WTF Wednesday

alibissell · August 2014

WTF strangers, why do you insist on telling me that 'terrible 2s' are nothing compared to 3s....Go eff yourself!

highbornhunter · August 2014

AnnieRoo13 said:

shan24 said:

WTF bump. Why can't you stay clean? Crumbs and spills that I don't notice are always on my shirt and last week, I spit toothpaste down my front because I didn't lean over the sink far enough. Today it was tea.

People are definitely starting to look at me with that "poor her" expression because I constantly look disheveled.

ETA - I swear I wasn't like this pre-bump!

This is totally me too! I always have food crumbs and stuff on my bump. It sort of reminds me of my grandma as when she was getting older she started to get stains and stuff on her chest. She called it her "shelf" and she always had things falling onto her shelf.

Yup - I am wearing Velveeta shells and cheese from my lunch at the moment - Once it falls, I don't see it!

mexinugget · August 2014

WTF DH!! I smash my foot on the air compressor in the garage the other day i tell you to move it, you didn't, and guess what i just smashed my foot again!! Same freaking spot, i don't know whether to cry or call you and scream WTF!!!

MarcyR92 · August 2014

wtf daughters kindergarden teacher. Talkin to me as if I'm 5 and putting her hands on me to remove my phone from my ear like really?!!!! I kno I'm the youngest mom there and it doesn't help that I'm as short as can be but I just want to be treated the others.

Wtf alycia(daughter) getting in trouble for talking AGAIN!!!!! How many times do I have to spank you and take things away from before it get through your head.

Can someone pls help me with finding the right words for her teacher to not bend over to talk me and put her hand on my shoulder and talk to me like I'm 5 years old. IM NOT 5!!! IM A FUCKIN ADULT !!!!

missnacholover · August 2014

chmwilliams said:

wtf daughters kindergarden teacher. Talkin to me as if I'm 5 and putting her hands on me to remove my phone from my ear like really?!!!! I kno I'm the youngest mom there and it doesn't help that I'm as short as can be but I just want to be treated the others. Wtf alycia(daughter) getting in trouble for talking AGAIN!!!!! How many times do I have to spank you and take things away from before it get through your head. Can someone pls help me with finding the right words for her teacher to not bend over to talk me and put her hand on my shoulder and talk to me like I'm 5 years old. IM NOT 5!!! IM A FUCKIN ADULT !!!!
I am more concerned that you are spanking your young child for talking in class. That seems counterproductive and might be the reason she isnt listening, IMO. And while taking your phone away from you isn't right, being on your phone during that doesn't seem right either. Sorry, I have no advice except to say maybe there is another route to helping your kindergarten-age child to learn better behavior? And maybe leaving your phone off during a meeting with the teacher might help the situation?

Agreed. I'm not against spanking, but IMO (and what I plan to do) it should be used for major fuckups. a 5 year old being chatty in class is not such a fuckup.

Give the teacher some respect and leave your phone in your car during a conference. And if she is talking to you like a child, be an adult and tell her you don't appreciate the way she is speaking to you.

shan24 · August 2014

MarcyR92 said:

wtf daughters kindergarden teacher. Talkin to me as if I'm 5 and putting her hands on me to remove my phone from my ear like really?!!!! I kno I'm the youngest mom there and it doesn't help that I'm as short as can be but I just want to be treated the others. Wtf alycia(daughter) getting in trouble for talking AGAIN!!!!! How many times do I have to spank you and take things away from before it get through your head. Can someone pls help me with finding the right words for her teacher to not bend over to talk me and put her hand on my shoulder and talk to me like I'm 5 years old. IM NOT 5!!! IM A FUCKIN ADULT !!!!

Teacher's perspective here - when I call home about behaviours in class, I'm not looking for the parent to punish the child at home. I have already given a consequence (detention, staying in at recess or lunch, loss of preferred time, etc). What I'm looking for is for the parent to back me up. Have a conversation with your daughter about why talking in class is inappropriate and why we shouldn't do it. Then, let your daughter take her consequences at school and/or come up with a game plan with your child's teacher about how to curb the behaviour.

