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  • thompniathompnia member
    I will honestly say that the bump is the only place I have seen such controversy over such terms. Where I live, and the hospital in which I work, the terms are used interchangeably. I will say that I have switched to using the word sex when I refer to us finding out that we are having a baby girl.

    I live in a very conservative region in Michigan. I know several gay people, coworkers and previous classmates. I've seen one transgendered person, but never met one (we were doing surgery and the patient was halfway through reassignment surgeries, we were told simply for sensitivity reasons/lack of confusion.). This really is the only place where I've had to think to be sensitive about such a thing.

    My son and growing daughter will be raised as a boy and a girl, but not prohibitively so. Both will be allowed to sign up for the activities of their choice, and we don't speak of things being special for boys or girls (with the exception of the obvious, peeling standing up, breastfeeding, etc.)
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  • oboeodooboeodo member
    @YaMrWhite I thought that was Guinness for a second...I got extremely excited and then remembered we are all pregnant.
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  • amiej1227amiej1227 member
    @oboeodo‌ lol I thought the same thing, I had to do a double take
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  • oboeodooboeodo member
    @amiej1227 I didn't do a double take though...I reached for the fridge. ;)
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  • oboeodooboeodo member
    @CuppyCakes721 Love it!  He could also be a cast member of 7 Brides for 7 Brothers!

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  • LadyXaverianLadyXaverian member
    aditigirl said:
     I bet you had a diaper raffle too, didn't you?
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  • BeauxbatonBeauxbaton member
    @oboeodo‌ in high school we did 7 brides for 7 brothers and one of my other brothers was in it. And I think he falls into the beard+plaid=lumberjack category.
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  • BeauxbatonBeauxbaton member
    Maebb said:

    I once went to a shower with a diaper raffle, and it was "advertised" on the invitation that if you didn't want to bring a pack of diapers ("Pampers only"), you could give $5 instead, and it was "winner takes all."

    The big prize was a small bottle of "All" detergent. I wasn't LOLing at that one.

    I generally love a good pun, but really? And there wasn't anything else hidden in it or anything?
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  • vjdk07vjdk07 member
    Speaking of diaper raffles and baby showers I went to the classiest one this weekend. It was held in a bar and not even like a nice, clean bar but I dirty, dark hole in the wall place. The invitation said "When choosing gifts, please only select from the two gift registries." I was so turned off by the entire thing that I didn't really want to go but I had to because the girl is kind of like family.

    Anyhow, way off topic but thought I'd share.
    Me: 31 DH:36
    DSS: 15 DS: 7
    DD born 1/3/15


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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    amiej1227 said:

    @AggieMom0809‌ what do you consider boys clothes?

    Including, but not limited to, long style gym shorts, muscle shirts, shirtless, boy cut polo shirt (or really anything found in the boy section).
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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    amiej1227 said:

    My brother was dressed up in girl clothes with makeup by my sisters. He also played with dolls. But it didn't scar him for life doing it...

    I think it's strange that you tell your son you can't play with dolls, yet you give him an action figure instead... Um isn't that about the same thing??

    That's part of it. Boys have their same way of role playing with characters with out trying to turn him into a girl.
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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    CuppyCakes721 said:

    I don't understand why we can't be relatively "gender neutral" but still let our kids do what they want? Why can't I teach my son its OK to do dance and still call him a boy.

    Dancing is okay and a great activity for both genders, but I believe boys should be more masculine in their dancing and ballet is not masculine.
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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    rdray30 said:


    AggieMom0809 said:


    I'm sure my stance is no surprise. My son isn't allowed to play with "dolls" for two reasons. 1. All the dolls we have belong to his sister and we are firm believers in sharing, not taking. 2. He has a ton of stuffed animals and "action figures" that he plays with. They get the same social development from them with out trying to push an agenda. 

    There is a difference between sex and gender roles, but I will still raise my "vagina's" to be girls and "penis'" to be boys.  My girl will be in ballet and cheer while my boy will play baseball and football when he's old enough. My son will not be allowed to wear dresses/skirts and my daughter will not be allowed to wear "boy" clothes. That doesn't mean that one gender is lesser than the other. They are just different and should stay that way.

    As for the OP who decided to use wiki as a reference, since when is this the source of all knowledge?(Very tempted to go change the "definition" they have because anyone can edit it.) 




    Will you "allow" your daughter to explore an interest in science or engineering, fields in which women are woefully underrepresented? Will you "allow" your son to explore an interest in cooking or ballet? I, for one, will be thrilled if my child finds something he or she is passionate about, regardless of whether it conforms to socially constructed gender norms. You also probably think my DH is a "vagina" because he plans to be a SAHD.

