WTF Wednesday

missnacholover · August 2014

lizzielu82 said:

missnacholover said:

lizzielu82 said:

WTF to almost EVERYONE who asks me, when I tell them we're having a girl, if my husband "is OK" with the fact that we are having a girl?

What is this the 1950's? Why would he not be anything but excited about the fact that we are having a girl? Do they think he's some thug Neanderthal?

Why is it still ok to think that having a girl is somewhat lesser-than to having a boy? Because of the last name thing? When a lot of women KEEP their last names these days after marriage. Why am I asking so many questions!?

Here's a pic of DH, I don't get why they don't think he'd be excited about a girl:

I find this to be so dumb. I mean, who gives a shit?! We heard some comments about "it better be a boy to carry on the family name!" before we knew what we were having. I mean, really?

And DH's mom apparently is putting "Baby LastName" over everything shower related. DH even asked her to change some stuff saying Baby is just as much a "maiden name" as a married name and to not brand it. I joked that we clearly have to take a cattle prod to the kid's ass when s/he is born.

It's so bizarre! I really don't get it - and it's mostly family members asking who know my husband. Maybe it has something to do that he's a sports writer? But even so, why wouldn't a little girl be able to love sports just as much as a little boy?

Your MIL and my family can hang out and be anti-peesh together!

It's really annoying! I want to give this baby my maiden name as a middle name just to piss people off. Or hyphenate. Good God.

dr_pr · August 2014

@ClrkKntismyAE‌, that's ridiculous. No kid of any age should be forced to wait in a hospital for a long time just because the caregiver wants to be there! Time for a come-to-Jesus talk.

@absolutelymaybe, anti-vaxxers make me stabby. I will die on that hill.

@lizzielu82‌, I got those comments too when I was pregnant with DD. Now I get "your H must be so happy." Because having another girl would have been the end of the world. /end sarcasm

Now for mine; WTF daycare? I ask if you can do something to shorten DD's nap because she doesn't sleep at night anymore and you tell me you'll try to make sure she's up at 3. After putting her down at 12:45. I wouldn't sleep at night either if I took a 2.5 hour nap that I didn't need everyday! So I guess it's a good thing I'm in between semesters now so I can get some freaking sleep.

purplechic7105 · August 2014

AnnieRoo13 said:

WTF boss!? I have a doctor's appointment today at 1:30 close to where I live (30-40 minutes away) and he is making me come back to work. My co-worker is away and they actually cannot function without me here. I told him about the appointment a month ago and suggested he have someone cover it, but he didn't. I'm thinking I'll take an extra long time to get back to the office. How does 4 pm sound?

@AnnieRoo13, oh no chance! That's just ridiculous and illogical for him to ask that. I'd call at 4:15 and say the Dr was running behind, you just got out so you won't be back. Blech, I'm sorry he's being so insensitive.

CarrieAnne09 · August 2014

lizzielu82 said:

WTF to almost EVERYONE who asks me, when I tell them we're having a girl, if my husband "is OK" with the fact that we are having a girl?

What is this the 1950's? Why would he not be anything but excited about the fact that we are having a girl? Do they think he's some thug Neanderthal?

Why is it still ok to think that having a girl is somewhat lesser-than to having a boy? Because of the last name thing? When a lot of women KEEP their last names these days after marriage. Why am I asking so many questions!?

Here's a pic of DH, I don't get why they don't think he'd be excited about a girl:

I don't get it either! My husband is a carpenter so he's around guys all day, he's a very big "guys guy" and he is so excited for our little girl. I think he will actually be a puddle of mush the first time he holds her and I cannot wait for that moment. I hate when people ask that question because of how long we tried for this baby and how excited we both are about it. And then it makes me second guess if DH really is happy about it still. Grrr.... why do people think it's okay to say such stupid things?

PandaCon · August 2014

WTF Sick toddlers: Not any one in particular because it happens to them all.

One case of Hand, Foot and mouth reported in my kiddos daycare class. He only goes two days/week so I thought we would be safe.

This AM he woke up and hour early, crabby and tired. We cuddled for an hour and had breakfast. He has a slight fever (99.3) and went down for a nap 2+ hours early because he is so tired/crabby/lethargic. Really thinking he got it. Keeping and eye on hands, feet and mouth and the fever.