Also, a teacher's time is precious (as is the time of anyone). If I had a meeting with a parent who was on his or her phone, I wouldn't be pleased at their wasting what little time I had. And, if I'm being truly honest, it would probably leave a sour taste in my mouth about that parent in regards to future meetings or contact home.

ETA - she shouldn't have put her hands on you, though.

MarcyR92 · August 2014

Ok you guys are taking it wrong. Number 1 she's gotten in trouble by the teacher 5 times already since school started at week. I have talked to her and I took away stuff from her that was the last resort. I WAS NOT in a conference with her I was simply picking her up at the gate were we are suppose to. That's it. Of course if it was a conference I wouldn't have my phone out. The call was important but I wasn't even talking I told them to give me a min and I slide the phone back but still against my ear. I dnt see nothing wrong with spanking I was brought with it. At her age was getting the belt. I DO NOT spank her with the belt only my hand. And she doesn't cry when I spank her she just looks down with her big sad eyes. So dnt think I spank her hard at all.

PandaCon · August 2014

@MarcyR92 Still don't think talking in class should warrent a spanking. Spankings should be reserved for big things if you are going to spank.

Edit: Quote Fail

abbyful · August 2014

WTF dog?! We got our carpets cleaned on Monday, and then you have runny poop all over the place last night. I would have been mad enough that I had to clean up the mess before work, but on our freshly cleaned carpet made me furious!

dbgwife · August 2014

WTF headaches... Please, please, please go away! It seems like every couple days since getting pregnant I've had one. I'm really over it! I had so much energy this morning. I was even going to workout. Now I have this silly headache. Oh and my youngest daughter has some sort of cold now. She's miserable and I feel terrible. Trying to comfort her while feeling shitty hasn't been easy.

MarcyR92 · August 2014

I have only spanked her this last time but thank you for all what you guys have said it helpful advice. It's hard being a young mom thank goodness with baby #2 I'll be a lot older and wiser than he starts. @chmwilliams‌ and the other lady's thank you.

abbyful · August 2014

MarcyR92 said:
wtf daughters kindergarden teacher. Talkin to me as if I'm 5 and putting her hands on me to remove my phone from my ear like really?!!!! I kno I'm the youngest mom there and it doesn't help that I'm as short as can be but I just want to be treated the others.

Wtf alycia(daughter) getting in trouble for talking AGAIN!!!!! How many times do I have to spank you and take things away from before it get through your head.

Can someone pls help me with finding the right words for her teacher to not bend over to talk me and put her hand on my shoulder and talk to me like I'm 5 years old. IM NOT 5!!! IM A FUCKIN ADULT !!!!

All I can think of: https://www.reactiongifs.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/06/ADULT.gif

shan24 · August 2014

MarcyR92 said:

Ok you guys are taking it wrong. Number 1 she's gotten in trouble by the teacher 5 times already since school started at week. I have talked to her and I took away stuff from her that was the last resort. I WAS NOT in a conference with her I was simply picking her up at the gate were we are suppose to. That's it. Of course if it was a conference I wouldn't have my phone out. The call was important but I wasn't even talking I told them to give me a min and I slide the phone back but still against my ear. I dnt see nothing wrong with spanking I was brought with it. At her age was getting the belt. I DO NOT spank her with the belt only my hand. And she doesn't cry when I spank her she just looks down with her big sad eyes. So dnt think I spank her hard at all.

I teach high school and I've never worked with the littles, but I think you need to give her some time. Kindergarten can be a huge adjustment for kids because a lot of them don't know how to "do" school yet. I don't know when classes started where you are, but I can't imagine it's been that long.

