@atlee712 And they couldn't have told you it was "right away" because of the doctor's schedule and not because of your test results? Sometimes I just can't with the stupidity of doctor's offices.
@chilibeansm0m Umm...signing your email with someone else's name/signature is probably the biggest no-no out there...right after replying all to a message that goes out to an entire department or building.
@bbnut I agree that everyone should be in therapy and no one should feel ashamed to want/have/need to talk to someone. And also, my dad is a geologist (oh hai fellow nerd!) and tell me...did you sift the sand through one of those really super loud automatic sieves that bounces around in this crazy contraption? I hope so because those are so obnoxious. I can tell you from personal experience the sand is ALL EFFED UP on LI's south shore from Sandy, you can use that as a measurement in your project, right?
@marg81 Yay on the empty bladder and the great appointment!
@almeyer2013 I don't fit into anything at Anthro or J Crew either. The girls cannot be tamed by that little fabric.
@wendyld I work in an EE department and there are only four other women, one of which isn't an EE. And last year this time we only had three women total in the department.
@wishiwaspreggo I laughed at your "Geologist Rock!" comment, and it made me think of my dad's favorite, "Geologists like it in the dirt!"
So yesterday we were chatting about the ALS bucket challenge. I got tagged by my SIL and I will not be participating. Thinking about legit just posting info about ALS and leaving it at that. Why do people think I care about something that doesn't touch me? I'm not sure. I support specific charities for specific reasons and think it's important that others do the same for their own personal reasons. I dislike when things become "popular" to support like all the pink shit we have to be bombarded with every October. Leave me to my charities and charity work and I'll leave you to yours. Quit involving me, especially someplace as public as facebook.
"Serious is only something you have to be until you can be silly again."
I'm part of the "please stop paying attention to me because I'm pregnant" group. It was fun telling people initially, like my parents and friends. But now everyone is fussing over me, asking me how I feel, sending me stuff (that part is nice, I admit, but hell, what if something happens and I have to clean out my closet full of baby stuff?)...
This past weekend when we were shopping my friends kept asking if I needed to sit down or have someone carry my bags... dude. Thank you, but seriously, I'm 10 weeks pregnant. I don't even feel pregnant, really, so I'm fine with walking and holding my bags! As long as I have access to food and a bathroom I'm totally happy.
I'm the opposite. I haven't really had any special treatment this time around. Last time around people were congratulating left and right, and my MIL was helping me with names. Also, everyone was crying when we told them the news. This time around- a few people said congrats, MIL wants nothing to do with naming, and when they heard the news they definitely weren't crying. I'm kinda bummed because I feel like from people's reactions they feel like this one won't be as important.
About cookie butter - the Biscoff brand is better than TJ's Speculous brand. It's creamier and not as sickly sweet. But I can't buy either because I will eat half or more in one sitting.
Okay, off to drive 1.5 hours back to my office, whereupon my arrival this thread will have undoubtedly doubled. I haven't even bothered with the rest of the board.
I have my MIL already rubbing my bloat baby, I hate being touched unsolicited. I don't wanna announce cause I don't the attention but I'm also really excited to tell some people in my family about it cause we love babies lol.
Also I know once I start showing in school it's going to be a major scandal because law school is basically the same as middle school when it comes to gossip and things. It's going to be one of those things like oh she's throwing her future away by getting pregnant. But I hate everyone I go to school with anyway so....no harm no foul.
Is it 5:30 yet? I actually had to come in on time this morning for a staff meeting at 8:30.. meaning I couldn't sleep late.. and now I need a nap..
Yesterday my boss mentioned something about a nap pod and I was all for that! Then I got to thinking about it.. I don't think I would want to nap where everyone else naps.. I think I'll just stick with my car.
We were talking to my DD about the new baby. She said I had 2 girls in my belly.......my H looked terrified!
I feel like people that know about my pregnancy are walking on egg shells about it because of my recent loss. It's like no one wants to get excited about it in case I have another miscarriage. While I understand where they are coming from, I hate missing out on the excited, new baby talk.
I like TJ's cookie butter. I dip Annie's Bunny Grahams in it and it is SO GOOD! We don't have one local though so I don't get it much.
