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BPer · August 2014

Hi guys. I'm back.

BPer · August 2014

I feel horrible that DD has HFM, but also kind of annoyed that I haven't really gotten the chance to bond with Ben since we got home from the hospital.

BPer · August 2014

I went straight to FFing this time around, and I'm pretty shocked by the judginess being thrown my way by randos.

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

BPer said:
I went straight to FFing this time around, and I'm pretty shocked by the judginess being thrown my way by randos.

I hope you have stockpiled some bitchy replies. Surely people know that can be a sensitive subject for some women (not saying it is for you, just in general). I would start sobbing and explain that both nipples were lost during birth. Make them feel really bad for being rude

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

I got snippy with MIL on Wed. Probably uncalled for. Oops.

My cat is at the vet and I'm already thinking of where my financial cap is for his care. I'm already $750 in, so it's not like I'm not trying to do what's best for him. He's old and I won't pursue chemo or surgery.

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

Oh, I got in a back and forth with a dude that wants to buy part of our company. Not very smart, but he was being a know it all dick about something he knows nothing about. He was pretty heavy on the drinks... What's my excuse? Lol

tinyhumantoe · August 2014

It's the longest story ever, but I had to stay in a smoking room at a booger cum motel on the way home from my work trip. I have seriously been wondering if I'm going to die, or if I harmed my unborn child.

BPer · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I went straight to FFing this time around, and I'm pretty shocked by the judginess being thrown my way by randos.
I hope you have stockpiled some bitchy replies. Surely people know that can be a sensitive subject for some women (not saying it is for you, just in general). I would start sobbing and explain that both nipples were lost during birth. Make them feel really bad for being rude

It was a sensitive subject for me with Hannah, because I really tried, and just could not produce, plus she was the world's laziest nurser, basically a precursor to her shitty eating now. But now? It was my choice, and I'm happy with it. I'm a lot closer to feeling back to 'normal', whatever that is.

Holly_1007 · August 2014

I left the boys in the car when I went inside to pay for gas yesterday. I ALWAYS pay at the pump with a card, so it's not in my normal routine to take them out when I get gas. I didn't even realize what I had done until I was pumping. At least I was parked at the spot closest to the door.

Holly_1007 · August 2014

I intentionally bombed a phone interview that the temp agency set up for me. It was PT, an hour away. Between paying for gas and care for the boys I would take home negative fifty dollars a week. No thank you.

Flamingemu · August 2014

tinyhumantoe said:

I got snippy with MIL on Wed. Probably uncalled for. Oops. My cat is at the vet and I'm already thinking of where my financial cap is for his care. I'm already $750 in, so it's not like I'm not trying to do what's best for him. He's old and I won't pursue chemo or surgery.

This is one of the hardest decisions we made last year. Knowing Shady had Cancer and chemo would only prolong his life a bit, but not make the cancer go away completely. Hugs. I am sorry you have to go through that.

Flamingemu · August 2014

Holly_1007 said:

I intentionally bombed a phone interview that the temp agency set up for me. It was PT, an hour away. Between paying for gas and care for the boys I would take home negative fifty dollars a week. No thank you.

Yuck. Why did they even set that up? Have you tried multiple temp agencies? The last time I was between jobs I went to 2. One sucked majorly and the other found me a FT temporary job that I could still go on FT perm job interviews at. It was great.

Flamingemu · August 2014

BPer said:

I feel horrible that DD has HFM, but also kind of annoyed that I haven't really gotten the chance to bond with Ben since we got home from the hospital.

Is she on the mend yet? HFM sucks.

Flamingemu · August 2014

I was so short tempered with L last night. She wasn't listening to a damn thing, I was obv not on point after my out-patient and DH was working late. I put her in the tub to play then put on a Dis Jr. She also went to bed early. I still feel guilty this morning though I know I shouldn't.

Flamingemu · August 2014

DH promised his mom that he would bring L out for grandkids day at her retirement complex. It starts at 11am. Good luck DH. Girl goes down for a nap by noon. MIL lives 45+ mins away.

