because everyone else is starting a new thread.... (we NEED organization)

jlworden710 · August 2014

So here's the deal-e-o peeps....

We need some organization in our lives. The reason it gets difficult with multiple threads is because others get pushed down, advice gets spread out and essentially missed by people that need it, and frankly it's pretty intense have 9 pages of threads in a 3 hour period. Like, for serious guise, I came to get my hair done, set my phone down for an hour and missed out.

Anywho, I know those thread begging for organization has the potential to get all kinds of ideas and discombobulated itself, but hell, at least I tried?!

So... what do we do? The blog has a lost of daily posts to start with

FitMom3510 · August 2014

Post symptoms in ; daily symptoms thread

Post new week in : daily ticker change thread

Use the search bar for a normal question because 9/10 times it's been asked. What's going to start happening is ppl are going to get tired of seeing the same posts over and over again and just stop answering them.

JlovesCory · August 2014

I think a lot of the people who are new don't understand why it's better to do it that way until they've been here longer. I didn't when I first got here.

jlworden710 · August 2014

I like the check ins that are listed in the blog, like the weekly ultrasound one would be really nice to start utilizing. I'm wondering if we have people that run all of the ones listed on the blog or do we need to seek some folks out?

Maybe once we have them we can have their name next to that check in so people know it's covered?

JlovesCory · August 2014

Maybe it'll get better once we're in the second trimester

JlovesCory · August 2014

For now though I think only one person should put go to symptoms thread or else their post will keep getting bigger and bigger

TheTrunchbull · August 2014

Guys. For serious. This seems like it's getting out of control. I don't mind the snark, I came from TTGP and E back in my Knot days. But ya'll are trying to control hundreds of people. It's like you've never been on forums before. This shit will calm down, just give it time. We've all been here 5 minutes so you can't expect everyone to know the ropes. Like getting on that girl about the Robin Williams thread? Really? Snark away all you want, just don't be board nazis.

ScarletOflaherty · August 2014

Personally I think it's a lost cause, new people will be joining all the time, and there just is no 'keeping it organized' on an online forum. I've been in/on/running them for 17 years and no one has managed yet.

If that's your thing I certainly have nothing against people trying, but just warning you'll need to keep a LOT of Tylenol on hand for the constant banging your head against the desk.

My advice would be relax, find your zen, and focus on other things, because you are probably going to drive yourselves spastic trying. But hey, crazier things have happened

My .02 since it was asked.

FitMom3510 · August 2014

starting the daily threads isn't the issue here they are all being started. People not using them is the issue

jlworden710 · August 2014

I don't think it's a matter of controlling people, I think it's important to at least try, like I said, pertinent information and advice is getting missed.

Call me a dreamer, or maybe it's because I hail from ttcal where we had organization and threads consistently posted... but I don't really think it's that far fetched of a thing

ScarletOflaherty · August 2014

I think for the most part people are using them, but some are getting a little over-zealous about not posting anything except for in those threads unless you've searched first and made sure no one has posted about anything remotely similar in the last few days, and frankly ain't nobody got time for that

I get people want to keep it organized, but if you start ripping people new ones every time they post somewhere you don't think they should have people will quickly stop posting at all, and that will kind of suck.

FitMom3510 · August 2014

ashleyinva said:

On TTGP, if you were up early and wanted to post a daily thread you just did. There were few threads that were started by one person specifically, but the daily threads were posted by anyone and everyone. I don't think it's necessary to delegate a person to do that.

It's going to be a lot of people coming in and out just asking/talking about symptoms. I hope it will start to go away once more people get a feel for the board. Telling people there's a daily thread isn't a bad thing. Some people just do not lurk. That's not going to change. Point 'em in the right direction, and if they get angry, gif party.

This 100%. If they can't handle a simple redirect because they haven't lurked then that's their thing. Someone saying "hey you will get support at this thread (link attached)" I think is nice and helps them see where to go for now on. It shouldn't be looked at as a negative thing when over 50 other ppl are posting there.

TheTrunchbull · August 2014

FitMom3510 said:

ashleyinva said:

On TTGP, if you were up early and wanted to post a daily thread you just did. There were few threads that were started by one person specifically, but the daily threads were posted by anyone and everyone. I don't think it's necessary to delegate a person to do that.

It's going to be a lot of people coming in and out just asking/talking about symptoms. I hope it will start to go away once more people get a feel for the board. Telling people there's a daily thread isn't a bad thing. Some people just do not lurk. That's not going to change. Point 'em in the right direction, and if they get angry, gif party.

This 100%. If they can't handle a simple redirect because they haven't lurked then that's their thing. Someone saying "hey you will get support at this thread (link attached)" I think is nice and helps them see where to go for now on. It shouldn't be looked at as a negative thing when over 50 other ppl are posting there.

If it were staying with that, it would be one thing. But then you have someone else come in and say UGH, so annoying!! and then it's a pile on. I feel like there's more comments complaining than there are repeat posts.