I forgot to note that I'm also kind of worried about telling people because I'm afraid they are going to judge our current living situation. I'll just have to shrug it off.
I hate that too. But seriously, I couldn't give a fuck what people think. As long as you guys are making money and able to afford it, I see no harm. I was in a 1 bedroom condo when I found out I was pregnant with DD. And after we sold it...we moved into a 1 bedroom apartment. We lived there up until this May, when DD turned 1. We're in a 2 bedroom now and plan to stay here at least the next 2 years. No shame in having a small place or living with other people/family.
I can't seem to catch up today and by the time i so I've already forgotten what I wanted to respond to.
I like ketchup and mustard on my veggie dogs.
I'm glad to see some good apts and good luck I those still waiting to go today!
I hate Tuesdays in the summer, especially if it's rainy. The museum gets so busy and while I don't generally deal with the public, I do have to use the bathrooms that they also have access to. Not a big deal except on really busy days like today because it just gets so nasty in there! At least I'm not vomiting, I would not be able to handle going in there to vomit.
So I pulled the trigger on a doppler Should be here Friday!
I'm thinking about doing the exact same thing this afternoon! Which one did you get?
Don't freak if you can't find the baby right away. I've been trying since I got mine on Saturday night.
Thanks @Chrain I know I really need to remind myself of this! I am a worry wart so I've got to make sure I stay calm and know it's still early! How long do you try for each time? I'm new to the doppler idea!
Leaving bed today is difficult. Everytime I get up I feel like I'm going to be sick. Ugh I had a couple of days of no nausea and now it's back with full exhaustion. Wahh
So I pulled the trigger on a doppler Should be here Friday!
I'm thinking about doing the exact same thing this afternoon! Which one did you get?
Don't freak if you can't find the baby right away. I've been trying since I got mine on Saturday night.
Thanks @Chrain I know I really need to remind myself of this! I am a worry wart so I've got to make sure I stay calm and know it's still early! How long do you try for each time? I'm new to the doppler idea!
So I pulled the trigger on a doppler Should be here Friday!
I'm thinking about doing the exact same thing this afternoon! Which one did you get?
Don't freak if you can't find the baby right away. I've been trying since I got mine on Saturday night.
Thanks @Chrain I know I really need to remind myself of this! I am a worry wart so I've got to make sure I stay calm and know it's still early! How long do you try for each time? I'm new to the doppler idea!
I got mine last night and I maybe found it for a few seconds, maybe not. It's so hard to tell. I tried for like 5-10 minutes at a time a couple times. Do you guys slather up with tons of gel or only a couple drops?
I'm working from home, currently on a teleconference, and bored as hell. I just ate my weight in Trader Joe's ginger snap cookies, and now I feel sick. I thought the ginger would counteract the sick feeling. Not so much.
Random slight TMI: I woke up this morning and leaked some colostrum. I breastfed last pregnancy but you never get over the weirdness of a wet boob. lol I was hoping this wouldn't start until the end of my third tri. oh well...
I didn't want to bring it up in the most recent thread, because it's probably just me, but... *exhale* in the genetic testing threads, it seems a little judgey to me when someone says they're not testing because they'd "love their baby no matter what". To me, it makes it sound like anyone who'd even consider termination, should the worst happen, is an uncaring monster who doesn't give a shit about their baby. Am I being overly sensitive?
I didn't want to bring it up in the most recent thread, because it's probably just me, but... *exhale* in the genetic testing threads, it seems a little judgey to me when someone says they're not testing because they'd "love their baby no matter what". To me, it makes it sound like anyone who'd even consider termination, should the worst happen, is an uncaring monster who doesn't give a shit about their baby. Am I being overly sensitive?
Nope, those posts almost always turn judgy IMO. I don't think 99% of us could say with certainty what we would do if faced with bearing a child who could not survive or would endure a short life of agonizing pain. Sometimes letting go is by far the kinder, more selfless option.
I didn't want to bring it up in the most recent thread, because it's probably just me, but... *exhale* in the genetic testing threads, it seems a little judgey to me when someone says they're not testing because they'd "love their baby no matter what". To me, it makes it sound like anyone who'd even consider termination, should the worst happen, is an uncaring monster who doesn't give a shit about their baby. Am I being overly sensitive?
