Twatwaffle/taco Tuesday

trebekastan · August 2014

trebekastan · August 2014

I nominate everyone who has ever left a doctor's appointment feeling confused and come here looking for answers. I just don't get it.

bumpuser10199668 · August 2014

I got a new office at work. But it is connected to another office. The a/c unit is in front of my desk....the girl in the other office keeps turning it allllllllllllllllll the way up because she doesnt have a unit. Bitch, its cold when the PREGNANT LADY is shivering.

hizah05 · August 2014

GingerGiraffe said:
I nominate Mother Nature. Last night we got record breaking rain. Everything was flooded, state police had to issue a statement telling people all of the freeways are flooded. Stuff is still flooded this morning, roads are closed everywhere. Not quite sure how I'm getting to my appointment that is an hour away.

I have several friends in Michigan dealing with this. Some had over a foot of water in their basements! I hope you're not dealing with that part of it but either way this sucks! I hope you find a way to get to your appointment.

emmylu30 · August 2014

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

bainidhedub · August 2014

Waffle to all the disappearing randos on the spreadsheet, especially the one who was already there and then added herself again yesterday. And the one whose last two posts were to get on the spreadsheet and then complain that she'd been removed for not being active.
Hugs to the ones who disappeared following losses (added to the Remembering list) and tacos to the ones who are now PGAL again.

And a huge freakin' taco for the people who make my cold medicine. I slept last night! I can breathe today! It's like witchcraft!

ConversationFear · August 2014

I am from St. Louis and I nominate all the douchebags who thought that looting and destroying businesses was a suitable tribute to the memory of the young man who was gunned down by a police officer on Saturday. Nevermind that the parents begged the violence to stop and have spoken repeatedly about how their son would have abhorred this behavior - nope they went ahead and kept doing it anyway. Twatwaffles, all.

RedBaramid · August 2014

Twats to the client who yelled "I do what I want!" at me, and then threatened to turn me in for a human rights violation after I politely suggested she change shirts before going to work, because I didn't think wearing a shirt that said "Number 1 Bitch!" on it was work appropriate. Mercy I was glad there was a second staff present so if she does get frisky and try to report me I'll have a witness to the incident, and it won't go on my record.

Tacos to that second staff that was with me this morning, I found 3 med errors that had happened the previous shift that I had to document and had personally handle two major client melt downs (which were direct results of the med errors because those meds were drugs that are given to keep clients mentally stable). When she came in from loading the bus I was sitting in the office surrounded by paperwork and crying(hormones+frustrating morning got the best of me), she brought me a cup of coffee and a doughnut, and stayed with me until I finished the paperwork, despite the fact that she could have just left me there to finish it alone. She's not a regular staff, but I really hope she continues to pick up hours and work with me, I really enjoy her.

conradraging · August 2014

Waffles to my carpal tunnel. No tacos yet.

aliciak316 · August 2014

GingerGiraffe said:
I nominate Mother Nature. Last night we got record breaking rain. Everything was flooded, state police had to issue a statement telling people all of the freeways are flooded. Stuff is still flooded this morning, roads are closed everywhere. Not quite sure how I'm getting to my appointment that is an hour away.

I live in michigan too, the roads everywhere are horrible, cars completely underwater and people losing thousands of dollars because there basements are flooded. We were so lucky only to have very minor leaking in our house I hope the same for you!

conradraging · August 2014

Tacos to @MrsLaLaBug‌ because birthday bishes deserve tacos.

Ciardasully · August 2014

Waffles to the person who never sent me an item to put on the agenda for a meeting today and then claims they sent it two weeks ago. You did not. We can add it but don't try to make me look incompetent for your mistake.

hizah05 · August 2014

Waffles to the nail salon I decided to check out this morning. I made a 10am appointment. I've been left soaking ever since (20 minutes so far) so they could give a walk-in customer a manicure. My water is now getting cold and I'm getting super impatient.

hizah05 · August 2014

bumwaters said:
Can I nominate the lady who changed her kid on the table at a restaurant and was then pissed when they asked her to leave?

Yes, that's disgusting! It's not like restaurants sanitize their tables between every customer. Just a quick wipe down. She deserved to be kicked out.

trebekastan · August 2014

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.

jessicainkentucky · August 2014

conradraging said:

Waffles to my carpal tunnel. No tacos yet.