The biggest thing is we are supposed to go on Vacation this weekend (it's contagious for three-eight days). Pretty sure I should not hang out with two more toddlers and another pregnant mom with a DS that had hand, foot and mouth.

It was also our only vacation... And I don't want to get it either.

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

@PandaCon - I hope your DS is ok and doesn't have it. Sending you get well vibes!

hellosweety18 · August 2014

@Maelara‌ My son was teething last week! Up early and cranky too!
And my WTF goes to him today as well.....
DS, why did you feel the need to take off your diaper and poop IN YOUR CRIB ON TOP OF YOUR NICE VINTAGE WINNIE THE POOH BLANKIE!? You could have just woken mommy up.

( :-<
First time he has ever done this, I am praying this isn't a trend! He was just totally quiet until I woke up on my own and realized it was 9:30 and went into his room to check on him and found his mess! However I really can't even be upset because he has been absolutely adorable all morning.... He's like a sour patch kid! :P

PandaCon · August 2014

absolutelymaybe said:

@PandaCon - I hope your DS is ok and doesn't have it. Sending you get well vibes!

Thanks! Praying that he is just getting his two year molars as that could explain his symptoms and behavior too!

absolutelymaybe · August 2014

heisenberg said:

WTF, baby? We asked you to kick us when we said the name you like. After going through our whole long list, you really pick Rupert? Rupert!!!

Maybe he's a HP fan?

Any chance LO could have red hair?

mockingjay1 · August 2014

missnacholover said:

lizzielu82 said:

WTF to almost EVERYONE who asks me, when I tell them we're having a girl, if my husband "is OK" with the fact that we are having a girl?

What is this the 1950's? Why would he not be anything but excited about the fact that we are having a girl? Do they think he's some thug Neanderthal?

Why is it still ok to think that having a girl is somewhat lesser-than to having a boy? Because of the last name thing? When a lot of women KEEP their last names these days after marriage. Why am I asking so many questions!?

Here's a pic of DH, I don't get why they don't think he'd be excited about a girl:

I find this to be so dumb. I mean, who gives a shit?! We heard some comments about "it better be a boy to carry on the family name!" before we knew what we were having. I mean, really?

And DH's mom apparently is putting "Baby LastName" over everything shower related. DH even asked her to change some stuff saying Baby is just as much a "maiden name" as a married name and to not brand it. I joked that we clearly have to take a cattle prod to the kid's ass when s/he is born.

Crazy. Everyone in my DH's family wanted a girl, and we're having a boy. People around here seem to get way more excited about girls. People are so strange.

NunyaBennis · August 2014

CarrieAnne09 said:

lizzielu82 said:

WTF to almost EVERYONE who asks me, when I tell them we're having a girl, if my husband "is OK" with the fact that we are having a girl?

What is this the 1950's? Why would he not be anything but excited about the fact that we are having a girl? Do they think he's some thug Neanderthal?

Why is it still ok to think that having a girl is somewhat lesser-than to having a boy? Because of the last name thing? When a lot of women KEEP their last names these days after marriage. Why am I asking so many questions!?

Here's a pic of DH, I don't get why they don't think he'd be excited about a girl:

I don't get it either! My husband is a carpenter so he's around guys all day, he's a very big "guys guy" and he is so excited for our little girl. I think he will actually be a puddle of mush the first time he holds her and I cannot wait for that moment. I hate when people ask that question because of how long we tried for this baby and how excited we both are about it. And then it makes me second guess if DH really is happy about it still. Grrr.... why do people think it's okay to say such stupid things?

Uuuggghhh, absolutely. My mom of all people (mother of three girls) said she hoped we weren't still disappointed about having a girl! Umm, nope, not even one little teeny tiny itty bitty weeny bit. She also added that she guesses it will be better for [my niece]... WTF?

missnacholover · August 2014

dmo1371 said:

missnacholover said:

lizzielu82 said:

WTF to almost EVERYONE who asks me, when I tell them we're having a girl, if my husband "is OK" with the fact that we are having a girl?

