Labor Day Party

Jax2013

I mentioned this in another thread, but DH declined to have a co-ed BS with me. Instead, he wants to throw a big Labor Day BBQ which is on 9/1 this year. My RCS is scheduled for 9/2. He doesn't understand why I'm so against this BBQ. I don't wanna spend the night before a big surgery, cleaning house after a huge party. I'll be coming home with a new baby and a new scar. I won't be able to clean when I get back home either. We kinda got into a big argument about it. Am I being unreasonable?

VOR

Your DH is an amazingly dense man.  He seriously doesn't understand?  Hell. 

Throw down your "I'm 9 months PG w/ your child and I'm huge, exhausted, and will be ONE DAY AWAY from having our child.  No- there will be no Labor Day party." card. 

And also resign yourself to the fact that any shower/ baby related party will be women only.  No co-ed party.

emoxymoose

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

ccam

Hell no... that's what I would say to my DH.

VOR

emoxymoose said:

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

I assume you've never been 9 months PG and w/in days of giving birth, have you?

emoxymoose

VOR said:

emoxymoose said:

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

I assume you've never been 9 months PG and w/in days of giving birth, have you?


Actually, with my last I was 41w 3d before I was induced. So.... Yeah.

mermaid1113

You are NOT being unreasonable. Even if he promised to clean up 100% I would still absolutely refuse! It isn't even about the clean up IMO. It is the last day before major surgery (and a whole life change, for that matter). I love my family to pieces, but the last thing I will want to do when that time rolls around is host a party hours before my C-section.

I suggest standing firm on this one. You will both regret it if this BBQ actually happens.  

526SadieSadie

No.  Nein.  Non.

I'd want to relax as much as possible before surgery (can you even eat 24 hours before surgery?  Sounds like an awful time to have a BBQ)

A party afterwards or a few weeks in advance of surgery would be world's different.  He could even make the "pre-labor day" party pun. 

Jax2013

526SadieSadie said:

A party afterwards or a few weeks in advance of surgery would be world's different.  He could even make the "pre-labor day" party pun. 

Lol. That's exactly what he's doing

Jax2013

Thanks to everyone for the comments. Glad to know that I'm not bitching for no reason. I talked to DH and he agreed to let it go. We're gonna host a football party/sip & see a few weeks later when our teams play each other.

emoxymoose

Bliss+Berry said:

emoxymoose said:

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

How is that a great compromise? Two days earlier?  You're about as dense as the OP's husband. 

OP, your H is being completely unreasonable. 

Oh please, just because I suggest something other than "OMG your DH is the WORST!"

It was a totally doable suggestion, rather than trying to host something 12 hours before having major abdominal surgery.

Anyways, OP sounds like you reached a good middle ground.

HerHighness

Not unless his ass plans on doing everything alone. Men just dont think sometimes