One & Done: Only child
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Any Advice?
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I'm going to be 35, I have a 3 year old son and I know my husband wants a second child, more so, so our son has a sibling. I'm having a hard time trying to make a decision should I go for a second or not. I feel like over the last 3 years I've had more downs than ups. Being a stay at home mom has been very hard for me. I had a rough delivery and a rough recovery and was depressed for the first year, if not more. My husband and I went from never fighting (before we had our son) to constantly bumping heads and argueing. I feel like now, 3 years later I'm at a good place, in the swing of things and feel like if I start all over again it will just shake everything up again. I don't know what to do. Any advice? I'm truly torn. I think it's easy for my husband to say "let's have another one" when I'm the one who has to go through so much.
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Re: Any Advice?
I think if you feel like having another is going to make it so hard for you to be a good mom (and wife), that is a really great reason not to have another. Have you expressed that to your husband?
This is a major reason why I don't want another. DH leans towards having another at some point but ultimately, I would not agree to that just to make him happy. Because it wouldn't make anybody happy, really. I'd be miserable and drag everyone down with me (that's my guess anyway).
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