What is this the 1950's? Why would he not be anything but excited about the fact that we are having a girl? Do they think he's some thug Neanderthal?

Why is it still ok to think that having a girl is somewhat lesser-than to having a boy? Because of the last name thing? When a lot of women KEEP their last names these days after marriage. Why am I asking so many questions!?

Here's a pic of DH, I don't get why they don't think he'd be excited about a girl:

I find this to be so dumb. I mean, who gives a shit?! We heard some comments about "it better be a boy to carry on the family name!" before we knew what we were having. I mean, really?

And DH's mom apparently is putting "Baby LastName" over everything shower related. DH even asked her to change some stuff saying Baby is just as much a "maiden name" as a married name and to not brand it. I joked that we clearly have to take a cattle prod to the kid's ass when s/he is born.

Crazy. Everyone in my DH's family wanted a girl, and we're having a boy. People around here seem to get way more excited about girls. People are so strange.

MIL has made it no secret that she wants the opposite gender of what we're having. Oh well.

lizzielu82 · August 2014

NunyaBennis said:
Uuuggghhh, absolutely. My mom of all people (mother of three girls) said she hoped we weren't still disappointed about having a girl! Umm, nope, not even one little teeny tiny itty bitty weeny bit. She also added that she guesses it will be better for [my niece]... WTF?

Same with my MIL - she was disappointed on behalf of our 4 month old nephew. Like he's not going to be as happy playing with a girl. So dumb!

NLJ82 · August 2014

Mom WTAF:
(Shortened, paraphrased conversation)
Mom: What do you plan to do about vaccinations for the babies?
Me: Uhh...get them vaccinated. On time.
Mom: I was afraid of that. There's so much crap that they put in those vaccinations and they don't know the long-term effects. It's just so bad for them. (mind you, I was vaccinated)
Me: So is dying of preventable illnesses.
Mom: Oh, they don't get those kinds of diseases anymore.
Me: Yes, because we vaccinate. And because people are jumping on the anti-vax bandwagon, some of those diseases are coming back.
Mom: No, that's because of the illegal immigrants.

*Speechless*

I think my mom's conspiracy theory fiance and/or Faux-news, right-wing sister have been getting to her.

) this conversation happened?!?! OOHHH NNOOOOOOO WAY.

missnacholover said:

ClrkKntismyAE said:

WTF people?!

I have been telling everybody that I don't want visitors in the hospital after DS is born. I have been very clear. I okayed my aunt and mother being there for the birth and leaving shortly after. Depending on the time DD and my brothers can come up a few hours later for a short visit. Then the next day I will let everybody know when they can come by the hospital.

Yesterday my mom's (long term, serious) boyfriend made a comment about being in the waiting room while I am in labor. I tell him no. So he clarifies that he doesn't plan on going into the delivery room, but to stay in the waiting room until after DS is born. Oh, okay... Thank you for clearing that up. The answer is still no. Apparently he and my mother also planned on having my DD, who will be 22 months old at the time, in the waiting room. WTF do you not understand about "disrupt her schedule as little as possible." My last labor was 10 hours. She is going to be climbing walls and throwing tantrums long before DS is born. Especially if she realizes her daddy and I are in the next room, but can't hold her and play with her. Then my fifteen year old cousin seems to think that because her mother gets to be there she does too. She is planning on sitting "out in the hallway" with DD.

WTF does everybody want my daughter to wait for hours in the hospital?! Her life is about to change forever. Let her stay home, watch Sesame Street, and play with her toys. I certainly don't want her stressed out, upset, and tired when she meets her brother for the first time. We are already worried enough about how she will react when she sees another baby on *her* tata for the first time. As for who watches her, the cousin who tell my daughter, "Will you please shut up? Your crying is giving me a head ache" is not at the top of my baby sitting list.

I am just so frustrated. When I had DD I didn't know what to expect after labor. There were seven people who walked in before I was moved from the delivery room to the recovery. The next day people showed up first thing in the morning and stayed there. Seriously, two visitors were there for two hours. I even told them I need to feed the baby. They left and came back in fifteen minutes later. Then I tell them that I was tired and wanted to sleep. I turned off the lights and TV and they still didn't leave. Apparently they told their ride to leave them there and were waiting for the bus. WTF? By the time I got rid of them more visitors showed up. There right after I was discharged from the hospital (I was at home for maybe 15 minutes) my mother arrived from out of state and expected me to go drive around visiting all these family members. I was exhausted.