I don't think you are being overly sensitive. I do think that there is such a stigma around termination (regardless of the reason) that some women feel like they HAVE to say that in the discussion. In reality, no one knows what they would do in that situation until they are in it. At least, that is definitely the case for me- I really don't know. What I do know is that we would use all of the available information to make the best choice for our family.
I am also happy keeping the pregnancy a secret right now. I don't want the attention that it will bring, and I don't feel like answering the million questions that it will cause. And the fact that I am a 43 year old professional woman who isn't married but lives with her SO I know I will be asked was it planned. Like I don't know how to make a baby. Also I am so private. I am hoping to keep it a secret at work until 20 weeks. I really dread telling my ex cause I know it will hurt him and while I am not married to him we still parent 2 kids together and I don't want to cause him any hurt. Blah. Of course my SO wants to announce it on facebook.
2 beautiful dd's 10 and 7
Missing my two angel babies
BFP 4/26/14- CP 5/2/14
BFP 7/5/14- Missed miscarriage (12 weeks) D and C 8/29/2014
@bbnut He majored in geology, taught for awhile and then got a job with the gas company. Now he's in charge of codes and standards for the Northeast and makes sure everything they do is federal/state compliant. He has quite the collection of rocks and gemstones and other fossils in the basement. It's awesome because the last time I was home I was telling him how I wanted some nautical/beachy things to decorate my pirate bathroom with and we wandered down into the basement and I came back home with a giant seastar, a queen conch, a million year old fossilized pectin, and something in the giant clam family. Who needs Home Goods when I've got my dad?
@beckyj2013 My friend's biggest peeve when she was heavy with her twins was when the older ladies in the office commented on her waddling towards the end of her third tri. I mean WHO COMMENTS ON WADDLING?!
@goofygoff I feel the same way about the testing thread. I don't think you're being overly sensitive, sometimes the super pro life people can come off that way. I try not to get involved because it is your choice and your body and your baby and I don't want to offend people with other opinions because it's such a heated topic.
And I've never heard of cookie butter and just looked up the Biscoff stuff. Am I the only person who only knew what it was when I read the word "speculoos" in the description on my google search? No, just me with the silly baking knowledge? Okay.
Now I want Nutella...that's totes my jam.
ETA: grammar is fun
"Serious is only something you have to be until you can be silly again."
@Darbie914 I love the pioneer woman and almost all of her reciepes. Hmmmm great mashed potatoes and chocolate sheet cake. Now I want chocolate sheet cake.
2 beautiful dd's 10 and 7
Missing my two angel babies
BFP 4/26/14- CP 5/2/14
BFP 7/5/14- Missed miscarriage (12 weeks) D and C 8/29/2014
I just ate a Golden Grahams prepackaged s'mores bar and it was delicious. I now want to go home and make a whole pan of s'mores bars, but then I'd have to go to the store. Does anyone else know what I'm talking about?
Thanks, ladies, for the feedback! Especially since I know I can get honest opinions from you all.
I've been super cranky over the past week, mostly because of my stupid, achy tooth. And sometimes it's difficult to tell whether I'm reading too much into things and being knee jerk-y.
@sunshine61994 Don't feel bad about people asking if it was planned. I am married, 26, and already have a toddler and a TON of people have asked me if it was planned. What the heck? I have no idea what posesses people to ask that question or why they think its relevant...
"Nope not planned... and... just between us... not even sure if SO is the dad."
I didn't want to bring it up in the most recent thread, because it's probably just me, but... *exhale* in the genetic testing threads, it seems a little judgey to me when someone says they're not testing because they'd "love their baby no matter what". To me, it makes it sound like anyone who'd even consider termination, should the worst happen, is an uncaring monster who doesn't give a shit about their baby. Am I being overly sensitive?
I tend to get the same vibe. I know the majority do NOT mean it that way though so I try to just keep it movin'. But I am sure there are some McJudgersons making that comment and to them I say Pfffffft.
So I pulled the trigger on a doppler Should be here Friday!
