I am having di/di twins and maybe I am "missing" something but I understand that as them being basically two seperate pregnancies at the same time sort of thing. Which means they will be no more alike then my current ds and them.
I don't to dress them the same or sign them up for all the same activites the same as I wouldn't with ds and either one of them unless they are interested in the same things.
I feel lile people irl think i should be more into the whole idea of them being the same and doing everything together and having an extra special twin bond. I am sure they will have a special bond being the same age and a built in playmate of sorts.
Sorry just kind of venting. Maybe I am not excited enough. I was thinking about who would share bedrooms the other day and I figure if they are b/g then it makes sense for the boy to share with ds when he is older and out of the nursery stage. But others think no matter what they should stay together b/c they are twins.
What do you think? Feel free to put me in my place if my thinking is backwards.
Re: Fraternal twins
bfp#4 3/19/2014 edd 12/1/2014 please let this be the one!
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Either way, I agree w/ PPs' comments that the way you treat them is up to you, and I don't think any twin mom IRL thinks about her twins as a "set" or as one person. My boys are identical (though they have a notable size difference so they've always been easy to tell apart) and are VERY different people. They do have some matching outfits, b/c I got a lot of those as gifts, and it's honestly easier to pick one outfit over two, but it's not all the time, and by the time they're old enough to care they'll be old enough to pick their own outfits. You will also find (as you have probably already found) that lots of people have ideas about what having twins or what being twins is like (see the crazy comments thread in the FAQ....lots of laughs in there!) Like PPs said, smile and nod and do your own thing.
You are so on the ball, but there's only so much you can plan for in advance too. Try to relax and just let some things just work themselves out....you'll do great!
The trap I make an effort not to fall into (or let other people do) is making comparisons in their development. I think people tend to do this with siblings of different ages too, but it's much easier to do when they're going through milestones together. Like everyone has said, they are different people, they'll develop at their own pace, and neither is more or less advanced based on timing.
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They will reach out to the other and just lay their hand on the other to see if they are ok or just to comfort them. It is very cute.
I wondered if they would have that special "twin" bond also since they are fraternal but I am starting to see it, and I love it.
BFP#2 • 6/30/13 EDD 3/9/14...TWINS!! Baby A (BOY)-167 HB • Baby B (GIRL)-174 HB
January 31, 2014 • Dominic Jayden 4lbs. 8oz. • Ciara Aliyah 3lbs. 11oz. at 34w5d