New Mommy question/support

Re: New Mommy question/support

• hanafan36 member

  July 2014

  Thanks. I guess it's a good thing she didn't suggest action, and just wants to keep an eye on it. I just didn't really understand what we were getting into when I first said "Let's have a baby."

  
  

  BUT SHE'S SO CUTE AND MAKES ADORABLE NOISES AND JUST STARTED SMILING. 

  
  

  So I guess that kind of makes up for the sleep deprivation and general frustratedness. On the plus side, the coca cola company is sending me coupons for soda because I cried on the phone with customer service.

  
   

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• MuchlyGen member

  July 2014

  I would say "barely below her ideal weight" is... good?

  
  

  I mean, there are always going to be smaller babies and bigger babies. That's why there's percentiles. My boys were always in the 90+ percentile... and a dear friend of mine had a baby who was always in the 10th percentile. People made all kind of fuss over it, but the baby was healthy, hit her milestones, and was just... small. 

  
  

  So I would say barely below is /nothing/ you need to worry about, esp. if the doctor didn't say anything about it. 

  
  

  
   

  
  

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• andrea0418 member

  July 2014

  Sounds like you are doing everything right mama! Our instincts are pretty spot on. Continue feeding on demand and like pps said, you could get a scale for your own peace of mind.
  And yay for coca cola coupons

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• Guennie member

  July 2014

  Hugs. I had quite a few meltdowns in the beginning. You are allowed.
  
  I agree with pps that it doesn't sound like you need to worry. I have a long skinny baby who is on the low end of the scale for weight. She is healthy and happy and flourishing.
  
  A suggestion regarding your husband- have him actually read about breastfeeding and handling breastmilk. Some guys are more open to info if they don't feel like a woman is telling them what to do. Also, tape a printout of breastmilk info to the inside of your kitchen cabinet where you keep bottles, etc. That's what I did. It was great having that reference of storing, reheating, etc. right there.

  Me:41, DH:41 Positive for MTHFR mutations- one copy C677T, one copy A1298C. One daughter born on Thanksgiving in 2013. Six losses.

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• hanafan36 member

  July 2014

  Thanks everyone. DH has agreed to stop shaking--even though it's a habit by now, so I'll take you up on that 'reminder on the cabinet' idea.

  
  

  El Paso, as my husband points out, is filled with bigger people who believe food=love. That's the culture here. Since I'm not hispanic, it makes some sort of sense that my LO would be a bit smaller, even genetically, than the majority in my city.

  
   

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• Peanutz21 member

  July 2014

  hi! sending you hugs.

  
  

  regarding the shaking - i discovered DH was shaking the milk one morning and i told him that it was ruining the proteins in her milk therefore rendering it less beneficial. that stuck with him. the warm water and swirl method definitely works. 

  
  

  my LO is also very small. she is long and lean. at both weight checks the pedi spouted something like she is 17th percentile for weight which sounded very low to me. i reminded myself she was otherwise gaining weight and reaching appropriate milestones so percentiles are just numbers.  she was 7 pounds at birth followed by 8 and 10 pounds at her follow ups.  don't be too concerned unless the pediatrician starts suggesting other means to gain weight etc. 

  
  

  hang in there! i think you're doing great!

  
  

  TTC#2
  

  

  Our little IVF miracle born 5/7/2014

  

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• blessed2585 member

  July 2014

  You are not a bad mother, you sound like a great mother. Can you ask your doctor for some more clarification and guidance? I will keep you in my prayers!

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