How do y'all keep calm early on

babyjay13 · July 2014

Since previous losses I can't seem to keep myself calm...I found out at three weeks and won't get to see the ob for a week...because it's so early I obviously have no movement to go off of and this is around the time I lost my last...I've had some very light spotting on tp only but it only added to my high stress level...I'm driving myself insane and I know the stress is not a good thing either...any advice on how to keep calm until far enough along to feel movement???

atangiblewish · July 2014

I'm worried too. It's only natural. I just try to keep myself busy.

haleyusf · July 2014

Repeat the mantras as needed; today you are pregnant and you love your baby. ((hugs)) Not sure any of us really got through that period gracefully, but one day at a time, you will get through it. Staying busy definitely helps.

ETA: Congratulations!

babyjay13 · July 2014

Thanks...y'all have been the nicest group I've ran into so far...even with two kids I still can't seem to stay busy enough...trying to focus on them right now but still have many moments a day...can't talk to DH about it either as it seems he's trying to avoid the fact that were pg again...he's nervous too...but agreed to goto the first appointment finally

Cheekers2010 · July 2014

Oh, man. I was and still am a nervous wreck. You do it one day at a time. Vent when you need to. Do things that make you feel good. GL!

Danielle0311 · July 2014

It's totally normal to be worried after going through a loss. I am soooo worried but I'm just trying to keep myself busy until I'm further along and start to feel more secure about this pregnancy. Just do whatever you can to stay calm and happy!

MrsHamon09 · July 2014

((Hugs)) the first trimester to me was the hardest. Plan some fun activities for you andyour kids. Start a series on Netflix ( my current favorite is dexter!) really anything to keep your mind distracted. My T&P as you wait for you appt

babyjay13 · July 2014

Ty and gl to all u ladies as well...I was so sad when dexter ended...we are currently watching revenge...chuck was another great one

Samuelismomma · July 2014

Mantras and tried to keep busy! Not gonna lie though pgal brain still enters all the time! Congrats and welcome!

MrsTuna08 · July 2014

Big ((hugs)) Congrats on your BFP! @haleyusf said it very well, most of us don't go through it gracefully! The early days are really the worst. If you find a mantra that really resonates with you it really can be so helpful. For me I would just say it over and over in my head when I started to feel panicky. Hang in there!

maisonduchoco2 · July 2014

Congrats! I've also been a nervous wreck since I got my BFP two wks ago, but lurking on this board and reading the mantras give me lots of hope. My DH also seems to be trying to protect himself just in case we have another loss, so I understand where you are coming from. One day at a time, right? H&H 9 months to you!

ngolimento · July 2014

I've been waiting for a week and a half to find out if my baby is alive. The only thing that allows me to sleep at night is distraction. In my case, books help the most.