I'm thinking about doing the exact same thing this afternoon! Which one did you get?
Don't freak if you can't find the baby right away. I've been trying since I got mine on Saturday night.
Thanks @Chrain I know I really need to remind myself of this! I am a worry wart so I've got to make sure I stay calm and know it's still early! How long do you try for each time? I'm new to the doppler idea!
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Until I get pissed off and curse myself for buying the damn thing. @meladoriestar said it took her an hour to find the baby. I highly recommend watching some videos that show you the different sounds you hear. You will find an artery that sounds like a fast heartbeat/swishing, your heartbeat reflected through the placenta and the baby. The baby is a unique sound... That I haven't found yet. Start low, near your hair line.
Side note - we were just getting productive and I totally felt my uterus! It was a hard lump the size of a grapefruit... Right there. Weird.
Thanks @Chrain this will be super helpful for me. I hope you find the heartbeat soon!
I have my MIL already rubbing my bloat baby, I hate being touched unsolicited. I don't wanna announce cause I don't the attention but I'm also really excited to tell some people in my family about it cause we love babies lol.
Also I know once I start showing in school it's going to be a major scandal because law school is basically the same as middle school when it comes to gossip and things. It's going to be one of those things like oh she's throwing her future away by getting pregnant. But I hate everyone I go to school with anyway so....no harm no foul.
My brother and sister-in-law got pregnant as 3Ls, just a couple of months after they were married. While pregnant, she got a job in a good firm and passed the bar before giving birth a few months later. Screw the haters. Do what works for you.
Wtf is wrong with people. I would never, ever, in the history of ever ask someone if their pregnancy was planned
So, this is rather embarrassing but when I was 18, a single coworker around 30 told me she was pregnant and I asked her "are you going to keep it?" I'm mortified at myself to this day.
@mayaruthie Recipe PLEASE, I have all the fix'ns for s'mores at home and don't have anything to do with them at the moment.
@shootznladrz A friend of ours got KU half way through her first year of law school. It was a rough go for her (because of the exhaustion of both law school and being pregnant) but she made it through and they're baby girl is incredible. You can do it, don't let anyone tell you that you can't.
"Serious is only something you have to be until you can be silly again."
@goofygoff in my last pregnancy I was in the "we're not testing because it won't change our decision" camp, even after it was strongly recommended to me by the MFM. S wanted to test and I didn't so we left the appointment with "we'll think about it." I ended up losing Jonah only 6 days later and we hadn't come to a decision on the testing yet.
We did have genetic testing done after we lost him and it turns out everything was fine, but for the month between losing him and getting the test results I was certain he had T18 based on the physical description I was given of him. I spent that entire month kicking myself in the ass for not doing the testing because I would have known sooner (which, in retrospect I wouldn't have had the results before we lost him) and I could have avoided the trauma of that night.
I say all of that because I really think the people who say it wouldn't change anything just don't know how much not knowing COULD change things, I don't really blame them for that.
Re: I'm only happy when it rains
So yeah, about 5 pages to catch up on...
@atlee712 And they couldn't have told you it was "right away" because of the doctor's schedule and not because of your test results? Sometimes I just can't with the stupidity of doctor's offices.
@chilibeansm0m Umm...signing your email with someone else's name/signature is probably the biggest no-no out there...right after replying all to a message that goes out to an entire department or building.
@bbnut I agree that everyone should be in therapy and no one should feel ashamed to want/have/need to talk to someone. And also, my dad is a geologist (oh hai fellow nerd!) and tell me...did you sift the sand through one of those really super loud automatic sieves that bounces around in this crazy contraption? I hope so because those are so obnoxious. I can tell you from personal experience the sand is ALL EFFED UP on LI's south shore from Sandy, you can use that as a measurement in your project, right?
@marg81 Yay on the empty bladder and the great appointment!
@almeyer2013 I don't fit into anything at Anthro or J Crew either. The girls cannot be tamed by that little fabric.
@mangomimosa @suzee0525 Hope the appointments go well!
@citybee EVERYTHING you just said about how awesome this BMB is and more. I'm so glad you ladies are intelligent and snarky and all that jazz.
