What are your thoughts on teen(s) dating adult(s)?

missnacholover · August 2014

NunyaBennis said:

missnacholover said:

I voted it's OK just for shits and giggles

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Stuck in the fucking box again
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Who were the other two now? Fess up...
O:-)

I can always count on you.

Bandia12 · August 2014

Well this is a disappointment. Such an interesting mud troll.

I think I have a ffc for this week though. :P

highbornhunter · August 2014

@ MrsDL - OMG IT Crowd! I love that show!!

lizzielu82 · August 2014

If OP comes back, I'm totes ready to be her Whore Knight. You guys are all meanies - if it's true love, then age is just a silly number, right!?!? :x

runningmama14 · August 2014

NunyaBennis said:

I voted it's OK just for shits and giggles.

OK - 16 year old dating 18 year old.

Not OK - 16 year old dating 38 year old.

I NEED MORE DETAILS @babysunshinee Please and thank you.
Still illegal...in most states.
So is sodomy, but consent goes a long way

Anymore, most states have a "Romeo and Juliet" law that makes it legal for a minor to date an adult if they are within 2 or 3 years.

runningmama14 · August 2014

Lilwatz said:

I voted it's OK just for shits and giggles.

OK - 16 year old dating 18 year old.

Not OK - 16 year old dating 38 year old.

I NEED MORE DETAILS @babysunshinee Please and thank you.
Still illegal...in most states.
So is sodomy, but consent goes a long way
I'm not saying I think it's morally wrong. I'm saying it's illegal. I know someone who spent 2.5 years in jail for that. And is now registered forever.
I get that... I should have added a :P bc I was just trying to make a funny. ... but if we're gonna look at the serious side I'll also now add that a law is only as strong as its enforcement, so I'll stick with consent. I mean, as awful of a situation as that is, it only occurred bc charges were pressed, right? Statutory consent goes further than the active participants. My high school boyfriend was lucky that my parents realized the future implications that pressing charges would have on him. They were outraged that we were having sex (I was 17, he was 20), but looked at the bigger picture.
Interestingly enough, no. Girl and boy both consented. Teen's parents didn't want to press charges. School found out and it spiraled from there.

How long ago was that? I only ask because I usually think of Kansas as pretty slow to come around to things that are "new and progressive" and we have laws that prevent that. That's just crazy that a judge would screw up a kids life over that.

runningmama14 · August 2014

OK, but for reals guise. Lets stop discussing this in an adult manner and get back to the real matter at hand.

Vote don't comments!!!!1!!!

PS - still haven't voted.

ssstephanie214 · August 2014

minors can't give legal consent (with very limited exceptions, none of which include consenting to sex) that's the point of statutory age provisions.

the phrase "pressing charges" kind of gives off a false sense of choice. if a family makes a police report, it follows that an investigation would be made and charges may be brought. but there are other ways a 16/18 year old couple could get caught besides by their families.

it's okay--i also find myself annoying sometimes.

NunyaBennis said:
I get that... I should have added a :P bc I was just trying to make a funny. ... but if we're gonna look at the serious side I'll also now add that a law is only as strong as its enforcement, so I'll stick with consent. I mean, as awful of a situation as that is, it only occurred bc charges were pressed, right? Statutory consent goes further than the active participants. My high school boyfriend was lucky that my parents realized the future implications that pressing charges would have on him. They were outraged that we were having sex (I was 17, he was 20), but looked at the bigger picture.

minibean16 · August 2014

When I was a young'in, all of my crushes were adults. So if this thread will somehow allow me to go back in time and get it on with Jordan Knight from New Kids on the Block, then I'm changing my vote. 11 year old me totally dug him and his rat tail.

Bandia12 · August 2014

I'm with the folks on page 1 that it's a situational thing. But something tells me this isn't one of those times that it is okay.

Here's my ffc, might as well share it now. I married my husband when I was 17 and he was 23. We've been married for 8 years now. He's a family friend though and I've known him for a long time. I realize my situation is nowhere near the norm, but I felt guilty keeping it in :P. lol

KristenAndJeffrey85 · August 2014

I had to sit on a jury for a 15 and 18 year old...

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

Man, after a busy morning I FINALLY check N14 and see this three-page thread on a controversial topic and I'm all...

And then it's all...

