My mom and MIL want to host a shower for me in a few months (my first baby). I initially said thanks for offering but no thank you. I moved across the country from my family about 10 years ago for work and only am back to visit once or twice per year. I have a very large family (mom has 7 siblings, dad has 8, I am the youngest of 30+ first cousins) and I only see a small handful of them when back to visit because there is just not enough time. The last time I saw the large group together was for my wedding shower 2 years ago. I feel like having a baby shower would seem a little gift grabby considering that I last saw many of these people at my wedding shower. I don't want everyone to think I just come into town for gifts. I went to all of my cousin's showers and loved spending time with them and celebrating their babies, but wonder if it is different for me since I moved away. Now both moms are still pressuring me to change my mind and think it is perfectly ok to have a family shower. Thoughts?