Labor Day Party

Jax2013 · July 2014

I mentioned this in another thread, but DH declined to have a co-ed BS with me. Instead, he wants to throw a big Labor Day BBQ which is on 9/1 this year. My RCS is scheduled for 9/2. He doesn't understand why I'm so against this BBQ. I don't wanna spend the night before a big surgery, cleaning house after a huge party. I'll be coming home with a new baby and a new scar. I won't be able to clean when I get back home either. We kinda got into a big argument about it. Am I being unreasonable?

VOR · July 2014

Your DH is an amazingly dense man. He seriously doesn't understand? Hell.

Throw down your "I'm 9 months PG w/ your child and I'm huge, exhausted, and will be ONE DAY AWAY from having our child. No- there will be no Labor Day party." card.

And also resign yourself to the fact that any shower/ baby related party will be women only. No co-ed party.

emoxymoose · July 2014

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

ccam · July 2014

Hell no... that's what I would say to my DH.

VOR · July 2014

emoxymoose said:

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

I assume you've never been 9 months PG and w/in days of giving birth, have you?

emoxymoose · July 2014

VOR said:

emoxymoose said:

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

I assume you've never been 9 months PG and w/in days of giving birth, have you?

Actually, with my last I was 41w 3d before I was induced. So.... Yeah.

mermaid1113 · July 2014

You are NOT being unreasonable. Even if he promised to clean up 100% I would still absolutely refuse! It isn't even about the clean up IMO. It is the last day before major surgery (and a whole life change, for that matter). I love my family to pieces, but the last thing I will want to do when that time rolls around is host a party hours before my C-section.

I suggest standing firm on this one. You will both regret it if this BBQ actually happens.

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526SadieSadie · July 2014

No. Nein. Non.

I'd want to relax as much as possible before surgery (can you even eat 24 hours before surgery? Sounds like an awful time to have a BBQ)

A party afterwards or a few weeks in advance of surgery would be world's different. He could even make the "pre-labor day" party pun.

Jax2013 · July 2014

526SadieSadie said:
A party afterwards or a few weeks in advance of surgery would be world's different. He could even make the "pre-labor day" party pun.

Lol. That's exactly what he's doing

Jax2013 · July 2014

Thanks to everyone for the comments. Glad to know that I'm not bitching for no reason. I talked to DH and he agreed to let it go. We're gonna host a football party/sip & see a few weeks later when our teams play each other.

emoxymoose · July 2014

Bliss+Berry said:

emoxymoose said:

Maybe you do the BBQ on Saturday the 30th? It would give you both a few days to clean up and would be a great compromise.

How is that a great compromise? Two days earlier? You're about as dense as the OP's husband.
OP, your H is being completely unreasonable.

Oh please, just because I suggest something other than "OMG your DH is the WORST!"

It was a totally doable suggestion, rather than trying to host something 12 hours before having major abdominal surgery.

Anyways, OP sounds like you reached a good middle ground.

HerHighness · July 2014

Not unless his ass plans on doing everything alone. Men just dont think sometimes

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