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scgmama · July 2014

mandamoochie said:
Wait.. I was just a bystander cause everyone already said what I was thung but...wait a second here....

How does your SO's job make him create only sperm with two X chromosomes? :-/

He works with bombs. So radiation killing the Y chromosome I presume lol.

mandamoochie · July 2014

Hmmm interesting. Never heard of that before.

scgmama · July 2014

@mandamoochie‌ just asked him again and he said because of the radiation and chemicals he works with. He's been doing this for 8 years now so I'm assuming it would affect him now.

mandamoochie · July 2014

Seems like a dangerous business.. I don't doubt its true.. just never heard of it.

kimmykaye · July 2014

Wow. That is one drama filled BFF relationship (or ex-relationship?). Aubrielle is NOT the same as Audry Brielle. You're friend is crazy and needs to stop obsessing over the past. It's a beautiful name and you should use it if you love it. Yeah, just....wow.

jennjilljo · July 2014

scgmama said:
I'm going to name this baby what I want and I really do love the name Aubrielle Emmeline. And js, ramzi method predicts a girl and technically from my SO's job he shouldn't be able to produce male sperm.

I love the name! My DH worked around sat dishes. We called having girls the battalion curse because in the 6 yeas we were there only 3 couples had boys out of hundreds of couples.

CogDis · July 2014

I'm late to the convo, but seriously! Don't let a woman who cheats on her husband try to give directions for what's right in life (about baby names or whatever), her moral compass is broken!

You sound like a really great person, to care about your friend's feelings even when she 's being melodramatically self centred. Don't beat yourself up. Reason will find her, and your friendship will survive. And, if she doesn't ever see reason, I'm willing to bet she needs you far more than you need her.

CogDis · July 2014

Ps: my initial (not at all constructive) reaction when reading your post was, "WTF? They're SO not the same names!"

animalcrckr · July 2014

scgmama said:

@mandamoochie‌ just asked him again and he said because of the radiation and chemicals he works with. He's been doing this for 8 years now so I'm assuming it would affect him now.

FYI, from my knowledge (a military/medical background) the X chromosomes are more likely to sustain damage when dealing with radiation. In all of the major global nuclear disasters, there have been a major increase in the birth of boys. If you look into the research you will find that the X chromosomes are much more vulnerable resulting in a decrease of female births.

bhjones1980 · July 2014

and I have a questions (so many actually)

does her DH KNOW about this relationship with your SO???

this whole situation is odd, I do not understand why you would maintain a friendship with someone like this.

AF9211 · July 2014

bhjones1980 said:

and I have a questions (so many actually)

does her DH KNOW about this relationship with your SO???

this whole situation is odd, I do not understand why you would maintain a friendship with someone like this.

ALL OF THIS! ^^

Forget the fact that her daughter has a similar name to what you wanna name your baby...I'd run as fast as I could in the opposite direction if someone who claimed to be my BFF was THAT hung up on my SO...

mommadozer · July 2014

Those names are not remotely close! If you and SO love it, I say go for it! In regards to her comment and prior situation you explained. Seems like there is some jealousy and she is just making a snarky comment to make you second guess yourself. People like that annoy the hell out of me.

srcr2011 · July 2014

Some BFF. I would feel betrayed that she kept such a huge lie from you. She obviously has issues and probably feelings for your SO. It sounds more of a territorial thing than just have "similar" names (that aren't that similar at all).

She has issues and the name probably reminds her of the daughter she has WITHOUT your SO.

IMHO, you need to cut the friendship, for the sake of your relationship with SO and your happiness. I would not be able to trust HER around SO knowing she almost left her husband for him. She may try again.

ETA: is she your only friend? I can't wrap my head around why you are still her friend! And why didn't your SO tell you sooner? Sorry, sooo many questions...

Also, you said "she can totally call her daughter that as a nn". Sounds like she will steal it as a nn just to find a reason for you to change your name. You should totally name your daughter that since you absolutely love it! Good luck, op. And by the way. I love the name too!!

wintersong139 · July 2014

hikerlady said:

I wouldn't use it, but that's just me. I wouldn't want to use a name that similar to someone close to me.

I lurk on the baby names board and they're pretty good at coming up with names. Maybe you could post the name there and see what they can come up with that is similar to Aubrielle but not too similar.

This.

Is it the only name in the world you could love? If it is going to cause a problem, it's not worth it, IMO.

anamculbertson · July 2014

I dislike common names personally or naming a child something I already know someone else named their kid. With that being said, my daughter's name is Hailey. That was a name that I had not heard of so much 9 or so years ago. Fast forward & now everyone seems to have a Hailey, Haley, or whatever.
My point is name your baby whatever you want. If your bestie gets pissed over something so minor, then there's a bigger issue in your friendship with her.

scgmama · July 2014

@ChickenOnSunday‌ I know she's always been a bit melodramatic

@bhjones1980‌ @AF9211‌ it seemed like the friendship ended as soon as I told her that I knew what happened and asked why she kept it a secret. It came down to she didn't like talking about it and it almost ruined her life/ marriage. But she completely blames it on my SO and I still have no idea why. We stopped talking for a long time then she started talking to me as if nothing happened so I thought, okay, maybe we can still be friends despite everything. She would ask questions about our relationship and I honestly felt like she was just being nosy and didn't honestly care and I even told her that. She got angry and defensive and I thought okay, my mistake maybe I perceived that incorrectly. After that it was as if everything was totally normal. She became friends with my SO on twitter and we were both surprised, like okay maybe she doesn't hate you (my SO). We had another near falling out I don't remember why exactly but I called her out for acting like she gives a shit and trying to be there for me when she can't get past things that are in the past. But the entire time I'm getting pointed at as being an insensitive bitch so I thought okay maybe I am. But after this I'm tired of blaming myself and going through this charade again. I honestly thought she would have just been upset because she felt the names were too similar, not because of my SO.

