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kannev · August 2014

Just had my 8 week ultrasound today an nothing had changed from one I had at 5 weeks. So, tomorrow I take some pills to expel the tissue. My husband is going out of town for a week beginning tomorrow at 7 AM. It's just me and the four-year-old. I'm feeling really scared to do this without support. I'm scared at what I'll see. I'm scared that I won't have anyone around in case something goes awry. Should I be worried? What is it like?

amismom · August 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm thinking of you and your family. I agree with PP I think having someone help with your 4 year old is best. Don't do this alone if you don't want to.

uromys · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm going through the same thing at the moment. I actually ordered the pill but have changed my mind and decided I'll go with a d&e. I can't bare the thought of passing it and being alone. I hope you can find some help and support from family. Praying for comfort for you!

foreverMorgan · August 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine going through that alone. If you have family or even a close friend nearby reach out to them for support. Sending my thoughts & prayers.

MrsZko · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss...I hope you don't have to be alone, even a friend would be good. But if not, your four year old will keep you distracted and keep you going....

nomnommama · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your lost and also that you have to do this alone. Big hugs.

cesquer · August 2014

I am soo sorry.

GBell81 · August 2014

I had a misscarriage where the baby stopped developing at 5 wks but I carried it until 9 weeks. I miscarried naturally at home. I had bad cramps and lots of bleeding for about 4 hours and then the cramps stopped and the bleeding slowed. As far as tissue, nothing was really identifiable at that time. I was nervous about that part too, but I think you are early enough it will be just clots. I am so sorry this happened to you. It is terrible news. Take care of yourself and take it easy. Try and find a sitter for your little one if you can. My kids were home when I miscarried and it was hard for them to see me in pain and they really didn't understand.

JNCPro3130 · August 2014

I'm so sorry!

Terpsgirl25 · August 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. Just remember we are here are for you. If you need to private message during that time...do not hesitate to talk to me.

AlinnJo · August 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss. I suggest finding someone to come over to help with your 4 year old. You will most likely want to rest.

ngolimento · August 2014

I'm so very sorry you are going through this. Please reach out to friends and family for support during this time so you won't be alone.

litt1er4 · August 2014

I am so sorry, for my m/c, I had a lot of cramping & pain for several hours while I passed all the tissue & etc. I bled like a heavy period for 2-3 days. It might be a good idea to have some help you out with your 4yo.

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FrecklesInside · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss, and I'm sorry you have to go through this without your husband. I hope you can get family or a very close friend to come stay with you or at least help out some portion of the day.

jap618 · August 2014

I'm so so sorry for your loss ((hugs)) If there is ANYONE to help out with your 4 year old I would call on them. Have comfy clothes, lots of trashy tv available and a heating pad available. Is your doctor prescribing you any pain meds? If not, make sure you have advil & tylenol available and rotate as needed. There's a lot of bleeding & cramping and emotions that go along with it. I hope you can find some support. So many ((hugs)) and I'm so sorry.

elgizzo · August 2014

I am so terribly sorry for you loss. If you could have anyone come over for support, I would. I'm sorry you have to do this alone. Hugs to you.

2Swanns · August 2014

I'm so sorry you're going through this. My heart goes out to you.

BitsyBelle84 · August 2014

I am so very sorry for your loss. T&P for you.

blueroad · August 2014

Sending thoughts and prayers your way.

MrsLaurenandDan · August 2014

I am so sorry. Is there anyway he can stay? You really shouldn't be alone.

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jacqueleen1 · August 2014

Sorry for your loss. I hope you find someone to help you out in this time

shlittertoots · August 2014

I'm so sorry. I hope you have some family or a friend nearby you can lean on this week. ((Hugs))

starsailorr26 · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a mc at 8 weeks and didn't look at the clots or tissue as it passed. I would see if someone can help you with your LO and if that isn't an option I'd wait until your SO comes back. It can be very emotional and I wouldn't have wanted to go through that with my DD around and without DH's support.

vargasgurl · August 2014

Sorry to here about your loss . If you could get some help it would probably be best. If you are cramping you will most likely want to lay down or just sit in the bathroom. Take care of yourself

mommy423g · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss, big ((((HUGS)))). I hope that you can get family, friends, neighbor someone to be there with you. You shouldn't be alone through this.

melleasndrs · August 2014

So sorry for your loss. This is not an easy thing to go through especially alone. You might need some extra support from someone. Unfortunately the cramping is going to put a toll on you physically and mentally. Your in my thoughts.

lhill88 · August 2014

I'm very sorry for your loss. Sending T&Ps your way.

JennyP0222 · August 2014

I am so sorry for your loss and that you have to go through this. Is there any possible way you can wait a week until your H is back in town? As many others have said, the experience can be painful and emotional. When I went through it I wanted solitude so my H stayed downstairs, and I cannot even begin to imagine going through it with that with a young child to care for at the same time. I would consider waiting a week to take the pills or definitely have someone you trust to care for your child at your home.

Krista528 · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. It would be a good idea to see if someone can help you and support you while your husband is gone.

brown101 · August 2014

I completely agree with all PP especially @starsailorr26‌... Can you wait another week for you DH to come home. I needed mine every time I went to the bathroom I was reminded of what was going on. I needed his shoulder to cry on and remind me that we have a sweet little man to enjoy!!!! Take care of yourself!!

jnowosielski · August 2014

I'm so sorry. Thoughts and prayers.

PuppyLove84 · August 2014

I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending you thoughts and prayers in this rough time.

cina1980 · August 2014

I'm so sorry. We have had five early miscarriages. Every time it just felt like a horrible period with a lot of big clots. Nothing was identifiable. I'm very scared going through this one. Don't give up , and focus on your four year old. I have an eleven year old and remind myself every time how lucky I am to have her. Some people never even get to have one. Again, I'm so sorry and sending you lots of prayers for comfort and healing

daizedoo · August 2014

Can't even imagine

so very sorry. I hope you found someone supportive to come help you out.

jhamiltonj · August 2014

I went through two miscarriages. One naturally and one induced with pills at 8 weeks (but with minimal development). The pills are more intense than a natural miscarriage. You probably will not want to be alone, or in charge of your 4 year old.

So sorry for your loss.

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