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Re: no sex drive :/

  • CariLS8CariLS8 member
    TheaRae said:

    This is such a sensitive topic for ladies, my hubby & I have not had intercourse since I was about 26 weeks, I am 30 weeks now... but we are still very intimate in other ways... we make it a point to kiss alot hold hands hug ect... but for the really intimate times, we shower together snuggle nude together, make out for a few minutes, our favorite thing these days seems to be lying nude and he will just tickle me all over for an entire hour the raw mood of this and the smiles and giggles curve that edge of need and allow for that connectivity to still be present... I also got him some really cool helpful toys from the local adult shop that make my life way easier... Even though I am not in the mood I make it a point to stay intimate with him (to be honest sometimes I force myself to be) but I know that he has needs and in order to keep that flame present I have to fan it. Really exploring options that you are comfortable with will be really benifical to finding alternative to sex, just remember your man needs to feel wanted and attracted to... just as we do... what you are going through is so beautiful embrace it and who knows where your creativity will take you for me I'm on a deeper level with in my soul with my husband than ever before and thats without sex.

    Those are great ideas! Thank you! I completely understand he has needs and its hard for him to not share all the physical affection we did before I got pregnant. We actually shower together every night. Before I moved to California with him we were in a long distance relationship, so I think becoming pregnant and out of nowhere not being in the mood was hard for him since he was sort of expecting to make up for lost times, you know? I'm mean neither of us regret becoming pregnant at all, we are so excited. Just neither of us expecting the no sex drive really threw him off and me too. It's hard for me when he thinks I'm not attracted to him anymore. But I will have to think about some of those things you've mentioned so he gets his needs met as well :)
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  • brittanylee618brittanylee618 member
    Yeah, all I kept hearing about before I got pregnant and even now still is how increased your sex drive is... It's not even that I don't want it, it just seems like so much work right now. Plus, whenever we do the deed none of the positions do anything for me, so it's nice to love on the hubby but..meh. haha. May be a bit selfish but hey, I have needs too ;)
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