This. Carpal tunnel will be the end of me.

hizah05 · August 2014

trebekastan said:

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.

I thought the money part was odd also. She's giving you money!! Take it!!!! Maybe we don't know the full back story.

Also, I understand being concerned about the medicine but Benedryl also says do not give to children under 4 and it is perfectly safe. That was my first thought when I saw that part. But she should have at least told you he was sick and asked if it was ok to give it.

bethybeach · August 2014

hizah05 said:

Can I nominate the lady who changed her kid on the table at a restaurant and was then pissed when they asked her to leave?
Yes, that's disgusting! It's not like restaurants sanitize their tables between every customer. Just a quick wipe down. She deserved to be kicked out.

I don't agree with what she did but I heard on the radio briefly that there wasn't a baby changing station in the bathrooms, which is why she did what she did.

Tacos to my daycare provider who gave me a ton of newborn clothes and my sister who I found out is throwing me a small baby shower and a great restaurant on the water so we can get a few good pics.

waffles to stupid people at work and the incredibly long amount of time it takes to hire someone. I am 7 weeks away and need to hire staff and it just takes so long around here.

trebekastan · August 2014

hizah05 said:

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.
I thought the money part was odd also. She's giving you money!! Take it!!!! Maybe we don't know the full back story. Also, I understand being concerned about the medicine but Benedryl also says do not give to children under 4 and it is perfectly safe. That was my first thought when I saw that part. But she should have at least told you he was sick and asked if it was ok to give it.

Yeah, I got no patience for back peddling. Either give the whole story upfront or don't bother.

As for the sick kid thing, he probably just wasn't feeling well and she did what she had done 100 other times and gave him the medicine. Why would she think to call about something that she would see as so insignificant? Why do we expect our parents to just stop parenting and that they are no longer capable because now YOU are a parent. Just because you acquired new skills doesn't mean they lost theirs. We expect them to act like imbecils when they aren't.

emmylu30 · August 2014

hizah05 said:

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.
I thought the money part was odd also. She's giving you money!! Take it!!!! Maybe we don't know the full back story. Also, I understand being concerned about the medicine but Benedryl also says do not give to children under 4 and it is perfectly safe. That was my first thought when I saw that part. But she should have at least told you he was sick and asked if it was ok to give it.

My issue with her wasn't so much the medication is that she wasn't consulting with us and respecting us as the parents. If she would have called us and said DS wasn't feeling well and she wanted to give him Triaminic then we could have discussed that but she thought she knew best and did not give us as his parents the opportunity to make that decision. Good for you @trebekastan that you won't mind "grown ass women" making those decisions for you and your child.

Also regarding the check, she had originally made it out to me to put in my child's college fund from their JOINT account that she had with her husband. When we suggested she make it out directly to Learning Quest for the tax benefit she said that she did not want her husband to know about it. We told her that we would not take the check made out to us and if she wanted to contribute to DS college fund that she needed to give us a check made out to Learning Quest which she declined to do.

trebekastan · August 2014

emmylu30 said:
My issue with her wasn't so much the medication is that she wasn't consulting with us and respecting us as the parents. If she would have called us and said DS wasn't feeling well and she wanted to give him Triaminic then we could have discussed that but she thought she knew best and did not give us as his parents the opportunity to make that decision. Good for you @trebekastan that you won't mind "grown ass women" making those decisions for you and your child.

Also regarding the check, she had originally made it out to me to put in my child's college fund from their JOINT account that she had with her husband. When we suggested she make it out directly to Learning Quest for the tax benefit she said that she did not want her husband to know about it. We told her that we would not take the check made out to us and if she wanted to contribute to DS college fund that she needed to give us a check made out to Learning Quest which she declined to do.

Thank you.

CUBBIESMAMA3 · August 2014

Twats to the L&D nurse at the hospital. She really dug in when she put my IV in the night before last and now I'm getting a huge bruise on my wrist and it still aches.

Twats to feeling like I had to go in the first place. I had contractions since 6 pm on Sunday, so finally after a few hours of trying to get them to stop, we went to L&D at 1 am. After being there for a few hours, they tell me that there aren't any contractions at all. Since there was no doctor available in L&D at the time, they sent me down to the ER to get checked out by a doctor.