This time around I want to be able to relax and spend time with my family. My family being my fiance and our children. I have said so several times any time me having the baby comes up in any way. Apparently everybody just seems to think that they are the exception to the rule. I sincerely hope nobody tries to show up at the hospital the day I go into labor. I now know how to use my L&D nurses. This is probably my last baby and I will have the labor and recovery I want.

Edited to apologize. This ended up being long and ranty.

Reading this stressed me out for you! I would absolutely tell the folks at the hospital that you are not accepting visitors. I'd even think about cutting off your mom and Aunt being there.

Agree. I'm in "leave me alone" mode because I typically have my nose buried in my phone and am wrapped up in so much stuff that I'm FINALLY to the point that I just want to be alone to enjoy this for myself. In that situation I feel like if you let one or two people in, the rest are going to join like you mentioned and there you are again...with 572 people in your room. This stressed me out for you as well!

dh2613 · August 2014

WTF acid reflux please go away and get a life of your own. It has been 2 weeks of your company every night at bedtime. I cannot sleep if every time I lay my head down on the pillow I can taste the food I had all day and can just feel it coming up. You have made your point, you disapprove of me sleeping but please F*CK off and leave me be. Please & Thank You!

AnnieRoo13 · August 2014

purplechic7105 said:

AnnieRoo13 said:

WTF boss!? I have a doctor's appointment today at 1:30 close to where I live (30-40 minutes away) and he is making me come back to work. My co-worker is away and they actually cannot function without me here. I told him about the appointment a month ago and suggested he have someone cover it, but he didn't. I'm thinking I'll take an extra long time to get back to the office. How does 4 pm sound?

@AnnieRoo13, oh no chance! That's just ridiculous and illogical for him to ask that. I'd call at 4:15 and say the Dr was running behind, you just got out so you won't be back. Blech, I'm sorry he's being so insensitive.

You made me feel justified in my WTF

The doctor actually is running late. I'm sitting here at 1:50 and my appointment was for 1:20 and there are 2 women in front of me. I may have to call and tell them I won't make
it back. Unfortunately I have a lot of work to do, so I should go back. Maybe not without a stop at Tim Horton's!

ShelleyElla22 · August 2014

WTF kid who just grabbed his towel off his chair next to me at the pool and then proceeded to fart for the next 2 minutes straight. It seriously feels like someone just took a shit in my mouth. Yuck!

jlove253 · August 2014

ClrkKntismyAE said:
Thank you @missnacholover @absolutelymaybe @CarrieAnne09 @dr_pr @NLJ82

I, once again, made it clear that I didn't want anybody to come to the hospital the day DS is born. Then I pulled my mother off to the side and explained exactly why I felt the way I did. Hopefully it had the desired effect because I am not budging. My aunt and I were both quick to shoot my cousin down when she voiced her assumption.

FI and I have no problem just saying no to anybody who brings it up again. I will also let it be known that the nurses will be told I am not accepting any visitors until the next afternoon and that nobody will be let up to see me. As for the GTFO look, I have resting bitch face. Dirty looks come very easy to me.

Good for you for being ready to stand up for yourself. I remembered you saying you had RBF and was wondering if you'd have to make it more extreme to get the point across.

We had way too many visitors last time and I definitely want fewer this time, but I'm super passive so it's going to be hard to make my wishes known. I'll need a lot of help from DH.

jlove253 · August 2014

PandaCon said:
WTF Sick toddlers: Not any one in particular because it happens to them all.

One case of Hand, Foot and mouth reported in my kiddos daycare class. He only goes two days/week so I thought we would be safe.

This AM he woke up and hour early, crabby and tired. We cuddled for an hour and had breakfast. He has a slight fever (99.3) and went down for a nap 2+ hours early because he is so tired/crabby/lethargic. Really thinking he got it. Keeping and eye on hands, feet and mouth and the fever.

