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Labor Day Party

I mentioned this in another thread, but DH declined to have a co-ed BS with me. Instead, he wants to throw a big Labor Day BBQ which is on 9/1 this year. My RCS is scheduled for 9/2. He doesn't understand why I'm so against this BBQ. I don't wanna spend the night before a big surgery, cleaning house after a huge party. I'll be coming home with a new baby and a new scar. I won't be able to clean when I get back home either. We kinda got into a big argument about it. Am I being unreasonable?

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  • VORVOR member
    Your DH is an amazingly dense man.  He seriously doesn't understand?  Hell. 

    Throw down your "I'm 9 months PG w/ your child and I'm huge, exhausted, and will be ONE DAY AWAY from having our child.  No- there will be no Labor Day party." card. 

    And also resign yourself to the fact that any shower/ baby related party will be women only.  No co-ed party.
  • Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

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    Hell no... that's what I would say to my DH.

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  • VOR said:



    Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

    I assume you've never been 9 months PG and w/in days of giving birth, have you?


    Actually, with my last I was 41w 3d before I was induced. So.... Yeah.

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  • You are NOT being unreasonable. Even if he promised to clean up 100% I would still absolutely refuse! It isn't even about the clean up IMO. It is the last day before major surgery (and a whole life change, for that matter). I love my family to pieces, but the last thing I will want to do when that time rolls around is host a party hours before my C-section.

    I suggest standing firm on this one. You will both regret it if this BBQ actually happens.  


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  • No.  Nein.  Non.

    I'd want to relax as much as possible before surgery (can you even eat 24 hours before surgery?  Sounds like an awful time to have a BBQ)

    A party afterwards or a few weeks in advance of surgery would be world's different.  He could even make the "pre-labor day" party pun. 

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  • A party afterwards or a few weeks in advance of surgery would be world's different.  He could even make the "pre-labor day" party pun. 

    Lol. That's exactly what he's doing
  • Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

    How is that a great compromise? Two days earlier?  You're about as dense as the OP's husband. 

    OP, your H is being completely unreasonable. 



    Oh please, just because I suggest something other than "OMG your DH is the WORST!"

    It was a totally doable suggestion, rather than trying to host something 12 hours before having major abdominal surgery.

    Anyways, OP sounds like you reached a good middle ground.

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  • Not unless his ass plans on doing everything alone. Men just dont think sometimes
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