Overwhelmed -- told today I may m/c
Hi all. I just went to the doctor today as a f/u to last week. Last week I went to the doctor thinking I was 8w and found out I was only measuring 6w1d with a heartbeat of 94bpm. Today I went in and the fetus has only grown to 6w4d (should've been 7w1d) with a heartbeat of 78bpm. The doctor gave me my options: wait to m/c, take a pill or get a d&c. DH is angry -- he thinks the pregnancy is still viable and she shouldn't be giving us these options. I have a bad feeling about the pregnancy and don't think it's going any further as the baby hasn't grown and heart is getting slower and slower.
I don't know what to do at this point. I was wondering if anyone here had a heartbeat and what your decision was? This is my first pregnancy and it's all so overwhelming!!
Re: Overwhelmed -- told today I may m/c
I am so sorry you're going through this... I would wait until there is no longer a heartbeat. You can never be certain and you might always wonder "what if".
I'm so sorry... hugs and prayers...
I am with adorsey on this one. I wouldnt do anything until there was no hb. But thats just me. I would let nature take its course and once the hb has definitely stopped then do a d&c.
I am so sorry you have to go through this. Just remember miracles happen every day and whether that miracle is taking a baby home to God or giving a weak hb a kick and helping a baby start growing, they are very real. I an with your DH, I wouldnt rule it not viable until you are sure its realy over.
Good luck sweety.
I'd wait also, just so you won't always wonder "what if". It is so hard, I had an u/s due to a tiny bit of spotting at what should of been 7w and baby only measured 5 w 4d, but had a strong h/b of 133..I started losing the baby the very next day. It was so very sad and hard, especially after having seen that h/b the day prior.
I'd definitely wait it out, miracles happen every day to people, you never know.
My doctor was trying to push me for a d/c when they detected a heartbeat of 50bpm. I didn't feel right about it and asked to wait until the hb stopped. He told me that within the week it would stop and he was right, I went back 5 days later and the hb had stopped. I felt much, much more comfortable about the decision though. I went ahead and let the mc happen naturally too, just because then I knew there was nothing more that I could have done.
Sorry about your loss. Its hard to go through. Mine was a 1st pregnancy as well