I bailed and told him I needed to get stuff done around the house to prep for our big BBQ next week. I will likely go shopping and watch a movie or read a book in peace. Ha!

Holly_1007 · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

Holly_1007 said:

I intentionally bombed a phone interview that the temp agency set up for me. It was PT, an hour away. Between paying for gas and care for the boys I would take home negative fifty dollars a week. No thank you.

Yuck. Why did they even set that up? Have you tried multiple temp agencies? The last time I was between jobs I went to 2. One sucked majorly and the other found me a FT temporary job that I could still go on FT perm job interviews at. It was great.

it was within my salary requirements, but not within my zip code, I guess they figured it met one of my criteria?

Holly_1007 · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

I was so short tempered with L last night. She wasn't listening to a damn thing, I was obv not on point after my out-patient and DH was working late. I put her in the tub to play then put on a Dis Jr. She also went to bed early. I still feel guilty this morning though I know I shouldn't.

don't beat yourself up, she has already forgotten about it.

BPer · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

BPer said:

I feel horrible that DD has HFM, but also kind of annoyed that I haven't really gotten the chance to bond with Ben since we got home from the hospital.

Is she on the mend yet? HFM sucks.

Yeah she's pretty much back to normal, but can't return to DC until Monday. It's been tough going with a newborn. She was absolutely miserable for 4 days. Her rash was all over her face/neck/chest/scalp and then spread to her back, butt, and vagina. There was a lot of bathing in oatmeal, and dousing her in coconut oil.

Flamingemu · August 2014

BPer said:

Flamingemu said:

BPer said:

I feel horrible that DD has HFM, but also kind of annoyed that I haven't really gotten the chance to bond with Ben since we got home from the hospital.

Is she on the mend yet? HFM sucks.

Yeah she's pretty much back to normal, but can't return to DC until Monday. It's been tough going with a newborn. She was absolutely miserable for 4 days. Her rash was all over her face/neck/chest/scalp and then spread to her back, butt, and vagina. There was a lot of bathing in oatmeal, and dousing her in coconut oil.

Yuck. L had hers on her thighs and feet. My 32 LBer refused to walk for 5 days. That was fun. ha.

melody921 · August 2014

I have been entirely too short-tempered recently. Work's been crazy, the kids have been crazy, half the time DH isn't paying attention when I'm talking to him. I feel like I want to just go through life slapping everyone. I'm really trying to summon patience for when I'm with the kids, which doesn't leave a whole lot more for everyone else in the world.

Flamingemu · August 2014

melody921 said:

I have been entirely too short-tempered recently. Work's been crazy, the kids have been crazy, half the time DH isn't paying attention when I'm talking to him. I feel like I want to just go through life slapping everyone. I'm really trying to summon patience for when I'm with the kids, which doesn't leave a whole lot more for everyone else in the world.

I am in the same place right now. My house is a disaster. I have been slacking in the cleaning to see if DH would do anything. Nope. He really leads a charmed life.

Flamingemu · August 2014

I told DH he has been miserable for the past couple weeks. I did it yesterday after my surgery so he would feel sorry for me and not fight. I told him he either needed to change his work hours to get more time in the office or start delegating. Him bringing work home every night and being a dick about getting it done is not working for us.

I told him L has been favoring me over him lately because he has been an asshole to her and me and she is picking up on it.

I also told him I wouldn't do any more laundry until he cleaned the kitchen and bathrooms. I have a lot more clothes than he does.

melody921 · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

melody921 said:

I have been entirely too short-tempered recently. Work's been crazy, the kids have been crazy, half the time DH isn't paying attention when I'm talking to him. I feel like I want to just go through life slapping everyone. I'm really trying to summon patience for when I'm with the kids, which doesn't leave a whole lot more for everyone else in the world.

I am in the same place right now. My house is a disaster. I have been slacking in the cleaning to see if DH would do anything. Nope. He really leads a charmed life.