@srcr2011‌ ^^ for you and she's one of my only CLOSE friends. I don't like to have a huge amount of friends that know too much about me. I'm not really the person IRL to spill every juicy detail about myself and know about the skeletons in my closet.

CogDis · July 2014

@scgmama I really hope it works out!

I've had a few of my closest girlfriends for close to 2 decades. We've had many a moment in our relationships where people have questioned why I'm still friends with one or more of them (and probably vs. versa.; I'm not a saint). The thing is, some relationships are worth the drama that sometimes come with them, while others aren't. I hope you know if it is worth it and I hope you get resolution soon.

I just wanted to say something because I'm sure it can't feel good to have your judgement in friends questioned on top of all the nonsense you're dealing with!

((Hugs))

srcr2011 · July 2014

scgmama said:
@ChickenOnSunday‌ I know she's always been a bit melodramatic

@bhjones1980‌ @AF9211‌ it seemed like the friendship ended as soon as I told her that I knew what happened and asked why she kept it a secret. It came down to she didn't like talking about it and it almost ruined her life/ marriage. But she completely blames it on my SO and I still have no idea why. We stopped talking for a long time then she started talking to me as if nothing happened so I thought, okay, maybe we can still be friends despite everything. She would ask questions about our relationship and I honestly felt like she was just being nosy and didn't honestly care and I even told her that. She got angry and defensive and I thought okay, my mistake maybe I perceived that incorrectly. After that it was as if everything was totally normal. She became friends with my SO on twitter and we were both surprised, like okay maybe she doesn't hate you (my SO). We had another near falling out I don't remember why exactly but I called her out for acting like she gives a shit and trying to be there for me when she can't get past things that are in the past. But the entire time I'm getting pointed at as being an insensitive bitch so I thought okay maybe I am. But after this I'm tired of blaming myself and going through this charade again. I honestly thought she would have just been upset because she felt the names were too similar, not because of my SO.

@srcr2011‌ ^^ for you and she's one of my only CLOSE friends. I don't like to have a huge amount of friends that know too much about me. I'm not really the person IRL to spill every juicy detail about myself and know about the skeletons in my closet.

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I am really sorry if I questioned your judgement in friends and made you feel bad That was not my intention.

It just sounds like she walks on you and takes advantage and blames you for everything.

I am like you, I have a few people who I call friends, but NO ONE close enough to call BFF and know me well. I have settled for jerky friends before for the sake of having a friend. Was it worth it, for the moment I guess, but in the end, I'm still here with my only BFF-my mom.

I hope that if she is a true friend, you can both move past this. Don't settle though, in friends or the name of your child. Sometimes its ok to be selfish. Best of luck, op!!

lilrubberduckie · July 2014

For what its worth. You should never not use a name based on what other people name their kids. Would you not be friends with someone if they had a kid with the same name as your kid. I grew up with a very popular name. It never decided who I made friends with. Also a personal story.

My mom had a daughter when she was 18. She named her before she gave her up for adoption. She adoptive parents named her something different. 27 years later she reconnect with my mom and our family. We have the exact.same.name. even the same spelling. My sister and I are best friends now. And just get a kick out of introducing each other. "Hi I am bob. This is my sister bob" lol

Dont let the name of someone else stop you from using a name you love.

scgmama · July 2014

@CogDis‌ thank you you're a sweetheart.

@srcr2011‌ noooo I didn't take your comment the wrong way. You and others had some questions but you had another one that I specifically addressed. I can see how it can come off as questionable why I would maintain the friendship and I certainly have questioned her intentions for a lot of things. It just kinda blows. It's obvious she won't ever let this go and we're not going to be able to maintain a healthy relationship.

jennjilljo · July 2014

Awesome story @lilrubberduckie‌ so glad you shared!

mommy5point0 · July 2014

I may be in the minority, but I would find a way to fade on that broad, very close friends or not. There are definitely some issues and they'll continue to be there; the name thing is just a trigger.

cutlerr2 · August 2014

U and the babys father need to agree on a name. Her name will be her unique identity from the two of you. No one has the right to tell u that u cat name ur child. The way u want to. Heres my example. My daughters name is kaylee joy. She is named after mu sisters kassie and leanna as well as her grandmas on both sides whos name was joyce. However i hated the name joyce but loved joy. So joy she became. My sister. Then told me that she was angery with me for naming my daughter joy. Because she wanted to mame her futuristic little girl joy too. I told her go ahead. Its a family name. (So much of the fact that several girls have joy in there name). Point is u cant please everyone. Just be confidet in your descision. I love the name i chose for my daughter. She is my littlet miss joy. I wouldnt change her name for the world. And neither should u. Do whAt feels right for u

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