Down there, they tell me that it "may be" a stomach virus and that when my stomach cramps up, it causes everything else to cramp up too. I'm not sure if I believe that b/c my stomach wasn't hurting at all. It really felt and hurt like contractions. And if I wasn't having contractions, why in the world would the nurse come in and say, "They're getting stronger."? There is not one good reason to say that unless they are happening. DD's heartrate would go up every time that I had a "cramp." Clearly, something was happening. I'll talk to the Doctor at my next appointment about it, but I just find that very strange.

I was going to put this on Monday's Bitchfest, but I was just too tired to do anything last night. We didn't get home until 730 am, and I took a nap. Thanks for the vent. Hopefully things will go better at the hospital with the RCS.

mapchick77 · August 2014

I nominate the jerkface [or insert more explicit insult here] who was smoking in the bus shelter across from the medical center earlier. I would rather (and did) get soaked standing in the pouring rain for 10 minutes than breathe in your filth. Oh and cutting in front of me in line to get on the bus when it came, just solidified your status as jerkface. I hope I got your back nice and wet with my umbrella, oops!

trebekastan · August 2014

katalina86 said:

bumwaters said:

I would like to nominate people who participate on the board only to belittle and insult others' ideas because frankly I get sick of reading it. Not that I disagree with what is being said at times, but if you look through someone's post history and they don't ever offer support to people seeking it, ask questions themselves or provide (non-sarcastic) answers to others' questions, I don't understand the purpose of participating in this type of forum. Yes, I realize I might stir up a shit storm even saying this and yes, I realize that its the internet and everyone has a right to their own opinion, so I'm stating mine... I just don't understand what some people get out of these consistently negative interactions.
I can't think of *anyone* who comes here just to "belittle" people. Everyone here offers support where it's needed and snark when necessary.

I would respectfully disagree. My statement is not just limited to the S14 board, but I have seen it here too. As much as I enjoy participating on this board, there are a very limited few people whose participation just rubs me the wrong way so I have actually checked post history to see if I can find any supportive posts from them and there is a definite lack in support or advice.

Oh FFS, just come out and say it. I offer legit support on this board when called for. Sorry that I don't feel like holding people's hands anymore as they wade through the confusion that is their life. If you sound like a complaining cry baby, most of the time I don't say anything unless it goes toward a deeper issue that I've come to notice. In the case of the PP, it was the thought that many women forget that their moms and MILs raised children too and we discredit them too quickly.

FYI, in addition to the supposed lack of support that you see here, the majority of my support happens off board with a group of 10 women that I have been talking to daily since February. On this BMB, I don't placate people with stories of my own experience when 99% of the time it's not relevent. The honest advice is usually "Ask your doctor".

ham0216 · August 2014

Tacos for baby for doing great on our BPP ultrasound this morning. Also, tacos for myself for having the Group B Strep test afterwards.

Waffles to the people who have become more & more nosey as my pregnancy progresses. Today's example, DH's co-workers asking if I've gotten hemorrhoids yet? Whaaat.. Do you reallyy wanna know? I'm glad my butt is the topic of convo in the office. So embarrassing!

trebekastan · August 2014

katalina86 said:

@trebekastan This topic was actually something I was discussing with DH last night, so not brought on by your posts on this thread. And again, it's not limited to this board. I wasn't speaking directly to / about you. The fact that you feel this was directed specifically towards you though does say something... Do I feel that you are a bit harsh to other posters? Yes, I do. I often agree with you, but I recognize that not everyone is coming from the same perspective or place of reassurance so its not always necessary to call people out or make them feel bad about their choices or concerns. I also recognize that you have been a part of the board for a long time and have strong connections with many of the ladies on here, which wouldn't be the case if you weren't also offering support to them. So again, my original comment was not directed specifically at you.

I'll go with my stand-by for this one:

The fact that I knew you were talking about me says nothing about anything. It was posted directly after I called someone out for being whiney. Sorry, but there is nothing subliminal going on there. So, no, I wasn't directly mentioned, but I was the reason you posted it. Same thing.