I'm not against spanking, but I don't think it would be effective in this case. IMO, she needs frequent reminders and positive re-enforcement when she does well. If the teacher is not asking you to discipline at home, leave the consequences for her behaviour at school, but back them up at home.

kkewhitney · August 2014

WTF while reading through the thread! My bump got really hard on one side, like the baby pushing its head up and all I could think of were too many episodes of Buffy, Fringe, etc and freaky pregnancy science fiction. What is this baby actually up to?
Original WTF: street person greeting my belly as I walked home from the bus with, "Hello baby!" Creepy. I just maintained my power walk. And it was def to my bump, the inflection wasn't quite as leering pervy.

mander82 · August 2014

WildFlower810 said:
WTF this whole day. I'm just done. So done. Journaling didn't help, talking with a friend didn't help, taking a nap didn't help. I'm out of options. My sanity is fleeing.

Sounds like you need a banana split.

Or a bubble bath. Those would make me happy.
Maybe some retail therapy?
Sorry you are in such a funk, hopefully tomorrow is a better day.

MuchlyGen · August 2014

@MarcyR92

I don't know exactly how accurate this is, but it makes sense to me. I read once that you should expect that a child have only about 10% impulse control per year of their age... a newborn has none, a 1 year old will be able to control their impulses only about 10% of the time (sometimes they'll stop if you say no, but not always), a 2 year old about 20%, and so on... until, eventually, it reaches a cap (since no one has 100% impulse control - as evidenced by the double stuff oreos in my pantry).

So consider that a 5 year old is, on average, going to have only about 50% impulse control. Only half the time is she going to naturally be able to stop herself from doing something, when the impulse flies into her mind... and that percentage will decrease if she's tired, hungry, sick, overstimulated, probably even bored.

I find it helps me to be patient with my kids, to think of it this way. That their brains are not developed, and they're doing the best they can. Your daughter isn't "being bad" per se... she's being 5. It may be more helpful, rather than punishing her, to help her figure out how to identify when it /is/ okay for her to talk, or come up with ideas for what she can do /instead/ of talking (write down her idea, if she's able, or draw a circle/smiley face/something to help her remember she wanted to say something). 'Cause man, imagine how frustrating it would be in our lives if we wanted to say something and had no control over when/if it was permissible.

Anyway, just some thoughts. Definitely something to talk to her teacher about. I know it's tough being a young mom, but the internet can provide a shockingly valuable support group, haha!

tigerpawie · August 2014

WTF self? It's silly compared to everyone else but phew. I had a somewhat productive day all day. I treat myself to a iced cafe Miel (latte with honey and cinnamon) and I lug all my groceries in while putting my latte on top of the lockers in my foyer.
I lug everything upstairs. Put almost everything away, settle down in my armchair and one cat curls up with me. I'm getting way too comfy then I realize the other cat is missing and it's out of the norm for him. I force myself to get up and look for him. Turns out he's safely hidden in my closet.

I go back same chair, get comfy, the other cat comes and curls up with me too. Comfy.... Until I realize I left my latte in the kitchen. :-w internal debate - kittens and give my shards of a pelvic a break or go get my latte? Bailey solves it for me, he decides to leave. Kahlúa is more easygoing. I get up, look around the kitchen... No latte to be seen. Realize it's down the stairs in the foyer! Aughhhhh! Me and my broken pelvic hobbles down and grab the latte. Hobbles back up and back in armchair. I again begin to relaxxxx.

My iPhone alerts me '10% battery left!'

again... Internal debate - relax or get the power cord. I force myself to get up because I'm sadly more addicted to my iPhone than comfort. I trudge to my bedroom, get the cord, plug it in the power strip and lays down on the couch.

I adjust and get comfortable once again... Then realize the wall switch to the power strip is OFF. Eff this, I get up, turn it on and flop back on the couch where I intend to stay until FI gets home. :-\"

Two pictures - Bailey hiding in my closet. I sent it to FI after telling him that I hadn't seen Bailey all day and I better get up and look for him and the other one with both cats curled up with me... How can you leave such a comfy spot?

sweetbabyrahe · August 2014

I'm with you @bethas. I noticed a few days ago that I only had enough for one more bowl of mint chocolate chip ice cream...so I saved it for tonight for SYTYCD!