@thenetwork YAY for the great appointment!
@wendyld I work in an EE department and there are only four other women, one of which isn't an EE. And last year this time we only had three women total in the department.
@wishiwaspreggo I laughed at your "Geologist Rock!" comment, and it made me think of my dad's favorite, "Geologists like it in the dirt!"
So yesterday we were chatting about the ALS bucket challenge. I got tagged by my SIL and I will not be participating. Thinking about legit just posting info about ALS and leaving it at that. Why do people think I care about something that doesn't touch me? I'm not sure. I support specific charities for specific reasons and think it's important that others do the same for their own personal reasons. I dislike when things become "popular" to support like all the pink shit we have to be bombarded with every October. Leave me to my charities and charity work and I'll leave you to yours. Quit involving me, especially someplace as public as facebook.
"Serious is only something you have to be until you can be silly again."About cookie butter - the Biscoff brand is better than TJ's Speculous brand. It's creamier and not as sickly sweet. But I can't buy either because I will eat half or more in one sitting.
Okay, off to drive 1.5 hours back to my office, whereupon my arrival this thread will have undoubtedly doubled. I haven't even bothered with the rest of the board.
Also I know once I start showing in school it's going to be a major scandal because law school is basically the same as middle school when it comes to gossip and things. It's going to be one of those things like oh she's throwing her future away by getting pregnant. But I hate everyone I go to school with anyway so....no harm no foul.
I like ketchup and mustard on my veggie dogs.
I'm glad to see some good apts and good luck I those still waiting to go today!
I hate Tuesdays in the summer, especially if it's rainy. The museum gets so busy and while I don't generally deal with the public, I do have to use the bathrooms that they also have access to. Not a big deal except on really busy days like today because it just gets so nasty in there! At least I'm not vomiting, I would not be able to handle going in there to vomit.
I got mine last night and I maybe found it for a few seconds, maybe not. It's so hard to tell. I tried for like 5-10 minutes at a time a couple times. Do you guys slather up with tons of gel or only a couple drops?
MMC April 2014 at 6w2d, D&C at 9 weeks
MMC August 2014 at 9w1d, D&C at 12 weeks
CP October 2014
My Ovulation Chart
MMC April 2014 at 6w2d, D&C at 9 weeks
MMC August 2014 at 9w1d, D&C at 12 weeks
CP October 2014
My Ovulation Chart
@bbnut He majored in geology, taught for awhile and then got a job with the gas company. Now he's in charge of codes and standards for the Northeast and makes sure everything they do is federal/state compliant. He has quite the collection of rocks and gemstones and other fossils in the basement. It's awesome because the last time I was home I was telling him how I wanted some nautical/beachy things to decorate my pirate bathroom with and we wandered down into the basement and I came back home with a giant seastar, a queen conch, a million year old fossilized pectin, and something in the giant clam family. Who needs Home Goods when I've got my dad?
@beckyj2013 My friend's biggest peeve when she was heavy with her twins was when the older ladies in the office commented on her waddling towards the end of her third tri. I mean WHO COMMENTS ON WADDLING?!
@darbie914 I heart the Pioneer Woman.
@goofygoff I feel the same way about the testing thread. I don't think you're being overly sensitive, sometimes the super pro life people can come off that way. I try not to get involved because it is your choice and your body and your baby and I don't want to offend people with other opinions because it's such a heated topic.
And I've never heard of cookie butter and just looked up the Biscoff stuff. Am I the only person who only knew what it was when I read the word "speculoos" in the description on my google search? No, just me with the silly baking knowledge? Okay.
Now I want Nutella...that's totes my jam.
ETA: grammar is fun
"Serious is only something you have to be until you can be silly again."Thanks @Chrain this will be super helpful for me. I hope you find the heartbeat soon!
@mayaruthie Recipe PLEASE, I have all the fix'ns for s'mores at home and don't have anything to do with them at the moment.
@shootznladrz A friend of ours got KU half way through her first year of law school. It was a rough go for her (because of the exhaustion of both law school and being pregnant) but she made it through and they're baby girl is incredible. You can do it, don't let anyone tell you that you can't.
"Serious is only something you have to be until you can be silly again."