ScarletOflaherty · August 2014

I don't think anyone is trying to be a board nazi at all, but that's what it's quickly turning into. Someone just got chewed out for posting about Robin Williams...I mean really? I've never been on a due date board where that kind of OT post was a problem.

I'm sure the intentions are good, but I don't think it's doing the board as a whole any favors, because very quickly there will be no board when people are too afraid to post.

I'm all for a bit of snark, but it's got to be served with a lot of fun, and the fun is quickly being 'organized' away

TheTrunchbull · August 2014

ScarletOflaherty said:

I don't think anyone is trying to be a board nazi at all, but that's what it's quickly turning into. Someone just got chewed out for posting about Robin Williams...I mean really? I've never been on a due date board where that kind of OT post was a problem.

I'm sure the intentions are good, but I don't think it's doing the board as a whole any favors, because very quickly there will be no board when people are too afraid to post.

I'm all for a bit of snark, but it's got to be served with a lot of fun, and the fun is quickly being 'organized' away

Eye to eye.

FitMom3510 · August 2014

The fact of it all is no matter what we do nothing will change.

If we post a redirect we are mean and controlling. The ones I have posted today have been nice just a simple "no snark intended you will find support here" then if people go GBCB on me I can't help it.

If we let it go we are cluttered and everyone gets mad.

If we have people designated to start the daily thread people are still going to ignore it.

I'm just going to give people a heads up on their intro posts like I have been and they can do what they want with it and not respond to the repeats simple as that.

ElizabethSwann · August 2014

Exactly @fitmom3510. Cant win them all. Someone is always going to have a problem with something.

TheTrunchbull · August 2014

MrsRexManing said:

ScarletOflaherty said:

I'm all for a bit of snark, but it's got to be served with a lot of fun, and the fun is quickly being 'organized' away

For real.

Side note, totally unrelated, the use of nazi to describe anyone other than an actual Nazi is offensive. I get that it's not meant to be, but FYI, it is.

Thanks.

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ScarletOflaherty · August 2014

@hollemak Don't worry, in a few weeks hormones will be raging and calm will fly the fluck out the window.

And that's BEFORE we start discussing circumcision or bottle feeding

ElizabethSwann · August 2014

Hollemak said:

I have to say I love this convo. Smart, honest, calm, women. I hate to sound all "after school special" but I'm loving the crap out of you all right now. I also love the random nonsense fun and whatever else this is just so refreshing.

Bring me some chinese food, woman!

Also, you need a cool avatar.

Megispreg · August 2014

I don't mind the repetitive posts. I just ignore things that I don't find relevant. I also don't like having a lot of rules for posting. Most people will not follow them anyway. I think it takes away from the fun of the board when you have people policing it.

FitMom3510 · August 2014

SharkFarts said:

FitMom3510 said:

Post symptoms in ; daily symptoms thread
Post new week in : daily ticker change thread

Use the search bar for a normal question because 9/10 times it's been asked. What's going to start happening is ppl are going to get tired of seeing the same posts over and over again and just stop answering them.

Please no ticker change thread or daily symptom thread. That's ridiculous.

Y'all need to unclench. You make too many rules and soon people won't post anything. This is not TTGP. Please stop trying to turn it in to that.

One checkin thread a week is all we need. One where we say how far along we are, how we feel, what's coming up. That's it. There's is no need for one every single day.

As far as people repeating posts, it's going to happen. Get over it. You're not missing anything important. I don't know about you, but I'm not about to wade through four pages to see if anyone needs advice. I'd rather just pick and choose which thread I want to open.

The daily posts of symptoms and tickers have been done since the beginning I'm not sure who started them but they do help I think persoanally.

The symptom one keeps everyones symptoms together and we all can complain in one spot vs. repeating the same thing over and over.

The ticker one does seem unnecessary at times but we don't actually have one everyday as of now, but it's nice to keep in touch with the women who have your same due date and obviously not everyone even goes into those posts.

I don't open half the posts due to it being repetative but I think that will start happening a lot more as time goes on so if people have a question they want answered using the daily thread is nice because people are actually opeing it and looking at it.

jlworden710 · August 2014

So, I guess my biggest thought was are we or aren't we utilizing the list of threads that are on the blog... And if so who is doing them.

I know it's intense I get it... but like I said, my biggest concern is information is being missed... like with the smoking threads, there have been a few, if people hadn't redirected folks, their thread/question wouldn't have been answered fully and valuable information would be missed.

ElizabethSwann · August 2014

@Megispreg

1) Your name is very catchy

2) Its not bad right now, but it will be very annoying when there are ten repetitive posts, and we have to weed through all that crap. Its just like in normal conversation, you wouldn't keep bringing up the same exact thing in a ten minute span.