The biggest thing is we are supposed to go on Vacation this weekend (it's contagious for three-eight days). Pretty sure I should not hang out with two more toddlers and another pregnant mom with a DS that had hand, foot and mouth.

It was also our only vacation... And I don't want to get it either.

Hopefully it's not hf&m, but if it is at least it's way easier to deal with as a kid. Dd and I both had it almost two years ago. She had almost no symptoms, and I thought I was going to die. My sister also had it as an adult and was also more miserable than the little girl who gave it to her.

Good luck regardless! Hopefully this won't mess up your vacation!

uncharted01 · August 2014

WTF coworker who is loudly talking in the hallway to another coworker about how she could NEVER be a working mom, how unfair it would be to the child, how she wouldn't trust anyone to watch her kids. Excuse me but not everyone has the option of staying at home nor does everyone want to stay home. Don't make me feel bad about the choices I'm making for my family, biotch.

mussalynn · August 2014

Mom WTAF:
(Shortened, paraphrased conversation)
Mom: What do you plan to do about vaccinations for the babies?
Me: Uhh...get them vaccinated. On time.
Mom: I was afraid of that. There's so much crap that they put in those vaccinations and they don't know the long-term effects. It's just so bad for them. (mind you, I was vaccinated)
Me: So is dying of preventable illnesses.
Mom: Oh, they don't get those kinds of diseases anymore.
Me: Yes, because we vaccinate. And because people are jumping on the anti-vax bandwagon, some of those diseases are coming back.
Mom: No, that's because of the illegal immigrants.

*Speechless*

I think my mom's conspiracy theory fiance and/or Faux-news, right-wing sister have been getting to her.

I agree, you win WTF Wednesday! I would've had trouble scraping my jaw off the floor... wow.

Stephaniegiboney · August 2014

NLJ82 said:
Actually, I'm not done. Pregnancy takes me to a new level of anger over the tiniest things.
1)I do not work for Dr's, I work for the agency. Why are providers SO WHINEY! They basically can do whatever they want and then I'm the one to fix the mess. Guess that's what you get with a degree...no consequences.
2)If I'm on the phone, DO NOT come up to me and start talking about an important matter and then walk away. A million bucks says I have no idea what you just said and it's gonna cause problems in the future.
3)My mom, who is planning my shower, asked my 4 friends (who have offered to help) to bring a few bucks one day last week and we'd all go shopping for all of the supplies. The one acts like she has no idea whats going on, AFTER we've talked about the details, and says "Well, I told my kids I'd take them to the fair" & then treated me like I was to blame bc it made her look bad....THE OTHER text me TEN MINUTES before we were supposed to leave and says "well, the guy hasn't come to fix my tv yet" & then never responded when I asked what her plans were. WHY ARE PEOPLE UNRELIABLE!?
4)DH got a promotion, which you would think would be awesome but he's so overwhelmed by everything that no matter what I say, it rubs him the wrong way. He's grumpy, anxious, and bitter bc he's resorted to anxiety medication to control himself. Also...he's not in any hurry to fix the hole in my door that he put there in a fit of rage.
5)....Body. Stop hurting, you B.

If it makes you feel any better my husband is also ultra work stressed and ALSO punched a hole, in our bathroom door. I've never been so pissed.

kjmommy1214 · August 2014

WTF

1. cat?! Why do you believe that my bump is you personal pillow? Back your pickle wagon up and find the foot of the bed.

2. DD?! Mommy and Daddy are home from vacation. We will not be leaving you again until your little sister is making her debut.

3. Brain?! Shut down and let me sleep.

kjmommy1214 · August 2014

WTF thebump?! I only had one comment. It didn't need posted 3 times.

kjmommy1214 · August 2014

:-w

minibean16 · August 2014

Late one:

WTF pet store. My regular one is under new management. I walk in, and they tell me I have to leave my teeny tiny purse at the front desk (not just check it, but keep it whilst I shop) to 'make sure I don't steal from them.'

Who would be comfortable leaving their wallet/cellphone/ID with a complete stranger?

Turned around and walked out. I refrained from telling them that my baby bump was actually just my stash from the last store tucked under my shirt.