I am fully convinced that my DH just doesn't see the mess the same way I do. I definitely have to spell out exactly what I need from him. If I just expect him to help, he won't do the things I deem critical. My dream right now, career-wise, is to find something a little more flexible, so I don't feel like everything at home is always slipping away from me.

melody921 · August 2014

I just barely avoided snapping at MIL last night. I mentioned to her that DD has been crying at bedtime bc I didn't want her to be surprised by her behavior. When I got home, she said DD cried for 10-15 mins (I suspect this is really more like 2 mins, but in Grandma world, it feels longer). Then she said that since DD cries the same way every day when I leave her at daycare, there must be something going on at school. She said, "One time, when I was here, I noticed a bite mark on her arm." RAGE. Yes, my kid has been bitten at daycare. No, the daycare is not trying to hide that kind of stuff from me. DD freaks out every day, even though she hasn't been bitten in months. I'm really convinced it's an age/developmental thing, not an I hate school thing. It just made me feel, once again, like the working mom who isn't protecting her kid from the big, bad daycare world.

BeebopandBuddy · August 2014

I haven't called my mom since we left on the last day of vacation two weeks ago. I just needed a break from everyone to focus on this job transition and getting shit in order. I feel bad about it but I've decided we are not taking vacations with anyone outside our immediate family for at least a few years. It stresses me way more than it relaxes me

Flamingemu · August 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

I haven't called my mom since we left on the last day of vacation two weeks ago. I just needed a break from everyone to focus on this job transition and getting shit in order. I feel bad about it but I've decided we are not taking vacations with anyone outside our immediate family for at least a few years. It stresses me way more than it relaxes me

DH asked me if we could skip family vacays for a while. We both come home more tired than relaxed.

melody921 · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

I haven't called my mom since we left on the last day of vacation two weeks ago. I just needed a break from everyone to focus on this job transition and getting shit in order. I feel bad about it but I've decided we are not taking vacations with anyone outside our immediate family for at least a few years. It stresses me way more than it relaxes me

DH asked me if we could skip family vacays for a while. We both come home more tired than relaxed.

I like our relatives, but there are very few of them I could travel with.

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

Nancy was so exceptionally, ridiculously cute & lovey this morning that I cried after I dropped her off until I got to work.

Also, the hot flashes I'm getting with this pregnancy are completely epic. Like worse than when my doc put me into menopause years back. I was doing an orientation with 22 students yesterday and I actually stopped halfway in, asked how many of them had kids and then said "These hot flashes are the worst, I'm sorry." And sat down and drank a glass of water. I was sweating through my shirt. It was ridiculous. I fear I'm going to have to start bringing new underwear and tops to work to get through this next month.

Hyaline · August 2014

Flamingemu said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I got snippy with MIL on Wed. Probably uncalled for. Oops. My cat is at the vet and I'm already thinking of where my financial cap is for his care. I'm already $750 in, so it's not like I'm not trying to do what's best for him. He's old and I won't pursue chemo or surgery.

This is one of the hardest decisions we made last year. Knowing Shady had Cancer and chemo would only prolong his life a bit, but not make the cancer go away completely. Hugs. I am sorry you have to go through that.

That stinks. I hate that decision, but honestly--you know what's best for your pet to prevent suffering.

For what it's worth, my cat lived for well over a year with cancerous tumors. He was fat and happy until the end, and then he just started sleeping more, eating less, and died in his sleep. If the animal isn't suffering, don't feel that you *have* to do anything, IMO.

Hyaline · August 2014

We had our church mom's group and their families over for a BBQ last night. In quickly trying to clean up before they got here, I just took all the piles of crap I've asked DH to put away and he didn't and dumped them in his study, and closed the door.

I suspect they'll sit in there for at least another two weeks.

Holly_1007 · August 2014

Keagan can recognize 1 letter. K. I feel like I'm failing him

BeebopandBuddy · August 2014

Holly_1007 said:
Keagan can recognize 1 letter. K. I feel like I'm failing him

You aren't failing him. Maybe he just needs more practice. Maya had flash cards and a M & D puzzle with letters she did for a while. Now we just point out letters on signs, cards or things we see when we look around.

kelbel527 · August 2014

melody921 said:

I have been entirely too short-tempered recently. Work's been crazy, the kids have been crazy, half the time DH isn't paying attention when I'm talking to him. I feel like I want to just go through life slapping everyone. I'm really trying to summon patience for when I'm with the kids, which doesn't leave a whole lot more for everyone else in the world.