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

Just wanted to say kudos to @bethas, @MuchlyGen, @Emnob28, @lissydee, @shan24, @excitedpreggo12, @kyliedaniellexx, @chmwilliams, and @missnacholoveron your classy and mature handling of the spanking WTF. You're good ladies!

MmmPopcorn · August 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

Just wanted to say kudos to @bethas, @MuchlyGen, @Emnob28, @lissydee, @shan24, @excitedpreggo12, @kyliedaniellexx, @chmwilliams, and @missnacholoveron your classy and mature handling of the spanking WTF. You're good ladies!

And bravo to you, @absolutelymaybe, for the use of this excellent gif.

crizz13 · August 2014

"Why do your ankles look so fat?" -my lovely husband....

crizz13 · August 2014

@MarcyR92 regarding the punishment... I am a big believer in logical consequences both at home and at school. It's part of Responsive Classroom and had worked wonders with lots of kids in my experience.

Anyway, the rule of thumb for consequences is that it needs to be respectful, related (the 'punishment' should fit the 'crime'), and realistic (easy for you and the child to follow through with).

minibean16 · August 2014

bethas said:
WTF stomach. I just filled you with half a chicken breast, black beans, mini shell pasta, and FOUR mandarin oranges. WTF am I starving???? And why the sudden urge to eat ALL. THE. ORANGES?

Guess I know who'll be having ice cream when SYTYCD comes on tonight. Rocky Road? Mint Chocolate Cookie? What's that you say? Both? WTF. It's Wednesday

I know you've complained about having enough space in your house, but when you post about food like this, and then brag about multiple types of ice cream, you make the problem worse. Why ? Because I'm moving in now. This is exactly what I'm craving.

Your WTF for next Wednesday will be
'Why won't minibean leave my couch?'

Kristil2014 · August 2014

WildFlower810 said:
WTF this whole day. I'm just done. So done. Journaling didn't help, talking with a friend didn't help, taking a nap didn't help. I'm out of options. My sanity is fleeing.

I am sorry you are having a rough day. I am having that same day as well. I am hoping some retail therapy tomorrow will get me out of this funk.

alibissell · August 2014

@lissydee‌ I will be coming to you for advice in Dec. when I'll be in that same special hell (a 3 year old, 2 year old and one month old). This baby better be an angel O:-), but knowing my luck I'll have another colic baby.....

musicalmommy3 · August 2014

WTF drunk driver who hit the church right beside my house. It's 1:30pm on a Wednesday. Get your sh$t together.

Thank goodness no one was hurt.

ShelleyElla22 · August 2014

lissydee said:

KUinCBUS said:

lissydee said:

alibissell said:

WTF strangers, why do you insist on telling me that 'terrible 2s' are nothing compared to 3s....Go eff yourself!

oh man, I hate to add to your WTF, but the 3's are hard in their own special right.
--- quote fail ---

I have one of each right now, so I am in my own special kind of hell.

Ditto! Dealing with the 2s and the 3s at the same time is it's own kind if hell!

ShelleyElla22 · August 2014

WTF smoke detector. Why do you always get low battery in the middle of the night? I don't want to be woken up to random chirping at 4:30 in the morning, go on a scavenger hunt to figure out which one is beeping, and then perch on a chair to get it off of the ceiling!

And WTF DH for letting me deal with it and then telling me when I get back in bed that you feel like there is a bug in your blanket that keeps biting you. WTF!! Now I am awake picturing bugs crawling on me, thanks so much.

Kehlepop · August 2014

bloomraiser said:
... Back to the cat thing... Why were they all puking last night? Mine woke me up 3 times after 3am! Srsly WTF.

Edited to delete dead-horse-beating type comment. Meh.

What is happening?! Mine just came inside to throw up on the carpet 15 minutes ago. DH had to clean it because I had just eaten and would've made the situation so much worse.

Celticlass6 · August 2014

WTF Charlie horse and leg cramps waking me up 45 minutes before my alarm.

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