NLJ82 · August 2014

Stephaniegiboney said:

Actually, I'm not done. Pregnancy takes me to a new level of anger over the tiniest things.
1)I do not work for Dr's, I work for the agency. Why are providers SO WHINEY! They basically can do whatever they want and then I'm the one to fix the mess. Guess that's what you get with a degree...no consequences.
2)If I'm on the phone, DO NOT come up to me and start talking about an important matter and then walk away. A million bucks says I have no idea what you just said and it's gonna cause problems in the future.
3)My mom, who is planning my shower, asked my 4 friends (who have offered to help) to bring a few bucks one day last week and we'd all go shopping for all of the supplies. The one acts like she has no idea whats going on, AFTER we've talked about the details, and says "Well, I told my kids I'd take them to the fair" & then treated me like I was to blame bc it made her look bad....THE OTHER text me TEN MINUTES before we were supposed to leave and says "well, the guy hasn't come to fix my tv yet" & then never responded when I asked what her plans were. WHY ARE PEOPLE UNRELIABLE!?
4)DH got a promotion, which you would think would be awesome but he's so overwhelmed by everything that no matter what I say, it rubs him the wrong way. He's grumpy, anxious, and bitter bc he's resorted to anxiety medication to control himself. Also...he's not in any hurry to fix the hole in my door that he put there in a fit of rage.
5)....Body. Stop hurting, you B.
If it makes you feel any better my husband is also ultra work stressed and ALSO punched a hole, in our bathroom door. I've never been so pissed.

Stephaniegiboney Stop it right now! I feel so not alone now. I don't even know how you'd go about fixing this hole. It's a wooden door and we're renters ssoooooo....idk. Good luck!

NunyaBennis · August 2014

JKVogt said:
WTF
1. cat?! Why do you believe that my bump is you personal pillow? Back your pickle wagon up and find the foot of the bed.

2. DD?! Mommy and Daddy are home from vacation. We will not be leaving you again until your little sister is making her debut.

3. Brain?! Shut down and let me sleep.

You said pickle wagon

)

kjmommy1214 · August 2014

NunyaBennis said:

JKVogt said:
WTF
1. cat?! Why do you believe that my bump is you personal pillow? Back your pickle wagon up and find the foot of the bed.

2. DD?! Mommy and Daddy are home from vacation. We will not be leaving you again until your little sister is making her debut.

3. Brain?! Shut down and let me sleep.

You said pickle wagon
)

I use it all the time IRL. DH laughed at me in the beginning, but it is now in his vocabulary. Haha!

goldngirl24 · August 2014

I'm so relieved to read that I'm not suffering alone. I'm sorry for everyone's misery, but you're helping me feel normal! My feet and lower back hurt after standing for what like 10 minutes! My belly/pelvis feels so heavy that I almost fall off the bed when trying to move over my body pillow to pee for the twentieth time. I don't have heartburn, I have reflux and oh boy do I enjoy tasting what I swallowed not minutes before. Sex is getting more complicated and yes, where the heck is that energy going? I do not enjoy being kicked in the crotch. I too want to react violently to people who have the audacity to ask about twins. Although since my weight gain has slowed down,

goldngirl24 · August 2014

No one is asking anymore. But seriously? I'd never sa anything about anyone's weight! It's so rude, what are you guys doctors? Fitness experts? I work out more than you being pregnant. Ugh! Oh yeah and my cats annoy the crap out of me. I've told H to not be surprised to come home and the pets are gone. I read about 25 weeks and more hormones, yup I am feeling ya! When can I just go and enjoy baby shower cake and put my feet up and do nothing until November??? Hang in there, moms!

meeshybee · August 2014

Went to get my 2 hour glucose test done at the lab today. Random stranger decides to sit next to me in the nearly empty waiting room and strike up a conversation. He asked what I was having and I told him a girl. Then he goes on and on about how expensive girls are. His phone interrupts him and then the receptionist calls him up. I'm thanking my lucky stars that the "conversation" is over when he sits back down next to me. He asked if this was my first and I said it was my fourth. Cue a lecture about how he made sure to "get fixed" after the second one. Who talks to a complete stranger about their vasectomy?!?

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