLBerg member
    I feel you OP. I can't say that my OB had reacted the same way, because well, I STILL haven't met her yet! Anyway, of the nurse practitioners I have seen, none of them seem concerned about my weight, though theu are happy that I've lost 26lbs so far.

    On the other hand, other people have been just as rude about my weight and being pregnant. My boss has made hurtful comments about my weight since the day I started, and its only gotten worse since she found out I was pregnant. Random people tell me to stop lying about just being fat, when normally they would be asking when I was due, before I got pregnant. I know that being a heavier pregnant woman, I won't be showing as soon as most, but thats ok. I'm eating healthy, exercising when I can, and feeling all around good about myself. Screw your OB and what she has to say about you and your weight. I just had my doppler visit last friday and she found the HB within seconds as well. As long as you feel good about yourself, with no complaints or complications, then you're fine.
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  • ang&tay2013ang&tay2013 member
    I had a similar experience with my first dr. She said there would be a slim chance I'd deliver vaginally. (I wasn't thin during my first pregnancy and I had a natural birth so kiss it dr) I switched drs to a very nice and caring dr. I'm much more comfortable. Even if I DO need a c section I don't need to go thinking it's impossible.
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  • Maple403Maple403 member
    I'm glad you have such a grounded attitude about this. The doctor was rude and showed poor bedside manner, but you are too strong enough not to let it get too you as much as it could. Your two previous healthy pregnancies mean more than one rude doctor. I hope your new doctor I such better!
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  • jennjilljojennjilljo member
    @StephanieLBerg‌ I am amazed and appalled that anyone would ever talk to you like that. I'm even more disgusted tgat it came from your boss. All that should matter to anyone is that you are healthy and if you aren't than that's between you and your doctor.
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  • digwriterdigwriter member
    JNettie73 said:

    I am so sorry that happened to you. I agree that it is wise to switch doctors. Your doctor should inform you of risks however not in a way that you feel berated. Please know you are not alone. 


    I am 5'2", pregnant at 215 lbs. Yup, I am a fattie. Prior to conceiving I had lost 34 lbs. I didn't plan on TTC until I was around 180lbs but that didn't happen. On top of that I am AMA. I go to a wonderful group of doctors who have never once made me feel bad about my weight or my age. In fact they congratulated me when they learned of my 34 lb weight loss. They did have me go for an early GD screening which came back fine. Like you I have no issues.

    Best of luck to you!  
    This is me exactly. I think you might be my secret twin. Lol.
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  • StephanieLBergStephanieLBerg member
    @jennwilhoite‌ yea, its not fun, nor is it easy to just get over, but right now, I'm more just biding my time until I can find another job. Today, I just found out that she's "hired" a new part time person, but now has an issue with me taking 6 weeks off for ML. When I told her my ML plans 6 weeks ago, she seemed fine with it, but now she has a problem because she doesn't want to work here 3 days a week for 6 weeks. And the new part time person, is more casual time because of her other job. So now, my ass is back in the dog house for screwing up her plans yet again. I'm sure the comments and the picking on me is only going to get worse now. Damn I need a new job! But on a happier note, my husband got a job today! :-)
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  • Cookie0875Cookie0875 member
    @StephanieLBerg the people making these comments to you are HORRIBLE people!!!  Is it even ok for your boss to speak to you like that?  It seems like it should be against the law, but I might be crazy.  I'm glad your H got a job and hope you find a new one too!


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  • jennjilljojennjilljo member
    @StephanieLBerg‌ Can you report your boss for that? She shouldn't be allowed to treat you that way! Congrats to your hubby.
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  • StephanieLBergStephanieLBerg member
    @Cookie0875‌ yes it is illegal, but sadly, the states EDD people rarely do anything about it. I'm just keeping score and if she tries to pull something REALLY stupid, I will nail her ass to the wall and take her for everything I can. I'm tired of being walked on and bullied. My last job, before this one, I worked for Wal-Mart as a pharmacy tech, and was back handed across the face by the pharmacy manager in plain view of a camera. When I filed a complaint, I was bullied and harassed, and was told that my ass was in hot water because of it. And nothing happened to her. Just a slap on the wrist, not even a write up. When I found that out, I quit.
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    BellinghamMama said:

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    mommadozer said:
    Oh my gosh! That's terrible!!! Definitely a doctor switch. I hate BMI!!! It claims that I am obese at 5'7'' and 160 pounds.
    That can't be right. Overweight, yet, but I was 5'7" and 160 pounds and I was pretty sure that was in the overweight bracket, not the obese one.

    ETA: Whoops, I saw that someone already addressed that. Sorry for the repeat!! A pp is right when she said that thin shaming is just as hurtful as fat shaming. Did you all see the horrible things that people wrote about the Gap (or Old Navy or whatever) model on Twitter? Some of it was so hurtful!
    An interesting read on 'thin privilege' ... 

    "And while your internal struggle is real and significant, the point is: You might hate your body, but society doesn’t. That’s thin privilege."

    Body shaming is hurtful no matter your size. But the degree and pervasiveness of fat shaming is just not the same as thin. 
    Not sure about this. My sister is really skinny--like, she looks unhealthy, even though she eats ALL THE TIME. The comments she gets really hurt her feelings and self image. I'm not sure how a person can say that her hurt is less than someone else's. Different, sure. Everyone's experience is different. But definitely not less.
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  • Cookie0875Cookie0875 member
    StephanieLBerg said:
    @Cookie0875‌ yes it is illegal, but sadly, the states EDD people rarely do anything about it. I'm just keeping score and if she tries to pull something REALLY stupid, I will nail her ass to the wall and take her for everything I can. I'm tired of being walked on and bullied. My last job, before this one, I worked for Wal-Mart as a pharmacy tech, and was back handed across the face by the pharmacy manager in plain view of a camera. When I filed a complaint, I was bullied and harassed, and was told that my ass was in hot water because of it. And nothing happened to her. Just a slap on the wrist, not even a write up. When I found that out, I quit.
    Wow...just wow....


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  • mariloofahmariloofah member
    Ugh! Horrible bedside manner... And don't be afraid to say that! Just because they are MD does not give them license to be insensitively judgemental... You can very politely ask "would you prefer I had complications?" Or "you seem a bit annoyed with results." That holy than though demeanor will change quickly... And if it doesn't - politely let her know that you prefer the non judgemental care of a physician who has your best interest at heart... Mind, body and soul!! Good health begins as a state of mind! And Your in it baby! Don't allow the prejudice of one to take away the good thoughts you (and your man) have of your BEAUTIFULLY HEALTHY BABY MAKING BODY!!! Rock on!
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