I will never apologize for my tone, because I am a firm believer that in here and in life it does nothing to help people by placating them. When actual support is needed, I give it. When I have nothing to add, I stay out of it. When I see something ridiculous, I comment on it honestly.

trebekastan · August 2014

GingerGiraffe said:

--SNIP--
Oh FFS, just come out and say it. I offer legit support on this board when called for. Sorry that I don't feel like holding people's hands anymore as they wade through the confusion that is their life. If you sound like a complaining cry baby, most of the time I don't say anything unless it goes toward a deeper issue that I've come to notice. In the case of the PP, it was the thought that many women forget that their moms and MILs raised children too and we discredit them too quickly.

FYI, in addition to the supposed lack of support that you see here, the majority of my support happens off board with a group of 10 women that I have been talking to daily since February. On this BMB, I don't placate people with stories of my own experience when 99% of the time it's not relevent. The honest advice is usually "Ask your doctor".

I am not in this group of ten and @trebekastan has given me support. I think I just proved someone wrong.

Well shucks, @GingerGiraffe. You make a girl blush.

Irisheyes1247 · August 2014

Tacos and waffles for my coworker for talking about pizza at 9 am. Now it's all I can think about and I will be picking one up on my way home from work.

Tacos to my vagina for not having GBS, hooray

peanutbuttervibes · August 2014

No waffles today but lots of tacos to all of us September '14 women who have kept it together so well this far! We are so close!!!

Also, I definitely didn't think of @trebekastan‌ when @katalina86‌ made her comment!

hizah05 · August 2014

emmylu30 said:

hizah05 said:

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.
I thought the money part was odd also. She's giving you money!! Take it!!!! Maybe we don't know the full back story. Also, I understand being concerned about the medicine but Benedryl also says do not give to children under 4 and it is perfectly safe. That was my first thought when I saw that part. But she should have at least told you he was sick and asked if it was ok to give it.

My issue with her wasn't so much the medication is that she wasn't consulting with us and respecting us as the parents. If she would have called us and said DS wasn't feeling well and she wanted to give him Triaminic then we could have discussed that but she thought she knew best and did not give us as his parents the opportunity to make that decision. Good for you @trebekastan that you won't mind "grown ass women" making those decisions for you and your child.

Also regarding the check, she had originally made it out to me to put in my child's college fund from their JOINT account that she had with her husband. When we suggested she make it out directly to Learning Quest for the tax benefit she said that she did not want her husband to know about it. We told her that we would not take the check made out to us and if she wanted to contribute to DS college fund that she needed to give us a check made out to Learning Quest which she declined to do.

Sorry to keep calling you out on this but I still really don't understand the check thing. Why couldn't you just cash it and put it in the college fund yourself? Why would SD be ok with her writing a check to you but not directly to Learning Quest - either way she's giving away the money and he will see it if it's a joint account. I'm just confused. And wondering if morally I'm a bad person because I would take the money no questions asked. Even if she said it was a secret from SD who cares? It's her choice if she wants to do that. Seriously just curious what the moral dilemma is here or why it became a big deal because I don't see it.

JD83 · August 2014

Waffles to preg-somnia. DH finally came to bed around 1am, three hours after I went to bed (he and his friend were watching a movie), at which point he got all snuggly and cuddly. It was so sweet and I love it when he does that, but it totally woke me up and I couldn't get back to sleep for another 3.5 hours.

Tacos to our visiting friend for bringing me chocolate from Germany and a little stuffed bunny for his new soon-to-be "niece."

Bella2425 · August 2014

I always get confused on this thread because tacos are still sadly my biggest aversion and waffles sound delicious. I'd like to give myself some waffles actually....

Anyhow, twats to all my co-workers who still don't grasp that I'm due at the end of September and look at me all shocked-like when I show up to work everyday. Maybe I'll just stop coming then!?

AccioPizza · August 2014

trebekastan said:

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.

Uh, WTF? I totally agree with you on the money issue, but you can't be serious about the medicine, @trebekastan. Seriously? "she knows a thing or two?" Just because it was all fine, doesn't make it OK to medicate her child without her permission. What about other things she knows better about? If she said it was fine to give her baby rice cereal at 2 months or that she "needed" water (both super common 'back in the day'), should OP be totally cool with that because obviously she "knows a thing or two." Jeez.

conradraging · August 2014

Um. I think @trebekastan is one of the most supportive people on here to people who don't just use us as their personal google and ask/say stupid things. I'm honestly annoyed that you would criticize her for being honest and straightforward. This isn't google. And it isn't a "support group". It's a forum. I'm tired of anyone who comes on here looking for everyone to hold their freaking hand and tell them only what they want to hear.

trebekastan · August 2014

AccioPizza said:

trebekastan said:

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.