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quazzy · August 2014

I think I may be more overwhelmed by this site more than I am about the thought of being a mom! Not sure how to control it better but as a newcomer I will say the info has def been helpful...especially if I read the same info from different ppl. To me it's validation. I haven't posted much because all of threads are very confusing so I find it easier to search or troll different threads and just read what's out there. It's all been helpful! I'm just happy to have a forum like this! Especially since I have never had this experience! Thank you all for your posts! Even repeat offenders! $:\$ ">

ebstar2 · August 2014

Well I just got here but FWIW I think that having threads to try to keep things together is a good thing. However, it's a really new group and there are going to be people coming in and out every day. 1st Tri is always the time with the most people on and out and asking over and over anyway. By 2nd Tri most have kind of calmed down a bit and the initial shock/worry is less. Unless people want to spend their days tense and angry I suggest being sort of laid back about it for now. Absolutely post about the daily threads so people know where to find them and such but there are limits to how far things should go with redirecting people.

I stumbled into a thread this morning that started with a simple redirect request and devolved immediately into a name calling match for the next few hours. That is productive to NOBODY. People need to let things go or else the board will be useless pretty quickly. This isn't my first rodeo so to speak but in the past I have always seen boards broken down by trimester instead of month due. I think if we remember that this is very new to some it might let people relax about it a little bit.

citymama2012 · August 2014

How about this: We allow everyone to create new discussions and freely talking about them--I thought that's what the bump was all about. If you don't want to read about a particular topic, just skip that discussion. It's pointless to waste your time "redirecting people" And quite honestly, I am tired of reading all the comments that redirect. i feel they are backing up the board and really impeding discussions.

Let's all enjoy being pregnant, talk about ourselves, our families and share advice and give it when needed. This can be a fun and supportive place. Really ladies, lets get along.

(And if we can't, maybe a few people want to spin off and create their own private group. The Bump has allowed for that so then you don't have "deal" with all the traffic on here about symptoms, etc.)

Megispreg · August 2014

ElizabethSwann said:
@Megispreg
1) Your name is very catchy
2) Its not bad right now, but it will be very annoying when there are ten repetitive posts, and we have to weed through all that crap. Its just like in normal conversation, you wouldn't keep bringing up the same exact thing in a ten minute span.

1. Thanks!
2. My experience has been the opposite. It seems like my old BMB had less people as time went on, and less posting about the same stuff. Some people just lose interest, and the crazies get weeded out before you end up with the regulars.

I don't know when it started, but it seems like the newer BMBs have a lot more structure. That's fine, it's just not what I like personally.

ebstar2 · August 2014

If you aren't replying then what is the point of having them post? Shouldn't people expect some kind of at least hi, welcome, congrats for putting an intro in? You don't want to answer their questions and don't want to reply to their intro but you want it to be a place to receive support? That seems bizarre to me. Of course people are going to start with a question. That's probably why some of them looked for a group like this in the first place. If they see that people seem friendly then maybe they will stick around and offer support to others. If it seems like a group of stick in the muds then they will probably ask their question elsewhere.

What is your goal for this group?

thegoodpotato · August 2014

Definitely, @somerandomchick! If you want something stickied I can do that for you.

thegoodpotato · August 2014

Also, we went through this in early 1st tri in F15... it DOES eventually die down, but dang, it's annoying.

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ElizabethSwann · August 2014

Hollemak said:

@ElizabethSwann‌ Even if this were a bad avatar (it's not) you wouldn't know it because you believe what it tells you to believe. I hope it's working so this comment has a snowball's chance of making sense.

lol im sorry, but its not. I bet it would have been reallly cool though.

AdventurelandMermaid · August 2014

Love the stickies going up on the board right now! I wish we could consolidate some threads too.

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lindsayanne14 · August 2014

Not that anyone really cares my thoughts on this topic, but I'll give them anyway...

~I think mass organization is going to be very difficult on a board like this, it's transient and some beeotches just won't listen to the "rules".

~I personally read intros and comment on most as long as they are true intros and not "OMG I'm preggo, has anyone here ever heard of sore boobs when preggo?!?!"

~Over time regulars will emerge, I already know which SN's are going to be my birth month BFFs. Some regulars I will like, others I will find needy, annoying and dull. Oh well...it's a public forum.

~Most check-in type threads can be started by whoever thinks of them on a given day. If anyone has a check-in they think people would like to be apart of...get at girl! Some more specific check-ins (like PGAL, Nursing while PG, etc...) are probably gonna be started by the same person each week.

~Repeat posts are annoying, and clog up the board, no doubt. I personally just ignore them, unless I'm feeling a bit snarky and decide to comment. My point is the repeat posts are going to happen, ignore them, snark on them, answer them ad nauseam, but controlling them isn't likely to happen.

Duffgurl · August 2014

I just don't care. I mean if I find the post interesting or worth commenting I will. If its a same question that has been answered multiple times I move on. I think even if there was organization there will always be someone to not go with it.

We are all pregnant, hormonal, nauseous, tired, cranky, unable to poop woman at this time so why waste our energy.

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