    It would be wonderful if my girl followed in the family foot steps and became an engineer or something in the science/math field. I would also be happy if my son became a teacher. I expect my son to be able to cook though he will have to learn from his father because I don't. I think the husband should work minimum for the first year so the mother is able to bf, but if the wife makes more money it only makes sense for her to work assuming she wants to.
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  • BeauxbatonBeauxbaton member
    Wow, I was assuming there would be a quote fail, hence the hyphen line. And it totally didn't fail. Damn it bump, just when I start precompensating for your downfalls you throw me for a loop.
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  • LanatirLanatir member

    AggieMom0809     said:
    Dancing is okay and a great activity for both genders, but I believe boys should be more masculine in their dancing and ballet is not masculine.

    :-O

    So gender roles are strict for your kids, but you don't cook, your husband does.  I'm looking for the logic here...  I mean, stereotypical gender roles meant the man didn't cook (well, at least that's how both of my grandparents were).
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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    bookworm92 said:

    @AggieMom0809‌ Wins the most offensive poster over @Stargirlb‌ in my book. I don't even have post it's and she's on mine. I really think she may just be a troll.

    @Maebb‌ she also thinks children should be trained to be perfect, the mother of the kid who got thrown out of the doughnut shop was at fault because she lets her kids talk to strangers and probably wasn't polite, there is no way anyone could possibly show before she did at 23 weeks, her kids aren't allowed to talk while eating, and breastfeeding is totes gross and her children shouldnt have to see you nourish a baby.

    @aditigirl‌ My Bump crush on you keeps growing. :x I'm glad you post here.

    Aww you cared enough to stalk me. You just got one thing wrong. I showed with my first at 20 weeks and only doubted those who say they showed before 12 weeks, besides just bloat.
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  • BeauxbatonBeauxbaton member
    edited July 2014
    What about this? Is this masculine enough for ya? I especially find kazoo man ultra manly.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FbuluDBHpfQ&app=desktop

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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    YaMrWhite said:

    My dinner:

    Wonderful. Caffeine and diet.
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  • LanatirLanatir member
    @CuppyCakes721-- The guy on the wheelie board is my favorite.  But I really like that one guy's "hair."  I think it's some form of a tutu?
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  • mandikins27mandikins27 member
    I guess i am on the fence here im going to call my girls girls and my boys boys that being said if my boy wants to play with dolls while wearing a tutu so be it. @aggiesmon Are you afraid he will be a caring loving father? That he may cook a meal for his wife? And if my daughters want to wear boy clothes and she does! And i dont care and play sports and shes very good at it all those years of ballet made her very athletic and she excels over the boys even. To me the most important thing is to be supportive of who your child really is and for them to be happy and omg its the best feeling in the world to see my children smile so of letting her play basketball wear a ball cap and a lego ninjago shirt makes that happen i did my job as a parent for that day.
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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    ExcitedMama2 said:

    AggieMom0809 said:

    amiej1227 said:

    My brother was dressed up in girl clothes with makeup by my sisters. He also played with dolls. But it didn't scar him for life doing it...

    I think it's strange that you tell your son you can't play with dolls, yet you give him an action figure instead... Um isn't that about the same thing??

    That's part of it. Boys have their same way of role playing with characters with out trying to turn him into a girl.
    Wow..just...wow. So I'm assuming your husband doesn't do anything 'girly' like change diapers, feed the baby, or rock them to sleep?

    I'm really sad for your kids.
    Actually no, my husband has yet to change a diaper. He may have done a bottle once or twice in a pinch. The kids would only go to sleep if I was rocking them. Though most of the time we laid them down in the crib awake and they went to sleep on their own.
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  • AggieMom0809AggieMom0809 member
    bookworm92 said:

    @AggieMom0809‌ = troll.

    If she is real I feel sorry for her kids. Growing up different in a household like that is torture. Parents like her are the reason young gay/lesbian/transgender children grow up depressed.

    Well since those are all choices, I plan to guide my children to make a better choice as with other decisions in life.
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  • LaBellaVidaLaBellaVida member
    ^^ I had to double read it.
    *shocked* @-)
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  • starzcookie22starzcookie22 member
    CuppyCakes721 said:

    I think i take @AggieMom0809‌ about as serious as I take the video I posted. Because she is about as ridiculous as the man beating the clothing rack with the pole attached to his crotch.

    LMFAO!!! =))
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  • kmg06dkmg06d member
    Wow....and I thought everyone hated ME on this thread.... Yikes @aggiemom0809 that's just unbelievably cold, closed-minded, and wrong. Being gay/bisexual/transgender is NOT a choice. Think about it...could you just CHOOSE to be gay/lesbian if the roles were reversed and that was the norm? If being straight and attracted to men was out of the ordinary...could you just up and start being attracted to other women? Of course not....because you were born straight and you can't help who you are attracted to and who you are not.
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