Uh, WTF? I totally agree with you on the money issue, but you can't be serious about the medicine, @trebekastan. Seriously? "she knows a thing or two?" Just because it was all fine, doesn't make it OK to medicate her child without her permission. What about other things she knows better about? If she said it was fine to give her baby rice cereal at 2 months or that she "needed" water (both super common 'back in the day'), should OP be totally cool with that because obviously she "knows a thing or two." Jeez.

No, but I think it's pretty clear that she doesn't like her MIL and is complaining about things. At least that's how it appears to me. Could she have called, sure. My whole point is, again, that we expect our parents to act like they've never parented before. Of course she doesn't think she did anything wrong, because she has already raised children and they obviously turned out fine. Her DH is literally living proof of that. I'm not saying you can't get aggravated but the whole tone was very degrading towards her MIL. I guess I just think that you have to give GP a little slack and understand that they will feel disrespected when you discredit their years of life experience because the times have changed. No one wants to feel like an old waste of space that has nothing to offer the next generation. Just think of yourself at 60 and you are trying to be a good GM and your DIL tells you that the things you did to take care of you LO don't matter anymore. I'm not saying you can't parent your own kids, I just think it's a kick in the pants to get that wake-up call.

KATILLAC1 · August 2014

Bella2425 said:

I always get confused on this thread because tacos are still sadly my biggest aversion and waffles sound delicious. I'd like to give myself some waffles actually....

Anyhow, twats to all my co-workers who still don't grasp that I'm due at the end of September and look at me all shocked-like when I show up to work everyday. Maybe I'll just stop coming then!?

Can I just agree with all of this? I effing love waffles. And I effing hate all the twats (especially the new one at reception) that keeps saying "OMG you're STILL HERE?" and "Any day now huh momma?" Bish I have 6 weeks left...

Also tacos to my MIL who showed up to work with home made guacamole, chips, and a box of Junior Mints. I was starving.

trebekastan · August 2014

KATILLAC1 said:

Bella2425 said:

I always get confused on this thread because tacos are still sadly my biggest aversion and waffles sound delicious. I'd like to give myself some waffles actually....

Anyhow, twats to all my co-workers who still don't grasp that I'm due at the end of September and look at me all shocked-like when I show up to work everyday. Maybe I'll just stop coming then!?

Can I just agree with all of this? I effing love waffles. And I effing hate all the twats (especially the new one at reception) that keeps saying "OMG you're STILL HERE?" and "Any day now huh momma?" Bish I have 6 weeks left...
Also tacos to my MIL who showed up to work with home made guacamole, chips, and a box of Junior Mints. I was starving.

I go back to school next week ( I hate saying that) and I can't imagine what the high schoolers are going to have to say. My plan is to have a countdown on the board so we are all on the same page and then remind them that baby can come up to 2 weeks after that. Pretty sure they are going to tell me that I look some form of huge everyday though.

KATILLAC1 · August 2014

I go back to school next week ( I hate saying that) and I can't imagine what the high schoolers are going to have to say. My plan is to have a countdown on the board so we are all on the same page and then remind them that baby can come up to 2 weeks after that. Pretty sure they are going to tell me that I look some form of huge everyday though.

Gotta love high schoolers...NAHT!