I can't vote without knowing more details from the OP (because TB polls = integrity, ya know?), but I will add my own confession.

When I was 21, I was dating a 17 year old. I won't even go into my own issues that made me think that was a good idea (I justified it because we met at a bar -- he was in a band so they let him in to play). He had a tumultuous relationship with his parents (who were very nice people) and was living at his band's practice space, so I took him in... for like six months clothed him, fed him, encouraged his goals in life, made sure he got a good job and had a bright future, helped repair the relationship with his parents (they LOVED me). And then one day I was in debt and all, "WTF am I doing raising a teenager?"

So, yeah, I totally sent him (and the guinea pig I bought him) back home to mommy and daddy. And, from what I hear, he's doing really well. Yeah, you're welcome!

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

WildFlower810 said:

See, but we're talking about dating here. Not sleeping together. You can do one and not the other. So OP seriously needs to come back and clarify.

I feel like my entire dating life has been based on a lie.

Lilwatz · August 2014

runningmama14 said:

Lilwatz said:

NunyaBennis said:

Lilwatz said:

NunyaBennis said:

Lilwatz said:

missnacholover said:
I voted it's OK just for shits and giggles.

OK - 16 year old dating 18 year old.

Not OK - 16 year old dating 38 year old.

I NEED MORE DETAILS @babysunshinee Please and thank you.
Still illegal...in most states.

So is sodomy, but consent goes a long way
I'm not saying I think it's morally wrong. I'm saying it's illegal. I know someone who spent 2.5 years in jail for that. And is now registered forever.

I get that... I should have added a :P bc I was just trying to make a funny.

... but if we're gonna look at the serious side I'll also now add that a law is only as strong as its enforcement, so I'll stick with consent. I mean, as awful of a situation as that is, it only occurred bc charges were pressed, right? Statutory consent goes further than the active participants. My high school boyfriend was lucky that my parents realized the future implications that pressing charges would have on him. They were outraged that we were having sex (I was 17, he was 20), but looked at the bigger picture.
Interestingly enough, no. Girl and boy both consented. Teen's parents didn't want to press charges. School found out and it spiraled from there.

How long ago was that? I only ask because I usually think of Kansas as pretty slow to come around to things that are "new and progressive" and we have laws that prevent that. That's just crazy that a judge would screw up a kids life over that.

Within the last ten years... In Maryland.

AnnieRoo13 · August 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

WildFlower810 said:

See, but we're talking about dating here. Not sleeping together. You can do one and not the other. So OP seriously needs to come back and clarify.

I feel like my entire dating life has been based on a lie.

You mean all my boyfriends were lying my entire life? feel like I've been
deceived!

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

@Wildflower810 - Was making a joke that I always though "dating" was synonymous for "boning." I'm sure there are plenty of people that date without having sex, though.

MarcyR92 · August 2014

When I was 16 I was dating a 20 year old and got pregnant. I lied to my parents that he 17. It passed because he had that baby face going on. Now that's it been 5 years since that happen my parents still dnt kno that he's 4 years older than me. Plus I have not talked to him since before my daughter was born.

NunyaBennis · August 2014

ssstephanie214 said:
minors can't give legal consent (with very limited exceptions, none of which include consenting to sex) that's the point of statutory age provisions.

the phrase "pressing charges" kind of gives off a false sense of choice. if a family makes a police report, it follows that an investigation would be made and charges may be brought. but there are other ways a 16/18 year old couple could get caught besides by their families.

it's okay--i also find myself annoying sometimes.

NunyaBennis said:

I get that... I should have added a :P bc I was just trying to make a funny.

... but if we're gonna look at the serious side I'll also now add that a law is only as strong as its enforcement, so I'll stick with consent. I mean, as awful of a situation as that is, it only occurred bc charges were pressed, right? Statutory consent goes further than the active participants. My high school boyfriend was lucky that my parents realized the future implications that pressing charges would have on him. They were outraged that we were having sex (I was 17, he was 20), but looked at the bigger picture.

I don't find you annoying in the least. Filing a report is not synonymous with pressing charges. Okay, kind of like dating is not synonymous with having sex (even if that's the direction this turned). Ah, semantics.
I never said that parents were the only other parties that would seek enforcement of the law, though. I'll easily give another example: my high school boyfriend was lucky when we got caught having sex in public when the security guard just told us to scram instead of filing a report...