Yep. Somedays my 4yo sucks every last ounce of patience I own. I wish I had more stockpiled somewhere...

OceanLover26 · August 2014

BeebopandBuddy said:

Keagan can recognize 1 letter. K. I feel like I'm failing him
You aren't failing him. Maybe he just needs more practice. Maya had flash cards and a M & D puzzle with letters she did for a while. Now we just point out letters on signs, cards or things we see when we look around.

This. And also, if you don't mind Keagan watching TV occasionally, the TV show Superwhy! really helped both of my boys have a love for letters and books. Plus the way the pig sings the alphabet is awesome.

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

@Holly_1007, someone on here recommended the Endless Alphabet app for Kindle/Android. If you can get it, do. Nancy has learned S, C, K, N, I and T since Monday. It's crazy how much she loves the app and now even says the letters and the sounds they make. I care more about her being able to recognize letters and be aware of their sounds vs being able to sing the alphabet.

bosha711 · August 2014

OceanLover26 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

Keagan can recognize 1 letter. K. I feel like I'm failing him
You aren't failing him. Maybe he just needs more practice. Maya had flash cards and a M & D puzzle with letters she did for a while. Now we just point out letters on signs, cards or things we see when we look around.

This. And also, if you don't mind Keagan watching TV occasionally, the TV show Superwhy! really helped both of my boys have a love for letters and books. Plus the way the pig sings the alphabet is awesome.

I was also going to suggest SuperWhy for letters...and Team Umizoomi for numbers/math. My kids love both.

MississippiCatfish · August 2014

bosha711 said:

OceanLover26 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

Holly_1007 said:
Keagan can recognize 1 letter. K. I feel like I'm failing him
You aren't failing him. Maybe he just needs more practice. Maya had flash cards and a M & D puzzle with letters she did for a while. Now we just point out letters on signs, cards or things we see when we look around.

This. And also, if you don't mind Keagan watching TV occasionally, the TV show Superwhy! really helped both of my boys have a love for letters and books. Plus the way the pig sings the alphabet is awesome.

I was also going to suggest SuperWhy for letters...and Team Umizoomi for numbers/math. My kids love both.
I like SuperWhy and Phonics Farm (leapfrog) for this. And we have an alphabet puzzle, fridge magnets and tub sticky letters.

kelbel527 · August 2014

I just teared up in my bosses office. I hate that I'm so tired and stressed out right now that every time I have a tough conversation I end up crying. I used to pride myself on never crying at work. Ugh.

Holly_1007 · August 2014

He has access to tons of learning tools, plus preschool. I knew it wasn't his strongest subject but I didn't realize how bad it was.

hmp1 · August 2014

BPer said:

tinyhumantoe said:

I went straight to FFing this time around, and I'm pretty shocked by the judginess being thrown my way by randos.
I hope you have stockpiled some bitchy replies. Surely people know that can be a sensitive subject for some women (not saying it is for you, just in general). I would start sobbing and explain that both nipples were lost during birth. Make them feel really bad for being rude

It was a sensitive subject for me with Hannah, because I really tried, and just could not produce, plus she was the world's laziest nurser, basically a precursor to her shitty eating now. But now? It was my choice, and I'm happy with it. I'm a lot closer to feeling back to 'normal', whatever that is.

I beat myself up when I stopped BFing James. With Leo, it was like this isn't working time to bust out the formula and give half the overnight feedings to DH, holla!

MarisaKathleen · August 2014

I'm so scared to try to BF again due to how poor our experience was last time that I've debated just starting off with formula. I got a breast pump and am hoping that I can do that like last time.

I imagine it's going to be more challenging this time due to having a 2 year old running around...

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