JustCricket · August 2014

waffles to uncomfortable sleep. I'm so ready (and I'm sure 99% of you on here are to) to at least be comfortable while sleeping. I mean I know I won't be getting much, but hopefully it'll be at least enjoyable.

tacos to this day for actually being a pretty good day

and that baby will be here in 2w! (plus a few days)

amom2four · August 2014

Dd2 gets waffles today! (For now anyway) she's so cute in her swimming lessons! She's brave and has shown many times how great she can listen and follow directions. Makes a mama proud that her barley 3yo shows up the 5&6 year olds! :P

Waffles to my mother. Had a nice argument with her yesterday because I can only assume that she still sees me as a 16yo. Hi, I'm 31, have my 4th on the way and think I have successfully gotten the 3 kids I have raised so far to be pretty respectable humans. Dd1 and I don't always see eye to eye because we have such similar personalities but we work it out and actually get along great! She's my mini-me. Ds has autism and we have struggled for several years to get him to the functioning kiddo he is now. I have been in an abusive marriage and took my kids and left while going to school and ultimately cut that jackhole out of our lives, and met someone that has made me happy and is a wonderful man who I have been with for many years now. Sorry you're so miserable but quit making comments when you don't have the slightest clue about what you're talking about. I'm so sick of the hurtful things you say.

Ooh boy, that helps! Sorry. End rant!

AccioPizza · August 2014

trebekastan said:

AccioPizza said:

trebekastan said:

emmylu30 said:

I nominate my MIL for giving DS1 Children's Triaminic over the weekend when he was staying with her. Never mind that 1) she did not tell us that he was't feeling well 2) didn't ask us if it was okay to give him medication and 3) did not care that the instructions say to "NOT GIVE TO CHILDREN UNDER 4". DS just turned 2 last Wednesday for cripes sake and is only 25#s. Thankfully she at least gave him the right dose which I found out after calling nurse line. After DH got on her about it she was still pretty unremorseful and thinking that "she knew best" since had given to her kids and other grandkids. When we went to pick him up the next day she said sorry although not sincerely and that said she threw away the medication but didnt seem to understand the bigger issue of her not respecting us as the parents. Guess that's the last time DS stays with her for a while until I can have a sit down with her. Ugh, she drives me nuts. This is the second stunt she's pulled in a couple weeks. The first was trying to give us a check for DS college fund without DH's step dad's knowledge to be competitive with my parents. When we found out that DH SD didnt know we had to decline the check and tell her that if she wanted to give to DS college fund that DH SD had to be on board also.

I nominate you right back. Heaven forbid a grown ass woman who has raised children of her own think that she knows a thing or two. Heaven forbid she try and give you some money for your kid. My mom and SD have separate money so she never consults him when she spends some. Again, she is a grown ass woman. She doesn't sound like she's trying to harm your child. She sounds like you just underestimate her as a person.

Uh, WTF? I totally agree with you on the money issue, but you can't be serious about the medicine, @trebekastan. Seriously? "she knows a thing or two?" Just because it was all fine, doesn't make it OK to medicate her child without her permission. What about other things she knows better about? If she said it was fine to give her baby rice cereal at 2 months or that she "needed" water (both super common 'back in the day'), should OP be totally cool with that because obviously she "knows a thing or two." Jeez.

No, but I think it's pretty clear that she doesn't like her MIL and is complaining about things. At least that's how it appears to me. Could she have called, sure. My whole point is, again, that we expect our parents to act like they've never parented before. Of course she doesn't think she did anything wrong, because she has already raised children and they obviously turned out fine. Her DH is literally living proof of that. I'm not saying you can't get aggravated but the whole tone was very degrading towards her MIL. I guess I just think that you have to give GP a little slack and understand that they will feel disrespected when you discredit their years of life experience because the times have changed. No one wants to feel like an old waste of space that has nothing to offer the next generation. Just think of yourself at 60 and you are trying to be a good GM and your DIL tells you that the things you did to take care of you LO don't matter anymore. I'm not saying you can't parent your own kids, I just think it's a kick in the pants to get that wake-up call.

I totally see what you are saying about tone. Honestly, it kinda sounds like there are other issues with the MIL or something that have led her to be at the "bitch eating crackers" stage with her MIL. Especially when it comes to the money. But I just can't get behind the argument that just because her DH survived, it's all good. I mean, it would be one thing is she was micromanaging something like, how she holds the baby (unless unsafe or something lol). But medicine is major. I didn't ride in a car seat after I was like 2, because it just wasn't done then. That doesn't make it OK for my mother to decide that she can take my child somewhere without a car seat just because "I was fine." That's not discounting her experience, it's accepting that times have changed and so have safety standards.

ETA: It's also a boundary issue, honestly. It's not OK for ANYONE to decide they are giving my kid medicine without telling me or my husband. Not a nanny, not a friend and not my MIL.

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